FabSwingers.com forum: How did you get into swinging?

By *alifeuro OP Man
over a year ago

Farnborough

I'm curious how people get into the lifestyle, especially couples. Was it something you always knew you were interested in? Or did you your interest grow over time? Did you both get into it simultaneously or was it one that initiated it?

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By *_Yeah19Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Met on here as singles and decided to carry on as a couple. No awkward conversations needed here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Messaged Mrs from work and asked if she fancied going to a swingers club, she said yes, joined fab, the end.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Met on here as singles and decided to carry on as a couple. No awkward conversations needed here

TB"

Ditto, I joined after a breakup looking for no strings sex. K joined because she was sick of guys on dating sites, and liked the thought of joining a couple. She found a guy she wasn't sick of, and I found some strings I didn't mind

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

New hobby together, great choice - stamp collecting & trainspotting was backup plan xx

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By *ekyllnHideCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

"New hobby together, great choice - stamp collecting & trainspotting was backup plan xx"

Got d*unk with some friends, nearly passed out, and the boys started playing with me - which started a whole new meaning to the #metoo movement lol!! Carried on for a while until he moved away.....got told about Fab and here we are!!! Probably not really swingers in true sense of the word tho, just like having a guy we can call on either to join in with us or send me too!!

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I was dating a guy who mentioned fab and swingers clubs, I'd never considered it before but we decided to start a couples profile.

A short time after joining he bottled it and decided he didn't want to swing so I started a singles profile and i've been here 2 1/2 years now on my own

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By *oversironthroneMan
over a year ago

dover

For us it was an open and honest chat. We have a 24 year age gap and although sophie likes and gets on with older guys (luckily for me) she does of course like the idea of playing with a younger model now and again. we have both been in relationships where we have either been cheated on or cheated

We both have fantasies and things we would like to try, some of which can not be done with just 2 people and some we either will not or can not do to each other so this seemed like a good idea.

The upside, apart of course from the fun of swinging is that it has improved our confidence, openness with each other and our relationship as a whole.

We have a couple profile and i have a single profile. sophie gets a lot more messages than me (i know, crazy but believe it or not a lot more people want a 23 year old lady than a 47 year old chap, who would have believed it lol) but thats ok, we play together and as a couple and go to eurekas when we can. We will one day try a private party if we get an invite too.

So in a nutshell, we were honest with each other and talked about our desires.

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

"New hobby together, great choice - stamp collecting & trainspotting was backup plan xx

We joined fab to nose at club guest list, didn't know it was going to change our social scene so much, love it xx

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

We met here almost 3 years ago as singles and decided we wanted to carry on this lifestyle .

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

Went to Hedonism on Jamaica 20 years ago before really heard of in the UK, we were the only Brits there and thought wow this looks fun lol so went back every year

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By *alifeuro OP Man
over a year ago

Farnborough

"Messaged Mrs from work and asked if she fancied going to a swingers club, she said yes, joined fab, the end.

I can see how that might not have ended so well though... I guess you had some idea shed be up for it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My girlfriend at the time asked if we could do a threesome with my mate .

Made him jump but he soon got going

Enjoyed it 30 years ago and still do

My girlfriend and i had a threesome a fortnight ago ..

Nothing changes as far as fun goes

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By *oeofsussexMan
over a year ago

Eastbourne

Started swinging at Uni years ago. Most of my gfs have been into the lifestyle. Met several for the first time while they’ve had another guy’s cock deep inside one or more of their holes or while I’ve been inside another lady. Makes for a very enjoyable first impression and a hot way to meet! Can’t recommend it enough!

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

I've answered this on a similar thread some time ago, but as I'm stuck in the house today waiting for an electrician to turn up (we are in Spain so it could be a long wait LOL) I'll go for it again.

I (Mr) started this way back in the mid/late 80's. My first marriage was on a downward slope and I was just looking for a bit of uncomplicated sex so I started advertising in the "Loot" ads (remember them?)

I'd had a few meets from them but all with single women then one day I was contacted by a couple who wanted me for a threesome.

To be honest I was a bit taken aback, I'd heard of swinging but thought that it was mostly a myth, and real people didn't do it, but in the end I went for it. From then on I was slowly introduced to the lifestyle.

They told me about a swinger club. I thought WTF is swinger club? But they told me and then one night I decided to go and take a look. It was the Adam and Eve at Eccles which I think at that time was the only one in the country.

After my first visit I was well and truly hooked and was a regular there for quite a few years. That was in the days when Dave and Sue owned it and Irish Tony was on the desk.

