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By *mablackman OP   Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

Who likes waking up to your partner having sex waking up because she's moaning or opening your eyes to see your getting your dick sucked who's loves it and is interested in some fun at ours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't do anything to a person while they slept. It could become a massive consensual issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Saz has pre consent to do that to me. But not just anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Erm nope

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york

Hubbys never complained

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sound a bit, well, unconsenting to me.

If she preconsents to a cup of tea while she's awake then dozes off, do you pour it down her neck anyway?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you mean does anyone like surprising your OH With a blowie or similar? If so then err yes! Or did you mean different?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A good fantasy but nope to many red flags that could be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A husband was recently jailed for a long time for multiple counts of raping his wife while she slept. Just saying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dave often wakes me up by snuggling my bum and then slipping inside me...

If I didn't want him to then he gets told to "fuck off"... especially when our baby was younger and never bloody slept...

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By *aughtyYorkGentMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"Sound a bit, well, unconsenting to me.

If she preconsents to a cup of tea while she's awake then dozes off, do you pour it down her neck anyway?"

That's not really the same thing though, we're talking about someone consenting to certain acts, explicitly knowing that they will be done while they're asleep, not just consent given while awake being assumed to apply after they lose consiousness.

I understand the concerns though - the consent issue was the first thing that occurred to me when the idea was raised by past partners. However, a couple of women I've known have loved being woken up in the morning by receiving oral and it seemed a shame not to explore that. You just have to be absolutely clear in advance what is and isn't being agreed to, and when.

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough


"Who likes waking up to your partner having sex waking up because she's moaning or opening your eyes to see your getting your dick sucked who's loves it and is interested in some fun at ours "

Absolutely love it.

Had it done and done it. It's very sexy. Where do you live xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love this happening to me

And love sucking Mr P whilst he’s asleep

Love the fact he’s taking advantage of me

Mrs P

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By *exfordMan
over a year ago

Romford


"Sound a bit, well, unconsenting to me.

If she preconsents to a cup of tea while she's awake then dozes off, do you pour it down her neck anyway?"

Are we talking proper Yorkshire tea or something like Tetley's here?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I'd slap someone if they did it to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Several years ago we had a period whereby we would wake up missing undies etc both blamed the other.

I woke up one night riding hubby, was very confused but did continue naturally.

So soon as it started it all stopped.

A few months ago I woke up gagging/choking, I had been giving hubby a blow job in my sleep!

We quite often end up having sleepy sex as one of us wakes and initiates it in the early hours of the morning.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sound a bit, well, unconsenting to me.

If she preconsents to a cup of tea while she's awake then dozes off, do you pour it down her neck anyway?

Are we talking proper Yorkshire tea or something like Tetley's here?"

No one willingly consents to Tetleys...

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By *exfordMan
over a year ago

Romford


"Sound a bit, well, unconsenting to me.

If she preconsents to a cup of tea while she's awake then dozes off, do you pour it down her neck anyway?

Are we talking proper Yorkshire tea or something like Tetley's here?

No one willingly consents to Tetleys..."

My point exactly... That would certainly be classed as assault.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m fine if the wife takes me in hand and wakes me up but I would never try to fuck her while she is asleep. Cuddle or stroke her body hell yeah but fucking while asleep it’s technically illegal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The best way to get woken up

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Sound a bit, well, unconsenting to me.

If she preconsents to a cup of tea while she's awake then dozes off, do you pour it down her neck anyway?

That's not really the same thing though, we're talking about someone consenting to certain acts, explicitly knowing that they will be done while they're asleep, not just consent given while awake being assumed to apply after they lose consiousness.

I understand the concerns though - the consent issue was the first thing that occurred to me when the idea was raised by past partners. However, a couple of women I've known have loved being woken up in the morning by receiving oral and it seemed a shame not to explore that. You just have to be absolutely clear in advance what is and isn't being agreed to, and when."

If she is asleep how can she agree to it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sound a bit, well, unconsenting to me.

If she preconsents to a cup of tea while she's awake then dozes off, do you pour it down her neck anyway?

That's not really the same thing though, we're talking about someone consenting to certain acts, explicitly knowing that they will be done while they're asleep, not just consent given while awake being assumed to apply after they lose consiousness.

I understand the concerns though - the consent issue was the first thing that occurred to me when the idea was raised by past partners. However, a couple of women I've known have loved being woken up in the morning by receiving oral and it seemed a shame not to explore that. You just have to be absolutely clear in advance what is and isn't being agreed to, and when.

If she is asleep how can she agree to it? "

In fairness she could consent to be fiddled with whilst asleep prior to going to sleep or just give general consent for the same. My ex used to tell me I could do what I wanted to her when she was asleep. I often used to wake up in the early hours to find her sucking my cock. I should have married her.

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By *BWandhusbandCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

We've both given the green light for this to happen with each other. It's a bit of a kink of mine actually.

It's not something I'd do with a random guy though.

