FabSwingers.com forum: Your too good looking

By *ieran2210 OP Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Well this is new to me, message a lady on here & she replied wow your too good to be on here etc so I said would love to meet with you & she says no way your too good looking sorry! WTF!!! I don’t know wether to be complimented or insulted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

Why would you feel insulted?

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By *ieran2210 OP Man
over a year ago

Leeds

"You're "

Lol sorry Mr Grammer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd take it as a compliment

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By *ieran2210 OP Man
over a year ago

Leeds

"Why would you feel insulted?"

Because she won’t meet me so it’s like is it a new saying as been polite for getting out of meeting! She has also said I’m not her type as guys who look like me go for barbie girls lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well this is new to me, message a lady on here & she replied wow your too good to be on here etc so I said would love to meet with you & she says no way your too good looking sorry! WTF!!! I don’t know wether to be complimented or insulted

It’s definitely a compliment I’d say!

I’ve had that “You’re too good to be on here” comment several times and I find it a bit patronising and rude, you don’t have to be a certain type of person to be on here! X

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By *ieran2210 OP Man
over a year ago

Leeds

It’s definitely a compliment I’d say!

I’ve had that “You’re too good to be on here” comment several times and I find it a bit patronising and rude, you don’t have to be a certain type of person to be on here! X"

Well I find it annoying & feel with that attitude how do u expect to meet someone! Go for the uglys so they feel better

I would meet someone who is gorgeous & feel lucky lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s definitely a compliment I’d say!

I’ve had that “You’re too good to be on here” comment several times and I find it a bit patronising and rude, you don’t have to be a certain type of person to be on here! X

Well I find it annoying & feel with that attitude how do u expect to meet someone! Go for the uglys so they feel better

I would meet someone who is gorgeous & feel lucky lol"

Me too!

A guy who I think is a 10 wants to meet and I’m totally flattered, there’s no way in hell I’m saying no haha!

Thing is though some people can find good looking people intimidating and make them feel insecure which is sad, but what can you do!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

The cynic in me thinks it might just be a line to reject you in a polite way *but* it might be that she does genuinely see you as being too attractive to fuck for various reasons (low self esteem etc)

Take it as a compliment, best thing to do Op.

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By *ieran2210 OP Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Well it’s a shame! I don’t do well on here anyway so just gutted a bit

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Oooooo I say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s definitely a compliment I’d say!

I’ve had that “You’re too good to be on here” comment several times and I find it a bit patronising and rude, you don’t have to be a certain type of person to be on here! X"

Yup. Me too

But it's their shit, not mine.

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

I perhaps see it as a reflection of their own self confience or self esteem

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By *ieran2210 OP Man
over a year ago

Leeds

You would think me complimenting her would help with that. But yet again going with people she knows she is better than may help her with her confidence maybe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All subjective of course, but I only want to meet people I find good looking and find that comment a bit weird. Smacks of low self-esteem on the woman's part maybe?

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

"Why would you feel insulted?

Because she won’t meet me so it’s like is it a new saying as been polite for getting out of meeting! She has also said I’m not her type as guys who look like me go for barbie girls lol"

I’ve got that feckin’ song in my head now! Thanks for that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well its better than being called a fugly

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

"All subjective of course, but I only want to meet people I find good looking and find that comment a bit weird. Smacks of low self-esteem on the woman's part maybe? "

It does! There are loads of people on here who are insecure with low self esteem though unfortunately!

I, on the other hand, have the self esteem of a drop dead gorgeous, size 8 25 year old with big knockers that sit just under her chin!

Confuses the fuck out of people does that!

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By *oetic licenceCouple
over a year ago

Matlock

Yes you're good looking but this isn't a dating site, it's a swingers site. I would absolutely invite you to share me with my husband. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take it as a compliment mate..

Maybe she thinks you look like a model so your pics must be fake..

What was her name? If she likes bang average to ugly I may be in with a chance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes you're good looking but this isn't a dating site, it's a swingers site. I would absolutely invite you to share me with my husband. Xx"

So people on dating sites are or aren't allowed to be good-looking??

