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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What is it that turns you on??

I have had half a dozen threesomes and a few cuckold meetings with married couples. I have loved every one. Just wanted to know from a hubbies prospective what they like about it or how they feel about it.

Im not a jealous type in the slightest but the thought of watching a girlfriend suck another guys cock or getting fucked by him would horrorfy me not turn me on.

So you guys......what is in it for you?? And wives.....what do you think of being with a guy while hubby watches?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let me get this right, I stand to be corrected....

Your a single guy and quite happy to take part in a threesome with a couple where you may indeed get a blow job or indeed get full sex with the other guys wife/girlfriend but IF you were in a relationship you would be mega green eyed????

Ho hum..............

double standards perhaps?

Maybe swinging is not for you when you get in a relationship, but hey, it's ok while your single!!!! wtf!!!

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"Let me get this right, I stand to be corrected....

Your a single guy and quite happy to take part in a threesome with a couple where you may indeed get a blow job or indeed get full sex with the other guys wife/girlfriend but IF you were in a relationship you would be mega green eyed????

Ho hum..............

double standards perhaps?

Maybe swinging is not for you when you get in a relationship, but hey, it's ok while your single!!!! wtf!!!"

Yup...another single guy using the site who isnt a swinger...it must be thursday

And more proof to my theory that swinging isnt what you do ,but an attitude.

OP...maybe its as simple as the fact that when you really care for someone,what makes them happy makes you happy.

Sir is fond of a quote from CS lewis,

"Nothing that you have not given away will ever be really yours."

i think many swinging couples will recognise something that speaks to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Let me get this right, I stand to be corrected....

Your a single guy and quite happy to take part in a threesome with a couple where you may indeed get a blow job or indeed get full sex with the other guys wife/girlfriend but IF you were in a relationship you would be mega green eyed????

Ho hum..............

double standards perhaps?

Maybe swinging is not for you when you get in a relationship, but hey, it's ok while your single!!!! wtf!!!

Yup...another single guy using the site who isnt a swinger...it must be thursday

And more proof to my theory that swinging isnt what you do ,but an attitude.

OP...maybe its as simple as the fact that when you really care for someone,what makes them happy makes you happy.

Sir is fond of a quote from CS lewis,

"Nothing that you have not given away will ever be really yours."

i think many swinging couples will recognise something that speaks to them."

here, here!

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Give him chance girls, he'll grow up eventually.

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By *adja_lazloCouple
over a year ago

Solihull


"What is it that turns you on??

I have had half a dozen threesomes and a few cuckold meetings with married couples. I have loved every one. Just wanted to know from a hubbies prospective what they like about it or how they feel about it.

Im not a jealous type in the slightest but the thought of watching a girlfriend suck another guys cock or getting fucked by him would horrorfy me not turn me on.

So you guys......what is in it for you?? And wives.....what do you think of being with a guy while hubby watches?"

double standards from a single again, oh dear

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

And more proof to my theory that swinging isnt what you do ,but an attitude

And more proof to my theory that alot of couples on here are incredibly arrogant in their attitude. Yes it is ok while i am single. I love being with wives while hubbies watch. Its a big turn on for me. Most of the couples i have met are looking for SINGLE GUYS ONLY. My question is quite a simple one........while me or another singke guy is with your wife what is it that hubby enjoys???

If the answer is "he enjoys his wife having fun" fair enough thats all im looking for. But wind your neck in and get off your high horse with your attitude because if i was in a similar position i dont think id enjoy watching my partner. Certainly not in a cuckold scenario. Everybody is different on here which is why it works, you meet people who suit you but there's no need getting all arsey because i have similar preferences to you

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

arrogant to not want a single guy who doesnt respect or understand us anywhere near me...

Meh...i can live with that

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By *stwoCouple
over a year ago

anywhere

Seems a very odd attitude.Sounds like you want free hookers.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

*i do not have similar prederences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!! there's the toys out of the pram Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think what the other posters are saying is this. Yes to ask questions how the husband/partner feels in those circumstances is fine. But to actually state you couldnt do it with your gf/wife because of jealous. Yet you partake with other peoples, well they are saying you dont understand the basics of swinging. Nothing arsey there

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"arrogant to not want a single guy who doesnt respect or understand us anywhere near me...

Meh...i can live with that "

No i dont understand what pleasure a guy can get out of sitting in a corner and watching his wife with another guy. I dont understand it at all which is why i have asked the question because i want to know?

If this is your/hubbies thing and he asked "what makes it so horny being with my wife while i watch" then i woukd try to explain why and not get all prosumptious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"arrogant to not want a single guy who doesnt respect or understand us anywhere near me...

Meh...i can live with that

No i dont understand what pleasure a guy can get out of sitting in a corner and watching his wife with another guy. I dont understand it at all which is why i have asked the question because i want to know?

If this is your/hubbies thing and he asked "what makes it so horny being with my wife while i watch" then i woukd try to explain why and not get all prosumptious"

you chose to read what you want. they replied with this comment which you have not took on board

"OP...maybe its as simple as the fact that when you really care for someone,what makes them happy makes you happy"

it sums up the question you asked and wanted a reply to

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think what the other posters are saying is this. Yes to ask questions how the husband/partner feels in those circumstances is fine. But to actually state you couldnt do it with your gf/wife because of jealous. Yet you partake with other peoples, well they are saying you dont understand the basics of swinging. Nothing arsey there "

I love being with a guys wife. The fact she loves a younger, dom/bull guy and wants her husband to watch is what i like. As i am that guy i dont understand the hubby.

Its just the same as a sub asking a dom what in it for them or vice versa?

Im simply trying to understand from somebody elses point of _iew and i really do not see a problem with that.

The poster who says "grow up" is all wrong. I am very mature and simply interested in the preferences of others. I appreciate it takes all sorts an thats a mature outlook not somebody who needs to grow up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oooh err missus,

Was only stating our opinion that if you don't like it doing to you, don't give it out!

Not sure we could live with the attitude where its OK but not in my back yard, as it were!

Just our opinion x

And yes we understand the cuckold thing, just not our thing!

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"arrogant to not want a single guy who doesnt respect or understand us anywhere near me...

Meh...i can live with that

No i dont understand what pleasure a guy can get out of sitting in a corner and watching his wife with another guy. I dont understand it at all which is why i have asked the question because i want to know?

If this is your/hubbies thing and he asked "what makes it so horny being with my wife while i watch" then i woukd try to explain why and not get all prosumptious"

That isnt what u said tho,you said that with wifey you couldnt swing...so this is somewhere to get your end away until u settle down.Never mind what fantasies she might have.

look at the quote

Nothing that you have not given away will ever be really yours.

If your relationship is based on the idea you have to "own" someone,that jealousy is acceptable and trust has conditions,then,in mine,and Mr lewis' _iew you wont understand a relationship where belonging is not about ownership .

You say you have cuckolded...surely that has given you some idea of what is going on...outside of cuckolding a 3 some doesnt have to involve the man sitting in the corner.

And its not just men,i get as much pleasure from knowing kev has fun as he does from me...we love each other and enjoy the others happiness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seems a very odd attitude.Sounds like you want free hookers."

LOL love it!

but seriously, it is a very stange attitude to have ( im sure your not the only one) if you had a girlfriend would you let her play with other women? if so whyso? and why not a man?

the reasons why men ( or women) enjoy watching their partner with another person are many and varied,

but i enjoy watching my partner having fun with someone else because i enjoy the look on someone elses face when he is giving them please, i enjoy knowing that that is the pleasure i can get whenever i want it and i also love knowing that he is enjoying himself, but he always looks at me and touches me if i'm close enough to keep the connection between us. and its the same with him watching me.

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk


"arrogant to not want a single guy who doesnt respect or understand us anywhere near me...

Meh...i can live with that

No i dont understand what pleasure a guy can get out of sitting in a corner and watching his wife with another guy. I dont understand it at all which is why i have asked the question because i want to know?

If this is your/hubbies thing and he asked "what makes it so horny being with my wife while i watch" then i woukd try to explain why and not get all prosumptious

That isnt what u said tho,you said that with wifey you couldnt swing...so this is somewhere to get your end away until u settle down.Never mind what fantasies she might have.

look at the quote

Nothing that you have not given away will ever be really yours.

If your relationship is based on the idea you have to "own" someone,that jealousy is acceptable and trust has conditions,then,in mine,and Mr lewis' _iew you wont understand a relationship where belonging is not about ownership .

You say you have cuckolded...surely that has given you some idea of what is going on...outside of cuckolding a 3 some doesnt have to involve the man sitting in the corner.

And its not just men,i get as much pleasure from knowing kev has fun as he does from me...we love each other and enjoy the others happiness."