Katie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never done it but I quite like the idea of being woken up that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

one of my fantasies to wake up cos im getting a BJ.. i told my ex but never happened... Bitch haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to love waking up or being woken like this with ex's. I have only spent the night with about 6 men though ever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If Ive a guy in my bed long enough to fall asleep (so this means we’re close) then yes I’d love to be woken up by a bit of oral, and yes I’m partial to doing the same!

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By *verysmileMan
over a year ago

Canterbury

I always suggest to a partner that she is welcome to play with me if I am asleep.

This normally elicits an agreement or otherwise from her.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"one of my fantasies to wake up cos im getting a BJ.. i told my ex but never happened... Bitch haha"

My wife has woken me many times with my cock in her hand def better than the alarm waking me up ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've done it a few times to my OH, but it did not always end as I wanted it to. Not that he was complaining though

I don't think I would be able to have sex while I'm asleep because:

1. I would wake up immediately

2. I always wake up first

3. I'm really tight so without being proper wet he wouldn't get in

K

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. I find sex more enjoyable when you're both awake ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m never woken up. So for the first time ever, ...I’d have to fake it!!!

(Fake the sleeping).

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Sound a bit, well, unconsenting to me.

If she preconsents to a cup of tea while she's awake then dozes off, do you pour it down her neck anyway?

That's not really the same thing though, we're talking about someone consenting to certain acts, explicitly knowing that they will be done while they're asleep, not just consent given while awake being assumed to apply after they lose consiousness.

I understand the concerns though - the consent issue was the first thing that occurred to me when the idea was raised by past partners. However, a couple of women I've known have loved being woken up in the morning by receiving oral and it seemed a shame not to explore that. You just have to be absolutely clear in advance what is and isn't being agreed to, and when.

If she is asleep how can she agree to it?

In fairness she could consent to be fiddled with whilst asleep prior to going to sleep or just give general consent for the same. My ex used to tell me I could do what I wanted to her when she was asleep. I often used to wake up in the early hours to find her sucking my cock. I should have married her. "

‘Fiddled with’! One cannot consent to sex hours before it takes place. Just having sex without immediate consent is illegal.

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough

Hubby has ongoing consent for this . And yes not everyone can understand or agrees with it but I find it sexy as hell and would be rather disappointed if he didn't do it.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope. I find sex more enjoyable when you're both awake ..."

So you’ve never fell asleep with a person your in lust or love with ever? In their arms or spooning? Then been slowly awakened by their mouth around your cock, your cock going hard in their mouth and your half awake then you realise your fully erect and the woman your with is actually sucking your erect penis?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sound a bit, well, unconsenting to me.

If she preconsents to a cup of tea while she's awake then dozes off, do you pour it down her neck anyway?

That's not really the same thing though, we're talking about someone consenting to certain acts, explicitly knowing that they will be done while they're asleep, not just consent given while awake being assumed to apply after they lose consiousness.

I understand the concerns though - the consent issue was the first thing that occurred to me when the idea was raised by past partners. However, a couple of women I've known have loved being woken up in the morning by receiving oral and it seemed a shame not to explore that. You just have to be absolutely clear in advance what is and isn't being agreed to, and when.

If she is asleep how can she agree to it?

In fairness she could consent to be fiddled with whilst asleep prior to going to sleep or just give general consent for the same. My ex used to tell me I could do what I wanted to her when she was asleep. I often used to wake up in the early hours to find her sucking my cock. I should have married her.

‘Fiddled with’! One cannot consent to sex hours before it takes place. Just having sex without immediate consent is illegal. "

Of course you can. Let’s say I go to sleep at 10pm, tell the missus she can do as she pleases with me at any point during my sleep and I wake up at 6am to find her riding my cock. Perfectly ok as consent was given. If the same consent was given at the start of a relationship say, consent to engage in sexual activity during sleep at any time over the course of that relationship then that consent would have to be withdrawn before it would become illegal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope. I find sex more enjoyable when you're both awake ...

So you’ve never fell asleep with a person your in lust or love with ever? In their arms or spooning? Then been slowly awakened by their mouth around your cock, your cock going hard in their mouth and your half awake then you realise your fully erect and the woman your with is actually sucking your erect penis?"

Stop right there, I'm having impure thoughts now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope. I find sex more enjoyable when you're both awake ...

So you’ve never fell asleep with a person your in lust or love with ever? In their arms or spooning? Then been slowly awakened by their mouth around your cock, your cock going hard in their mouth and your half awake then you realise your fully erect and the woman your with is actually sucking your erect penis?

Stop right there, I'm having impure thoughts now "

It’s the word penis and erect I’m finding them well horny lately

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By *roticaCouple
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

one of the best things is being asleep and feeling my boyfriend slide inside me. After a bit of fun he stays inside and we both fall back to sleep.

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough


"Nope. I find sex more enjoyable when you're both awake ...

