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By *azmissy67 OP Woman
over a year ago

welshpool area

Isn't this just the worse time of the year ?

Used to love Christmas when i was married but as a singleton i hate it ! I have my kids to keep me ' in the festive spirit ' but it seems just soooo bloody lonely at times roll on January the 2nd i say.

I'm sure it's just post birthday / pre xmas blues and normal service of loving the single life will resume tomorrow but just wanted to say !

Thanks for listening x

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

We all have days like that when life sucks.

My kids and my friends keep me going.

Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day for you.

Chin up.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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Awww hun I hope you have a fab time whatever.

I quite like Xmas. I spend it with my mother, sisters, daughter and various nieces and we always have a blast. After that I'm quite happy to be alone for a while.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Cheer up, Christmas is a great time; Morecambe and Wise should be on and everything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Isn't this just the worse time of the year ?

I'm sure it's just post birthday / pre xmas blues and normal service of loving the single life will resume tomorrow but just wanted to say !

Thanks for listening x"

This will be my second Christmas on my own, although I have kids they are grown and not at home both are busy xmas day, so I will spend the day alone butn as I found out last year, plenty to talk to on Fabs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I gotta admit i get so down at christmas and new year i HATE the single life. Unless your getting laid all the time theres no other benefit to being single at all

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I gotta admit i get so down at christmas and new year i HATE the single life. Unless your getting laid all the time theres no other benefit to being single at all

I LOVE being single. Being able to watch what I like, listen to what I like, eat what I like, without someone commenting or criticising me all the time. Arranging meets and going to clubs, coming home when I feel like it. Slobbing around in PJs all day if I want without someone whining to be fed. Chatting to people online as late as I like.

Sure, it may get chilly in bed with no-one to snuggle up to but my extra thick duvert helps there. Being single is the best thing that ever happened to me!

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

"I gotta admit i get so down at christmas and new year i HATE the single life. Unless your getting laid all the time theres no other benefit to being single at all

Sure, it may get chilly in bed with no-one to snuggle up to but my extra thick duvert helps there. Being single is the best thing that ever happened to me!"
+1 and i wouldnt change it now some of my happiest time is when ive been single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's difficult yeah! Mainly getting the time to do everything. Wanna make sure the decorations are up for when my boy comes over for Christmas, having to book time off work for shopping etc, I don't miss the companionship, Im just not the best at organising things. I have a list of things that needs to be done if anyone has some spare time lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm happy single: all year round!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing beats it sir!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well at 33 this is my first year of being single ever!

I do admit to have a few dreads around christmas... waking up on my own etc... but the alternative of being with my (ex)husband soon cheers me up!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im single but i still have family

i dont need a man in my life to make this time of year good my sister does that for me, we are both single both have kids and keep each other sane lol

i love her more tha life itself and will be speding xmas with her and our 6 kids......god help me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I appreciate the OP's situation, as I have felt that way in the past, but I actually embrace my single life and have a fun filled festive season coming up.

And I identify with _yrdwomans sentiments apart from the slobbing around in PJ's, I prefer to do that naked lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i find this time of year really hard living alone and being single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i used t love the snuggle ups an cuddling ins now i find its so much easier being on ma own no shite , (no arguments unless wie me self lol )

an ma kids around me an family an friends all i need , xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think this time of year is easier when you are single if have kids.

I only have Santa Paws coming to my house for the dogs... but very much looking forward to spoiling them. Oh jesus... I am turning into the old, weird dog lady!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would prefer to hibernate over Christmas New Year. It is very much a family time being single but have my son living with me, he is the only person I buy gifts for. If I lived on my own I would not bother with a tree or a Christmas dinner. I find it a very materialistic time of year and so many people go into debt because of it. Well that's my moan outta the way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love christmas and enjoy spending it with my family,when i sometimes feel lonely is parties all those couples and then me....then u get someone saying..."not found a man yet then"...been single for awhile now...yes if a guy came along id be very happy but until then i guess singledom it is,i do find it funny tho as when we are in a relationship lots assume you canny do your thing.....does make me giggle as ive done my own thing regardless bein single or in a relationship....but thats me....anyhow MERRY CHRISTMAS to you all.....single or not....xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yh christmas can be lonely as a single person. im home alone both christmas and new year my daughters at her dads.

perhaps us singles should get together and have a gang bang

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hugs to you all on Christmas morning from us.