As time went on and I had a few relationships I sort of hopped in and out of swinging but up to that point it had been 99% as a single guy (I did take a fuck buddy to a club a couple of times but that was it as a couple)

In any relationship I was in I never made a secret of what I had been doing but none were particularly interested until in 1999 I met who became my first proper swinging partner.

It started as a normal vanilla relationship but after a couple of months we were talking one night about things we had done in the past and up popped the subject of swinging. I told her about what I had done then she completely bowled me over by telling me that she had been to clubs (and had private meets) with her ex husband.

The following week we went to a club which was the start of a 4 year full on swinging relationship. In that time we visited most of the clubs in the north west and even did a couple of clubs in Holland.

After that broke up I carried on as a single guy again for a while before I moved abroad.

Myself and Mrs H got together 13 years ago and I'd mentioned quite early on about what I had done in the past, but for the first 3 years she showed no interest at all.

Then one evening there was a programme on German TV about swinger clubs and she was watching it quite keenly and even asking me questions about the clubs I had been to. Then out of the blue she said she wanted to go to one (just for a look

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So I had a quick look on google maps and realised that Fun4two in Holland (which I had visited previously with my Ex) was only a couple of hours away so a couple of weeks later off we went and she loved it. To be fair she was a bit timid in the early days and for the first year or so we stuck to soft swing, but once she had her first swinging fuck over 8 years ago she has never looked back.

Sorry if it rambled on a bit but I could never have squeezed all of that into a couple of sentences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As naturists we had often been accused of being swingers as well .

So one day we had a go ,and do you know what ?.

They were right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tripped and fell

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By *etal MickeyMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

I was depressed after a bad brake up and somone at work told me about it.

Got my first meet and there was no looking back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well it all started in the play ground when I was a kid, was very cautious at first but with a little encouragement from my parents and other kids I was fine, haven't looked back since..love a good oul swing haha

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By *blasiansCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

Some chance conversation opened up

Some interesting dialogue, lots of fun before we end up on here to try out fun fab style.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our son was involved in an accident when he was 3. Spent a month in hospital learning him to walk and talk again but it put strain on us both. Wife went to Wales to see friends and had an affair but came home and told the truth, ended up having the best sex we’d ever had..... and here we are now 13yrs later

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

Deb mentioned to me on holiday few years back that she had done ffm few times and we went from there

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By *nnaandchrisCouple
over a year ago

loughton

My fault, (Chris) had a few threesomes and that with an Ex when Anna and I got together a few things came out and Anna said she was interested in trying two guys and that and here we are now all those years later.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm curious how people get into the lifestyle, especially couples. Was it something you always knew you were interested in? Or did you your interest grow over time? Did you both get into it simultaneously or was it one that initiated it? "

Single girl asked us round to hers in the pub. Great start and never looked back at

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wanted to buy a reptile and thought ah this place sells them chameleons....walked in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The first time I joined I was searching the internet for dating sites and stumbled across fab.

Because of my interest of sex I fed my curiosity and joined.

First meet was with a woman called Sarah.

I started chatting to her and we got on well. Then I suggested to meet up and she said yes to my delight.

We talked over a coffee and she indicated that she wanted to take it further.

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By *ottie_84Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Me & the hubby discussed it and laid down some ground rules and since then haven’t looked back, it’s made us a lot closer too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Messaged Mrs from work and asked if she fancied going to a swingers club, she said yes, joined fab, the end.

I can see how that might not have ended so well though... I guess you had some idea shed be up for it?"

I had an idea yes, but we always just float ideas directly, worst case she said no, best case was yes. She went yes and it's been great fun ever since!

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham

"Messaged Mrs from work and asked if she fancied going to a swingers club, she said yes, joined fab, the end.

Very similar to us. Went to the pub, both fancied same girl. When we got home we discussed said girl. So we decided to go to a swingers club, joined fab. The Start

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Messaged Mrs from work and asked if she fancied going to a swingers club, she said yes, joined fab, the end.

Very similar to us. Went to the pub, both fancied same girl. When we got home we discussed said girl. So we decided to go to a swingers club, joined fab. The Start"

Simple as that

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By *orkscouple2003Couple
over a year ago

Dewsbury

We had a rough 18 months before Christmas just gone, she thought I was leaving her & I thought she was cheating on me, we talked stuff out & brought up the conversation we had almost 10 years ago about swinging! We joined fab & it’s the best thing we ever did.

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By *orkscouple2003Couple
over a year ago

Dewsbury

" it’s made us a lot closer too "

Also this!

