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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

For swinging couples, if your husband/wife said that they wanted to be monogomous, could you quit? In other words, is it a lifestyle choice or is it a fundamental part of who you are?

E.g. could an out bi person go back in the closet for the sake of the relationship with their straight vanilla partner?

Equally, if it is a choice, then what needs of yours does swinging meet...and what other ways are there of meeting those needs?

How do you feel about this question??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always said if one of us says we want to quit, that's it... No questions,no persuasion.

This isn't our first profile and we have come back. I'm sure there will be a time when we are bored of it.

It's not really a lifestyle for us, but we enjoy the spontaneous of going out and seeing where the night goes.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

We could easily quit...this isn't a need it's a want, but it's only part of our lives and not central to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the bi question doesn't make much sense, if someone is wanting to be monogamous then their sexuality is irrelevant

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By *LUFFER200Man
over a year ago

North Devon

Have tried to quit, partner a non player but was OK with me playing. I have tried to stop since she said no more but it is very, very difficult. I think once you've experienced the lifestyle it is almost impossible to walk away from.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We always said if one of us says we want to quit, that's it... No questions,no persuasion.

This isn't our first profile and we have come back. I'm sure there will be a time when we are bored of it.

It's not really a lifestyle for us, but we enjoy the spontaneous of going out and seeing where the night goes.

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Yep. Well.....I could quit lol Not sure Mr could

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We could easily quit...this isn't a need it's a want, but it's only part of our lives and not central to it."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s just like quitting smoking surely? Haha

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By *eedsmale36Man
over a year ago

Leeds

One of my ex regular couples quit the lifestyle as she wanted just a relationship with him.

He was gutted as he loved watching her have fun with males and swapping with couples.

I called into see them for a coffee about 6 months ago when in the area on business and he was a broken man, she wasn’t having any of it.

The time I saw them before that he let me in the house and went to work after we chatted over coffee.

I fingered and fucked her arse in there matrimonial bed and gave her a nice facial.

Just got a peck on the cheek after I called in recently and they went off shopping to Tesco.

I guess nothing stays the same, and people change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Easily at this point, Just find something else to do

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By *rkeb3Man
over a year ago

east Lancashire road

once you come here it's hard to stay away from it

i bet 90%of us can't qui

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By *eedsmale36Man
over a year ago

Leeds


"Easily at this point, Just find something else to do "

Who remembers the TV show : “just go outside and do something less boring instead”

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
over a year ago

Norwich


"Easily at this point, Just find something else to do

Who remembers the TV show : “just go outside and do something less boring instead” "

Why Don't You! The programme....!

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By *etal MickeyMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

Quitting meets/clubs was easy. Keeping away from the forums well that's impossible lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd certainly come off for a partner. I do however know couples who have both came off to build on their relationships yet one of them have sneaked back on without telling partner.... not good

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By *eedsmale36Man
over a year ago

Leeds


"Easily at this point, Just find something else to do

Who remembers the TV show : “just go outside and do something less boring instead”

Why Don't You! The programme....!"

That’s the one

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sounds like it is a choice for most.

So, in which case, what needs of yours does swinging meet (the essence of it)...and if you did quit for your partner, how would you expect to meet those needs in another way (the form of it)?

Gxx

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

I married a man who is (well kinda was) monogamous.

I was poly and dating several people when we first got together but slowly the others fizzled out. Hubby then got very poorly and everyone else fell away.

Before we got married we had a long conversation about polyamoury and how that was my natural state and how I'd compromised but couldn't be monogamous for ever. We talk continually and it's an ever evolving situation but we've both had to make compromises.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, easily, this place is just extra fun for us, but once it stops being fun for either one then we're still more than happy with each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sounds like it is a choice for most.

So, in which case, what needs of yours does swinging meet (the essence of it)...and if you did quit for your partner, how would you expect to meet those needs in another way (the form of it)?

Gxx"

I have a great healthy sex life away from fab so it wouldn't be any different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I came on here for safe, discreet sex. None at home so if I quit I go back to the toys lol.

So mine is a need I guess.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Have tried to quit, partner a non player but was OK with me playing. I have tried to stop since she said no more but it is very, very difficult. I think once you've experienced the lifestyle it is almost impossible to walk away from."

Sounds like you want your cake and crumbs.

If you were given an ultimatum would you still choose the ‘lifestyle’?

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By *p4funCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth


"It’s just like quitting smoking surely? Haha"

Yes stick on a swinger patch and your cured or try swing gum

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It’s just like quitting smoking surely? Haha

Yes stick on a swinger patch and your cured or try swing gum "

Hahahahaha

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