FabSwingers.com forum: Soft swing?! Or...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’m single. Generally go to clubs on my own. Play with single gents/couples, as I like.

However, I’m considering taking a gent I’m currently enjoying with me.

(He can fuck women as he pleases, but I don’t feel the need to know and I’ve no interest in the details, similarly I don’t share what I do/have done, and if asked keep details to a minimum)

But, in a club... obviously that won’t be the case. I genuinely have no idea how I’m going to react to it. But we’ve agreed there’s only one way to find out...

Should I consider soft swing?

And just what exactly does that entail?

Or is full swap different room a better route?

Interested to hear everyone’s experience/opinions

Thanks in advance for your help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Soft swing for us is all in the same room. I’m happy for Mrs V to stroke someone else cock and for the female to grab mine.. nipple sucking and playing for both ladies and possible finger play.. but everyone’s different. We don’t kiss or do oral with others.

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

We did soft swing in clubs for a while until Rose felt ready for a full swap.

For us, it meant doing anything with another person except fucking. We would do oral, hand play, anything really, but when it was time for the ultimate we swapped back to our own partners.

Some people consider soft swing to be having sex with your own partner on the same bed alongside others doing the same. It's whatever you are happy with. just tell your playmates at the start what your boundaries are.

We still soft-swing sometimes with others who prefer that. All group-sex is good!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Soft swing means what *you * want it to. We're soft swing but I'm guessing our way of playing is a lot different to many other soft swingers as it involves bdsm.

I suggest you chat with the guy and agree on what you're both happy with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don’t know why I feel nervy about it.

Just don’t want to mess up anyone’s good time, including my own.

We did talk it over. It’s just going to be a first time thing for me.

I appreciate your input guys, thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are that unsure, think you may get jealous etc when he engages in play with others then you shouldn’t be going together yet, sort out your issues before involving anyone else because it’s unfair on others

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’ve been wondering a little if it’s too soon?!

I’m not against it, I’m a little curious, but I guess I don’t feel as sure as I would like to.

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By *rTouretteMan
over a year ago

Muswell Hill

"I genuinely have no idea how I’m going to react to it. But we’ve agreed there’s only one way to find out...

This is a good question: difficult to know how you will feel in advance...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think I’m just looking for advice on how to dip my toe...

Start slowly, instead of diving right in and feeling overwhelmed.

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough

"I think I’m just looking for advice on how to dip my toe...

Start slowly, instead of diving right in and feeling overwhelmed."

For me, we started as soft swap which in itself progressed over time the more comfortable I became. We are now a full swap couple but only when we feel comfortable. I would say most play at clubs is still soft. Dirty soft though

And sometimes we go to clubs and just play with each other while being watched or watching others.

So just do what you are comfortable with at the time. And most importantly, communicate. As long as your communication with each other is on point, everything else will fall into place.

Mrs

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