Well said JP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and if i could spell today that might help too.. lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

women/cpls do it too,and generally without making this the OPs poor choosing or words like 'jealousy', I do believe no longer than a few days ago some couples mentioned the greeneyed monster...without such a backlash(a fucking early one at that).

And I believe it may b agreed that jealousy comes in so many forms, without it dictating a lack of swinging understanding.

to the OPs question, I love seeing my past present an future partners getting fucked...just as long as its not anyway of getting out of a 'relationship'.Of course if there is another woman half I can fuck too thats equally as enjoyable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm going to jump to the defence of the OP here. What he said is that he couldn't WATCH his wife/GF doing it with another guy. Not that he wouldn't swing. That's why some people prefer seperate room swaps surely? I think a few of you have over reacted at what was a simple quest to understand a different perspective. I read a thread about a girl who likes the idea of another woman going down on her but couldn't even think about reciprocating. Does that mean you all jump on her for not being a swinger? No? Double standards eh?

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"I'm going to jump to the defence of the OP here. What he said is that he couldn't WATCH his wife/GF doing it with another guy. Not that he wouldn't swing. That's why some people prefer seperate room swaps surely? I think a few of you have over reacted at what was a simple quest to understand a different perspective. I read a thread about a girl who likes the idea of another woman going down on her but couldn't even think about reciprocating. Does that mean you all jump on her for not being a swinger? No? Double standards eh? "

No...cos she didnt say hubby cudnt go down on the girl...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You missed the point again. Neither did the OP. He just said he couldn't watch it happen.

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By *razydriver8Couple
over a year ago

plymouth


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but i enjoy watching my partner having fun with someone else because i enjoy the look on someone elses face when he is giving them please, i enjoy knowing that that is the pleasure i can get whenever i want it and i also love knowing that he is enjoying himself, but he always looks at me and touches me if i'm close enough to keep the connection between us. and its the same with him watching me. "

to us it is about the sharing, the pleasure of seeing the other happy and having fun. we both enjoy the sights and sounds of our mutual pleasure, the sounds and sights of our fun turns the other on, we share, we talk we have full trust in each other.

when fsm is with another woman, i love the moment our eyes meet and we share a secret smile. the moment our fingers touch, and later when we are together and talk and revisit the fun , it reinforces our love, if that makes sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm going to jump to the defence of the OP here. What he said is that he couldn't WATCH his wife/GF doing it with another guy. Not that he wouldn't swing. That's why some people prefer seperate room swaps surely? I think a few of you have over reacted at what was a simple quest to understand a different perspective. I read a thread about a girl who likes the idea of another woman going down on her but couldn't even think about reciprocating. Does that mean you all jump on her for not being a swinger? No? Double standards eh? "

Agreed!

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

To be fair....lots of people on here looking for different things, all in their particular comfort zone. Plenty of whom only meet either male of female, or maybe don't swap etc etc... each to their own. Op plays on his terms which is how it should be and not for others to judge.

Op to answer your question... hubby says he gets to see me in a way he wouldn't normally, not that he spends all the time watching as three on the bed is definately our preference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That makes perfect sense and if it works for you then great. But that's not necessarily how it works for everyone. We all get different things from swinging. We love the unknown aspect of meeting seperately, then discussing it at length afterwards as a prelude to our own lovemaking. Sharing such intimate experiences without actually witnessing them is what we've discovered works for us. Maybe that's what the OP will want when he's part of a couple. It's not all about watching for everybody.

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Can people at least post without resorting to childish personal comments

It never ceases to amaze me how grown ups resort to name calling instead of debating like adults

Its unacceptable and you'll find you won't be able to post

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm going to jump to the defence of the OP here. What he said is that he couldn't WATCH his wife/GF doing it with another guy. Not that he wouldn't swing. That's why some people prefer seperate room swaps surely? I think a few of you have over reacted at what was a simple quest to understand a different prospectives "

Aaaahhh somebody educated enough to read tye message.

I love being with a guys wife. I love that they have selected me to enter there home and sleep with the wife in there marital bed. The fact i have been selected quite often due to my age and other stats turns me on. Knowing im younger and often bigger than hubby so giving wife something he cant REEAAAALLY gets me going. The well hung toyboy role or dom bull is my thing and reason for joining fab.

Many many many couples join to find single guys just like me. I understand what the wife gets out of it but not the hubby. Thats why i ask? What is it that hubbies who watch enjoy? I alsi asked what women get out of having hubbies watch? Power? Dominance?

I maintain my statement in the original post that i dont think i would get any enjoyment at all at watching my partner with another bloke. Ive never been in that position, it may change.

I dont judge others for there preferences so i would appreciate people spending a little time o read my queation before jumping on the bandwagon with what i percieve as arrogant persumptions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm going to jump to the defence of the OP here. What he said is that he couldn't WATCH his wife/GF doing it with another guy. Not that he wouldn't swing. That's why some people prefer seperate room swaps surely? I think a few of you have over reacted at what was a simple quest to understand a different prospectives

Aaaahhh somebody educated enough to read tye message.

I love being with a guys wife. I love that they have selected me to enter there home and sleep with the wife in there marital bed. The fact i have been selected quite often due to my age and other stats turns me on. Knowing im younger and often bigger than hubby so giving wife something he cant REEAAAALLY gets me going. The well hung toyboy role or dom bull is my thing and reason for joining fab.

Many many many couples join to find single guys just like me. I understand what the wife gets out of it but not the hubby. Thats why i ask? What is it that hubbies who watch enjoy? I alsi asked what women get out of having hubbies watch? Power? Dominance?

I maintain my statement in the original post that i dont think i would get any enjoyment at all at watching my partner with another bloke. Ive never been in that position, it may change.

I dont judge others for there preferences so i would appreciate people spending a little time o read my queation before jumping on the bandwagon with what i percieve as arrogant persumptions."

i read your post correctly in the first place. i was pointing out that you chose to the answers that some of the people put. chose to read and take on board the points you didnt like

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


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but i enjoy watching my partner having fun with someone else because i enjoy the look on someone elses face when he is giving them please, i enjoy knowing that that is the pleasure i can get whenever i want it and i also love knowing that he is enjoying himself, but he always looks at me and touches me if i'm close enough to keep the connection between us. and its the same with him watching me.

to us it is about the sharing, the pleasure of seeing the other happy and having fun. we both enjoy the sights and sounds of our mutual pleasure, the sounds and sights of our fun turns the other on, we share, we talk we have full trust in each other.

when fsm is with another woman, i love the moment our eyes meet and we share a secret smile. the moment our fingers touch, and later when we are together and talk and revisit the fun , it reinforces our love, if that makes sense."

Sorry to copy your post but you put it so well that I couldn't resist. I tried and my post sounded crap..lol

Totally agree especailly about the secret smile and shared looks.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Princess

It was the first half dozen reposes i object to. Sure one or two hinted at a genuine answer but they where all far to agressive with the "your not a proper swinger" nonsense.

I am not claiming to be anything other than me. I like what i like and thats being a toyboy/bull for older couples. I was interested in what enjoyment the couples take from this kind of encounter. Its a genuine question and disnt warrent the backlash

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok so what if you meet a woman on here and you fall in love with eachother but you couldnt take seeing her with someone else yet she still wants to swing, not a great situation to find yourself in is it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok so what if you meet a woman on here and you fall in love with eachother but you couldnt take seeing her with someone else yet she still wants to swing, not a great situation to find yourself in is it "

Like my first post says, he may well prefer seperate room fun, which still allows his new wife to swing does it not? Like the OP says, he may well change his opinion when actually in that position too. Nothing is set in stone and no one can knoww 100% what there own feelings will be until they're in that position.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ok so what if you meet a woman on here and you fall in love with eachother but you couldnt take seeing her with someone else yet she still wants to swing, not a great situation to find yourself in is it "

What if????? I dont know. Nobody knows the answer to what if?? I have quite clearly stated that my opinion may change. I dont know.....ive never been in the situation.

I simply asked a question to couples on what enjoyment does a hubby take from watching??? Is tht question really so difficult?

Single guys get bad press from so many on here for not showing interest and looking for a quick shag. You ask a genuine question and get shout down in flames by people incapable of reading. Yet its quite ironic these same people plaster "single guys pleasr read the profile" all over their profiles

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Does the thought of your (future) gf or wife watching you fuck another woman horrify you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dude i asked a question no need get shitty with me

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

Just to echo some of the above. I like to see my lady enjoy others that have shown respect and decency in their attitude towards the two of us.

She also likes myself being enjoyed in a reverse scenario.

In our experience I have teamed up with a guy for threeway pleasure but it being about giving her more sensual and fulfilling experience.

I am not jealous nor controlling.

I respect that you could not envisage doing what I and 'we' do but this then limits your consideration to a lady that enjoys such pleasures, not saying for one minute you could please her without the enjoyment or necessity to do this in its entirety.