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I met a man through work and he said look on this site (another swinging site) and see if you can get another guy to meet us so I can take pics, I thought ok that sounds like fun and it just went from there

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham

"Messaged Mrs from work and asked if she fancied going to a swingers club, she said yes, joined fab, the end.

Very similar to us. Went to the pub, both fancied same girl. When we got home we discussed said girl. So we decided to go to a swingers club, joined fab. The Start

Simple as that

We have never managed to spot that girl since either

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

As a couple 14yrs ago discussing our fantasy in the pub .... the rest is history ... though I’m no longer that couple

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By *cutebum9Couple
over a year ago

wallsend

Grew up in the same street 33 years ago finally met again and got together 4 years ago and fell in love. Lots of chat and honesty and being open about each others fantacies and past experiences . then both decided to join fab . the rest is histery

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By *anana JoeMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

An ex partner suggested it and its been on and off for me ever since.

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown

A fb told me about this place, the rest is history

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

Back in the days before the internet, I used to use phone chatlines for late night/early hours meets - got talking to a woman in Leeds one night, and was invited to visit the following evening...

....only after arranging a time and giving me her address did she tell me was married - and casually asked if I'd be OK with her husband watching...

....it was something new and alien to me, but I said yes - was very nervous, and didn't know how I'd 'perform', but everything went well, and the rest, as they say, is history!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Still trying to get into it hahaha I gently brought it up with a few exes about trying it but they didn't want to so dropped it

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By *alifeuro OP Man
over a year ago

Farnborough

Great thanks all for sharing your experiences, quite a variety of stories there! I don't really remember exactly how I got into it myself, I guess I was always turned on by the idea of my partners being with another guy but used to be too jealous to take it any further. Then when I was single I began chatting on some internet forum and met a couple, we arranged to meet in a bar and hit it off right away and it turned out even better than I had hoped. The rest is history as they say...

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By *oubledongWoman
over a year ago

Headington, Oxford

Started with a bit of exhibition going to naturist locations and wearing next to nothing on shopping trips. Hubby signed up to a site similar to this to have a bit of fun on camera. Had no intention to meet anyone at first but kept chatting to a guy for over a year and eventually agreed to meet and after a first meeting to test the waters where it was just touching and photos we ended up going for it and never looked back.

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By *organ and rob zombieCouple
over a year ago

bradford

We’ve been together since we were 18/20 and she was my 4th ever, I was only her second! 6 years later we’re married with a kid and were having a fairly usual kind of chat about our intimate past when she finally came clean about once having some soft play with her friend and another guy, I just said I’d have loved for something like that to have happened to me! We immediately had some amazing sex and started exploring! I won’t lie, it’s caused fall outs but no permanent harm, mainly from being selfish at parties etc!

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By *alifeuro OP Man
over a year ago

Farnborough

"Started with a bit of exhibition going to naturist locations and wearing next to nothing on shopping trips. Hubby signed up to a site similar to this to have a bit of fun on camera. Had no intention to meet anyone at first but kept chatting to a guy for over a year and eventually agreed to meet and after a first meeting to test the waters where it was just touching and photos we ended up going for it and never looked back."

I like the exhibitionist approach.., went with the wife to a clothing optional spa which was very erotic, unfortunately don't know of any such places nearby.. So what made you decide to test the waters in the end?

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By *organ and rob zombieCouple
over a year ago

bradford

"We’ve been together since we were 18/20 and she was my 4th ever, I was only her second! 6 years later we’re married with a kid and were having a fairly usual kind of chat about our intimate past when she finally came clean about once having some soft play with her friend and another guy, I just said I’d have loved for something like that to have happened to me! We immediately had some amazing sex and started exploring! I won’t lie, it’s caused fall outs but no permanent harm, mainly from being selfish at parties etc! "

Sorry should say, “6 years later we were married with a kid”

we’ve now been together for 23 years, married 18 years, I’m no author sorry!

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By *oubledongWoman
over a year ago

Headington, Oxford

Just ended up making friends with the guy over the months I had been chatting with him, so when he invited us to meet and take some photos despite nerves I thought may as well go along, after all I wasn't committing to anything more than getting naked, that I was quite used to by then.

Things just took their naturally progressed from there until eventually he and I spent the night together on our own.

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over a year ago

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By *alifeuro OP Man
over a year ago

Farnborough

And she wasn't referring to you I guess

could have been a bit of a confidence breaker tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I found it a turn on straightaway, I am small but loved the idea

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By *rwolfMan
over a year ago

bristol

Introduced to it years ago when i was exploring various aspects of who i am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We still are exploring lol

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