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"Seriously! Do guys just think we're gonna shag just anybody/anything? I'm sick of getting messages 'you looking to play?' I know what the site is about but some physical attraction and at least one visible picture is a good start.... Rant over!" thanks for sharing | |||
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"Seriously! Do guys just think we're gonna shag just anybody/anything? I'm sick of getting messages 'you looking to play?' I know what the site is about but some physical attraction and at least one visible picture is a good start.... Rant over!" Exactly I need to feel some sort of attraction to a guy & be able to get on with them | |||
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"Seriously! Do guys just think we're gonna shag just anybody/anything? I'm sick of getting messages 'you looking to play?' I know what the site is about but some physical attraction and at least one visible picture is a good start.... Rant over!" As opposed to two pics you have up of just your breasts. Maybe all those guys that put effort in look for profiles that have done the same  | |||
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"Seriously! Do guys just think we're gonna shag just anybody/anything? I'm sick of getting messages 'you looking to play?' I know what the site is about but some physical attraction and at least one visible picture is a good start.... Rant over! As opposed to two pics you have up of just your breasts. Maybe all those guys that put effort in look for profiles that have done the same "What they said | |||
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"  should i have not messaged !"No, I was ranting about the other umpteen that have messaged  | |||
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" should i have not messaged !
No, I was ranting about the other umpteen that have messaged "At least you get messages | |||
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"Seriously! Do guys just think we're gonna shag just anybody/anything? I'm sick of getting messages 'you looking to play?' I know what the site is about but some physical attraction and at least one visible picture is a good start.... Rant over! As opposed to two pics you have up of just your breasts. Maybe all those guys that put effort in look for profiles that have done the same "I do have face pics available, but due to my job I look first. I don't want to dump into somebody I booted out for being pissed the previous week... | |||
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" should i have not messaged !
No, I was ranting about the other umpteen that have messaged
At least you get messages "But, when you get the crap ones it filters out the ones you chatting genuinely to. | |||
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"Seriously! Do guys just think we're gonna shag just anybody/anything? I'm sick of getting messages 'you looking to play?' I know what the site is about but some physical attraction and at least one visible picture is a good start.... Rant over!" whereas two grainy photos of your tits is really imaginative | |||
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"Seriously! Do guys just think we're gonna shag just anybody/anything? I'm sick of getting messages 'you looking to play?' I know what the site is about but some physical attraction and at least one visible picture is a good start.... Rant over! As opposed to two pics you have up of just your breasts. Maybe all those guys that put effort in look for profiles that have done the same
I do have face pics available, but due to my job I look first. I don't want to dump into somebody I booted out for being pissed the previous week..."You can have other pics as well y’know | |||
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"Seriously! Do guys just think we're gonna shag just anybody/anything? I'm sick of getting messages 'you looking to play?' I know what the site is about but some physical attraction and at least one visible picture is a good start.... Rant over! As opposed to two pics you have up of just your breasts. Maybe all those guys that put effort in look for profiles that have done the same
I do have face pics available, but due to my job I look first. I don't want to dump into somebody I booted out for being pissed the previous week..."There’s a good chance they would recognise you from those boobs   | |||
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"Seriously! Do guys just think we're gonna shag just anybody/anything? I'm sick of getting messages 'you looking to play?' I know what the site is about but some physical attraction and at least one visible picture is a good start.... Rant over!" You're not compatible. Why get angry? They want a fuck so they are just asking. If you want people with pics there's message filters for that. You could try putting the info on your profile too. Some can read. | |||
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"Seriously! Do guys just think we're gonna shag just anybody/anything? I'm sick of getting messages 'you looking to play?' I know what the site is about but some physical attraction and at least one visible picture is a good start.... Rant over!" Totally agree, or the messages “hey sexy lets meet tonight” my reply is usually “there are places for that” no respect at all off some people lol. We all have standards just cos we like sex doesnt mean we will settle For anything, or the messages hows you? Off a complete stranger - Give me something to work with
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"Seriously! Do guys just think we're gonna shag just anybody/anything? ... Give me something to work with
"Exactly this, please at least tell us something about you and what you enjoy to give us some idea if we want the same thing! | |||
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"Seriously! Do guys just think we're gonna shag just anybody/anything? I'm sick of getting messages 'you looking to play?' I know what the site is about but some physical attraction and at least one visible picture is a good start.... Rant over! Totally agree, or the messages “hey sexy lets meet tonight” my reply is usually “there are places for that” no respect at all off some people lol. We all have standards just cos we like sex doesnt mean we will settle For anything, or the messages hows you? Off a complete stranger - Give me something to work with
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"Seriously! Do guys just think we're gonna shag just anybody/anything? I'm sick of getting messages 'you looking to play?' I know what the site is about but some physical attraction and at least one visible picture is a good start.... Rant over! As opposed to two pics you have up of just your breasts. Maybe all those guys that put effort in look for profiles that have done the same
I do have face pics available, but due to my job I look first. I don't want to dump into somebody I booted out for being pissed the previous week..."There is a middle ground though! We have a selection of pics (admittedly quite a few of my bum lately but still!) but no face pics. We’d not bother with anyone’s profile which is 1 sentence and just boob/cock pics. But I guess different people like different things. TB | |||
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"Seriously! Do guys just think we're gonna shag just anybody/anything? I'm sick of getting messages 'you looking to play?' I know what the site is about but some physical attraction and at least one visible picture is a good start.... Rant over! As opposed to two pics you have up of just your breasts. Maybe all those guys that put effort in look for profiles that have done the same
I do have face pics available, but due to my job I look first. I don't want to dump into somebody I booted out for being pissed the previous week...
