FabSwingers.com forum: Letting someone down.

By *ommyxyz OP Man
over a year ago

Harlow

Is it ever acceptable to let a first offer down to take up a later, much better offer?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it ever acceptable to let a first offer down to take up a later, much better offer?"

Nope

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By *im L FuckitMan
over a year ago

Dumfriesshire

Can you define what you mean by 'much better offer'?

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By *h_So_NaughtyCouple
over a year ago

Somerset

Are you letting me down in the forum...... so bad

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By *awtymarkyMan
over a year ago

chester

Simple answer is No

How would you feel if they let you down because they had a better offer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are a man, no.

If you are a woman, it is your perogative.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No offence but if you treat people like that you should be grateful u have any offers

Just be honest and tell the first one the truth, so they can ignore you when your better offer let's YOU down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The answer is no... just arrange the other offer for another time...

Treating people the way that we would want treated is always the way forward...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say No, - if you have connected with someone and they have agreed to meet, then you should do the decent thing and meet as arranged - the other one you can just share around with us drooling guys sat waiting lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, rearrange the second meet for another time surely??

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By *ommyxyz OP Man
over a year ago

Harlow

Good I’ve done the right thing by Fab morals then. I said a polite no to the better offer. Just hope I get another chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it ever acceptable to let a first offer down to take up a later, much better offer?

Nope "

Dilly dilly xx

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"Is it ever acceptable to let a first offer down to take up a later, much better offer?"

Yes, at least try and move the BETTER offer to a later date, but im just going on the first come first served idea

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"No offence but if you treat people like that you should be grateful u have any offers

Just be honest and tell the first one the truth, so they can ignore you when your better offer let's YOU down"

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By *atural-born-thrillerMan
over a year ago

oulton broad

But what’s classed as a better offer then you should enlighten us all ? Just a random thought if the first offer you got uses the forum what are they going to think about this thread x oh and on the original topic it’s not really very polite to accept then decline as you feel something better is on offer x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good I’ve done the right thing by Fab morals then. I said a polite no to the better offer. Just hope I get another chance.

I'm intrigued to know what made the second offer better than the first ....

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By *im L FuckitMan
over a year ago

Dumfriesshire

"Good I’ve done the right thing by Fab morals then. I said a polite no to the better offer. Just hope I get another chance.

I'm intrigued to know what made the second offer better than the first ....

Exactly what I asked, Kitten...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good I’ve done the right thing by Fab morals then. I said a polite no to the better offer. Just hope I get another chance.

I'm intrigued to know what made the second offer better than the first ....

Exactly what I asked, Kitten...

Indeed ... we wait with baited breath

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not about first come first served. You should only be picking people to meet that are 100% what you are looking for. Therefore anything else that comes along is different and not better.

This is exactly why I am not interested in men who ask to meet me in the first message.

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By *ad BehaviourCouple
over a year ago

coventry

Wouldn't it be justice if you did this, and the said better offer stood you up for a better offer.... Just sayin

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough

"Is it ever acceptable to let a first offer down to take up a later, much better offer?"

No of course not

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By *ommyxyz OP Man
over a year ago

Harlow

First offers not on here, wouldn’t have started this if they were. Drr this is about treating people properly. Second is a lady on here who I’ve not met before but seems lovely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I would rather you cancelled with me than be wondering about your "better offer" tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not something I'd do, totally disrespectful, especially if you display a veri from the "better" meet which has probably been done many times on here!

Its no strings fun but that doesn't mean you can treat people like crap (although many do) I'd arrange another meet with the second person a different day, plenty of time if they're serious about meeting. I met a guy a while back, was only a social when I could have met someone else for fun but that's not my style. I'm meeting the other guy this weekend

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Was the first one not offering sex on a plate on the first meet and the second was??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was the first one not offering sex on a plate on the first meet and the second was??"

Haha, good question............

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it ever acceptable to let a first offer down to take up a later, much better offer?"

would you like it done to you OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just arrange it so you can meet both on different days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just arrange it so you can meet both on different days.

No, juggle them. See both on the same day that way you get your cake and eat it!!!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Good I’ve done the right thing by Fab morals then. I said a polite no to the better offer. Just hope I get another chance.

Let's hope your first offer doesn't read the forum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good I’ve done the right thing by Fab morals then. I said a polite no to the better offer. Just hope I get another chance.

Let's hope your first offer doesn't read the forum

Think he said she wasn't on fab.

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By *ooliganMan
over a year ago

Preston

Is there an opportunity to "combine"?

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown

Always wonder if they might be reading this

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Was the first one not offering sex on a plate on the first meet and the second was??

Haha, good question............"

Can't think what else would've made the second person "better"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was the first one not offering sex on a plate on the first meet and the second was??

