FabSwingers.com forum: going to meet, then turned off, Why??

By *ickeynminnie2 OP Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

So you have found a profile you like the look of, the chemistry is there, you're thinking of meeting or do meet and then get turned off, why?

Here's your chance to let others know what not to do.

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By *ieran2210Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Don’t know if this counts but I did a social meet. Got a long great, nice profile, great photos but when we met in person she looked nothing like her photos & used filters on all photos so I was major put off but still had a decent chat but didn’t go any futher

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Met a guy for coffee we had been chatting for ages so I felt good about meeting him, however as soon as he arrived he started pawing me in the queue for coffee, I then suggested sitting in princess Street Gardens it was busy summer with families all around we had just sat down and his hand went up my skirt, I said heh what do you think your doing, he said you like outdoor fun, and I said wtf not infront of kids and families all around, I got up and went straight back to the train station put me right off..

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Met a guy for coffee we had been chatting for ages so I felt good about meeting him, however as soon as he arrived he started pawing me in the queue for coffee, I then suggested sitting in princess Street Gardens it was busy summer with families all around we had just sat down and his hand went up my skirt, I said heh what do you think your doing, he said you like outdoor fun, and I said wtf not infront of kids and families all around, I got up and went straight back to the train station put me right off.."

He’s from the ‘it’s a sex site ffs’ brigade! Totally bang out of order and it’s assault!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing like their photos really.. When it's like ten years out of date

Fab should get a better picture like renewing them every year.

I met the guy and we had a drink and chat but it went no further.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He’s from the ‘it’s a sex site ffs’ brigade! Totally bang out of order and it’s assault!

What was worse it was my first meet years ago and it put me off before I went on another meet.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

People who assume that because we're getting on that we're going to have a long term thing. Assuming a long term thing before anything happens is a good way to kill anything.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Several reasons.

Being told what to wear for a social meet

Assuming that we’ll get along and play

Guys who live hundreds of miles saying ‘I’m worth travelling for’. Sorry but a concert or a show is worth travelling for notna complete stranger.

Assuming I’ll just meet in the middle of the night.

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By *igBoy2000Man
over a year ago

neath

I am new to all this and what would be a good meet? I am kinda shy at first and I’m always conscious that I am being too forward or coming across sleazy whenever I kinda flirt, I am also a gentleman and always try to make women feel at ease and important, is this a good thing or should I try being more a “alright love nice snatch in them trousers” kinda guy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll be up for.this

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I am new to all this and what would be a good meet? I am kinda shy at first and I’m always conscious that I am being too forward or coming across sleazy whenever I kinda flirt, I am also a gentleman and always try to make women feel at ease and important, is this a good thing or should I try being more a “alright love nice snatch in them trousers” kinda guy? "

Follow her lead. I like a social to be 90% social, talking about anything but sex. Some women won't want that. Or heck, just ask.

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By *razycoupleniCouple
over a year ago

belfast

During the social when you first meet not respecting boundaries and trying to push things which were are limits. We tell people our limits before meeting as it makes things clear for everyone.

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By *igBoy2000Man
over a year ago

neath

Surely that’s a good thing, asking people and finding out what is expected of the other.

That would definitely put someone like me at ease. It’s better to know than to try and guess I suppose and getting stuck in no mans land lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When limits are not stuck too and they continue to push it.

Fucks me right off. Its disrespectful. Only happend once mind but still it shoyldnt haplen at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some of the confusion comes from simple the logic that someone who wants an encounter must be an easy touch and can be dehumanized. This means you don't have to be social which is the easy way out. Cus being social requires effort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'll be up for.this"

For what?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A guy turning up to a meet with no condoms after we've discussed, and supposedly he's agreed to and had no problem with safe sex only. I always take some to a meet. Maybe they thought I wouldn't take any and I'd say oh go on then. F*ck off!!

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Let’s face it, what’s listed above should just common sense for emotionally mature adults.

If someone doesn’t know the way to behave when meeting or attempting to meet someone already, reading what not to do here is unlikely to change anything, unfortunately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let’s face it, what’s listed above should just common sense for emotionally mature adults.

If someone doesn’t know the way to behave when meeting or attempting to meet someone already, reading what not to do here is unlikely to change anything, unfortunately."

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Turned away when I saw the state of their garden and that’s not a euphemism.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

If someone gets graphic or pushy it makes me not want to meet them.Or tells me what to wear/do i'd soon change my mind and block.

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By *tsJeanLucMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

It’s my first time meeting somebody from this website, I’m nervous it’s not your fault it’s mine, as long as you make me feel welcome I will be okay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The guy from a couple getting pushy before the initial social, suggesting it could be more than a social meet, or messaging frequently without reference to his partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What annoys me is you get on fine in here so you think it's ok to give number to chat etc only to work out you've given it to a complete cock. Fair enough you can flirt and see pics on here however I have a life off of here. I don't appreciate guys sending random cock pics to my private number when I'm sitting with my family. No one wants to hear their phone ping and open up the message greeted with a cock. I mean seriously there are boundaries. Anyhow that turns me off of meeting ppl because they've disrespected my home life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The guy from a couple getting pushy before the initial social, suggesting it could be more than a social meet, or messaging frequently without reference to his partner. "

Seen that alot pisses me off! They get blocked now I've grown some balls

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being fondled on a first meet or trying to ...... I know it's a sex site but doesn't mean it's an open invite.

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By *ornylittlesubWoman
over a year ago

Grangemouth

My gripe happens WAY before a meet ever happens....Its when you respond to a guys message and they automatically think "she must wanna fuck me"...well actually no, it's called manners. It puts me of and stops me answering a lot of my messages.....just chill and see what happens(I WISH that was their attitude)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a social one Friday evening, it was going ok. He mentioned he was so excited about a sex filled weekend. I explained there would be no sex this weekend, and this was a social, the one we had discussed online as no sex see how we click thing.