In my experience being so open minded to diversity it will attract a much more adventurous partner, one of which i do and will continue to benefit being in love with and utilising this site and others for fun.

It's made me laugh in the past where men that enjoy/encourage and to some extent permit such activities cannot totally satisfy their partners.

Wrong. We're just not as one dimensional.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nag nag nag just a qiuk recap , every 1s diferent and the quote that wen sumats like U NEVER TRULEY know wat u have til u give it away WHO SAYS ANY HUMAN BEING actualy owns another human being even if maried wierd

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


",

but i enjoy watching my partner having fun with someone else because i enjoy the look on someone elses face when he is giving them please, i enjoy knowing that that is the pleasure i can get whenever i want it and i also love knowing that he is enjoying himself, but he always looks at me and touches me if i'm close enough to keep the connection between us. and its the same with him watching me.

to us it is about the sharing, the pleasure of seeing the other happy and having fun. we both enjoy the sights and sounds of our mutual pleasure, the sounds and sights of our fun turns the other on, we share, we talk we have full trust in each other.

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I think this pretty much is my OH's _iew - he likes to see me having fun and that the other guy(s) are turned on in having fun with me. SOmetimes he watches, sometimes he joins in, sometimes he's not there and I tell him about it after. The fun with the other guy is almost a form of foreplay to the main event - sex between us. I certainly wouldn't want sex with someone who has the attitude that they're giving me something he can't - I/ we're not looking for a young/ hot bull/ dom figure - just another male who wants to join us in some way. An attitude to me of 'I'll take what's on offer but I could never do it' is quite off putting. However, we're not into humiliation cuckolding, more the voyeuristic side.

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By *exytwo_xCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

Personally I find it hard to class any single guy as a 'proper swinger' unless he's had the experience with a former girlfriend. And I think it is the single guy missing out on the experience of a very close connection with your partner while swinging, but why hubbies find it a turn on (apart from every swingers love to see each other enjoy) is personal I think.

It's fun.

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By *YLINDERCouple
over a year ago

CARDIFF

my hubby gets very turned on by watching me being pleasured by another man xx

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By *exytwo_xCouple
over a year ago

Brighton


"Personally I find it hard to class any single guy as a 'proper swinger' unless he's had the experience with a former girlfriend. And I think it is the single guy missing out on the experience of a very close connection with your partner while swinging, but why hubbies find it a turn on (apart from every swingers love to see each other enjoy) is personal I think.

It's fun."

Oh and cuckolding is not our thing.

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By *AUCY SUEWoman
over a year ago

portsmouth

babes, it is obviously jealousy, because why go to a meet where you are both available to join in, and it would horrify you to watch your partner ??? my partner gets turned on, seeing i am turning another guy on or making him hard, same scenario would your partner not get turned on watching you ???

if this horrifies you then you should definately not be swinging, swinging for us is freedom to explore other similar couples, have fun, meet for a drink first, socialise, then usually a sexfest, enjoy others, if not dont do it

x sue x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What turns me on about watching my OH is the fact that she loves it and it makes her happy

In that situation it's all about her pleasure and her and it makes me happy seeing her happy xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


",

but i enjoy watching my partner having fun with someone else because i enjoy the look on someone elses face when he is giving them please, i enjoy knowing that that is the pleasure i can get whenever i want it and i also love knowing that he is enjoying himself, but he always looks at me and touches me if i'm close enough to keep the connection between us. and its the same with him watching me.

to us it is about the sharing, the pleasure of seeing the other happy and having fun. we both enjoy the sights and sounds of our mutual pleasure, the sounds and sights of our fun turns the other on, we share, we talk we have full trust in each other.

.

I think this pretty much is my OH's _iew - he likes to see me having fun and that the other guy(s) are turned on in having fun with me. SOmetimes he watches, sometimes he joins in, sometimes he's not there and I tell him about it after. The fun with the other guy is almost a form of foreplay to the main event - sex between us. I certainly wouldn't want sex with someone who has the attitude that they're giving me something he can't - I/ we're not looking for a young/ hot bull/ dom figure - just another male who wants to join us in some way. An attitude to me of 'I'll take what's on offer but I could never do it' is quite off putting. However, we're not into humiliation cuckolding, more the voyeuristic side."

Totally agree with those points Pink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would like my hubby to watch me with another man, he doesnt want to though, he does sometimes stand outside the bedroom door and listen, and quite likes to see the pictures of me with other men.

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By *laphe1Man
over a year ago

Huddersfield

I can see were he is coming from but don't agree.I would be turned on equally watching my girl as in taking part alls fair in that.Even like it, when she hammers the thick vibrating dildo I bought her( cant compete with that big boy)but love it all the same.have a nice day peeps

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By *nvyCouple
over a year ago

Waltham Cross

I agree with Sue I don't want to jump on the bandwagon as you was only expressing your own opinion, it's just when you use words as strong as 'horrified' it's like you lack the understanding and acceptance to the couples who do this and may benefit by setting up a profile on a site like adult friend finder rather than a site for swingers who in general pride themselves on acceptance of others and being tactile. Sorry didn't want this to sound like a moan just saying u might be better on another website

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is it that turns you on??

I have had half a dozen threesomes and a few cuckold meetings with married couples. I have loved every one. Just wanted to know from a hubbies prospective what they like about it or how they feel about it.

Im not a jealous type in the slightest but the thought of watching a girlfriend suck another guys cock or getting fucked by him would horrorfy

me not turn me on.

So you guys......what is in it for you?? And wives.....what do you think of being with a guy while hubby watches?"

Just reread your post

So you are quite comfortable with a guy watching you fuck his partner

But the thought of you watching your girl with another guy actually horrifies you?

Ok it's not for some but horrifies?

Think you may be playing the wrong game

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let me play Devils Advocate.

For thousands of years men have fucked other folks women but didnt want anyone doing it to theirs. Therefore to actually want someone to do this, whilst you watch or not is actually against human nature. So something stronger than your feelings for your partner is at work. The wish to shag other folks partners get you to accept the quid pro quo. What is it. How many guys in a couple would go to a meet if the other couple said "just you,don't bring her". Discuss!

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By *ap AdgeMan
over a year ago

Wirral


",

but i enjoy watching my partner having fun with someone else because i enjoy the look on someone elses face when he is giving them please, i enjoy knowing that that is the pleasure i can get whenever i want it and i also love knowing that he is enjoying himself, but he always looks at me and touches me if i'm close enough to keep the connection between us. and its the same with him watching me.

to us it is about the sharing, the pleasure of seeing the other happy and having fun. we both enjoy the sights and sounds of our mutual pleasure, the sounds and sights of our fun turns the other on, we share, we talk we have full trust in each other.

when fsm is with another woman, i love the moment our eyes meet and we share a secret smile. the moment our fingers touch, and later when we are together and talk and revisit the fun , it reinforces our love, if that makes sense."

love that too very well answered paul

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would like my hubby to watch me with another man, he doesnt want to though, he does sometimes stand outside the bedroom door and listen, and quite likes to see the pictures of me with other men. "

Crikey from the posters on here that would risk him being called "not a proper swinger".

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre

Whoa, whoa, whoa! Why is the OP being attacked for expressing a desire to understand from the other perspective? It's a genuine question and is in no way selfish.

I absolutely agree with what he is saying. Not every one in the swinging world is comfortable with what someone else is comfortable with. It doesn't make them selfish or less of a swinger than anyone else.!

He swings as a single man and couldn't bear to watch a partner ( if he had one) in a swing environment. News flash..a lot of single men and women feel that way and that's why they swing as single. The fact that couples are happy doing it doesn't mean everyone can!

Jesus, people are so quick to jump on a bandwagon and crucify posts without understanding it!!

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre


"Ok so what if you meet a woman on here and you fall in love with eachother but you couldnt take seeing her with someone else yet she still wants to swing, not a great situation to find yourself in is it "

Then you swing separately!! Couples on here do it so why can't he?

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

got to say it does seem a little unfair on the op the would be horrified comment yes seems harsh but he is not in a relationship at present and this could change when he is also there is plenty of cpls out there who only want "single fems" for them both to enjoy so does this not mean the same ??? we are all different and here to fulfil our own needs be happy n smile

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre

Never knew I was not classed as a proper swinger cos I am single. That's BS!

People do like to label, don't they?

Thought this lifestyle was embraced by open minded liberal people. Turns out its not after all!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never knew I was not classed as a proper swinger cos I am single. That's BS!

People do like to label, don't they?

Thought this lifestyle was embraced by open minded liberal people. Turns out its not after all!!"

well am a swingle, also have been in a swinging relationship once for nearly 3 years. so perhaps am not a true swinger. yes there are a lot of swingers who really are not open minded liberal people. all i was saying earlier on in posts is that the OP was responding to some parts of peoples answers and not really to other parts.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Whoa, whoa, whoa! Why is the OP being attacked for expressing a desire to understand from the other perspective? It's a genuine question and is in no way selfish.