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By *oetic licenceCouple
over a year ago

Matlock

"Yes you're good looking but this isn't a dating site, it's a swingers site. I would absolutely invite you to share me with my husband. Xx

So people on dating sites are or aren't allowed to be good-looking??

That's not what I meant, just anyone can be on here, but just because he's gorgeous doesn't mean he can't be kinky and wants more. X

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By *ieran2210 OP Man
over a year ago

Leeds

"Take it as a compliment mate..

Maybe she thinks you look like a model so your pics must be fake..

What was her name? If she likes bang average to ugly I may be in with a chance"

Lol unsure pal I’m blocked so all the messages have gone now & it was a new profile. I struggle on the site as it so this just annoyed me even if it is a compliment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes you're good looking but this isn't a dating site, it's a swingers site. I would absolutely invite you to share me with my husband. Xx

So people on dating sites are or aren't allowed to be good-looking??

That's not what I meant, just anyone can be on here, but just because he's gorgeous doesn't mean he can't be kinky and wants more. X

Ah, so good-looking people are in a minority on here then

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By *oetic licenceCouple
over a year ago

Matlock

"Yes you're good looking but this isn't a dating site, it's a swingers site. I would absolutely invite you to share me with my husband. Xx

So people on dating sites are or aren't allowed to be good-looking??

That's not what I meant, just anyone can be on here, but just because he's gorgeous doesn't mean he can't be kinky and wants more. X

Ah, so good-looking people are in a minority on here then"

No..... Oh please don't twist what I'm saying. This is just a kinky, fun, sexy site and it doesn't matter who you are or what you look like. X

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By *ottie_84Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Definitely a compliment if you messaged me I would feel either it was genuine or out of pity (usual story lol)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gosh she would be very lucky to meet you.

Such a compliment

All he guys found here are elderly, fragile and definitely not for meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes you're good looking but this isn't a dating site, it's a swingers site. I would absolutely invite you to share me with my husband. Xx

So people on dating sites are or aren't allowed to be good-looking??

That's not what I meant, just anyone can be on here, but just because he's gorgeous doesn't mean he can't be kinky and wants more. X

Ah, so good-looking people are in a minority on here then

No..... Oh please don't twist what I'm saying. This is just a kinky, fun, sexy site and it doesn't matter who you are or what you look like. X

To some people. Others, myself included, have to be physically attracted and that usually means conventional good looks. As I said it's all subjective

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Low self esteem makes people feel that way - or maybe she just didn't fancy you...

Who knows what people are thinking behind their keyboards!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was told after a social meet that I’m too nice to be a swinger. Why are swingers nasty?? I think not. I can’t change the way I’am and don’t intend to even if I could. So on that lady’s working out I will never have naughty fun #totallybewildered

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Take it as a compliment mate..

Maybe she thinks you look like a model so your pics must be fake..

What was her name? If she likes bang average to ugly I may be in with a chance

Lol unsure pal I’m blocked so all the messages have gone now & it was a new profile. I struggle on the site as it so this just annoyed me even if it is a compliment"

Aah, new profile & you’re blocked something is pinging in my head it could have been a fake . Turn that page over and crack on fella it’s a law of averages

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

Who knows? It really could be anything. Best not worrying about it or even thinking about it. Fuck it. Just move on to the next one.

It’s just a game - you win some you lose some.

Lex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I perhaps see it as a reflection of their own self confience or self esteem"

I think this too . Not a polite way of saying no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Gosh she would be very lucky to meet you.

Such a compliment

All he guys found here are elderly, fragile and definitely not for meeting "

Really !!??!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why would you feel insulted?