So you’ve never fell asleep with a person your in lust or love with ever? In their arms or spooning? Then been slowly awakened by their mouth around your cock, your cock going hard in their mouth and your half awake then you realise your fully erect and the woman your with is actually sucking your erect penis?

Stop right there, I'm having impure thoughts now

It’s the word penis and erect I’m finding them well horny lately "

If you ever find yourself in our bed and I'm asleep, I like your attitude, you have consent to do what the hell you like please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope. I find sex more enjoyable when you're both awake ...

So you’ve never fell asleep with a person your in lust or love with ever? In their arms or spooning? Then been slowly awakened by their mouth around your cock, your cock going hard in their mouth and your half awake then you realise your fully erect and the woman your with is actually sucking your erect penis?

Stop right there, I'm having impure thoughts now

It’s the word penis and erect I’m finding them well horny lately "

I don't care what or why, it works

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope. I find sex more enjoyable when you're both awake ...

So you’ve never fell asleep with a person your in lust or love with ever? In their arms or spooning? Then been slowly awakened by their mouth around your cock, your cock going hard in their mouth and your half awake then you realise your fully erect and the woman your with is actually sucking your erect penis?

Stop right there, I'm having impure thoughts now

It’s the word penis and erect I’m finding them well horny lately

If you ever find yourself in our bed and I'm asleep, I like your attitude, you have consent to do what the hell you like please. "

. With a fully erect throbbing penis, slightly seeping pre cum,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope. I find sex more enjoyable when you're both awake ...

So you’ve never fell asleep with a person your in lust or love with ever? In their arms or spooning? Then been slowly awakened by their mouth around your cock, your cock going hard in their mouth and your half awake then you realise your fully erect and the woman your with is actually sucking your erect penis?

Stop right there, I'm having impure thoughts now

It’s the word penis and erect I’m finding them well horny lately

I don't care what or why, it works"

Fancy a sleepover

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough


"Nope. I find sex more enjoyable when you're both awake ...

So you’ve never fell asleep with a person your in lust or love with ever? In their arms or spooning? Then been slowly awakened by their mouth around your cock, your cock going hard in their mouth and your half awake then you realise your fully erect and the woman your with is actually sucking your erect penis?

Stop right there, I'm having impure thoughts now

It’s the word penis and erect I’m finding them well horny lately

If you ever find yourself in our bed and I'm asleep, I like your attitude, you have consent to do what the hell you like please.

. With a fully erect throbbing penis, slightly seeping pre cum, "

If you were asleep next to me I'm afraid that would be guaranteed. I have been known to shag gorgeous ebony while I'm still asleep, lol. And yes I'm serious so it would be extremely hard and ready for you to do what the hell you liked with.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

See now I don’t understand this lack of consent crap being spouted here . If you go to bed with someone , you know them well enough to know whether they consent to a fumble while sleeping surely ? And if it’s an issue , one or other would just say “ no hanky panky while I sleep “ , thereby eliminating the risk .

As for the husband getting done for doing it multiple times , wtf ?

Anyway I’m a bit old fashioned and I don’t get it at all . We love sleep sex and do it to each other all the time . It’s great , and we’ve never once consented to it . But we sure as hell won’t be taking action against each other for it .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"See now I don’t understand this lack of consent crap being spouted here . If you go to bed with someone , you know them well enough to know whether they consent to a fumble while sleeping surely ? And if it’s an issue , one or other would just say “ no hanky panky while I sleep “ , thereby eliminating the risk .

As for the husband getting done for doing it multiple times , wtf ?

Anyway I’m a bit old fashioned and I don’t get it at all . We love sleep sex and do it to each other all the time . It’s great , and we’ve never once consented to it . But we sure as hell won’t be taking action against each other for it ."

That’s cool. You say your old fashioned? Yet others might not get your lifestyle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"See now I don’t understand this lack of consent crap being spouted here . If you go to bed with someone , you know them well enough to know whether they consent to a fumble while sleeping surely ? And if it’s an issue , one or other would just say “ no hanky panky while I sleep “ , thereby eliminating the risk .

As for the husband getting done for doing it multiple times , wtf ?

Anyway I’m a bit old fashioned and I don’t get it at all . We love sleep sex and do it to each other all the time . It’s great , and we’ve never once consented to it . But we sure as hell won’t be taking action against each other for it ."

I agree with you but the story about the husband going to jail is true. The wife found videos on his phone or laptop of him having sex with her as she slept, she reported him and he was convicted of multiple counts of ra pe. Doing it without their knowledge is a bit sinister, totally different to discussing it and letting each other know you’re fine with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"See now I don’t understand this lack of consent crap being spouted here . If you go to bed with someone , you know them well enough to know whether they consent to a fumble while sleeping surely ? And if it’s an issue , one or other would just say “ no hanky panky while I sleep “ , thereby eliminating the risk .

As for the husband getting done for doing it multiple times , wtf ?