I absolutely agree with what he is saying. Not every one in the swinging world is comfortable with what someone else is comfortable with. It doesn't make them selfish or less of a swinger than anyone else.!

He swings as a single man and couldn't bear to watch a partner ( if he had one) in a swing environment. News flash..a lot of single men and women feel that way and that's why they swing as single. The fact that couples are happy doing it doesn't mean everyone can!

Jesus, people are so quick to jump on a bandwagon and crucify posts without understanding it!!"

actually... this is where i am going to take umbridge with you and the OP....

so it is okay for you to play with someone else's partner.. but god forbid your partner wanting to play with someone else....

doesn't that seem a bit ironic...

doesn't that seem to be a bit of a double standard....

if he really and truely needs to know the answer to that question, then to be honest I don't think you or him really understand what it is to be a swinger...

I have swung as a couple.. and i have swung as i do now as a single guy....

and before you say "well it is a sex site" which I abhor... it is a swinging site... the big bit at the top says "fabswingers" on it.....

it is an empathy and an understanding, it is all inclusive and consentual, it is a community where we have fun...

it is about EVERYONE getting something out of it.. and I thought that that is the first thing that would have been understood by all parties... so to say "well i wouldn't want someone else touching my partner" screams of arrogence,

screams of jealosy,

screams of people being opotunistic,

screams of people who only care about getting their leg over and sod anyone else.....

if i had a partner and they didn't want to do this I'd give it up in a heartbeat... if I had a partner and they wanted to explore it, I'd let them take it at their own pace...

and if they got turned on by it, I would be more turned on than them.... trust me!

thats why the single guys and girls who "get it" and understand that stick out a mile.... and thats why meets are fanstatic, because everyone is looking out for everyone.. not just themselves...

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By *-and-KCouple
over a year ago

Back of Beyond


"I'm going to jump to the defence of the OP here. What he said is that he couldn't WATCH his wife/GF doing it with another guy. Not that he wouldn't swing. That's why some people prefer seperate room swaps surely? I think a few of you have over reacted at what was a simple quest to understand a different prospectives

Aaaahhh somebody educated enough to read tye message.

I love being with a guys wife. I love that they have selected me to enter there home and sleep with the wife in there marital bed. The fact i have been selected quite often due to my age and other stats turns me on. Knowing im younger and often bigger than hubby so giving wife something he cant REEAAAALLY gets me going. The well hung toyboy role or dom bull is my thing and reason for joining fab.

Many many many couples join to find single guys just like me. I understand what the wife gets out of it but not the hubby. Thats why i ask? What is it that hubbies who watch enjoy? I alsi asked what women get out of having hubbies watch? Power? Dominance?

"

So what you are really saying or STATING is not what the hubby gets out of it bit what YOU get out of it.

You get a high from what you perceive as ridiculing/embarrassing the bloke while shagging his wife in front of him.

What you can't understand is why a guy would allow this to happen. This is where your age and immaturity enter the equation or you would know.

In our case as someone else has already stated, watching your wife with another guy gives you a perspective on sex you don't normally see.

To allow her free reign to express her desire and then also to join in as a 3some making sure her desires are fully exhausted is something only a committed partner could understand.

Oh, I mentioned immaturity. That is your statement about not watching your partner with another guy. Could you tell us here and now, what would you do if your wife/long term girlfriend asked for a 3some with another guy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fabio- you mentioned empathy and understanding.

So why when the guy asks a simple question does he get slated?

Empathy and understanding come from knowledge and he's asked for others' insights.

What happened to an inclusive community of people? We seem to have a situation where you get graded according to your status.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I would imagine:

the husband gets turned on and enjoyment from seeing his loved one being pleasured, experiencing sexual fulfilment without a thought for himself.

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple
over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine

we started out f2f me watching over the years progressed onto soft play with cpls then only over the last year and done the full swap ,always thought what would be like watching the mrs play with a fella ,never thought would actually do it ,first time we booked a hotel went for a drink had a meet lined up at end of the night back at hotel met the fella in bar had a crack on mrs went to room we had another drink followed up ,inbetween all this the buzz was unreal all the ifs and buts going through my head anyway went to room and watched he went she asked how i felt she was thinking what if i didnt enjoy was deavstated ect ffs was horny as fuck and we didnt get much sleep that night or much of the week theres got to be trust there to go thru with it as once its done you cant turn the clock back ,

to answer the op it aint how big or thick it is that dont even come into it i love to see her on all 4s getting pounded then when the fellas gone she gets the same off me thats all can say.

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre


"

actually... this is where i am going to take umbridge with you and the OP....

so it is okay for you to play with someone else's partner.. but god forbid your partner wanting to play with someone else....

doesn't that seem a bit ironic...

doesn't that seem to be a bit of a double standard....

if he really and truely needs to know the answer to that question, then to be honest I don't think you or him really understand what it is to be a swinger...

I have swung as a couple.. and i have swung as i do now as a single guy....

and before you say "well it is a sex site" which I abhor... it is a swinging site... the big bit at the top says "fabswingers" on it.....

it is an empathy and an understanding, it is all inclusive and consentual, it is a community where we have fun...

it is about EVERYONE getting something out of it.. and I thought that that is the first thing that would have been understood by all parties... so to say "well i wouldn't want someone else touching my partner" screams of arrogence,

screams of jealosy,

screams of people being opotunistic,

screams of people who only care about getting their leg over and sod anyone else.....

if i had a partner and they didn't want to do this I'd give it up in a heartbeat... if I had a partner and they wanted to explore it, I'd let them take it at their own pace...

and if they got turned on by it, I would be more turned on than them.... trust me!

thats why the single guys and girls who "get it" and understand that stick out a mile.... and thats why meets are fanstatic, because everyone is looking out for everyone.. not just themselves...

"

Taking umbrage with me and the OP is really not necessary and here's why:

I think you misunderstand what the OP. First of all, the OP is a single guy, he has NO partner!

The OP is saying he can't understand why because he has never been in that position of swinging as a couple. Maybe someday he will find himself in that position and when that time comes, maybe he will deal with the circumstances but CURRENTLY he is not in that position hence why he wants to understand why. Maybe it will turn out that he might come to enjoy swinging as a couple someday, jut as couples on here enjoy it. After all, no couple on here jumped straight to the point they are at. They went through growing pains, teething problems whatever you may call it. See "swinging as a couple" this way.. Its like a journey, some are near the destination others haven't even started (the OP)..he might start this journey someday, who knows, or he might not. But as of NOW, he wants to understand what it feels like to take that journey. On the contrary, I think it's a very good question and insightful. He seeks to understand what he brings to the equation for that couple he meets.

I am sorry but I don't take kindly to you patronising me by saying you know what I am going to say next (well its a sex site)! I wasn't ever going to say that and believe I know its an attitude, a lifestyle thing and not just about sex and thats why I have to have chemistry before I meet someone..

Do you really think most single guys jut wanna get a leg over?? You think this is what it's all about. Maybe some, but sweeping generalizations never did anyone any good..

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over a year ago

I dont know what id do because as ive stated ive never been in the position. At the moment i dont think i would enjoy it. Maybe when im with somebody i may get the same feelings as others on here you enjoy it. Im simply enquiring as to what it is that they enjoy???? I really dont see the problem wanting to see things from another prospective.

I never once said i was into redicule as i am not.

I meet a couple regularly. Hubby picks me up and we go to there where wife is waiting. Sometimes we have a drink and laugh. Some times me and wife play there and then while hubby watches. Others times he goes to the pub and we play while he's out. Some times i stay over and we play all night in there bed whilst he sleeps in spare room. He loves it. Ive asked why and what he gets from it and just wanted _iews of others who play in a similar way??

Seriously what is wrong with that???

If im immature, if im selfish if im not a proper swinger then so be it. But i have fun. The couples i meet have fun so im not really bothered that some of you think i need to grow up and have strange attitude etc. In fact i think some of you need to grow up and respect the preferences of others


"I'm going to jump to the defence of the OP here. What he said is that he couldn't WATCH his wife/GF doing it with another guy. Not that he wouldn't swing. That's why some people prefer seperate room swaps surely? I think a few of you have over reacted at what was a simple quest to understand a different prospectives

Aaaahhh somebody educated enough to read tye message.

I love being with a guys wife. I love that they have selected me to enter there home and sleep with the wife in there marital bed. The fact i have been selected quite often due to my age and other stats turns me on. Knowing im younger and often bigger than hubby so giving wife something he cant REEAAAALLY gets me going. The well hung toyboy role or dom bull is my thing and reason for joining fab.