Because she won’t meet me so it’s like is it a new saying as been polite for getting out of meeting! She has also said I’m not her type as guys who look like me go for barbie girls lol"

Maybe it's a blessing, there's an ickle bit of judgement in that comment.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

You can always block them

What an insult eh

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By *ooskiMan
over a year ago

south coast

I'd rather be honest and tell a lady / couple that they are stunning (if they are!).

saves all any embarrassment if we meet as paint no illusion (I'm average looks wise but more than happy within my self)

From then on if they like what they see or even take the time to get to know me the .........fantastic....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Gosh she would be very lucky to meet you.

Such a compliment

All he guys found here are elderly, fragile and definitely not for meeting "

You’re going to ruffle a few feathers! LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She's right you are very good looking ok so take it as a compliment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah bless her! If she was genuine, she may just have felt too insecure.

I get nervous when we see someone fit at a club and worry they won't fancy me. Don't get anything without trying though!

If they do fancy me back, I wouldn't be saying no ha Ha!

Onto the next one..

Eve. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was told after a social meet that I’m too nice to be a swinger. Why are swingers nasty?? I think not. I can’t change the way I’am and don’t intend to even if I could. So on that lady’s working out I will never have naughty fun #totallybewildered "

I was told " the trouble with being a beautiful woman, is that you become just a trophy"

Yeah, cheers mate

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I've seen loads of threads in whivh people say they won't meet those they consider "out of their leagu". I expect she genuinely meant you're too good looking for her.

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By *ieran2210 OP Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Well I’ll move on from this & take it as a compliment but hey if they is anyone too good for me feel free to message me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s her loss.... what a fool she is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It sound like she has confidence issue's & wouldn't want you to feel disappointed. I felt that way with a younger guy once then thought what the hell & we had an amazing night enough said xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I’ll move on from this & take it as a compliment but hey if they is anyone too good for me feel free to message me lol

Well I think you're ugly and I'd pump you. Is that better?

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By *ieran2210 OP Man
over a year ago

Leeds

"Well I’ll move on from this & take it as a compliment but hey if they is anyone too good for me feel free to message me lol

Well I think you're ugly and I'd pump you. Is that better?

Oh yeah talk dirty to me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've seen loads of threads in whivh people say they won't meet those they consider "out of their leagu". I expect she genuinely meant you're too good looking for her."

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By *appy squirrelWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

I have some the same once- he was really good looking...

I am not usually shy and meet with good looking guys but only if I feel that they are meeting me because they fancy fucking me not only because I have a pussy and there are not that many women around on here.

nothing to do with low self esteem -- but a realistic awareness of how i look.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have responded the same :/

I doubt she meant it as an insult to you! A very big complament, yes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good looking is subjective, to me, I don’t find you attractive/good looking.

She may have said it to be polite, she may have meant it, who knows?

Take it for what it is.

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By *ooty4daysWoman
over a year ago

bristol

I've said it to a few guys

Where I've felt he's out of my league

Where I feel he's so good looking hed be disapiunred with me..etc

They have been frustrated with it also but it's a confidence thing feeling comfy with who your meeting x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody is too good looking on here!

.....I just need to bring you down to my level!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll admit to having turned down someome because I felt he was too good looking. It probably is a self esteem issue.

Never mind hey OP, looks like you've got a few fans on this thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've said it to a few guys

Where I've felt he's out of my league

Where I feel he's so good looking hed be disapiunred with me..etc

They have been frustrated with it also but it's a confidence thing feeling comfy with who your meeting x"

This ! I feel like me being comfortable is more important actually !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You would think me complimenting her would help with that. But yet again going with people she knows she is better than may help her with her confidence maybe"

Unfortunately if you think little enough of yourself, when someone hot gives you a compliment, you don't believe them and question their motives... Especially on a site like FAB.

