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"I'd be put off meeting you for a couple of reasons, firstly meeting with your man 'lurking in the background' not only does that sound creepy and unappealing, it just makes it sound like i'd be a performing monkey. Second the filming thing. While personally that is a straight hard limit, if I was happy for filming the fact you'd expect to film me but not let me have a copy of it would be a deal breaker, why is it ok for you to have a film of someone but not them have the same film?!" Could you please point me in the direction of the part of our profile which states that you're not entitled to a copy. Yes, it's for our own personal use meaning it's not going to be put online or given to anyone who asks. But of course anyone else involved would be more than welcome to a copy before they leave. As for my partner he is generally downstairs or in another room doing jobs. There's nothing creepy and unappealing about that is there? | |||
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"Could you please point me in the direction of the part of our profile which states that you're not entitled to a copy. Yes, it's for our own personal use meaning it's not going to be put online or given to anyone who asks. But of course anyone else involved would be more than welcome to a copy before they leave. As for my partner he is generally downstairs or in another room doing jobs. There's nothing creepy and unappealing about that is there?" You asked why you aren't having any luck, as a single female I gave my opinion based on your profile, i was trying to be helpful in pointing out what I found to be off putting, personally I find the description of your partner lurking in the background unappealing, but as I said I am not keen on being a part of a performance piece anyway. With regard to filming, your profile says: "We film our meets. This is strictly for our own private use (beats internet porn hands down). So please don't ask us to share it with you or post it online because the answer will be a resounding NO!" I read the 'don't ask us to share it with you' as that you won't let the 3rd party have a copy. | |||
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"As a bi lady in a couple it all comes down to chemistry between all parties. Lack of experience wouldn't bother me we all have to learn what we like and don't like at some point. Try a club " Thank you. Everyone has to start somewhere. | |||
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"Could you please point me in the direction of the part of our profile which states that you're not entitled to a copy. Yes, it's for our own personal use meaning it's not going to be put online or given to anyone who asks. But of course anyone else involved would be more than welcome to a copy before they leave. As for my partner he is generally downstairs or in another room doing jobs. There's nothing creepy and unappealing about that is there? You asked why you aren't having any luck, as a single female I gave my opinion based on your profile, i was trying to be helpful in pointing out what I found to be off putting, personally I find the description of your partner lurking in the background unappealing, but as I said I am not keen on being a part of a performance piece anyway. With regard to filming, your profile says: We film our meets. This is strictly for our own private use (beats internet porn hands down). So please don't ask us to share it with you or post it online because the answer will be a resounding NO! I read the 'don't ask us to share it with you' as that you won't let the 3rd party have a copy." I have amended the wording just for you. Hopefully there is more clarity now. | |||
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"Glad you’ve amended it as I read it that you’d film but not share it with whoever else is being filmed. I too wouldn’t like the idea of your partner being elsewhere in the house - it would just make me feel uncomfortable. My biggest issue is with your profile text which appears to be aimed at men and doesn’t mention you being keen to try ff fun at all. Maybe try rejigging a little to explain what you’re looking for and what you offer. I wish you good luck "I (A) agree with this, it doesn't really mention your interest in ff and the way it's written comes across a little demanding and possibly selfish (others may be in to this but we like a meet to be about everyone not just pleasing you) sorry if that sounds harsh just my opinion. Hope you find what you are looking for! x | |||
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"I have the same problem, both when I was on a couple profile and now on a single profile "Wow! Can't understand why. | |||
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"The filming is generally a no no for the majority of people, your profile comes across as sarcastic but humourless with explanations of some weird behavour, that’s probably not your intention but that’s how it comes across." We change our profile text in line with the comments on this thread and people are still not happy? Out of curiosity, how many of you would eject you're partner from their own home for the sake of a meet? | |||
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"The filming is generally a no no for the majority of people, your profile comes across as sarcastic but humourless with explanations of some weird behavour, that’s probably not your intention but that’s how it comes across. We change our profile text in line with the comments on this thread and people are still not happy? Out of curiosity, how many of you would eject you're partner from their own home for the sake of a meet? " Good to see you’ve made your profile more relevant to single fems
Re ejecting a partner for the sake of a meet - no, I wouldn’t, but if I were in your situation I might suggest a meet on neutral ground such as a hotel or a club. It’s your profile, your rules and your preferred way of playing - we were just trying to save great ways you might find a bi female as requested in your original post. Good luck and I hope you find what you’re seeking | |||
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"The filming is generally a no no for the majority of people, your profile comes across as sarcastic but humourless with explanations of some weird behavour, that’s probably not your intention but that’s how it comes across. We change our profile text in line with the comments on this thread and people are still not happy? Out of curiosity, how many of you would eject you're partner from their own home for the sake of a meet? " People have just been trying to help, you don't have to accept it, unfortunately it just seems like you've taken all the angst and negative energy about the advice people gave you while trying to be helpful into your profile, which is just likely to put more people off. I'm going to go for a new suggestion. Write your profile however you see fit, and don't ask for people's opinions because I suspect they don't sit well with you which means you'll be prickly and less likely to get a meet. And just pray to the gods of the unicorns that the right one for you finds your profile. I'm sure they will one day. And for question of ejecting your partner, Yes my partner would leave the house if I was having a FF meet, I wouldn't eject him, he'd offer so I could have fun, or I'd book a hotel but again, that is my preference. | |||