Anyway I’m a bit old fashioned and I don’t get it at all . We love sleep sex and do it to each other all the time . It’s great , and we’ve never once consented to it . But we sure as hell won’t be taking action against each other for it .

I agree with you but the story about the husband going to jail is true. The wife found videos on his phone or laptop of him having sex with her as she slept, she reported him and he was convicted of multiple counts of ra pe. Doing it without their knowledge is a bit sinister, totally different to discussing it and letting each other know you’re fine with it."

If I was totally in love with my husband or partner and he had sex with me whilst I was asleep and I never woke up I’d be questioning why I didn’t. I wouldn’t report him I don’t think! I’d call him a tit and nob but there’s loads of extramitys here that we don’t know about. It’s not black or white

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"See now I don’t understand this lack of consent crap being spouted here . If you go to bed with someone , you know them well enough to know whether they consent to a fumble while sleeping surely ? And if it’s an issue , one or other would just say “ no hanky panky while I sleep “ , thereby eliminating the risk .

As for the husband getting done for doing it multiple times , wtf ?

Anyway I’m a bit old fashioned and I don’t get it at all . We love sleep sex and do it to each other all the time . It’s great , and we’ve never once consented to it . But we sure as hell won’t be taking action against each other for it .

I agree with you but the story about the husband going to jail is true. The wife found videos on his phone or laptop of him having sex with her as she slept, she reported him and he was convicted of multiple counts of ra pe. Doing it without their knowledge is a bit sinister, totally different to discussing it and letting each other know you’re fine with it."

How bizarre !

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By *r and mrs 1992Couple
over a year ago

Oldham

My husband suffers from sexomnia so I frequently wake up with his fingers or dick inside me and he doesn't realise he's doing it until he starts fucking me properly and wakes himself up.

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow

Thats some lucid dream

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sound a bit, well, unconsenting to me.

If she preconsents to a cup of tea while she's awake then dozes off, do you pour it down her neck anyway?

That's not really the same thing though, we're talking about someone consenting to certain acts, explicitly knowing that they will be done while they're asleep, not just consent given while awake being assumed to apply after they lose consiousness.

I understand the concerns though - the consent issue was the first thing that occurred to me when the idea was raised by past partners. However, a couple of women I've known have loved being woken up in the morning by receiving oral and it seemed a shame not to explore that. You just have to be absolutely clear in advance what is and isn't being agreed to, and when.

If she is asleep how can she agree to it?

In fairness she could consent to be fiddled with whilst asleep prior to going to sleep or just give general consent for the same. My ex used to tell me I could do what I wanted to her when she was asleep. I often used to wake up in the early hours to find her sucking my cock. I should have married her.

‘Fiddled with’! One cannot consent to sex hours before it takes place. Just having sex without immediate consent is illegal.

Of course you can. Let’s say I go to sleep at 10pm, tell the missus she can do as she pleases with me at any point during my sleep and I wake up at 6am to find her riding my cock. Perfectly ok as consent was given. If the same consent was given at the start of a relationship say, consent to engage in sexual activity during sleep at any time over the course of that relationship then that consent would have to be withdrawn before it would become illegal."

Totally wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had an ex that loved this.

We discussed it when I told her how she has been moaning and clearly having a sexy dream, in the night. Her response was, next time, please fuck me.

So, a few times, I managed to be hard, inside her, and fucking her slowly as she woke up. It was fun for both of us, and definatly consensual.

I understand that for assume people it's a no go, but in the context of that relationship, it was alot of fun.

I've also woken up, once or twice to the sensation of being pleasured. I'm not much of a morning person, and sometimes, I need a pee and a cup of coffee before I can function, but once or twice, it was fudging amazing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sound a bit, well, unconsenting to me.

If she preconsents to a cup of tea while she's awake then dozes off, do you pour it down her neck anyway?

That's not really the same thing though, we're talking about someone consenting to certain acts, explicitly knowing that they will be done while they're asleep, not just consent given while awake being assumed to apply after they lose consiousness.

I understand the concerns though - the consent issue was the first thing that occurred to me when the idea was raised by past partners. However, a couple of women I've known have loved being woken up in the morning by receiving oral and it seemed a shame not to explore that. You just have to be absolutely clear in advance what is and isn't being agreed to, and when.

If she is asleep how can she agree to it?

In fairness she could consent to be fiddled with whilst asleep prior to going to sleep or just give general consent for the same. My ex used to tell me I could do what I wanted to her when she was asleep. I often used to wake up in the early hours to find her sucking my cock. I should have married her.

‘Fiddled with’! One cannot consent to sex hours before it takes place. Just having sex without immediate consent is illegal.

Of course you can. Let’s say I go to sleep at 10pm, tell the missus she can do as she pleases with me at any point during my sleep and I wake up at 6am to find her riding my cock. Perfectly ok as consent was given. If the same consent was given at the start of a relationship say, consent to engage in sexual activity during sleep at any time over the course of that relationship then that consent would have to be withdrawn before it would become illegal.