Many many many couples join to find single guys just like me. I understand what the wife gets out of it but not the hubby. Thats why i ask? What is it that hubbies who watch enjoy? I alsi asked what women get out of having hubbies watch? Power? Dominance?

So what you are really saying or STATING is not what the hubby gets out of it bit what YOU get out of it.

You get a high from what you perceive as ridiculing/embarrassing the bloke while shagging his wife in front of him.

What you can't understand is why a guy would allow this to happen. This is where your age and immaturity enter the equation or you would know.

In our case as someone else has already stated, watching your wife with another guy gives you a perspective on sex you don't normally see.

To allow her free reign to express her desire and then also to join in as a 3some making sure her desires are fully exhausted is something only a committed partner could understand.

Oh, I mentioned immaturity. That is your statement about not watching your partner with another guy. Could you tell us here and now, what would you do if your wife/long term girlfriend asked for a 3some with another guy? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know I might get shot for this but I always thought this site was a resource for consenting adults to find ways of fullfilling desires.

Maybe the internet age has helped swinging evolve?

I wouldnt pigeon hole it as one thing or another because there is a large community of people on board, and with any large group of people there will be differng fantasies, kinks and desires.

So I think lambasting the OP is a bit unfair, is it a sex site? no, but its a community site where the members express their sexual wants in ways that is impossible in other situations.

He may be a niche buts a niche thats still valid and as such his question should be as welcome as anyone elses.

Myself, if I met the one for me, and she had a real desire to enjoy herself with "friends" id support it.

In fact my major turn on is seeing the sexual bliss on a ladies face, its a joy, so for me thats the answer. If I love her I want her to experience as much pleasure and joy as possible!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Nail on the head black metal.

My lack of understanding has nothing to do with age. Im actually very mature. My lack of understanding comes from never hanging been in a position to swing as a couple.

I respond to older couples looking to meet witg toyboys because that is my thing. Its also the couples thing. The wife gets a young lad to have fun with. What does her hubby get??? I was hoping for inaightful discussion which would maybe enhance future meets.

Soooo imature of me eh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read the OP's post to mean that he was asking what a Cuckold got out of it and that he didn't think he would get any enjoyment out of being a Cuckold. Sounds like a simple question to me but maybe it was worded in a way some people didn't understand.

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over a year ago


"What is it that turns you on??

I have had half a dozen threesomes and a few cuckold meetings with married couples. I have loved every one. Just wanted to know from a hubbies prospective what they like about it or how they feel about it.

Im not a jealous type in the slightest but the thought of watching a girlfriend suck another guys cock or getting fucked by him would horrorfy me not turn me on.

So you guys......what is in it for you?? And wives.....what do you think of being with a guy while hubby watches?"

This is one of the reasons we never class single guys as swingers, most just don't have the right mindset!

XXXX

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over a year ago


"What is it that turns you on??

I have had half a dozen threesomes and a few cuckold meetings with married couples. I have loved every one. Just wanted to know from a hubbies prospective what they like about it or how they feel about it.

Im not a jealous type in the slightest but the thought of watching a girlfriend suck another guys cock or getting fucked by him would horrorfy me not turn me on.

So you guys......what is in it for you?? And wives.....what do you think of being with a guy while hubby watches?"

Although not cuckold I like just watching Shaz have fun.

Why?

A few reasons for me although I bet it may be different reason's for others.

I like to see Shaz having fun, if she's happy then I am.

I find it erotic knowing another guy likes my wife enough to have sex with her.

It's better and more real than watching a porno

For us, its naughty as not the sort of thing we was brought up to do.

Can learn things from others that can enhance our own fun.

It can make our own fun more naughty after a meet when we talk about what went on!

I have a fetish for watching others.

I could go on but you get the idea.

And just so you know, I normally only just watch if she's having fun with an email

Tony

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By *nvyCouple
over a year ago

Waltham Cross

Wow Beechy you can't say you didn't start a good opinionated discussion can't believe this thread is still going strong lol

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge


"What is it that turns you on??

I have had half a dozen threesomes and a few cuckold meetings with married couples. I have loved every one. Just wanted to know from a hubbies prospective what they like about it or how they feel about it.

Im not a jealous type in the slightest but the thought of watching a girlfriend suck another guys cock or getting fucked by him would horrorfy me not turn me on.

So you guys......what is in it for you?? And wives.....what do you think of being with a guy while hubby watches?

This is one of the reasons we never class single guys as swingers, most just don't have the right mindset!

XXXX"
amazed at this the op by his own admission enjoys his meets likewise the other partys involved.

but to try and further his understanding decides to ask a question of people in those situations the dogs of war slip and we now have mindsets and not a swinger involved why ????

who is to say anyone is a swinger as we all have preferances and boundaries be happy and not quite so judgmental the guy is only trying to get an insight into what happens for others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

actually... this is where i am going to take umbridge with you and the OP....

so it is okay for you to play with someone else's partner.. but god forbid your partner wanting to play with someone else....

doesn't that seem a bit ironic...

Well said!

doesn't that seem to be a bit of a double standard....

if he really and truely needs to know the answer to that question, then to be honest I don't think you or him really understand what it is to be a swinger...

I have swung as a couple.. and i have swung as i do now as a single guy....

and before you say "well it is a sex site" which I abhor... it is a swinging site... the big bit at the top says "fabswingers" on it.....

it is an empathy and an understanding, it is all inclusive and consentual, it is a community where we have fun...

it is about EVERYONE getting something out of it.. and I thought that that is the first thing that would have been understood by all parties... so to say "well i wouldn't want someone else touching my partner" screams of arrogence,

screams of jealosy,

screams of people being opotunistic,

screams of people who only care about getting their leg over and sod anyone else.....

if i had a partner and they didn't want to do this I'd give it up in a heartbeat... if I had a partner and they wanted to explore it, I'd let them take it at their own pace...

and if they got turned on by it, I would be more turned on than them.... trust me!

thats why the single guys and girls who "get it" and understand that stick out a mile.... and thats why meets are fanstatic, because everyone is looking out for everyone.. not just themselves...

Taking umbrage with me and the OP is really not necessary and here's why:

I think you misunderstand what the OP. First of all, the OP is a single guy, he has NO partner!

The OP is saying he can't understand why because he has never been in that position of swinging as a couple. Maybe someday he will find himself in that position and when that time comes, maybe he will deal with the circumstances but CURRENTLY he is not in that position hence why he wants to understand why. Maybe it will turn out that he might come to enjoy swinging as a couple someday, jut as couples on here enjoy it. After all, no couple on here jumped straight to the point they are at. They went through growing pains, teething problems whatever you may call it. See "swinging as a couple" this way.. Its like a journey, some are near the destination others haven't even started (the OP)..he might start this journey someday, who knows, or he might not. But as of NOW, he wants to understand what it feels like to take that journey. On the contrary, I think it's a very good question and insightful. He seeks to understand what he brings to the equation for that couple he meets.

I am sorry but I don't take kindly to you patronising me by saying you know what I am going to say next (well its a sex site)! I wasn't ever going to say that and believe I know its an attitude, a lifestyle thing and not just about sex and thats why I have to have chemistry before I meet someone..

Do you really think most single guys jut wanna get a leg over?? You think this is what it's all about. Maybe some, but sweeping generalizations never did anyone any good.."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Right now I'm inclined to agree with the majority purely for the fact of the backlash I got from asking him an inoffensive, non nasty question..when you ask a question be prepared for people who don't agree with your _iews

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple
over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine


".when you ask a question be prepared for people who don't agree with your _iews "
i dont agree there like

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple
over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine


".when you ask a question be prepared for people who don't agree with your _iews i dont agree there like"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is it that turns you on??

I have had half a dozen threesomes and a few cuckold meetings with married couples. I have loved every one. Just wanted to know from a hubbies prospective what they like about it or how they feel about it.

Im not a jealous type in the slightest but the thought of watching a girlfriend suck another guys cock or getting fucked by him would horrorfy me not turn me on.

So you guys......what is in it for you?? And wives.....what do you think of being with a guy while hubby watches?

This is one of the reasons we never class single guys as swingers, most just don't have the right mindset!

XXXXamazed at this the op by his own admission enjoys his meets likewise the other partys involved.

but to try and further his understanding decides to ask a question of people in those situations the dogs of war slip and we now have mindsets and not a swinger involved why ????

who is to say anyone is a swinger as we all have preferances and boundaries be happy and not quite so judgmental the guy is only trying to get an insight into what happens for others "

By his own admission, the O.P would be horrified if his girlfriend had sex with other guys.

This seems quite a common attitude from single guys who have posted on similar threads.

So its O.K to go around using other guys wives or partners, under the guise of being a swinger, until they get one of their own.