Shaz n Tony

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have to admit i hate christmas, i used to go all out and dec the house up and do the big chrimbo thing for the kids sake but now they are in there teens, they are not interested. So year 6 of being single and yep it sucks, and as much as i would love to pop into the familys houses on chrimbo day, i cant as they live over 600 miles. So its gonna be ANOTHER lonely one again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"yh christmas can be lonely as a single person. im home alone both christmas and new year my daughters at her dads.

perhaps us singles should get together and have a gang bang

Why thats an excellent idea! Im there as soon as the sproglets have gone to their dads! Just give it an hour after my chrismas pud, we dont want to be covered in brandy sauce now do we!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...I only have Santa Paws coming to my house for the dogs... "

I love that, so funny!

Much as I do love the single life, I have to say Christmas Day has taken a nose dive for me. I used to get soooo excited on Christmas Eve, loved watching my partner back then open his pressies Christmas morning. Now it's very sad indeed lol! it's just Christmas Day though, I usually have loads of parties and Events surrounding it but the day itself is pretty dull as I don't have any family around either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think all us singles on our own should do a secret santa, lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My son has moved to Liverpool, given our finances, its highly unlikely he will be able to come home nor will my daughter and I be able to go to him so I will just do loads of extra shifts in my second job; will be working Christmas day anyway. Boxing Day as its my birthday, my daughter is taking me out for a meal.

So similar here, at least if I am working, I am not home alone but to be honest, as the kids are older now, Christmas is not the same any more

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

Being single at Christmas doesn't really bother me.

This year I'm working, but I still have my friends around me, my family are still there too, but I live a few hundred miles away from them now.

This year I'm disliking Christmas because it has made me realise how my once large extended family is decreasing at a much faster rate then I'd like.

Going to buy Christmas cards to post home, and realising I only needed them for my sister and parents, not my Grandparents, or uncle that I used to send them too. That upset me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only needed them for my sister and parents, not my Grandparents, or uncle that I used to send them too. That upset me. "

That is upsetting, my dad is gone now, his birthday is Christmas Eve.. I have a big cosey jumper of his and sometimes I just like to wear it about the house... feels a bit like a 'hug from dad'

xxx

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

"Isn't this just the worse time of the year ?

I'm sure it's just post birthday / pre xmas blues and normal service of loving the single life will resume tomorrow but just wanted to say !

Thanks for listening x"

It seems that way, I think its because a lot of the people I know and socialise with are busy with their families, relatives visiting etc....as others have pointed out there are ups and downs, go with the flow,

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By *esmond70Man
over a year ago

tavistock

"I think all us singles on our own should do a secret santa, lol

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thats a great idea for us singles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think all us singles on our own should do a secret santa, lol

thats a great idea for us singles "

Can my Secret Santa be 6' 2" with a giant sac?

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I am the same at this time, my son was a little baby at christmas when my now ex husband ended the marriage suddenly without discussion. Basically christmas every year bring on bad memories and my eldest lad does notice my low points. Even tho I try to hide it he does see it,but he is a sensitive lad and very in tune with peoples feelings.

I always dread new years eve too and glad when its all gone. Just need a few goopd parties to get to. So who is inviting me out then x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think all us singles on our own should do a secret santa, lol

thats a great idea for us singles

Can my Secret Santa be 6' 2" with a giant sac?

Would a five foot seven man with some Yellow Pages strapped to his boots do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

one big singles GB

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I love Christmas and for me being single is a bonus.

I can choose which friends and family I want to spend time with... without some moany fella saying his mum is expecting us.

There is no need whatsoever to feel lonely at Christmas... unless you want to feel sorry for yourself... no one else will as they are too busy enjoying it.

If you have no family, contact friends.... some might even be glad of the excuse to have you over so they don't have to start a family feud over which mother-in-law gets to make the stuffing. Most of us have other friends who are single... invite them over. If they are not free, they are probably doing what I've suggested above.

If you have no family or friends.... offer to help out at a charity for the homeless or help the aged or something like that.... you'll get a feeling of helping others, spread some joy and likely get a crimbo dinner thrown in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll wake up on a day, wake up horny...leave it aside a while... then go see family, might stay there overnite, if not its back home to normal...and love an xmas shag!

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

I think some people who are not single can feel more lonely at Christmas than those that are...