Totally wrong. "

No it isn’t. Not the way I’ve described it. Consent can be withdrawn at any point before or during sex or any sexual act. But if consent is given for your partner to have sex with you any time while you’re asleep then that consent stands until it is withdrawn. It’s all in the wording of the conversation. If you said give it a try tonight then that’s only consent for that night but if you give permission for them to do it every night then that’s different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never tried it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't read the whole thread...so apologies if I missed this...but are some of you suggesting that even if you have a partner there should be explicit consent every time you shag?

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I haven't read the whole thread...so apologies if I missed this...but are some of you suggesting that even if you have a partner there should be explicit consent every time you shag?

Are you saying that it is acceptable to shag your partner whenever YOU want?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I haven't read the whole thread...so apologies if I missed this...but are some of you suggesting that even if you have a partner there should be explicit consent every time you shag?

Are you saying that it is acceptable to shag your partner whenever YOU want?"

That's not what I'm saying at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I haven't read the whole thread...so apologies if I missed this...but are some of you suggesting that even if you have a partner there should be explicit consent every time you shag?

Are you saying that it is acceptable to shag your partner whenever YOU want?

That's not what I'm saying at all"

Thats alright then.

Shagging someone when they are asleep is one thing, however you will find that most blokes won't complain if you jump on their pole. to penetrate someone whilst they are asleep is a different ball game. Believe me, I know how consent can be withdrawn with zero notice. Why the fuck do you think I'm on fab?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I haven't read the whole thread...so apologies if I missed this...but are some of you suggesting that even if you have a partner there should be explicit consent every time you shag?

Are you saying that it is acceptable to shag your partner whenever YOU want?

That's not what I'm saying at all

Thats alright then.

Shagging someone when they are asleep is one thing, however you will find that most blokes won't complain if you jump on their pole. to penetrate someone whilst they are asleep is a different ball game. Believe me, I know how consent can be withdrawn with zero notice. Why the fuck do you think I'm on fab?"

Everyone’s on fab for different reasons tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sound a bit, well, unconsenting to me.

If she preconsents to a cup of tea while she's awake then dozes off, do you pour it down her neck anyway?"

ALL OF THIS!

My wife says I can do whatever I want to her while she's asleep but I don't because it feels intrinsically wrong on every level of human decency.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Waking during the night to find a g/f slowly wanking my cock was something i personally found very horny/erotic.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Sound a bit, well, unconsenting to me.

If she preconsents to a cup of tea while she's awake then dozes off, do you pour it down her neck anyway?

That's not really the same thing though, we're talking about someone consenting to certain acts, explicitly knowing that they will be done while they're asleep, not just consent given while awake being assumed to apply after they lose consiousness.

I understand the concerns though - the consent issue was the first thing that occurred to me when the idea was raised by past partners. However, a couple of women I've known have loved being woken up in the morning by receiving oral and it seemed a shame not to explore that. You just have to be absolutely clear in advance what is and isn't being agreed to, and when.

If she is asleep how can she agree to it?

In fairness she could consent to be fiddled with whilst asleep prior to going to sleep or just give general consent for the same. My ex used to tell me I could do what I wanted to her when she was asleep. I often used to wake up in the early hours to find her sucking my cock. I should have married her.

‘Fiddled with’! One cannot consent to sex hours before it takes place. Just having sex without immediate consent is illegal.

Of course you can. Let’s say I go to sleep at 10pm, tell the missus she can do as she pleases with me at any point during my sleep and I wake up at 6am to find her riding my cock. Perfectly ok as consent was given. If the same consent was given at the start of a relationship say, consent to engage in sexual activity during sleep at any time over the course of that relationship then that consent would have to be withdrawn before it would become illegal.

Totally wrong.

No it isn’t. Not the way I’ve described it. Consent can be withdrawn at any point before or during sex or any sexual act. But if consent is given for your partner to have sex with you any time while you’re asleep then that consent stands until it is withdrawn. It’s all in the wording of the conversation. If you said give it a try tonight then that’s only consent for that night but if you give permission for them to do it every night then that’s different. "

Wrong! How can you assume at that particular moment in time the lady will want sex while she is asleep. She can decide no at that time for all kinds of reasons. You are saying because you are in a sexual relationship and general consent is spoken of it doesn’t mean that every time the man fancies having sex when she is asleep does not mean it will happen every time. It’s not a given and it’s not to be expected to happen just because he wants it at that time because it’s been discussed as general consent I imagine a court of law would as at the time did she say yes and if not then it’s unlawful sex......

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham


"I’m fine if the wife takes me in hand and wakes me up but I would never try to fuck her while she is asleep. Cuddle or stroke her body hell yeah but fucking while asleep it’s technically illegal "

But surely it is the same both ways though?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sound a bit, well, unconsenting to me.