As we said any guy who has to ask why others like watching their partners enjoy themselves, but would hate seeing their own partner have sex with others, we'd call chancers not swingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


".when you ask a question be prepared for people who don't agree with your _iews i dont agree there like "

what is it you don't agree with?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I like it on my side of the fence but wanted to know what its like on the other.

Me saying i wouldnt like to watch my girl is hypothetical as ive never been in the situation. But im interested in the opinions of those who have.

Some of us are not fortunate enough to have met somebody they want to be in a relationship. If swinging was a closed shop for couples only why is the site open to singles. Maybe its because a hell of a lot of couples are interested in meeting guys just like me. Ive asked a very very very simple question which is.........what is it these couples and prticularly the guys enjoy.

Seemingley enquiring about the enjoyment and desires of others makes me immature, selfish, arrogant and a non swinger???????

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple
over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine


".when you ask a question be prepared for people who don't agree with your _iews i dont agree there like

what is it you don't agree with?"
was a joke i forgot to put the smileys on

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Fabio

There is only one difference between me and you. I am honest enough to admitt that i dont think id like to watch and intrigued by those that do.

Your an high and mighty swinger who in theory would happily allow a non existant partner to swing.

Your here as single male just like me

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge


"What is it that turns you on??

I have had half a dozen threesomes and a few cuckold meetings with married couples. I have loved every one. Just wanted to know from a hubbies prospective what they like about it or how they feel about it.

Im not a jealous type in the slightest but the thought of watching a girlfriend suck another guys cock or getting fucked by him would horrorfy me not turn me on.

So you guys......what is in it for you?? And wives.....what do you think of being with a guy while hubby watches?

This is one of the reasons we never class single guys as swingers, most just don't have the right mindset!

XXXXamazed at this the op by his own admission enjoys his meets likewise the other partys involved.

but to try and further his understanding decides to ask a question of people in those situations the dogs of war slip and we now have mindsets and not a swinger involved why ????

who is to say anyone is a swinger as we all have preferances and boundaries be happy and not quite so judgmental the guy is only trying to get an insight into what happens for others

By his own admission, the O.P would be horrified if his girlfriend had sex with other guys.

This seems quite a common attitude from single guys who have posted on similar threads.

So its O.K to go around using other guys wives or partners, under the guise of being a swinger, until they get one of their own.

As we said any guy who has to ask why others like watching their partners enjoy themselves, but would hate seeing their own partner have sex with others, we'd call chancers not swingers. "
he dosnt have a partner but is showing signs of change by asking questions so you started dating and asked your partners to immidiatly become full blown swingers? or was it a gradual thing until you got to the point you are at now. also why only single guys? surly single fems should be involved in this not a swinger or bad mindset scenario opppps forgot the swinging world revolves around the single fem as lots (not saying yourselfs) of couples have no single males on their profile my point in this was live and let live the guy is exploring new things and wanted an insight into somthing that may intrest him in the future until then he and his meets are happy problem solved

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Fabio

There is only one difference between me and you. I am honest enough to admitt that i dont think id like to watch and intrigued by those that do.

Your an high and mighty swinger who in theory would happily allow a non existant partner to swing.

Your here as single male just like me"

I may be here as a single bloke... but judging by your Opening Post... the only thing we share is air......

and as for the non existant partner... well if you had read my post you would have known that I had swing as both a single guy and a couple....

so thanks for playing.... do you have anything else?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'The fact she loves a younger dom/bull'

Did this guy really say this, we dont think any couples you ve been lucky enough to meet have said they love you !

Have they ?

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


".when you ask a question be prepared for people who don't agree with your _iews i dont agree there like

what is it you don't agree with?was a joke i forgot to put the smileys on "

Ah got ya

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is it that turns you on??

I have had half a dozen threesomes and a few cuckold meetings with married couples. I have loved every one. Just wanted to know from a hubbies prospective what they like about it or how they feel about it.

Im not a jealous type in the slightest but the thought of watching a girlfriend suck another guys cock or getting fucked by him would horrorfy me not turn me on.

So you guys......what is in it for you?? And wives.....what do you think of being with a guy while hubby watches?"

If you would like an answer to this why not ask the guy of the couple you meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hy

in reply its a few things

1. seeing your wife totally hot and horny for cock

2. the feeling of helplessness as a thick cock rams into her and you know theres nothing you can do to stop it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is it that turns you on??

I have had half a dozen threesomes and a few cuckold meetings with married couples. I have loved every one. Just wanted to know from a hubbies prospective what they like about it or how they feel about it.

Im not a jealous type in the slightest but the thought of watching a girlfriend suck another guys cock or getting fucked by him would horrorfy me not turn me on.

So you guys......what is in it for you?? And wives.....what do you think of being with a guy while hubby watches?

If you would like an answer to this why not ask the guy of the couple you meet"

Quite so....

I've always believed in walking a mile in the other mans shoes...

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is it that turns you on??

I have had half a dozen threesomes and a few cuckold meetings with married couples. I have loved every one. Just wanted to know from a hubbies prospective what they like about it or how they feel about it.

Im not a jealous type in the slightest but the thought of watching a girlfriend suck another guys cock or getting fucked by him would horrorfy me not turn me on.

So you guys......what is in it for you?? And wives.....what do you think of being with a guy while hubby watches?"

Why didn't you just ask the couples you'd been with?

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"I read the OP's post to mean that he was asking what a Cuckold got out of it and that he didn't think he would get any enjoyment out of being a Cuckold. Sounds like a simple question to me but maybe it was worded in a way some people didn't understand. "

And if he had asked that we could have had a great adult discussion about D/s relatonships...many people call themselves doms or bulls without the least understanding of cuck relations or BDSM.

Whilst humiliation isnt a great part of our relationship(Sir says he has fond more fun ways to make me cry )i do enjoy it and could have probably shared insights into the way being humiliated and degraded makes me feel towards him.

However someone who says they would be horrified at the thought of their girlfriend giving someone a bj doesnt seem the person who wants to have an open non judgemental discussion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love watching my lady with other men, when we play together I generally never play with anyone as I enjoy watching her too much!

Never thought that would be my thing when we got into swinging, I thought it would be us and other couples. But the first time I watched my wife straddle another guys cock, it was the sexiest image I had EVER seen! Suddenly I had no interest in the other women in the club, I just wanted to watch her!

There is nothing I have ever seen that compares to just how mindblowingly sexy it is to see my wife have sex with other guys. To see her satisfying herself and loads of guys, to see her lost in the complete wild abandon of group sex, to see the look on her face as she orgasms again and again, to see the look of pure pleasure on her face. Its sex, pure and simple. It makes her happy to get lots of sex, it makes me happy to see her happy. So its a win win situation!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I REALLY enjoy having fun with wives while there husbands WATCH/JOIN IN . i have in the past swung with a girlfriend of here and invited fellas back to share her ! never jealous , however we met a couple together of here and she cried when i started to have fun with the other woman , we immediately stopped , it was ok for her to have fun , but not for me to play , FRANKIE

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

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"women/cpls do it too,and generally without making this the OPs poor choosing or words like 'jealousy', I do believe no longer than a few days ago some couples mentioned the greeneyed monster...without such a backlash(a fucking early one at that).

And I believe it may b agreed that jealousy comes in so many forms, without it dictating a lack of swinging understanding.

to the OPs question, I love seeing my past present an future partners getting fucked...just as long as its not anyway of getting out of a 'relationship'.Of course if there is another woman half I can fuck too thats equally as enjoyable."

I have only got down to your post, I dread to think whats below it....but I agree with what you have said.

Not everyone can play these games, we are not all the same. If the man doesn't think he could do this with a G/F, then all he is doing is being honest.

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By *ov coupleCouple
over a year ago

coleford

here here

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By *teve CDMan
over a year ago

hull villages

it was other way round with me she couldn't see me another woman but two men she was happy

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

Wow... I feel sorry for the OP. Some of the replies in this thread have made me cringe.

I think that some couples who have replied may have forgotten how they felt when they first started swinging.

When Mrs ex-_arambar and I first opened up our relationship to others we both felt an immense feeling of uncertainty and anxiety about what we were doing. Societal norms are such that swinging is seen as being immoral... we are taught from a very young age to be monogamous, "to love and to cherish from this day forward until death us do part", yada yada yada.

If I had been asked before we opened up our relationship whether I was happy to see her having sex with another man, then my answer would have been a definitive no. If I was in a relationship now and I was asked the same question then my answer would be very different... it would be a yes, although it would evolve around whether it was something she wanted to do, and whether it was something we were open and honest about and not done in a deceitful way, etc...

I doubt many (any..?) couples on here simply went straight to being at complete ease with their partner having sex with someone else, without passing Go and without collecting £200.