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"The filming is generally a no no for the majority of people, your profile comes across as sarcastic but humourless with explanations of some weird behavour, that’s probably not your intention but that’s how it comes across. We change our profile text in line with the comments on this thread and people are still not happy? Out of curiosity, how many of you would eject you're partner from their own home for the sake of a meet? People have just been trying to help, you don't have to accept it, unfortunately it just seems like you've taken all the angst and negative energy about the advice people gave you while trying to be helpful into your profile, which is just likely to put more people off. I'm going to go for a new suggestion. Write your profile however you see fit, and don't ask for people's opinions because I suspect they don't sit well with you which means you'll be prickly and less likely to get a meet. And just pray to the gods of the unicorns that the right one for you finds your profile. I'm sure they will one day. And for question of ejecting your partner, Yes my partner would leave the house if I was having a FF meet, I wouldn't eject him, he'd offer so I could have fun, or I'd book a hotel but again, that is my preference. "  | |||
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"The filming is generally a no no for the majority of people, your profile comes across as sarcastic but humourless with explanations of some weird behavour, that’s probably not your intention but that’s how it comes across. We change our profile text in line with the comments on this thread and people are still not happy? Out of curiosity, how many of you would eject you're partner from their own home for the sake of a meet? " I think some people would say “what is the dynamic with these two?” And not have a clue, if you want FF meets then your male partner should volunteer to go out, simple. If you want a FFM meet then fine, do that. | |||
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"The filming is generally a no no for the majority of people, your profile comes across as sarcastic but humourless with explanations of some weird behavour, that’s probably not your intention but that’s how it comes across. We change our profile text in line with the comments on this thread and people are still not happy? Out of curiosity, how many of you would eject you're partner from their own home for the sake of a meet? " Unfortunately, I think many women would be put off meeting you at home if your partner was also there. I obviously can't speak for all women but personally if I was meeting a woman I'd only feel completely comfortable and not inhibited if it was literally just us. Knowing there was someone else in the house within earshot would, I'm afraid, make me unable to relax …. and whilst your partner clearly means everything to you, you need to acknowledge that other women wouldn't have the same background trust in him that you do. I *absolutely* don't mean to insult either him or you by saying that, it's just fact. I suppose you could introduce him to your play partner(s) when they arrive but again, not very many women would be able to get a feel of his character via a short introduction and even if he came across as perfectly nice, the issue of potentially being overheard and therefore feeling inhibited would still remain - and many women wouldn't help question whether he might be getting off on that. Plus, to be honest, if I was meeting a woman it'd be because I wanted some FF fun - I wouldn't want to involve a guy in that in even the smallest non-sexual respect. Alternatively, without having set eyes on him, playing in a house where you know there's a guy who's a complete stranger to them in another room somewhere *would* feel creepy to many. You clearly feel differently and there probably are women out there who wouldn't mind this arrangement, but, as you've found out from the lack of interest you've described, they're in the minority which invariably means finding them will be a harder task. As with any Fab situation you're not happy with you need to ask yourself if you feel able to compromise on some of your requirements if they're not getting the results you'd hoped for - and if the answer to that is no, you then need to accept you're more likely going to have a longer wait to get what you want. | |||
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"The filming is generally a no no for the majority of people, your profile comes across as sarcastic but humourless with explanations of some weird behavour, that’s probably not your intention but that’s how it comes across. We change our profile text in line with the comments on this thread and people are still not happy? Out of curiosity, how many of you would eject you're partner from their own home for the sake of a meet? Unfortunately, I think many women would be put off meeting you at home if your partner was also there. I obviously can't speak for all women but personally if I was meeting a woman I'd only feel completely comfortable and not inhibited if it was literally just us. Knowing there was someone else in the house within earshot would, I'm afraid, make me unable to relax …. and whilst your partner clearly means everything to you, you need to acknowledge that other women wouldn't have the same background trust in him that you do. I *absolutely* don't mean to insult either him or you by saying that, it's just fact. I suppose you could introduce him to your play partner(s) when they arrive but again, not very many women would be able to get a feel of his character via a short introduction and even if he came across as perfectly nice, the issue of potentially being overheard and therefore feeling inhibited would still remain - and many women wouldn't help question whether he might be getting off on that. Plus, to be honest, if I was meeting a woman it'd be because I wanted some FF fun - I wouldn't want to involve a guy in that in even the smallest non-sexual respect. Alternatively, without having set eyes on him, playing in a house where you know there's a guy who's a complete stranger to them in another room somewhere *would* feel creepy to many. You clearly feel differently and there probably are women out there who wouldn't mind this arrangement, but, as you've found out from the lack of interest you've described, they're in the minority which invariably means finding them will be a harder task. As with any Fab situation you're not happy with you need to ask yourself if you feel able to compromise on some of your requirements if they're not getting the results you'd hoped for - and if the answer to that is no, you then need to accept you're more likely going to have a longer wait to get what you want. " Exactly this! Although Mr does leave the house voluntarily if I or another female/male want a 1 on 1 session. I guess it comes with trust, confidence and experience. Mr has seen, and been involved in, so many permutations of multiple/other person sex that it's no longer the stereotypical male fantasy (hearing or seeing two women getting it on) for him. I've read your profile and while I'm not going to slate it (fab police would probably ban me if I did), you do overly make a point of making it sound like it's wrong that a person YOU only want to meet alone, should accept your partner being there. This makes it sound that him being there is for his titillation as well. Now, as a bi woman myself, I happily meet other bi women for 1 on 1 fun, but that is for MINE and HER pleasure.. not that of their partner who wishes to be in another room lurking with his hands on his cock. If it's not just 2 people present, then it's not 1 on 1. Tell you what, come and meet me for a bit of 1 on 1 girly fun in my house while my husband lurks around. If anything weird or creepy happens that you feel uncomfortable with, then don't complain because after all, I couldn't possibly be expected to kick him out first right? | |||
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