If she preconsents to a cup of tea while she's awake then dozes off, do you pour it down her neck anyway?

That's not really the same thing though, we're talking about someone consenting to certain acts, explicitly knowing that they will be done while they're asleep, not just consent given while awake being assumed to apply after they lose consiousness.

I understand the concerns though - the consent issue was the first thing that occurred to me when the idea was raised by past partners. However, a couple of women I've known have loved being woken up in the morning by receiving oral and it seemed a shame not to explore that. You just have to be absolutely clear in advance what is and isn't being agreed to, and when.

If she is asleep how can she agree to it?

In fairness she could consent to be fiddled with whilst asleep prior to going to sleep or just give general consent for the same. My ex used to tell me I could do what I wanted to her when she was asleep. I often used to wake up in the early hours to find her sucking my cock. I should have married her.

‘Fiddled with’! One cannot consent to sex hours before it takes place. Just having sex without immediate consent is illegal.

Of course you can. Let’s say I go to sleep at 10pm, tell the missus she can do as she pleases with me at any point during my sleep and I wake up at 6am to find her riding my cock. Perfectly ok as consent was given. If the same consent was given at the start of a relationship say, consent to engage in sexual activity during sleep at any time over the course of that relationship then that consent would have to be withdrawn before it would become illegal.

Totally wrong.

No it isn’t. Not the way I’ve described it. Consent can be withdrawn at any point before or during sex or any sexual act. But if consent is given for your partner to have sex with you any time while you’re asleep then that consent stands until it is withdrawn. It’s all in the wording of the conversation. If you said give it a try tonight then that’s only consent for that night but if you give permission for them to do it every night then that’s different.

Wrong! How can you assume at that particular moment in time the lady will want sex while she is asleep. She can decide no at that time for all kinds of reasons. You are saying because you are in a sexual relationship and general consent is spoken of it doesn’t mean that every time the man fancies having sex when she is asleep does not mean it will happen every time. It’s not a given and it’s not to be expected to happen just because he wants it at that time because it’s been discussed as general consent I imagine a court of law would as at the time did she say yes and if not then it’s unlawful sex......"

Why are you putting it all in the man? If the woman gives consent for her partner to have sex with her at any time while she is asleep then that stands until it is withdrawn. There are women that are turned on by the thought of it, so the men would be giving them what they want in those circumstances. The court would need all of the facts but if general consent was given for a specific sexual act during sleep then that consent is valid until withdrawn like I’ve said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sound a bit, well, unconsenting to me.

If she preconsents to a cup of tea while she's awake then dozes off, do you pour it down her neck anyway?

That's not really the same thing though, we're talking about someone consenting to certain acts, explicitly knowing that they will be done while they're asleep, not just consent given while awake being assumed to apply after they lose consiousness.

I understand the concerns though - the consent issue was the first thing that occurred to me when the idea was raised by past partners. However, a couple of women I've known have loved being woken up in the morning by receiving oral and it seemed a shame not to explore that. You just have to be absolutely clear in advance what is and isn't being agreed to, and when.

If she is asleep how can she agree to it?

In fairness she could consent to be fiddled with whilst asleep prior to going to sleep or just give general consent for the same. My ex used to tell me I could do what I wanted to her when she was asleep. I often used to wake up in the early hours to find her sucking my cock. I should have married her.

‘Fiddled with’! One cannot consent to sex hours before it takes place. Just having sex without immediate consent is illegal.

Of course you can. Let’s say I go to sleep at 10pm, tell the missus she can do as she pleases with me at any point during my sleep and I wake up at 6am to find her riding my cock. Perfectly ok as consent was given. If the same consent was given at the start of a relationship say, consent to engage in sexual activity during sleep at any time over the course of that relationship then that consent would have to be withdrawn before it would become illegal.

Totally wrong.

No it isn’t. Not the way I’ve described it. Consent can be withdrawn at any point before or during sex or any sexual act. But if consent is given for your partner to have sex with you any time while you’re asleep then that consent stands until it is withdrawn. It’s all in the wording of the conversation. If you said give it a try tonight then that’s only consent for that night but if you give permission for them to do it every night then that’s different.

Wrong! How can you assume at that particular moment in time the lady will want sex while she is asleep. She can decide no at that time for all kinds of reasons. You are saying because you are in a sexual relationship and general consent is spoken of it doesn’t mean that every time the man fancies having sex when she is asleep does not mean it will happen every time. It’s not a given and it’s not to be expected to happen just because he wants it at that time because it’s been discussed as general consent I imagine a court of law would as at the time did she say yes and if not then it’s unlawful sex......

Why are you putting it all in the man? If the woman gives consent for her partner to have sex with her at any time while she is asleep then that stands until it is withdrawn. There are women that are turned on by the thought of it, so the men would be giving them what they want in those circumstances. The court would need all of the facts but if general consent was given for a specific sexual act during sleep then that consent is valid until withdrawn like I’ve said. "

How can she withdraw consent when she's asleep?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sound a bit, well, unconsenting to me.