The OP is not in a relationship currently and, from what he has said, hasn't been in a swinging relationship with a previous partner. Therefore it's normal that he's got questions about how it feels, why you'd do it, what emotions you experience, etc... He doesn't have a partner to discuss these things with, so instead of ignoring it and not seeking the answers, he asks an innocent enough question to try to understand it... yet he gets berated for doing so. Maybe he should have just not bothered trying to further his understanding.

The OP's choice of language may have been unfortunate for some words, but I don't think that justifies some of the replies he has received in this thread.

Just my 2¢. I'm pretty thick skinned, so feel free to disagree with my thoughts. Happy to discuss

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

Oh, and as for the comment about the OP being immature because he may not want to see his partner having sex with other people.... what a complete load of utter bollocks.

Not everybody is into swinging. As far as I'm aware, my family members aren't swingers, neither are my colleagues at work nor my neighbours... are you seriously suggesting they are immature because they don't believe in polygamy?

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"Wow... I feel sorry for the OP. Some of the replies in this thread have made me cringe.

I think that some couples who have replied may have forgotten how they felt when they first started swinging.

When Mrs ex-_arambar and I first opened up our relationship to others we both felt an immense feeling of uncertainty and anxiety about what we were doing. Societal norms are such that swinging is seen as being immoral... we are taught from a very young age to be monogamous, "to love and to cherish from this day forward until death us do part", yada yada yada.

If I had been asked before we opened up our relationship whether I was happy to see her having sex with another man, then my answer would have been a definitive no. If I was in a relationship now and I was asked the same question then my answer would be very different... it would be a yes, although it would evolve around whether it was something she wanted to do, and whether it was something we were open and honest about and not done in a deceitful way, etc...

I doubt many (any..?) couples on here simply went straight to being at complete ease with their partner having sex with someone else, without passing Go and without collecting £200.

The OP is not in a relationship currently and, from what he has said, hasn't been in a swinging relationship with a previous partner. Therefore it's normal that he's got questions about how it feels, why you'd do it, what emotions you experience, etc... He doesn't have a partner to discuss these things with, so instead of ignoring it and not seeking the answers, he asks an innocent enough question to try to understand it... yet he gets berated for doing so. Maybe he should have just not bothered trying to further his understanding.

The OP's choice of language may have been unfortunate for some words, but I don't think that justifies some of the replies he has received in this thread.

Just my 2¢. I'm pretty thick skinned, so feel free to disagree with my thoughts. Happy to discuss "

We did...we talked,we shared,we fantasized,we fucked...neither of us were ever "horrified" at the idea.

Have all the sympathy for the op u like,personally someone who will fuck other mens wives but has such strong feelings about someone they are in a relationship with that they would feel horror at the idea of them swinging is a hypocrite.

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

As I said, I think some of the vocabulary employed was perhaps unfortunate. However, I can empathise with his feeling as I had similar questions when starting out down this road... if it had been me posting, though, I would have chosen words that were less emotive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't really answer in relation to cuckolding because I don't understand that. We are not into cuckolding.

We do play with single guys though. I think a lot of single guys mistakenly believe that the hubby is in some way lacking sexually and the wife requires another younger man to fulfil her. It is rarely about that, the single guy is an extra cock cos hubby doesn't have two, that's all.

All couples who play with single guys are not into cuckolding.

The reason my OH enjoys the threesome is not because he wants me to be fulfilled because he knows he is the one doing this. He knows that the way he has sex with me is what turns me on. He visually enjoys seeing me with two cocks because we can't do this on our own. He enjoys taking me from behind whilst I'm sucking someone else because it feels like our own little porn scenario.

I would say that in every threesome that we've had, my OH is the more dominant participant.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I think as iconic said... the most common misconception out there, especially in a lot of single guys, is that people do it to replace something that is missing, as opposed to an addition to any loving relationship....

and the "well i wouldn't want to do this with my other half" comments don't really help with dispelling that misconception.... which I can fully understand would get a lot of backs up.. especially of couples......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't have a problem with the OP asking a question and some of the answers have been quite vehement but probably because of the language used in the original post.

For me it's quite simple.

The OP has quite extensive experience of what could be called a cuck/bull scenario yet having enjoyed the lady he has no idea what it is the gent gets out of it.

I'm sorry this smacks very much of a single guy just looking for a legover.

Single guys have a huge role in this lifestyle as swingers and they can be easily differentiated from the leg over merchants.

I enjoy sharing Elle, taking a rush from seeing her with another guy but also knowing that when he/they leave I'll be left with the wife I adore. I would never do this with a guy who didn't know what I got out of it.

So for me, it's good that the OP is looking to learn and I don't think it matters whether he would share his gf or not. What is worrying is that he freely describes himself as a bull, if he doesn't understand swinging then he certainly won't understand that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think as iconic said... the most common misconception out there, especially in a lot of single guys, is that people do it to replace something that is missing, as opposed to an addition to any loving relationship....

and the "well i wouldn't want to do this with my other half" comments don't really help with dispelling that misconception.... which I can fully understand would get a lot of backs up.. especially of couples......

"

That's spot on!

I haven't got time for single men that think that they are 'making up' for something that the 'think' is lacking in OUR relationship.

Do we need single men to keep me happy? No!

Do we want single men to make me happy? No! ....I'm already happy with what my husband gives me

Do we like respectful single men being introduced into our extremely happy relationship extra 'fun'? Yes!

The same goes for single ladies and couples. It's a case of we do what we 'want' to do in a very 'none-needy' way.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"Don't have a problem with the OP asking a question and some of the answers have been quite vehement but probably because of the language used in the original post.

For me it's quite simple.

The OP has quite extensive experience of what could be called a cuck/bull scenario yet having enjoyed the lady he has no idea what it is the gent gets out of it.

I'm sorry this smacks very much of a single guy just looking for a legover.

Single guys have a huge role in this lifestyle as swingers and they can be easily differentiated from the leg over merchants.

I enjoy sharing Elle, taking a rush from seeing her with another guy but also knowing that when he/they leave I'll be left with the wife I adore. I would never do this with a guy who didn't know what I got out of it.

So for me, it's good that the OP is looking to learn and I don't think it matters whether he would share his gf or not. What is worrying is that he freely describes himself as a bull, if he doesn't understand swinging then he certainly won't understand that. "

^^^^this....if i had a penny for every man who described themselves as a bull or Dom,who didnt have a clue i wud currently be naked on a private island in Greece.

Being a bull,a good one at least,is about enhancing the sex life of both partners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is one of the reasons I rarely post anymore.

The guy asked a question stated how he thought he might feel and asked what other people get out of it!

He was curious and maybe some constructive answers would have made him more understanding. Instead he got treated with the usual single guy, derrision and rudeness.

I don't understand the whole slave master thing the whole idea turns my stomach. I don't berrate other people for it. Each to their own. I don't like the married and cheating either but again each to their own.

The thought of sitting there watching his hypothetical wife/girlfriend at the moment fills him with horror and said he didn't think he could do it.

He just asked a question. I thought swinging was about having fun with like minded people. Sharing experiences and experimenting with your sexuality. We are not all of the same mind or same tastes. If we were life would be very boring.

Some people seem to berrate a person for being here when single then dipping out of the scene when in a relationship. Or having a go at a person who stays in the scene and cheats. Seems you can't win no matter what you do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow poor op although he seems to Have held his own....

What does my master get from watching me with others...

Well he gets a huge buzz.... He love's to see the little looks I give him while playing... He loves to see me enjoy myself.... He gets a sense of pride too...

Sometimes its because I've been ordered to do something... So its a sense of watching his slave follow masters instructions...

But mostly... It's because my master enjoys watching we pleasured and enjoying myself....although for us the best bit is always after.. when we have time to ourselves...

I think that the fact the op isn't sure he could handle it is normal.. after all I've talked to many couples who don't have single guys as the guy doesn't like seeing his partner with the other guys.... Same thing really...

Cali, x

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre


"This is one of the reasons I rarely post anymore.

The guy asked a question stated how he thought he might feel and asked what other people get out of it!

He was curious and maybe some constructive answers would have made him more understanding. Instead he got treated with the usual single guy, derrision and rudeness.

I don't understand the whole slave master thing the whole idea turns my stomach. I don't berrate other people for it. Each to their own. I don't like the married and cheating either but again each to their own.

The thought of sitting there watching his hypothetical wife/girlfriend at the moment fills him with horror and said he didn't think he could do it.

He just asked a question. I thought swinging was about having fun with like minded people. Sharing experiences and experimenting with your sexuality. We are not all of the same mind or same tastes. If we were life would be very boring.

Some people seem to berrate a person for being here when single then dipping out of the scene when in a relationship. Or having a go at a person who stays in the scene and cheats. Seems you can't win no matter what you do.

