FabSwingers.com forum: Awkward moment

By *rblue38 OP Man
over a year ago

Maidstone

Hey all. Well both me and the wife swing together and separate. We do now attend regular parties together. She always very popular but I get put down alot. I guess lack a bit of Confidence. We were playing with a couple the other week and noticed she was all over her but didn't want to go near me. Then I heard the guy say to his partner you can go with him if you want. She immediately said ergh no way he way too unattractive. I don't think I was meant to hear but totally disrespectful. Real knock back as I just started to build my confidence again. I had a similar situation last night but also had some nice people who made me feel better. Overall I don't see me as gods gift. Yes I am a little shy and knock backs have left me like I am but pondered if it is because of the way I look. I didnt really think much of it ubt the other week.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was low on confidence I would never go a sex club as it’s not the place to build your confidence.

Do you not talk to other couples before play and then agree to play? Sounds easier than to stand there waiting to be accepted.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

That's why I always meet for a social, I want to make sure the person is compatible with me and I with them.

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By *rblue38 OP Man
over a year ago

Maidstone

Yeah we talk to couples before playing but they tend to go with her instead. I get pushed out the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel you should meet people first and have a drink and a chat, rather than ending up in the situation you've described.

Anyone's confidence would be knocked by what happened to you.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

"Yeah we talk to couples before playing but they tend to go with her instead. I get pushed out the way "

What you have described would dent anyones confidence. What does your partner say about it? If I heard anyone say that about my partner I would certainly not be going anywhere near them. I'd definitely be having socials before any meets in future and discussing the play plan afterwards. You are a couple first and foremost.

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By *rblue38 OP Man
over a year ago

Maidstone

She tells me that I am not ugly or unattractive and to ignore them. But I just feel left out as she goes playing on her own. Though I got to admit last night I did get lots of kisses of a few women by the end of last night and won a raffle

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Wow, what a nasty, thoughtless couple. Like other posters have said, do socials first. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She tells me that I am not ugly or unattractive and to ignore them. But I just feel left out as she goes playing on her own. Though I got to admit last night I did get lots of kisses of a few women by the end of last night and won a raffle "

I agree with the comments above but reading your reply I think you need to talk to your partner. You describe her as your partner and you go together - why is she leaving you?

Is playing separately the agreed rules between you both? You say you feel left out which suggest the arrangement isn’t what you intended.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talking about awkward moments... About 6 week ago me and hubby was at a club with a other couple of friends. Only to bump into my ex hubby and his wife.. the weekend after when they come to pick our kids up I couldn't look them in the face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We look at it as a tag team, if one of us isn't keen, then we don't play because it's just not fair if there isn't a four way dynamic.

Hope your okay OP.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

If that was me as part of a couple, I'd have stopped all play and told them to go f**k themselves, for your partner to continue was just wrong in my opinion.

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By *rblue38 OP Man
over a year ago

Maidstone

Thanks yeah all good spoken to the wife we have rules in place. The strange thing was she had missing teeth, warts on her face. I don't judge a book by her cover but maybe she learn say no thanks that would be fine enough.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"If that was me as part of a couple, I'd have stopped all play and told them to go f**k themselves, for your partner to continue was just wrong in my opinion."

I agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey all. Well both me and the wife swing together and separate. We do now attend regular parties together. She always very popular but I get put down alot. I guess lack a bit of Confidence. We were playing with a couple the other week and noticed she was all over her but didn't want to go near me. Then I heard the guy say to his partner you can go with him if you want. She immediately said ergh no way he way too unattractive. I don't think I was meant to hear but totally disrespectful. Real knock back as I just started to build my confidence again. I had a similar situation last night but also had some nice people who made me feel better. Overall I don't see me as gods gift. Yes I am a little shy and knock backs have left me like I am but pondered if it is because of the way I look. I didnt really think much of it ubt the other week. "

Sadly clubs are like that. Hence I don't go... It's like a meat market. Clicky and insulting. I talk to people on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Talking about awkward moments... About 6 week ago me and hubby was at a club with a other couple of friends. Only to bump into my ex hubby and his wife.. the weekend after when they come to pick our kids up I couldn't look them in the face

wow!

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By *rblue38 OP Man
over a year ago

Maidstone

Sadly clubs are like that. Hence I don't go... It's like a meat market. Clicky and insulting. I talk to people on here

I actually get ignored alot on here at the parties It a different atmosphere. Met some lovely couples. There is just some couples out there that are like that. Looking back I should of not let it get to me. Their loss I see it

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Who is it that has warts and teeth missing ? .... im confused

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

wow! "

Why the faces?

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By *rblue38 OP Man
over a year ago

Maidstone

"Who is it that has warts and teeth missing ? .... im confused "

It was the woman who said I was unattractive and ugly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah we talk to couples before playing but they tend to go with her instead. I get pushed out the way

Very much this!