If she preconsents to a cup of tea while she's awake then dozes off, do you pour it down her neck anyway?

That's not really the same thing though, we're talking about someone consenting to certain acts, explicitly knowing that they will be done while they're asleep, not just consent given while awake being assumed to apply after they lose consiousness.

I understand the concerns though - the consent issue was the first thing that occurred to me when the idea was raised by past partners. However, a couple of women I've known have loved being woken up in the morning by receiving oral and it seemed a shame not to explore that. You just have to be absolutely clear in advance what is and isn't being agreed to, and when.

If she is asleep how can she agree to it?

In fairness she could consent to be fiddled with whilst asleep prior to going to sleep or just give general consent for the same. My ex used to tell me I could do what I wanted to her when she was asleep. I often used to wake up in the early hours to find her sucking my cock. I should have married her.

‘Fiddled with’! One cannot consent to sex hours before it takes place. Just having sex without immediate consent is illegal.

Of course you can. Let’s say I go to sleep at 10pm, tell the missus she can do as she pleases with me at any point during my sleep and I wake up at 6am to find her riding my cock. Perfectly ok as consent was given. If the same consent was given at the start of a relationship say, consent to engage in sexual activity during sleep at any time over the course of that relationship then that consent would have to be withdrawn before it would become illegal.

Totally wrong.

No it isn’t. Not the way I’ve described it. Consent can be withdrawn at any point before or during sex or any sexual act. But if consent is given for your partner to have sex with you any time while you’re asleep then that consent stands until it is withdrawn. It’s all in the wording of the conversation. If you said give it a try tonight then that’s only consent for that night but if you give permission for them to do it every night then that’s different.

Wrong! How can you assume at that particular moment in time the lady will want sex while she is asleep. She can decide no at that time for all kinds of reasons. You are saying because you are in a sexual relationship and general consent is spoken of it doesn’t mean that every time the man fancies having sex when she is asleep does not mean it will happen every time. It’s not a given and it’s not to be expected to happen just because he wants it at that time because it’s been discussed as general consent I imagine a court of law would as at the time did she say yes and if not then it’s unlawful sex......

Why are you putting it all in the man? If the woman gives consent for her partner to have sex with her at any time while she is asleep then that stands until it is withdrawn. There are women that are turned on by the thought of it, so the men would be giving them what they want in those circumstances. The court would need all of the facts but if general consent was given for a specific sexual act during sleep then that consent is valid until withdrawn like I’ve said.

How can she withdraw consent when she's asleep? "

Consent would be withdrawn whilst awake just as it is given whilst awake, obviously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often feel up mrs badcherry when she’s asleep or slip a cheeky finger in

I once woke up to find her riding me she had a feel while i was asleep and found it hard so thought a shame to waste it

I wouldnt have any problem screwing her while she was asleep either

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"I haven't read the whole thread...so apologies if I missed this...but are some of you suggesting that even if you have a partner there should be explicit consent every time you shag?"

Seriously?

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I haven't read the whole thread...so apologies if I missed this...but are some of you suggesting that even if you have a partner there should be explicit consent every time you shag?

Seriously? "

Of course! We fill out forms in triplicate, one for us, one to go on file with the solicitor and one for luck!

Geez we just fuck each other anytime, anyplace the other feels like it we’re married and as far as we’re concerned thats consent!

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"I haven't read the whole thread...so apologies if I missed this...but are some of you suggesting that even if you have a partner there should be explicit consent every time you shag?

Seriously?

Of course! We fill out forms in triplicate, one for us, one to go on file with the solicitor and one for luck!

Geez we just fuck each other anytime, anyplace the other feels like it we’re married and as far as we’re concerned thats consent! "

Oh great for you! How silly of me to not assume every marriage is the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who likes waking up to your partner having sex waking up because she's moaning or opening your eyes to see your getting your dick sucked who's loves it and is interested in some fun at ours "

Love this. Been woke up a few times and Mr is already in me. Think this in my top 3 things to do sexually. Unless it's a turbo fuck and he finishes before I wake up x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I haven't read the whole thread...so apologies if I missed this...but are some of you suggesting that even if you have a partner there should be explicit consent every time you shag?

Seriously?

Of course! We fill out forms in triplicate, one for us, one to go on file with the solicitor and one for luck!

Geez we just fuck each other anytime, anyplace the other feels like it we’re married and as far as we’re concerned thats consent!

Oh great for you! How silly of me to not assume every marriage is the same.

"

Yes its pretty fucking awesome really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I haven't read the whole thread...so apologies if I missed this...but are some of you suggesting that even if you have a partner there should be explicit consent every time you shag?

Seriously? "

Do you seriously ask your partner explicitly for consent every time you fuck?

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I haven't read the whole thread...so apologies if I missed this...but are some of you suggesting that even if you have a partner there should be explicit consent every time you shag?