There is a middle ground though! We have a selection of pics (admittedly quite a few of my bum lately but still!) but no face pics.
We’d not bother with anyone’s profile which is 1 sentence and just boob/cock pics. But I guess different people like different things.
TB"Yours are a great selection of photos it’s a bit of everything | |||
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"Im not looking for someone to send me some imaginative message, it isnt an application form. A nice hello, friendly and just normal is absolutely fine. " . And a good start | |||
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"Agreed. People need to put more effort in! X" Some of us do... And still get ignored. | |||
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"Im not looking for someone to send me some imaginative message, it isnt an application form. A nice hello, friendly and just normal is absolutely fine. . And a good start" I often read profiles that say you have to send some awesome opening message along with a code word or something, absolute yawn. whats wrong with hello, you're nice etc | |||
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"Agreed. People need to put more effort in! X Some of us do... And still get ignored. "I overlook the crappy messages for those that do put the effort in | |||
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"This is fab not bloody dating" Agreed, but the way we have to jump hoops, you'd think we were applying for a job.
Would anyone like to see my CV? | |||
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"Agreed. People need to put more effort in! X Some of us do... And still get ignored.
I overlook the crappy messages for those that do put the effort in "Excellent! | |||
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"Seriously! Do guys just think we're gonna shag just anybody/anything? I'm sick of getting messages 'you looking to play?' I know what the site is about but some physical attraction and at least one visible picture is a good start.... Rant over!" Your profile does just say your looking for fun though...... maybe if you changed that you wouldn't just get asked that question. Good luck  | |||
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"Im not looking for someone to send me some imaginative message, it isnt an application form. A nice hello, friendly and just normal is absolutely fine. . And a good start I often read profiles that say you have to send some awesome opening message along with a code word or something, absolute yawn. whats wrong with hello, you're nice etc "Yup agree. | |||
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"Seriously! Do guys just think we're gonna shag just anybody/anything? I'm sick of getting messages 'you looking to play?' I know what the site is about but some physical attraction and at least one visible picture is a good start.... Rant over! Your profile does just say your looking for fun though...... maybe if you changed that you wouldn't just get asked that question. Good luck "Good point. You haven't exactly made the effort yourself. Have you op? | |||
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"Seriously! Do guys just think we're gonna shag just anybody/anything? I'm sick of getting messages 'you looking to play?' I know what the site is about but some physical attraction and at least one visible picture is a good start.... Rant over!" I was going to write something witty but I keep staring at your boobs and thinking about playing with them....by god I think I've cracked it! It's your fault!  | |||
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"Seriously! Do guys just think we're gonna shag just anybody/anything? I'm sick of getting messages 'you looking to play?' I know what the site is about but some physical attraction and at least one visible picture is a good start.... Rant over! Your profile does just say your looking for fun though...... maybe if you changed that you wouldn't just get asked that question. Good luck "My profile says far more and I still get those questions lol! Some don’t actually read it! | |||
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"Seriously! Do guys just think we're gonna shag just anybody/anything? I'm sick of getting messages 'you looking to play?' I know what the site is about but some physical attraction and at least one visible picture is a good start.... Rant over! As opposed to two pics you have up of just your breasts. Maybe all those guys that put effort in look for profiles that have done the same
I do have face pics available, but due to my job I look first. I don't want to dump into somebody I booted out for being pissed the previous week...
