FabSwingers.com forum: The “need” for Mff

By *icentious OP Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

This has been bubbling in my head for a few days now (okay bubbling might not be a good verb).

When we had out first three some it happened organically in a club, we were not looking for it, it just evolved.

In fact it wasn’t until I was in the bar recovering that I realised what had happened.

Couple of weeks ago a Mfff evolved.

Question is, do some couples just “try” too hard, it puts pressure on to the single lady?

Does couples taking the leed in the approach and play put people off (we have always been approached, never gone looking)?

Can the “need/expectation” eclipse the fun of the play?

We have been moderately lucky with three way play, my mind is bubbling, why?

What is the catalyst?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had a similar situation few years ago in a club,go chatting to another couple,we both liked look of ,then from nowhere came a very sexy single lady hubby birthday and Xmas arrived together lol ,just sort of happened

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By *icentious OP Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Think the single lady making the approach balances the play, it’s more on equal terms, and more fun for all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldnt like any sort of expectation to play that way, which I feel arranging a meet like that would bring. If I did it would be a more organic type of thing where I just wouldnt be able to resist, rather than anyone sort of waiting however patiently for it to happen.

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By *nJ_NW_cplCouple
over a year ago

wirral

We have been lucky enough to be involved in several threesomes both MFM and MFF and none of them were ever planned. They have all taken place in clubs or at parties and have just happened naturally after chatting to people x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We were very lucky that a lovely lady (who was part of a couple) approached us in a club. We had a great night and her hubby enjoyed staying in the bar and guessing what was happening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it difficult in a club as a single female to approach a couple. It's quite daunting. I feel couples should do the approaching.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've had a few mff's through fab. I think alot of couples just think about there own desires and not of the third parties. The best fun we've had is with people who we've taken the time to get to know. We've even been known to have a meet, go for a meal and end up playing crazy golf.

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By *edoriartyCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

"I find it difficult in a club as a single female to approach a couple. It's quite daunting. I feel couples should do the approaching."

Imagine being a single guy doing it then!

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"I find it difficult in a club as a single female to approach a couple. It's quite daunting. I feel couples should do the approaching."

You could approach us anytime.

In clubs we find the ladies come to us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd like to use the good old eye contact approach, before online became the norm. Catch a couples eye across the bar, coy smile, or a wink, if it's reciprocated then you know you're ok for the approach x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd like to use the good old eye contact approach, before online became the norm. Catch a couples eye across the bar, coy smile, or a wink, if it's reciprocated then you know you're ok for the approach x"

The original wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well yes it shouldn’t be forced thing,I’ve done it the odd few times

and a lot has been with friends who all get on and have a laugh so it’s its all about that connection.Yes for a single regardless male or female is a touch daunting approaching a couple but you never know what will happen and hey what’s the worst that can happen?

I think fab is a great way of chatting to people and arranging possible meets/socials and just breaks the ice and takes the nerves out of a little.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

We go to the club with no expectations but have always found people to play with from threesomes to moresomes. We also don't arrange anything as the more organic and natural the play is the better.

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By *xford DuoCouple
over a year ago

oxford

Good thread here. We dont like the thought of 'arranging' a meet. Would much rather catch someone's eye and then take it from there. The anticipation of going out and not knowing what might happen is a real buzz and all part of the fun. Planning ahead seems too clinical and business like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ve never obsessed over FFM play, we’ve pre arranged meets and had spontaneous plays at clubs, both work on different levels

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