Seriously?

Do you seriously ask your partner explicitly for consent every time you fuck?"

The thread is about sex when someone is not fully conscious. People will never agree but my opinion is that it’s not consented at the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I haven't read the whole thread...so apologies if I missed this...but are some of you suggesting that even if you have a partner there should be explicit consent every time you shag?

Seriously?

Do you seriously ask your partner explicitly for consent every time you fuck?

The thread is about sex when someone is not fully conscious. People will never agree but my opinion is that it’s not consented at the time. "

I thought it was about having a sleepy fuck with a partner

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I haven't read the whole thread...so apologies if I missed this...but are some of you suggesting that even if you have a partner there should be explicit consent every time you shag?

Seriously?

Do you seriously ask your partner explicitly for consent every time you fuck?

The thread is about sex when someone is not fully conscious. People will never agree but my opinion is that it’s not consented at the time.

I thought it was about having a sleepy fuck with a partner "

‘Waking up to your partner having sex’. Waking up so they have not been conscious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who likes waking up to your partner having sex waking up because she's moaning or opening your eyes to see your getting your dick sucked who's loves it and is interested in some fun at ours "

I used to have to wait til my wife slept before sneaking out to a friend's on the next street for 2 or 3 hours of fun chat cuddles and the best sex..god i miss her lol

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By *BWandhusbandCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Some of us enjoy it. It's our relationship and we can choose to enjoy whatever we like.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"I haven't read the whole thread...so apologies if I missed this...but are some of you suggesting that even if you have a partner there should be explicit consent every time you shag?

Seriously?

Do you seriously ask your partner explicitly for consent every time you fuck?

The thread is about sex when someone is not fully conscious. People will never agree but my opinion is that it’s not consented at the time.

I thought it was about having a sleepy fuck with a partner

‘Waking up to your partner having sex’. Waking up so they have not been conscious."

Absolutely. If I caught my wife of 22 years sucking my cock whilst I slept I would definitely stop her, and call the police alleging non consensual sexual assault. Because I'm just that kind of cunt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once woke up at a party, had little to most to drink to find the wife was up stairs in bed with a couple who's party it was.

Was a good party that one

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"Once woke up at a party, had little to most to drink to find the wife was up stairs in bed with a couple who's party it was.

Was a good party that one"

My kinda party

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I haven't read the whole thread...so apologies if I missed this...but are some of you suggesting that even if you have a partner there should be explicit consent every time you shag?

Seriously?

Do you seriously ask your partner explicitly for consent every time you fuck?

The thread is about sex when someone is not fully conscious. People will never agree but my opinion is that it’s not consented at the time.

I thought it was about having a sleepy fuck with a partner

‘Waking up to your partner having sex’. Waking up so they have not been conscious."

If you're not into it then don't do it.

If I want to do it and give my consent then that's my choice.

It's not up to others to decide if I've given consent or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having has a long think about this, and being quite incredulous at it turning into a big boring legal debate, we've spent the last few days discussing with friends, every single one of them is of the same opinion.

If you are in any sort of serious relationship and you need to worry about consent for sexual contact, then it's turn to move on and find a better relationship. It is without a doubt the most ridiculous conversation I have seen on the forum yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having has a long think about this, and being quite incredulous at it turning into a big boring legal debate, we've spent the last few days discussing with friends, every single one of them is of the same opinion.

If you are in any sort of serious relationship and you need to worry about consent for sexual contact, then it's turn to move on and find a better relationship. It is without a doubt the most ridiculous conversation I have seen on the forum yet. "

In your whole week of being here, give it time mate, there will be plenty more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having has a long think about this, and being quite incredulous at it turning into a big boring legal debate, we've spent the last few days discussing with friends, every single one of them is of the same opinion.

If you are in any sort of serious relationship and you need to worry about consent for sexual contact, then it's turn to move on and find a better relationship. It is without a doubt the most ridiculous conversation I have seen on the forum yet.

In your whole week of being here, give it time mate, there will be plenty more. "

Been here for 8 years, lol, but yes, I do get your point! Just a forum account to differentiate from the women I have sex with when she's aaleep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having has a long think about this, and being quite incredulous at it turning into a big boring legal debate, we've spent the last few days discussing with friends, every single one of them is of the same opinion.

If you are in any sort of serious relationship and you need to worry about consent for sexual contact, then it's turn to move on and find a better relationship. It is without a doubt the most ridiculous conversation I have seen on the forum yet. "

Exactly

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"Having has a long think about this, and being quite incredulous at it turning into a big boring legal debate, we've spent the last few days discussing with friends, every single one of them is of the same opinion.

If you are in any sort of serious relationship and you need to worry about consent for sexual contact, then it's turn to move on and find a better relationship. It is without a doubt the most ridiculous conversation I have seen on the forum yet.

In your whole week of being here, give it time mate, there will be plenty more. "

so true!

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