There’s a good chance they would recognise you from those boobs "I’m crying! | |||
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"Seriously! Do guys just think we're gonna shag just anybody/anything? I'm sick of getting messages 'you looking to play?' I know what the site is about but some physical attraction and at least one visible picture is a good start.... Rant over!" Isn’t this another, “I want men to do all the work and I’ll do bugger all” maybe some effort is required in your part too. | |||
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"Seriously! Do guys just think we're gonna shag just anybody/anything? I'm sick of getting messages 'you looking to play?' I know what the site is about but some physical attraction and at least one visible picture is a good start.... Rant over! Your profile does just say your looking for fun though...... maybe if you changed that you wouldn't just get asked that question. Good luck
My profile says far more and I still get those questions lol!
Some don’t actually read it! "Which is fine. But a guy gets disheartened when they do read the profile in full, send a nice thoughtfully worded message... And it gets deleted. What are we to do? | |||
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"Seriously! Do guys just think we're gonna shag just anybody/anything? I'm sick of getting messages 'you looking to play?' I know what the site is about but some physical attraction and at least one visible picture is a good start.... Rant over! Isn’t this another, “I want men to do all the work and I’ll do bugger all” maybe some effort is required in your part too. " Cant say that on here... | |||
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"Seriously! Do guys just think we're gonna shag just anybody/anything? I'm sick of getting messages 'you looking to play?' I know what the site is about but some physical attraction and at least one visible picture is a good start.... Rant over! Isn’t this another, “I want men to do all the work and I’ll do bugger all” maybe some effort is required in your part too. " My sentiments exactly.. But the fact is, they don't have to make the effort, and they know it. | |||
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"Seriously! Do guys just think we're gonna shag just anybody/anything? I'm sick of getting messages 'you looking to play?' I know what the site is about but some physical attraction and at least one visible picture is a good start.... Rant over! Your profile does just say your looking for fun though...... maybe if you changed that you wouldn't just get asked that question. Good luck
My profile says far more and I still get those questions lol!
Some don’t actually read it!
Which is fine. But a guy gets disheartened when they do read the profile in full, send a nice thoughtfully worded message...
And it gets deleted.
What are we to do? "I’d take that as a not interested. I delete my sent messages after I’ve sent them anyway. Any reply’s are a bonus then | |||
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"Seriously! Do guys just think we're gonna shag just anybody/anything? I'm sick of getting messages 'you looking to play?' I know what the site is about but some physical attraction and at least one visible picture is a good start.... Rant over! Your profile does just say your looking for fun though...... maybe if you changed that you wouldn't just get asked that question. Good luck
My profile says far more and I still get those questions lol!
Some don’t actually read it!
Which is fine. But a guy gets disheartened when they do read the profile in full, send a nice thoughtfully worded message...
And it gets deleted.
What are we to do? "Why should you be disheartened? It comes with the territory on here. This is a site for swingers and where people meet for sex, it’s to be expected that not everyone is going to reply or be interested in you. Take it on the chin and if she isn’t interested or deletes your message you move on to the next person and sends them a message! Or if guys are that affected by their message being deleted they could always not message women and make the women come to them. That way, the women who message are the ones definitely interested in them. If I send a message to a man and he deletes it or hasn’t replied, I just move on. It’s not the end of the world. | |||
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"Seriously! Do guys just think we're gonna shag just anybody/anything? I'm sick of getting messages 'you looking to play?' I know what the site is about but some physical attraction and at least one visible picture is a good start.... Rant over! Your profile does just say your looking for fun though...... maybe if you changed that you wouldn't just get asked that question. Good luck
My profile says far more and I still get those questions lol!
Some don’t actually read it!
Which is fine. But a guy gets disheartened when they do read the profile in full, send a nice thoughtfully worded message...
And it gets deleted.
What are we to do?
I’d take that as a not interested. I delete my sent messages after I’ve sent them anyway. Any reply’s are a bonus then "Good idea. Deleting sent messages is a good thing to do, that way you have no idea. I see a lot of guys talk of deleted messages on here so the best thing to do is definitely delete your sent. | |||
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"Seriously! Do guys just think we're gonna shag just anybody/anything? I'm sick of getting messages 'you looking to play?' I know what the site is about but some physical attraction and at least one visible picture is a good start.... Rant over! Your profile does just say your looking for fun though...... maybe if you changed that you wouldn't just get asked that question. Good luck
My profile says far more and I still get those questions lol!