But I have brought an overnight bag ? But I am working 12 hour shifts. That's ok, I'll keep your bed warm til you come home. No amount of 'buts' would make him understand. We parted, he left the site.

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

After reading their hundreds of verifications knocks me sick

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By *omtom65Man
over a year ago

visiting Dublin

Meeting a couple where both stunk of BO!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After reading their hundreds of verifications knocks me sick "

This is a sex site for consenting adults. Why do reading lots of veri's 'knock you sick' ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol, ,

you and your other half need to become real fabswingers?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Follow her lead. I like a social to be 90% social, talking about anything but sex. Some women won't want that. Or heck, just ask. "

Never ever follow a woman's lead. If you're looking to get laid, it's the death nail. Chat and be social.but apply pressure correctly to get her to the bedroom. Yes I'm a monster but before you want call me horrible. I bet most of you have given it up.to a guy that has done what I have just said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once was chatting to a lady and all seemed great so met for a social at Costa.

All was going well when she mentioned she liked the long latte spoons and wondered if she could sneak one out.

A few minutes later I was at the counter ordering the next round and the barristas face went pale.

I turned around and my date had her legs spread wide across the sofa and had slid the whole latte spoon inside her and was proudly telling the world she wanted a set of six.

I changed the order to takeout and left.... Never saw her again.

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By *amesB66Man
over a year ago

St Peter Port

"Once was chatting to a lady and all seemed great so met for a social at Costa.

All was going well when she mentioned she liked the long latte spoons and wondered if she could sneak one out.

A few minutes later I was at the counter ordering the next round and the barristas face went pale.

I turned around and my date had her legs spread wide across the sofa and had slid the whole latte spoon inside her and was proudly telling the world she wanted a set of six.

I changed the order to takeout and left.... Never saw her again. "

Try Starbucks next time!

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By *r FirecrackerMan
over a year ago

London

"Don’t know if this counts but I did a social meet. Got a long great, nice profile, great photos but when we met in person she looked nothing like her photos & used filters on all photos so I was major put off but still had a decent chat but didn’t go any futher"

This happen to myself however, I told her it’s not acceptable to use photoshop. Did she think I would not notice? Or did she think I would say ah fuck it I’m here now. I let her know the errors of her way and left, sounds harsh but being deceived is not nice. My time is precious so I don’t like wasting it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Several reasons.

Being told what to wear for a social meet

Assuming that we’ll get along and play

Guys who live hundreds of miles saying ‘I’m worth travelling for’. Sorry but a concert or a show is worth travelling for notna complete stranger.

Assuming I’ll just meet in the middle of the night. "

So with you on the above so many times I have said don't meet with anyone who has to travel a couple from Cornwall contacted me and in the second message said they had booked a hotel in Edinburgh for that weekend to see me, I was so taken aback haven't properly chatted I said no didn't want to be pushed into anything.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

Follow her lead. I like a social to be 90% social, talking about anything but sex. Some women won't want that. Or heck, just ask.

Nope never. It would put me right off.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Follow her lead. I like a social to be 90% social, talking about anything but sex. Some women won't want that. Or heck, just ask.

Right now I'm so glad there's a "notes" function on profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Once was chatting to a lady and all seemed great so met for a social at Costa.

All was going well when she mentioned she liked the long latte spoons and wondered if she could sneak one out.

A few minutes later I was at the counter ordering the next round and the barristas face went pale.

I turned around and my date had her legs spread wide across the sofa and had slid the whole latte spoon inside her and was proudly telling the world she wanted a set of six.

I changed the order to takeout and left.... Never saw her again.

Try Starbucks next time!"

Omfg!

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Don't start mentioning other meets, comparing or getting irritated that you speak to others on the site. We'd arranged a meet, hotel booked (by him) and looking forward to it. He complained that we were still using fab in the run up and that we hadn't removed our advertised meet, explained to him this was an oversight but then thought why should we be explaining ourselves, he wasn't too impressed with us still using fab so we called it off. Received abuse off him about hotel costs, told him his attitude had concerned us and blocked.

Just chill, be patient and not demanding or overbearing, it will put you in good stead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Assuming, because we have been talking about sex that I have now got the horn n want to take them to bed asap! I am quite matter of fact when talking about my sex life so I am not flirting, just talking! Plus if I have said it is only gonna be a social, I bloody mean it, even if I fancy the arse off of you!

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"Once was chatting to a lady and all seemed great so met for a social at Costa.

All was going well when she mentioned she liked the long latte spoons and wondered if she could sneak one out.

A few minutes later I was at the counter ordering the next round and the barristas face went pale.

I turned around and my date had her legs spread wide across the sofa and had slid the whole latte spoon inside her and was proudly telling the world she wanted a set of six.

I changed the order to takeout and left.... Never saw her again. "

So that's what they mean by spooning!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What annoys me is you get on fine in here so you think it's ok to give number to chat etc only to work out you've given it to a complete cock. Fair enough you can flirt and see pics on here however I have a life off of here. I don't appreciate guys sending random cock pics to my private number when I'm sitting with my family. No one wants to hear their phone ping and open up the message greeted with a cock. I mean seriously there are boundaries. Anyhow that turns me off of meeting ppl because they've disrespected my home life. "

Use Kik - you don’t have to give your number to anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They start to try the dirty chat on the build up to the social meet. It just feels like they are expecting more than a social. That has put me off from meeting, in the past.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Inability to know haw to communicate via message 1 word answers no banter dull personality

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By *andyMinx_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

Leeds

Being told what to wear.

Them turning up in tracksuit bottoms. Or d*unk. Or both.

Asking to stay overnight on a first meet, before we have even met.

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