Personally I agree, you are rather attractive and think you woulda probably done wonders for her self esteem, if she had met you. A shame for you both really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All subjective of course, but I only want to meet people I find good looking and find that comment a bit weird. Smacks of low self-esteem on the woman's part maybe? "
I have turned down many people that i deem out of my league.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have found there is no such thing as leagues. I messaged a guy I considered "out of my league" only to compliment his pictures. We got talking, we met 3 days later and he has been my fwb for the past 2 years. Someone either finds you attractive or they don't, it rarely has anything to do with how THEY look... He has even told me I am too good for him so our perception of how we look to others is rarely correct

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I dont get this league thing. If i like someone id have messaged them i assume if someone messaged me it would be pretty pointless if we messaged people we werent attracted to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont get this league thing. If i like someone id have messaged them i assume if someone messaged me it would be pretty pointless if we messaged people we werent attracted to"
I don't believe certain people are really into me. More they think I'm going to be a sure thing. So I say no.

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By *ornylittlesubWoman
over a year ago

Grangemouth

Coming at It from a other angle....she may have thought you yourself, as well as her, think/thought you were really good looking and has had encounters with such guys before, who, because of how they looked, thought they didn't need to do anything else other than turn up...ie. there looks were enough, no other effort was required. Just thinking outside the box.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All subjective of course, but I only want to meet people I find good looking and find that comment a bit weird. Smacks of low self-esteem on the woman's part maybe?

It does! There are loads of people on here who are insecure with low self esteem though unfortunately!

I, on the other hand, have the self esteem of a drop dead gorgeous, size 8 25 year old with big knockers that sit just under her chin!

Confuses the fuck out of people does that!

Some woman have a drop dead gorgeous face and are very pretty, some woman are the opposite, I would never have to confidence to hold onto one of them and think it will override the other , some can sone can’t.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes you're good looking but this isn't a dating site, it's a swingers site. I would absolutely invite you to share me with my husband. Xx

So people on dating sites are or aren't allowed to be good-looking??

That's not what I meant, just anyone can be on here, but just because he's gorgeous doesn't mean he can't be kinky and wants more. X

Ah, so good-looking people are in a minority on here then"

Give yourself a wink of peace and stop twisting people's words x

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

"I have found there is no such thing as leagues. I messaged a guy I considered "out of my league" only to compliment his pictures. We got talking, we met 3 days later and he has been my fwb for the past 2 years. Someone either finds you attractive or they don't, it rarely has anything to do with how THEY look... He has even told me I am too good for him so our perception of how we look to others is rarely correct"

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By *ottie_84Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Yes you're good looking but this isn't a dating site, it's a swingers site. I would absolutely invite you to share me with my husband. Xx

So people on dating sites are or aren't allowed to be good-looking??

That's not what I meant, just anyone can be on here, but just because he's gorgeous doesn't mean he can't be kinky and wants more. X

Ah, so good-looking people are in a minority on here then

Give yourself a wink of peace and stop twisting people's words x"

I completely mis-read wink lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'll admit to having turned down someome because I felt he was too good looking. It probably is a self esteem issue.

Never mind hey OP, looks like you've got a few fans on this thread. "

Same here

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By *khot1Couple
over a year ago

somewhere over the rainbow

"I perhaps see it as a reflection of their own self confience or self esteem"

Exactly this x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've found the better looking men are the worse ive been messed around tbh. I also can't understand if they are that good looking why are they not with young hot women instead of my age. So I can understand her comment. Thsts just from my experience x

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By *retty womanWoman
over a year ago

Near Bournemouth

"You're "

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By *ilky barkedMan
over a year ago

london

Jeeez u hot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree that good-looking men can mess you around more (if you let them) simply because they are often spoilt. Buy why shouldn't they choose to be with someone older? I've met plenty who do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've found the better looking men are the worse ive been messed around tbh. I also can't understand if they are that good looking why are they not with young hot women instead of my age. So I can understand her comment. Thsts just from my experience x"

Age and attractiveness dont go hand in hand, they might just consider you be more attractive than a woman that you would call young and hot.

On the you're too hot thing, I have a female friend that has said in the past she's messed up a few dates with people she's been extremely attracted to, because she's wanted to impress so much that she's acted a certain way instead of just being herself. So it could be that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find that all a bit backward... wtf tell her to send the hot guys my way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take it as a compliment x

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