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Im sorry i have to disagree, you dont have to be on your own at christmas if you dont want to be. Do voluntary work, go visiting elderly people or anything. If you got kids at home then your not on your own. Yes i am in a relationship but i dont see him for two weeks over christmas and there is a reason for that. Christmas doesnt bother me in the slightest, when i met jay he used to go to his daughters so they have a big family christmas if he came here it would be nothing special. My son lives away, will go to my mums for dinner then come back to a blissful day on my own. Why do people want to be in a relationship on "special occasions". I would say there are plenty of reasons to be or not to be in a relationship and just so your not on your own one day surely cant be a reason. Yes maybe it is easy for me to say but i was blissfully happy single. I have never understood the need to be in a relationship. Im not saying anyone on this thread but some people just go from relationship to relationship so that they are not on there own

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I am actually not too fussed about xmas and never really have been so to be honest it has never really made much difference to me if i have been coupled up or been single...

it has almost been more about family.. and with this one being the first without mum, the extended family have been a lot more aware for me and sis so some of them are coming over.....

xmas eve till boxing day.. family time.. then from the 27th till jan 2nd.. me time.. i have always liked my own space

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre

"Isn't this just the worse time of the year ?

I'm sure it's just post birthday / pre xmas blues and normal service of loving the single life will resume tomorrow but just wanted to say !

Thanks for listening x"

For what is worth, I just want to wish you a happy Christmas. Really felt sad when you said that. Hope it gets better and you meet someone special..

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre

I love being single. Never really been happy in a relationship. I am extremely independent and love the uncomplicated life that I have..

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By *azmissy67 OP Woman
over a year ago

welshpool area

just been reading thru the thread and thanks for the kind thoughts coming my way x

had a great meet today which always cheers me up and i do prefer having special people as opposed just one special person - greedy i know but why not ? - I'm not ready for settling down and will just have to learn to live with the events of this time of the year and maybe in time I'll be able to enjoy it again x

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"I love Christmas and for me being single is a bonus.

I can choose which friends and family I want to spend time with... without some moany fella saying his mum is expecting us.

There is no need whatsoever to feel lonely at Christmas... unless you want to feel sorry for yourself... no one else will as they are too busy enjoying it.

Pretty much what i was going to write.The grass is always greener of course but the idea of having chrimbo without juggling both sets of grandparents seems heaven.

However we have had single friends over before,and helped with homeless charities...i think part of the reason ppl dread it is they have an idea of what they think Christmas should be.

You even could be really radical and go to church

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"You even could be really radical and go to church

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOooooooooooooooOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOoooooooooooooooo!!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love Christmas! Come December 1 and I'm like a big kid, I still buy my girls advent calenders and they're 20 and 24.

My eldest was born on New Year's Day and we spend it as a family. Sadly, for the first time in 29 years we won't as she's fallen out with her dad: he's not going to her wedding.

I love my own company. My children, their partners and friends add to the joy of Christmas for me. I can understand it must be awful if you have no family around, don't really understand if you're down because you don't have a partner.

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By *isterTeaseMan
over a year ago

Chigwell

"I gotta admit i get so down at christmas and new year i HATE the single life. Unless your getting laid all the time theres no other benefit to being single at all

Sure, it may get chilly in bed with no-one to snuggle up to but my extra thick duvert helps there. Being single is the best thing that ever happened to me!"
Amen to that lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think some people who are not single can feel more lonely at Christmas than those that are..."

I've only felt truly lonely once: Christmas 2002. I was sat eating Christmas dinner with my husband and kids, dying inside. The marriage was over but we were going through the motions for the kids. No one said a word, it was awful. I've never felt so low.

Four months later I left.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

everyone has family and friends, and surely they are there all year round

My best friend is agoraphobic and has been for years tho she is better than she used to be but still finds it hard to go out at busy times of the day/year

i wouldnt dream of ignoring her just because its xmas and im with family, i still go and see her as i know that some weeks me and her daughter are the only people she sees

friends are for all years around, noone should be alone at xmas, if you are then you dont have real friends

my house is always open my my friends and i usually end up with a house full of my kids mates over xmas, and all year round actually, cause they all think im cool lmao its just my own kids who find me embarrassing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Isn't this just the worse time of the year ?

I'm sure it's just post birthday / pre xmas blues and normal service of loving the single life will resume tomorrow but just wanted to say !

Thanks for listening x"
Think of the movie "Its a Wonderful Life". I bet the world has been a happier place because your in it. And you seem to have a lot of folks who care about you,so think on that. Anyway, you could be sharing your life with a grumpy bastard like me so your probably better of with all that freedom you have. All the best,and no,I'm not angling for a shag.

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