Haha, good question............

Can't think what else would've made the second person "better""

Yeah possibly. Better looking, better body? Who knows. Just meet them both at some point, easy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think people are being a bit harsh on the OP. He posed the question but actually did the decent thing, staying with his first arrangement. The woman isn’t on fab and he’s said he wouldn’t have posted if she was.

As for ‘better’, don’t you sometimes think one person will be more fun than another?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it ever acceptable to let a first offer down to take up a later, much better offer?"
No its not acceptable and if you do it you will be damned for the rest of your time here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Simple answer is No

How would you feel if they let you down because they had a better offer

Hehe indeed, am off now got better offer of a man and bike

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's your prerogative to change your mind at any time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it ever acceptable to let a first offer down to take up a later, much better offer?No its not acceptable and if you do it you will be damned for the rest of your time here "

James four times this message came out....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty sure Ive had it happen to me, although not sure it was a better offer in my eyes.

Personally, if you’ve made plans, stick to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never let people down once arrangements are made. It's a matter of principle and something I'm proud of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty sure Ive had it happen to me, although not sure it was a better offer in my eyes.

Personally, if you’ve made plans, stick to them "

Christ, something better than you came along???!

This always for me also.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty sure Ive had it happen to me, although not sure it was a better offer in my eyes.

Personally, if you’ve made plans, stick to them

Christ, something better than you came along???!

This always for me also."

Left me waiting in a bar.

New verification the next morning “met x last night”

Cheers x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty sure Ive had it happen to me, although not sure it was a better offer in my eyes.

Personally, if you’ve made plans, stick to them

Christ, something better than you came along???!

This always for me also.

Left me waiting in a bar.

New verification the next morning “met x last night”

Cheers x

That's crap, what a shite thing to do to someone. I bet they wouldn't like it done to them.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Pretty sure Ive had it happen to me, although not sure it was a better offer in my eyes.

Personally, if you’ve made plans, stick to them

Christ, something better than you came along???!

This always for me also.

Left me waiting in a bar.

New verification the next morning “met x last night”

Cheers x

She must've been mad...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty sure Ive had it happen to me, although not sure it was a better offer in my eyes.

Personally, if you’ve made plans, stick to them

Christ, something better than you came along???!

This always for me also.

Left me waiting in a bar.

New verification the next morning “met x last night”

Cheers x

She must've been mad...

Fooking insane I'd say! Its bad enough doing that but to proudly display the veri, what a kick in the nuts. Some people have no shame, and no morals.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty sure Ive had it happen to me, although not sure it was a better offer in my eyes.

Personally, if you’ve made plans, stick to them "

Madness!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

These things happen, I don’t take it to heart but I’d feel shit doing it to someone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"These things happen, I don’t take it to heart but I’d feel shit doing it to someone else"

Nature of the beast on here I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. If you weren’t really sure about person 1, shouldn’t have agreed a meet in the first place.

We all appreciate when someone is reliable, we should give that respect in return.

Who asked first, served first.

Arrange the meet with person 2 another time. Perhaps that person will ask/respond earlier next time. Especially if you explain you made other plans. I would respect that.

Win-win for you OP, as you have the opportunity to keep the contact of both!

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By *ommyxyz OP Man
over a year ago

Harlow

"Is it ever acceptable to let a first offer down to take up a later, much better offer?No its not acceptable and if you do it you will be damned for the rest of your time here "

Good job I didn’t then, why dyou say it 4 times?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think people are being a bit harsh on the OP. He posed the question but actually did the decent thing, staying with his first arrangement. The woman isn’t on fab and he’s said he wouldn’t have posted if she was.

As for ‘better’, don’t you sometimes think one person will be more fun than another?"

I agree with this!

Although I wouldn’t be upset if someone cancelled a meet with me (with a decent amount of notice), in fact it’s better than having him turn up, but with his mind elsewhere

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

Ah but if the beyter offer was a no show would you go back to the original offer?

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By *ommyxyz OP Man
over a year ago

Harlow

As for ‘better’, don’t you sometimes think one person will be more fun than another?"

Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty sure Ive had it happen to me, although not sure it was a better offer in my eyes.

Personally, if you’ve made plans, stick to them

Madness!

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Hey i doubt anyone would let you down but if they did and you found out this was the reason I'm sure you wouldn't be happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id be well annoyed if I was the first option and discovered you was calling someone else s better offer.

Be careful Karma don't come along and bite you on the ass

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty sure Ive had it happen to me, although not sure it was a better offer in my eyes.

Personally, if you’ve made plans, stick to them

Madness!

Hey i doubt anyone would let you down but if they did and you found out this was the reason I'm sure you wouldn't be happy "

My post was trying to convey my surprise that the poster was ditched for a better offer.

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