FabSwingers.com forum: Meet Goes Quiet....

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We’ve been chatting for ages, finally agreed to meet tomorrow and... it’s all gone quiet.

Same old story? Well, the jury’s out... I guess we’ll know tomorrow... but this seems to be becoming a common occurrence.

Problem is, I’m becoming like the other men on here, anxious, frustrated and desperately in need of that sexual release. Crossing my fingers this will still happen as this plays havoc with my ability to concentrate and focus on other things. Does anyone else have this problem?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fingers crossed fella

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By *agic hands 81Man
over a year ago

Loughborough

It's a nightmare when someone talks the talk but doesn't walk the walk. Everyone hates being let down. Tbh that's why most of my meets are at clubs. Even if you are stood up there's normally something interesting happening

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

Doesn’t just happen to men though.

It’s just one of those things.

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By *ottie_84Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I’ve had that a few times! Luckily the meets I’ve had off here outweighs the negative ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not just guys that become anxious. I always have a moment of doubt when I turn up at a strange house and it’s not quite as I imagined, thinking I’ve been sent to a random strangers address for a laugh.

Not helped when the window cleaner is there as well..’I didn’t know this was a foursome!’

I think fab teaches us to expect the worst and to be suspicious.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’ve had that a few times! Luckily the meets I’ve had off here outweighs the negative ones "

Yes, I’d have to agree with that.

Problem is, I have a lot of work to do this evening and just can’t concentrate.

Perhaps another young lady would like to meet me tomorrow, instead? Just to enjoy my full attention and of course, help me out, haha.

Those flying pigs are coming past my window again....

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By *ohnkezCouple
over a year ago

shefiield

Happens far to often.

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By *ottie_84Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I’ve had that a few times! Luckily the meets I’ve had off here outweighs the negative ones

Yes, I’d have to agree with that.

Problem is, I have a lot of work to do this evening and just can’t concentrate.

Perhaps another young lady would like to meet me tomorrow, instead? Just to enjoy my full attention and of course, help me out, haha.

Those flying pigs are coming past my window again...."

I had a guy literally ghost me last week luckily he did in a way as I ended up having to work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It does happen unfortunately. It can be extremely frustrating, when they just stop chatting on the run up. Keeping my fingers crossed that it's for innocent reasons and not because they have changed their mind, OP.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’ve had that a few times! Luckily the meets I’ve had off here outweighs the negative ones

Yes, I’d have to agree with that.

Problem is, I have a lot of work to do this evening and just can’t concentrate.

Perhaps another young lady would like to meet me tomorrow, instead? Just to enjoy my full attention and of course, help me out, haha.

Those flying pigs are coming past my window again....

I had a guy literally ghost me last week luckily he did in a way as I ended up having to work "

I cannot imagine why anyone would go quiet on you - must be mad!

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By *agic hands 81Man
over a year ago

Loughborough

"I’ve had that a few times! Luckily the meets I’ve had off here outweighs the negative ones "

You are lucky. They must be really amazing, brilliant guys who are a great in bed

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It does happen unfortunately. It can be extremely frustrating, when they just stop chatting on the run up. Keeping my fingers crossed that it's for innocent reasons and not because they have changed their mind, OP.

Yes, you never know. I’ve had to pull out of a couple of meets before for legitimate reasons - but at least we kept chatting and simply postponed them. I didn’t just go quiet.

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By *ottie_84Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I’ve had that a few times! Luckily the meets I’ve had off here outweighs the negative ones

You are lucky. They must be really amazing, brilliant guys who are a great in bed

Well one chap left me like Bambi on ice after one meet

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By *ottie_84Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I’ve had that a few times! Luckily the meets I’ve had off here outweighs the negative ones

Yes, I’d have to agree with that.

Problem is, I have a lot of work to do this evening and just can’t concentrate.

Perhaps another young lady would like to meet me tomorrow, instead? Just to enjoy my full attention and of course, help me out, haha.

Those flying pigs are coming past my window again....

I had a guy literally ghost me last week luckily he did in a way as I ended up having to work

I cannot imagine why anyone would go quiet on you - must be mad!"

It pissed me off more than anything a polite message to say he had a change of heart would’ve been appreciated

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By *agic hands 81Man
over a year ago

Loughborough

"I’ve had that a few times! Luckily the meets I’ve had off here outweighs the negative ones

You are lucky. They must be really amazing, brilliant guys who are a great in bed

Well one chap left me like Bambi on ice after one meet

Talented guy x but I'd say he was more lucky meeting a stunner like you

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By *ottie_84Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I’ve had that a few times! Luckily the meets I’ve had off here outweighs the negative ones

You are lucky. They must be really amazing, brilliant guys who are a great in bed

Well one chap left me like Bambi on ice after one meet

Talented guy x but I'd say he was more lucky meeting a stunner like you

Oh he is and left me wanting more

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’ve had that a few times! Luckily the meets I’ve had off here outweighs the negative ones

You are lucky. They must be really amazing, brilliant guys who are a great in bed

Well one chap left me like Bambi on ice after one meet

Talented guy x but I'd say he was more lucky meeting a stunner like you

Oh he is and left me wanting more

Jealous - I think I’m going to have to arrange a stop-over in Nottingham next time I’m passing up and down the M1....