Some don’t actually read it!
Which is fine. But a guy gets disheartened when they do read the profile in full, send a nice thoughtfully worded message...
And it gets deleted.
What are we to do?
Why should you be disheartened? It comes with the territory on here.
This is a site for swingers and where people meet for sex, it’s to be expected that not everyone is going to reply or be interested in you.
Take it on the chin and if she isn’t interested or deletes your message you move on to the next person and sends them a message!
Or if guys are that affected by their message being deleted they could always not message women and make the women come to them. That way, the women who message are the ones definitely interested in them.
If I send a message to a man and he deletes it or hasn’t replied, I just move on. It’s not the end of the world. "Riiiight... I'm sure that happens a lot to you eh? | |||
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"Seriously! Do guys just think we're gonna shag just anybody/anything? I'm sick of getting messages 'you looking to play?' I know what the site is about but some physical attraction and at least one visible picture is a good start.... Rant over! Isn’t this another, “I want men to do all the work and I’ll do bugger all” maybe some effort is required in your part too. My sentiments exactly.. But the fact is, they don't have to make the effort, and they know it. " Very true. | |||
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"This is fab not bloody dating Agreed, but the way we have to jump hoops, you'd think we were applying for a job.
Would anyone like to see my CV? "Yep | |||
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"Seriously! Do guys just think we're gonna shag just anybody/anything? I'm sick of getting messages 'you looking to play?' I know what the site is about but some physical attraction and at least one visible picture is a good start.... Rant over! As opposed to two pics you have up of just your breasts. Maybe all those guys that put effort in look for profiles that have done the same "Yep, it works both ways | |||
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"This is fab not bloody dating Agreed, but the way we have to jump hoops, you'd think we were applying for a job.
Would anyone like to see my CV?
Yep "Haha... You have lots of tattoos.. I like tattoos. I'd be a rubbish secretary for you.. But I can iron. | |||
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"Seriously! Do guys just think we're gonna shag just anybody/anything? I'm sick of getting messages 'you looking to play?' I know what the site is about but some physical attraction and at least one visible picture is a good start.... Rant over! As opposed to two pics you have up of just your breasts. Maybe all those guys that put effort in look for profiles that have done the same
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"This is fab not bloody dating Agreed, but the way we have to jump hoops, you'd think we were applying for a job.
Would anyone like to see my CV?
Yep
Haha...
You have lots of tattoos..
I like tattoos.
I'd be a rubbish secretary for you.. But I can iron. "What about making a decent brew? | |||
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"This is fab not bloody dating Agreed, but the way we have to jump hoops, you'd think we were applying for a job.
Would anyone like to see my CV?
Yep
Haha...
You have lots of tattoos..
I like tattoos.
I'd be a rubbish secretary for you.. But I can iron. "Meh ironing not required just wear less clothes, it’s revolutionary! What I’d really like is a hot chocolate and a bubble run every night at 7 pm could you do that ? | |||
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"This is fab not bloody dating Agreed, but the way we have to jump hoops, you'd think we were applying for a job.
Would anyone like to see my CV?
Yep
Haha...
You have lots of tattoos..
I like tattoos.
I'd be a rubbish secretary for you.. But I can iron.
Meh ironing not required just wear less clothes, it’s revolutionary!
What I’d really like is a hot chocolate and a bubble run every night at 7 pm could you do that ? "Edit : bubble bath ! | |||
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"Seriously! Do guys just think we're gonna shag just anybody/anything? I'm sick of getting messages 'you looking to play?' I know what the site is about but some physical attraction and at least one visible picture is a good start.... Rant over!" You playing to look? | |||
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"This is fab not bloody dating Agreed, but the way we have to jump hoops, you'd think we were applying for a job.
Would anyone like to see my CV?
Yep
Haha...
You have lots of tattoos..
I like tattoos.
I'd be a rubbish secretary for you.. But I can iron.
Meh ironing not required just wear less clothes, it’s revolutionary!
What I’d really like is a hot chocolate and a bubble run every night at 7 pm could you do that ?
