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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How can I approach to topic of swing to the wife our sex life is near zero for a while it was my fault couldn’t keep it up long enough the she took it with fibromyalgia which made her sore the past two years I can say I had sex with her about five times now it a stick it in and get on with it love to get our sex lifes up and going i have a high sex drive where hers is zero now would love to meet a couple who can tell us what made them get into swinging I love my wife but would love it more if I could put the sparkles back in to our love making can anyone advise me on swinging or just how to get our love life up and running ????????

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By *andm_69Couple
over a year ago

Stevenage

Don't think swinging is the answer if your sex life is as bad as you are saying itis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't think swinging is the answer if your sex life is as bad as you are saying itis"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging definitely wouldn’t be something to do! You need to sit down and have a chat about the current situation and see if there’s maybe anything making her feel apprehensive about sex at the moment. Maybe go on a weekend away, surprise her with some cute underwear and say you wanna see her in it. Take her out for the evening. Maybe she’s not feeling up for sex because you’re not spending as much Time together, because we all know life gets in the way.

Swinging would just make her feel even worse and probably start resenting you. I know that if I was the same way and M suggested swinging at a time like that, I would feel as if I wasn’t good enough or even just enough for him. And that would work both ways.

Just a thought OP.

L

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By *oopy097Man
over a year ago

east mids

Wine and dine her? Ask her on a date? Maybe its not her thats lost the 'sparkle'? Its more often men that get 'routine'

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By *electableDalliancesCouple
over a year ago

leeds

If you have kids,get a babysitter.

Drive somewhere quiet pull over , talk to each other. Honesty.

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By *opman121Man
over a year ago

stoke on trent

My mate s wife as the same as your wife, but he said she does not get sore she just as muscular aches which can affect her sex life drive , ?

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By *tms1xCouple
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Gotta agree with all said talking is the way forward be honest with each other and hopefully things will improve

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

First work on your emotional communication, this leads to being able to talk intimately which in turn leads to being able to ask uncomfortable questions such as "why do you feel we aren't making love as frequently?" or " is there anything we can do to get bus back on track?"

Bring up swinging only once you've established rock solid communication, it will surely fail if you don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How can I approach to topic of swing to the wife our sex life is near zero for a while it was my fault couldn’t keep it up long enough the she took it with fibromyalgia which made her sore the past two years I can say I had sex with her about five times now it a stick it in and get on with it love to get our sex lifes up and going i have a high sex drive where hers is zero now would love to meet a couple who can tell us what made them get into swinging I love my wife but would love it more if I could put the sparkles back in to our love making can anyone advise me on swinging or just how to get our love life up and running ????????"
just tell her you joined 3 months ago and tell her about all your meets just best to be honest about it, she will react one way or another

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I know but hopefully things can change

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Wine and dine her? Ask her on a date? Maybe its not her thats lost the 'sparkle'? Its more often men that get 'routine' "
. Thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Swinging definitely wouldn’t be something to do! You need to sit down and have a chat about the current situation and see if there’s maybe anything making her feel apprehensive about sex at the moment. Maybe go on a weekend away, surprise her with some cute underwear and say you wanna see her in it. Take her out for the evening. Maybe she’s not feeling up for sex because you’re not spending as much Time together, because we all know life gets in the way.

Swinging would just make her feel even worse and probably start resenting you. I know that if I was the same way and M suggested swinging at a time like that, I would feel as if I wasn’t good enough or even just enough for him. And that would work both ways.

Just a thought OP.

L "
your right thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How can I approach to topic of swing to the wife our sex life is near zero for a while it was my fault couldn’t keep it up long enough the she took it with fibromyalgia which made her sore the past two years I can say I had sex with her about five times now it a stick it in and get on with it love to get our sex lifes up and going i have a high sex drive where hers is zero now would love to meet a couple who can tell us what made them get into swinging I love my wife but would love it more if I could put the sparkles back in to our love making can anyone advise me on swinging or just how to get our love life up and running ????????"

Swinging is not the answer in your case, better take a look at your relationship. If the intimacy has gone would suggest you seek a relate councillor.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Gotta agree with all said talking is the way forward be honest with each other and hopefully things will improve "
thanks I know most of you are right thought about spicing things up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gotta agree with all said talking is the way forward be honest with each other and hopefully things will improve thanks I know most of you are right thought about spicing things up"
swinging doesn't tend to enhance things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging only works as a couple if you are both secure in your relationship and both still enjoying sex with eachother..Swinging is an enhancement to your sex lifes and not a substitute.. if she is not having sex with you now what makes you think she will think differently if swinging is offered..I think you need to chat and see what the problem is sexually between the pair of you..

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

As others have said, I don't think it will improve the situation. Having some quality time with each other would be a start, set aside some time every week to do something together and rekindle what brought you together in the first place

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