"

Thank you! My point exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I think that the fact the op isn't sure he could handle it is normal.. after all I've talked to many couples who don't have single guys as the guy doesn't like seeing his partner with the other guys.... Same thing really..."

To be fair, I've heard some single girls say the same thing cali that they wouldn't be sure if they could share a male partner in front of their eyes, and more interestingly (perhaps almost territorially) have the male partner ejaculate inside them

People who have only ever swung single have a different model to embrace when it comes to doing it with a partner - that's shown in the OPs anxiety about it. The OP will only know when the time comes. Single people need to learn that swinging is not due to a death or failure in a relationship. That partners don't immediately want to run off with the next single male or female that has them. Swinging for a couple is a liberation. Wh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oops... I should have plugged in the mouse

Wolf

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

for some a meet on here makes them territorial... and they are single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have watched this thread with interest and can see it from 2 sides.

The first is I have been swinging since 2003 as a single guy and in all that time I always saw myself as an addition to the couples I played with sex life.

Although we are all their to have fun I always new that I was there to help enhance their fun, whilst also having a lot of fun myself.

The second _iew is I am now in a relationship and am totally loved up and when we got together I told her all about my lifestyle !!! and she was very intersted as she has always wanted to try some bi fun !!!

So after lots of talking we set up a couples profile on here, we haven't played yet as we are both unsure how we would react seeing each other play with someone else,

Peronally I don't think I would have to much of a problem with her playing with another guy, and now for a fact I wouldn't have a problem seeing her play with another girl lol !!!

However....

She has said she doesn't think she could cope with seeing me with another women !!! she thinks she wouldn't like the idea of me giving pleasure to someone else !!!

So thee it is from both sides of the coin.

As for the OP I think he had a valid question, and in my opinion some did go to town on him just for being honest and asking an honest question.

Maybe he could have worded it slightly better but thats all.

We are all on here to have fun and meet some great and interesting people, and if we were all the same then life would be pretty boring.

Peace and love everyone and hey it's nearly Christmas be nice !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have watched this thread with interest and can see it from 2 sides.

The first is I have been swinging since 2003 as a single guy and in all that time I always saw myself as an addition to the couples I played with sex life.

Although we are all their to have fun I always new that I was there to help enhance their fun, whilst also having a lot of fun myself.

The second _iew is I am now in a relationship and am totally loved up and when we got together I told her all about my lifestyle !!! and she was very intersted as she has always wanted to try some bi fun !!!

So after lots of talking we set up a couples profile on here, we haven't played yet as we are both unsure how we would react seeing each other play with someone else,

Peronally I don't think I would have to much of a problem with her playing with another guy, and now for a fact I wouldn't have a problem seeing her play with another girl lol !!!

However....

She has said she doesn't think she could cope with seeing me with another women !!! she thinks she wouldn't like the idea of me giving pleasure to someone else !!!

So thee it is from both sides of the coin.

As for the OP I think he had a valid question, and in my opinion some did go to town on him just for being honest and asking an honest question.

Maybe he could have worded it slightly better but thats all.

We are all on here to have fun and meet some great and interesting people, and if we were all the same then life would be pretty boring.

Peace and love everyone and hey it's nearly Christmas be nice !!!!

"

Tell you what...

When we got together, we wrote our own questionnaire so we could work out boundaries and anything awkward we might need to help each other over. We came up with an exhaustive collection of rules which we decided we would vehemently stick to...

...and then after our first meet, we folded those rules into a paper plane and launched it at the bin. We didn't need those rules ever again, just a debrief

So yes, good luck to you both, and have a great Christmas too

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is one of the reasons I rarely post anymore.

The guy asked a question stated how he thought he might feel and asked what other people get out of it!

He was curious and maybe some constructive answers would have made him more understanding. Instead he got treated with the usual single guy, derrision and rudeness.

I don't understand the whole slave master thing the whole idea turns my stomach. I don't berrate other people for it. Each to their own. I don't like the married and cheating either but again each to their own.

The thought of sitting there watching his hypothetical wife/girlfriend at the moment fills him with horror and said he didn't think he could do it.

He just asked a question. I thought swinging was about having fun with like minded people. Sharing experiences and experimenting with your sexuality. We are not all of the same mind or same tastes. If we were life would be very boring.

Some people seem to berrate a person for being here when single then dipping out of the scene when in a relationship. Or having a go at a person who stays in the scene and cheats. Seems you can't win no matter what you do.

Very well said !

"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you to all those sensible responses. I now have an insight into what my involvement brings to them.

The secret looks, smiles and touches of each other have gone unnoticed to me but i can understand that tenderness and loving to each other in that situation.

I am alway interested in many if the guys thoughts when guys leave. Many of the guys who watch find arousal in single guys being turned on by their wives, by being pleasured by their wives but at the end of the night the single guy leaves and the wife remains with hubby. I see this as a slight contradiction to what others say. Some people with the "correct mindset" you know the people are "real swingers" state thtbits all about mutual fun etc and not ownership. However it would appear the guys whonget a thrill out of knowing the single guy is enjoying "his" lady and at the end "his" lady stays with him. I see this very much as an ownership / showing off / reclaiming excercise which to my mind contradicts everything what those have slated me have said represnts "real swingers"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there is a lot of pleasure in swinging and seeing your partner enjoying but there is really nothing better for us than that moment of reclaim.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"there is a lot of pleasure in swinging and seeing your partner enjoying but there is really nothing better for us than that moment of reclaim."

mmmmmmm +2

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Oh my.

I did write a huge big post then deleted it, as a lot of posts have said what I wanted to say.

To the OP....if you had opened your post with " I like to fuck other peoples wives but there is no way any man would be getting near my wife " then I could understand some reactions, but as it was your post was a valid one ( although some will say the wording wasn't suited to them)

Assumptions and reading between lines are not always a good thing.

As for telling someone they are immature/ need to grow up because they don't think they will want to swing ....it has nothing to do with age, it is what your own mind wants.

Not everyone wants to swing otherwise the whole adult population would be on here.....and not everyone wants to swing the same way as " real " swingers.

We are all different in how we do things, there is not a right and a wrong way.

To the question....My OH loves to see me enjoy myself with another man/ men and I love watching him enjoying it knowing how much it is turning him on.

I don't think I can explain it anymore so sorry, my answer is short.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"there is a lot of pleasure in swinging and seeing your partner enjoying but there is really nothing better for us than that moment of reclaim.

mmmmmmm +2 "

Oooooohhhh.... my favourite part +3

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But yet again if you have been in the situation several times why not just ask the male half of the couples youve been with

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon


"But yet again if you have been in the situation several times why not just ask the male half of the couples youve been with"

Not being funny but I think that the OP has demonstrated, by his replies in this thread, that he is smarter than the average bear (no offence to any bears reading this). Maybe he thought it would be inappropriate, maybe the right occasion to do so never arose, maybe the couples he has met have all been from the planet Zogg and their grasp of the English language is somewhat lacking.

Or maybe these meets never happened and this was all an elaborate "look at me" thread created so that he would generate more hits on his profile with the intention of hopefully attract the attention of people who would have otherwise been completely unaware that his profile even exists. Y'know how it goes... an infinite number of monkeys with an infinite number of typewriters and an infinite amount of time - perhaps there's a correlation here, and whilst there's only a finite number of members on this site, perhaps if you get enough page hits eventually you'll find someone who's interested in meeting.

Oh, if only there was a website for swingers that had a forum, including a section for asking swinging-related questions, where he could have instead asked the question and got the thoughts of hundreds of other swingers.

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"But yet again if you have been in the situation several times why not just ask the male half of the couples youve been with

Not being funny but I think that the OP has demonstrated, by his replies in this thread, that he is smarter than the average bear (no offence to any bears reading this). Maybe he thought it would be inappropriate, maybe the right occasion to do so never arose, maybe the couples he has met have all been from the planet Zogg and their grasp of the English language is somewhat lacking.

Or maybe these meets never happened and this was all an elaborate "look at me" thread created so that he would generate more hits on his profile with the intention of hopefully attract the attention of people who would have otherwise been completely unaware that his profile even exists. Y'know how it goes... an infinite number of monkeys with an infinite number of typewriters and an infinite amount of time - perhaps there's a correlation here, and whilst there's only a finite number of members on this site, perhaps if you get enough page hits eventually you'll find someone who's interested in meeting.

Oh, if only there was a website for swingers that had a forum, including a section for asking swinging-related questions, where he could have instead asked the question and got the thoughts of hundreds of other swingers. "

Right well being a swinging couple looking for single men, if our meet turned up and asked Mr what he got out of it he would not be offended and any couple who made the person feel uncomfortable for asking something like that aren't very accommodating for people with questions... everyone has questions and lets face it communication is key to everything. If you cant ask that kind of thing to someone your about to Fuck or be watched by who can you ask without being penalized?

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