Edit : bubble bath !"Yeh I can actually.. | |||
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"I do wonder how some people manage to get through life being so bloody oversensitive! I can't understand how you could be confident enough to join a site which in truth, would scare most vanilla everyday types to death due to it's open sexual nature. And yet be so easily offended by some lazy messaging. I can tell you now, if I get such a message from someone I find attractive, I'll be sure to bring up their literary short comings just after we've finished fucking each others brains out! "Come back to me when you spend days, weeks, or months managing dozens or sometimes hundreds of those lazy messages a day (and add rude, abusive, and sometimes disgusting to that), trying to work out which of the tiny minority of good messages are actually from people you might like to meet... and tell me you don't find it at least annoying. I probably was sensitive when I joined. I'm not anymore. But it's bloody wearing. | |||
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"Seriously! Do guys just think we're gonna shag just anybody/anything? I'm sick of getting messages 'you looking to play?' I know what the site is about but some physical attraction and at least one visible picture is a good start.... Rant over! Isn’t this another, “I want men to do all the work and I’ll do bugger all” maybe some effort is required in your part too. " Pretty much! God forbid they'd do the searching themselves and put an end to the crappy messages | |||
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"Seriously! Do guys just think we're gonna shag just anybody/anything? I'm sick of getting messages 'you looking to play?' I know what the site is about but some physical attraction and at least one visible picture is a good start.... Rant over!" You only get as much out of fab as you're prepared to put in. I think a lot of people miss this fine point. | |||
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"Seriously! Do guys just think we're gonna shag just anybody/anything? I'm sick of getting messages 'you looking to play?' I know what the site is about but some physical attraction and at least one visible picture is a good start.... Rant over! Your profile does just say your looking for fun though...... maybe if you changed that you wouldn't just get asked that question. Good luck
My profile says far more and I still get those questions lol!
Some don’t actually read it!
Which is fine. But a guy gets disheartened when they do read the profile in full, send a nice thoughtfully worded message...
And it gets deleted.
What are we to do? "We had a meets request for single guys at the weekend and I don’t think you realise how many messages you get in response! If they haven’t replied as asked, then it’s an immediate delete. Then you still have a stream coming into your inbox to deal with. It would take too long to respond to all, so after we had a shortlist, we stopped mail, and deleted the one liners, and tried to say a polite thanks but no thanks to others later in the day. As a previously single guy on here, I totally get it, but when there are so many in your position, to not make the effort every time means you put yourself at a disadvantage! | |||
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"Seriously! Do guys just think we're gonna shag just anybody/anything? I'm sick of getting messages 'you looking to play?' I know what the site is about but some physical attraction and at least one visible picture is a good start.... Rant over! You only get as much out of fab as you're prepared to put in. I think a lot of people miss this fine point." I'm reminded of the Brexiters argument of 'we put loads in and get nothing back' | |||
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"Seriously! Do guys just think we're gonna shag just anybody/anything? I'm sick of getting messages 'you looking to play?' I know what the site is about but some physical attraction and at least one visible picture is a good start.... Rant over! Your profile does just say your looking for fun though...... maybe if you changed that you wouldn't just get asked that question. Good luck
My profile says far more and I still get those questions lol!
Some don’t actually read it!
Which is fine. But a guy gets disheartened when they do read the profile in full, send a nice thoughtfully worded message...
And it gets deleted.
What are we to do?
We had a meets request for single guys at the weekend and I don’t think you realise how many messages you get in response! If they haven’t replied as asked, then it’s an immediate delete. Then you still have a stream coming into your inbox to deal with. It would take too long to respond to all, so after we had a shortlist, we stopped mail, and deleted the one liners, and tried to say a polite thanks but no thanks to others later in the day. As a previously single guy on here, I totally get it, but when there are so many in your position, to not make the effort every time means you put yourself at a disadvantage! "The one liners might actually be the best people to go for. Strong silent types and all that. Lol | |||
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"I do wonder how some people manage to get through life being so bloody oversensitive! I can't understand how you could be confident enough to join a site which in truth, would scare most vanilla everyday types to death due to it's open sexual nature. And yet be so easily offended by some lazy messaging. I can tell you now, if I get such a message from someone I find attractive, I'll be sure to bring up their literary short comings just after we've finished fucking each others brains out!
Come back to me when you spend days, weeks, or months managing dozens or sometimes hundreds of those lazy messages a day (and add rude, abusive, and sometimes disgusting to that), trying to work out which of the tiny minority of good messages are actually from people you might like to meet... and tell me you don't find it at least annoying.