I've had similar happen when I met as a couple. We both got up and left.

I certainly wouldn't be off fucking people while my partner was being abused.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah we talk to couples before playing but they tend to go with her instead. I get pushed out the way "

A couple of comments.

It sounds like you're really low, but most upsetting is your wife isn't supporting or helping you at all. She should be walking away from those situations you are rejected in and making it clear she doesn't appreciate the remarks.

To me it's quite appalling she carries on playing and it even sounds like she starts playing with couples after you've been rejected.

If that is as bad as it reads I'd be doing more than looking for some new swinging partners.

On a completely different tack, if you're that low on self esteem, change something in your life, take up a sport or go to the gym, get fitter and get in to better shape. A lot of women at clubs are just as shallow as us men

But mostly I'm pretty disgusted by your wife if I've read this right.

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By *rblue38 OP Man
over a year ago

Maidstone

What has happened and probably my dyslexia is part of it. She carried on with me only after that incident. She only carried on for a bit until I told her. She wanted to say something but I told her not to. Instead the hosts handled the situation fantastically. I do go to the gym but I have severe asthma so I do struggle on a day to day basis. I love my life as much I can do and enjoy meeting other couples and women. Just because I have a rare type of asthma does not stop me having fun. I need to be more careful. The steroids I have to take makes me put on weight which is a battle when trying to balance it all out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What has happened and probably my dyslexia is part of it. She carried on with me only after that incident. She only carried on for a bit until I told her. She wanted to say something but I told her not to. Instead the hosts handled the situation fantastically. I do go to the gym but I have severe asthma so I do struggle on a day to day basis. I love my life as much I can do and enjoy meeting other couples and women. Just because I have a rare type of asthma does not stop me having fun. I need to be more careful. The steroids I have to take makes me put on weight which is a battle when trying to balance it all out. "

Better news on your wife!

But the asthma is tough, I have it too, there's still ways to make changes if you want to and if it helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You maybe should have met first, however, her ignorance is appalling

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

A few comments:

1. That couple was very rude to say what they said aloud

2. As everyone's said why did your wife tolerate that? Are you in a cuckold relationship and this is part of the whole "humiliation" scenario?

3. In absolute terms you're neither unattractive or ugly, you're not obese, have a nice bum (yes I looked!) and big cock and decent face. So on several counts was that bitch's loss

4. Reiterating ...... unless this is a cuckold humiliation thing, your wife needs to do her bit and stand for you

Gail

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why not arrange private meets with some nice couples? As clubs are not the place to go when feeling a little down on yourself, you need an air of confidence in clubs and the gift of the gab

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

"Who is it that has warts and teeth missing ? .... im confused

It was the woman who said I was unattractive and ugly "

I smell a rat

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By *rblue38 OP Man
over a year ago

Maidstone

"Why not arrange private meets with some nice couples? As clubs are not the place to go when feeling a little down on yourself, you need an air of confidence in clubs and the gift of the gab"

So true we are dojng that from our couples profile

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By *igertigerCouple (MM)
over a year ago

Dublin

"If that was me as part of a couple, I'd have stopped all play and told them to go f**k themselves, for your partner to continue was just wrong in my opinion."

your partner is at fault and shows total disregard for your feelings

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By *igertigerCouple (MM)
over a year ago

Dublin

"Who is it that has warts and teeth missing ? .... im confused

It was the woman who said I was unattractive and ugly "

are you saying she was a minger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your mrs should have stopped it right there

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

"Who is it that has warts and teeth missing ? .... im confused

It was the woman who said I was unattractive and ugly "

Wow. You complained she calls you ugly and ......

True colours and all that huh

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By *rblue38 OP Man
over a year ago

Maidstone

A few comments:

1. That couple was very rude to say what they said aloud

2. As everyone's said why did your wife tolerate that? Are you in a cuckold relationship and this is part of the whole "humiliation" scenario?

3. In absolute terms you're neither unattractive or ugly, you're not obese, have a nice bum (yes I looked!) and big cock and decent face. So on several counts was that bitch's loss

4. Reiterating ...... unless this is a cuckold humiliation thing, your wife needs to do her bit and stand for you

Gail"

Thanks Gail you did make me smile. No I don't like cuckholding does northing for me. I am a little too shy at times well at first but I warm up in time. I enjoying going to swinger events and last weekend made up from the previous week.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who is it that has warts and teeth missing ? .... im confused

It was the woman who said I was unattractive and ugly

I smell a rat"

It's probably dead and she keeps it in here pocket

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who is it that has warts and teeth missing ? .... im confused

It was the woman who said I was unattractive and ugly

are you saying she was a minger

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks yeah all good spoken to the wife we have rules in place. The strange thing was she had missing teeth, warts on her face. I don't judge a book by her cover but maybe she learn say no thanks that would be fine enough. "

And you still wanted to play with her?

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