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By *ottie_84Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I’ve had that a few times! Luckily the meets I’ve had off here outweighs the negative ones

You are lucky. They must be really amazing, brilliant guys who are a great in bed

Well one chap left me like Bambi on ice after one meet

Talented guy x but I'd say he was more lucky meeting a stunner like you

Oh he is and left me wanting more

Jealous - I think I’m going to have to arrange a stop-over in Nottingham next time I’m passing up and down the M1...."

For some reason they keep coming back no idea why

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"For some reason they keep coming back no idea why"

Oh, I think I can see why... and imagine the rest!

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By *ottie_84Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"For some reason they keep coming back no idea why

Oh, I think I can see why... and imagine the rest!

Oh really?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Such a common theme on here or the pathetic excuses such as my Cat/Dog died or my Car got written off !!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"For some reason they keep coming back no idea why

Oh, I think I can see why... and imagine the rest!

Oh really? "

Yes - I think most us would prefer a regular partner rather than one-offs and you certainly look and sound like you know what you’re doing

I’d come back for more... I used to live in Beeston; if only I was back that way now!

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By *ottie_84Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"For some reason they keep coming back no idea why

Oh, I think I can see why... and imagine the rest!

Oh really?

Yes - I think most us would prefer a regular partner rather than one-offs and you certainly look and sound like you know what you’re doing

I’d come back for more... I used to live in Beeston; if only I was back that way now!"

I’m sure my verifications prove I do

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By *aughterMan
over a year ago

skelmersdale

common problem

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By *aughterMan
over a year ago

skelmersdale

or never had any intention to meet from the start

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

or never had any intention to meet from the start"

Or was a bloke pretending to be a woman?

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By *otYourUsualGirlWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

Yep, and it doesn't just happen to men!

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By *ottie_84Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Yep, and it doesn't just happen to men!"

One guy had the nerve to message me and say “now you know how us men feel”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive woken up with Cold Sores....Our best yet !!, he just vanished in a haze of Zovirax !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Or was a bloke pretending to be a woman?"

No show, as predicted. Pretty sure it is a female - all the pics I am sent are consistently of the same girl...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yep, and it doesn't just happen to men!

One guy had the nerve to message me and say “now you know how us men feel” "

Well we all know there are plenty of men that are dickheads - but he didn’t have to prove that is what he is.

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By *ottie_84Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Awww I’m sorry she didn’t show lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive woken up with Cold Sores....Our best yet !!, he just vanished in a haze of Zovirax !

I know this guy!!!

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

We learned early on not to waste too much time chatting on here.

We don't even agree as such to meet people. We just tend to say 'maybe see you at a club sometime'.

Again, the above mainly because previously people have said they'd meet us there and then expect sex. Which we won't agree to as we've never met.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive woken up with Cold Sores....Our best yet !!, he just vanished in a haze of Zovirax !

I know this guy!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its happened to me on more than one occasion, I don't understand why they can't just message and say they have had a change of mind, or any excuse really, just don't leave us sitting waiting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Such a common theme on here or the pathetic excuses such as my Cat/Dog died or my Car got written off !! "

Can't say I've ever had those ones...

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By *ohnkezCouple
over a year ago

shefiield

The amount of guys who message first about a meet - try to arrange and go quiet lol

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"Or was a bloke pretending to be a woman?

No show, as predicted. Pretty sure it is a female - all the pics I am sent are consistently of the same girl..."

Sorry to hear.

Just because the pics are of the same girl doesn't mean they aren't fake pix of the same girl? Or a fella using pix of his gf? Try doing the reverse image thing to see if they've been used elsewhere.

Then put it down to experience and move on.

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By *tuartsCelloCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"We learned early on not to waste too much time chatting on here.

We don't even agree as such to meet people. We just tend to say 'maybe see you at a club sometime'.

Again, the above mainly because previously people have said they'd meet us there and then expect sex. Which we won't agree to as we've never met."

Same here - if someone messages and says they are going to the same club we just say be nice to say hi so there is no obligation to do anymore than just have a chat

Unless we like them of course

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By *ertsguy2000Man
over a year ago

hertford

Is bloody annoying, I genuinely don’t get what they get out of it, does it boost their ego or something?? Or is it a spotty youth pulling himself around his bedroom instead of doing his homework thinking “yes I got them at it”???

All very odd, and frustrating...

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

If I had a pound for every time lol. You can fill in the rest.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Take nothing as guaranteed, except death. Always helps to have other things in mind to enjoy, should a meet fall through.

I always agree a plan. So that it's clearer before the last minute that something is off-course.

You have to expect that no strings means that other aspects of life have higher priority, such as work, partners and family.

Communicate well in advance, including your concerns and cancellations.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Its happened to me on more than one occasion, I don't understand why they can't just message and say they have had a change of mind, or any excuse really, just don't leave us sitting waiting.

Yes, I think that is the issue and the source of frustration - even a pathetic excuse is better than them just going quiet.

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