I probably was sensitive when I joined. I'm not anymore. But it's bloody wearing. "I hope you aren't suggesting that I don't get as many offers as you young lady?!! As if! | |||
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"You are kinda ranting to the wrong crowd to be fair. I'd lay bets on the fact that the majority of guys who send these messages don't even know the forums exist. I'd also lay bets on them not really giving a shit what you think or what you want either. There are some great guys on Fab, some really great guys (both in couples or here flying solo). By the same token, members need to appreciate that a site like this will always attract those out for (what they think will be) an easy lay. For some of them, it happens Not all women seek the imagination nor the need to 'get to know someone' before meeting them. They see what they like and think I'll have a go on him, why not ? That, by default, promotes the cycle We'll never get round it It is what it is No amount of ranting or saying 'hear hear' to each other will make it go away. Set your filters as high as your standards or block the lot & go look for guys yourself. The only form of control we have on here is that which we impose on ourselves." Have to agree, filter to the hilt and do your own search, that way you find what you’re looking for. Works for me
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"You are kinda ranting to the wrong crowd to be fair. I'd lay bets on the fact that the majority of guys who send these messages don't even know the forums exist. I'd also lay bets on them not really giving a shit what you think or what you want either. There are some great guys on Fab, some really great guys (both in couples or here flying solo). By the same token, members need to appreciate that a site like this will always attract those out for (what they think will be) an easy lay. For some of them, it happens Not all women seek the imagination nor the need to 'get to know someone' before meeting them. They see what they like and think I'll have a go on him, why not ? That, by default, promotes the cycle We'll never get round it It is what it is No amount of ranting or saying 'hear hear' to each other will make it go away. Set your filters as high as your standards or block the lot & go look for guys yourself. The only form of control we have on here is that which we impose on ourselves." I've missed you! | |||
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" The only form of control we have on here is that which we impose on ourselves. I've missed you!" mwah x | |||
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"Seriously! Do guys just think we're gonna shag just anybody/anything? I'm sick of getting messages 'you looking to play?' I know what the site is about but some physical attraction and at least one visible picture is a good start.... Rant over! As opposed to two pics you have up of just your breasts. Maybe all those guys that put effort in look for profiles that have done the same " I've put a fair bit of effort into my profile and pics and I do get some crap messages but I also get way more decent ones, apparently because of my profile | |||
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"Seriously! Do guys just think we're gonna shag just anybody/anything? I'm sick of getting messages 'you looking to play?' I know what the site is about but some physical attraction and at least one visible picture is a good start.... Rant over! Your profile does just say your looking for fun though...... maybe if you changed that you wouldn't just get asked that question. Good luck
My profile says far more and I still get those questions lol!
Some don’t actually read it! "Lol, no I get that some don't read them | |||
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"see i agree by making an effort and stringing a few sentences together,,,, so you try be nice, thoughtful, lots of effort! but then you have a look at the recent meets and that "BBC D-dwayne" guy as been shooting up them like a 10 bag of heroine... like wtf... you profile said nice lovely chat, get to know each other.... not "tombstone me like the undertaker" hahahha not everyones the same i suppose
P.S its fucking massive! it has its own twitter page!!"Is it my painkillers? If not, is anyone able (and willing) to explain this one? | |||
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"I do wonder how some people manage to get through life being so bloody oversensitive! I can't understand how you could be confident enough to join a site which in truth, would scare most vanilla everyday types to death due to it's open sexual nature. And yet be so easily offended by some lazy messaging. I can tell you now, if I get such a message from someone I find attractive, I'll be sure to bring up their literary short comings just after we've finished fucking each others brains out! "Most sense I’ve heard all day | |||
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"see i agree by making an effort and stringing a few sentences together,,,, so you try be nice, thoughtful, lots of effort! but then you have a look at the recent meets and that "BBC D-dwayne" guy as been shooting up them like a 10 bag of heroine... like wtf... you profile said nice lovely chat, get to know each other.... not "tombstone me like the undertaker" hahahha not everyones the same i suppose
P.S its fucking massive! it has its own twitter page!!
Is it my painkillers?
If not, is anyone able (and willing) to explain this one?"whats to explain... think maybe its just you | |||
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"Agreed. People need to put more effort in! X" I think I do put the effort in. Predictive text is a pain . Still keep getting ignored. Just say no | |||
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