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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've been on for a while but nobody seems to be interested in an average guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Copied from a post by MrsTrells:

MRS TRELLIS’S TEN TOP TIPS FOR FAB SUCCESS FOR MEN:

Ok - here goes – ten steps to success! There are so many men on Fab that you need to be better than about 80% of them. Do ALL of these steps over six months and you’ll be doing well.

1. Verification - Get verified and display those veris. Cam verified is a start before you’ve met anyone. This will make you seem more trust-worthy and will mean your profile is visible to people who have blocked unverified men. Women are constantly managing the risk of meeting internet strangers so veris help us to assess whether you’re likely to be safe or not.

2. Pictures – it’s NOT about being gym fit. Lots of men are not gym fit but have lovely pics. Black and white and arty. Avoid cock pics. A smiling face pic is great if you’re able to be that open.

3. Forum - a bit of a presence in the forum will put your profile “out there” (be only ever positive, chatty, literate and kind). But forum women (the really pretty ones who post a lot) get MASSIVE amounts of mail so don’t be disheartened if they aren’t interested. Lots of other women read the forum without posting. Never EVER moan or be critical. You search for a person’s posts using this link (replacing my username with theirs and using underscores for spaces): https://m.fabswingers.com/forum-poster/mrstrellis

4. Your profile –

a. You need a detailed but not too long profile.

b. Start with something unpushy. “Fancy a cuppa? Pull up a chair!” “Fancy seeing you here!”

c. Spelling and grammar really, really matter (apostrophes in the right places, discreet/discrete, their/there/they’re, you’re/your have different meanings so pick the one you mean.

d. Have something to hang a conversation on. “My favourite place in the world is x” or “I love Game of Thrones and Countdown”. “If I could be anyone it would be Kermit the Frog”. Anything.

e. Weave a fantasy: “I like hard, passionate sex, pulling at each other’s clothes and kissing to the floor. Sex that leaves us both panting, with a wild look in our eyes” or “I love sensual touching, stroking and massage. I love to see goose pimples appear as my fingers flow over you”. They’re really different in tone but it helps the reader understand you.

5. Get out there – go to Fab socials and to clubs. Be chatty, smiley and don’t cling to anyone. Make yourself go six times before you give up. Always smiling, always chatty. Make contacts, get more veris.

6. When you’re messaging –

a. for couples, talk to both in every message.

b. for women, never mention sex before she does. If she mentions sex or meeting then changes the subject, wait until she brings it up again.

c. aim to be a friend. That’s the tone. Sprinkle lightly with flirting.

d. keep messages short and chatty. End on a question every time.

e. consider a gimmick to allow regular contact. One guy brings me “tea” each morning. It’s means we chat every day.

f. don’t pull women up on being slow to respond or for disappearing. It can be a full time job to deal with messages so some get a bit “direct” or overwhelmed. If she’s talking to you at all, she probably likes you, so don’t mess it up by getting grumpy with her.

7. Understand how the “updates” tab works

a. you’re in the local updates for your area. If you travel somewhere else, change your postcode in the “my details” tab on your profile. Then you’ll appear in that area.

b. use your status update every day. Something chatty, funny, always positive. Never ever “why don’t women reply”. The reason for doing it is that it puts you onto people’s local updates, and, if relevant, onto their friend updates and hotlist updates too. “I’m going to the ice cream van. Who fancies a 99?” or whatever.

c. Don’t be afraid to put up a meet if you have your place to yourself. List the meet and mention it in your status. “Free for coffee and cake and a chinwag tomorrow”.

8. Learn from guys who are doing well. Consider “hotlisting” some successful men to watch how they manage their profiles. It’ll drop them into your “updates” section so you can see what they’re doing. Hotlisting is private so they won’t know they’re hotlisted but you’ll see how they do status updates and things.

9. Some people are nuts. Prepare yourself for the odd one to turn bunny-boiler on you. It’s usually rooted in vulnerability but played out as aggression or passive aggression. Try to respond with kindness but don’t let anyone take the piss. Kindly distance yourself.

10. Final bits:

a. “Cannot accommodate” suggests you’re married and playing away without permission. Explain why you can’t accommodate if it’s a different reason.

b. Narrow the age range you’re looking for if you haven’t already: 18-99 is too broad.

c. In your profile title, don’t have anything crude or grumpy. “Happy, chatty, smiley, funny cheeky chappy”. Or something. Nothing about sex.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’ve already had a meet, which considering your profile is a burnt sparse isn’t doing too badly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been on for a while but nobody seems to be interested in an average guy"
write a worthwhile resumeeeeee and put great pics up photoshop them oh and wear white the women go wild in the aisles for white

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough


"I've been on for a while but nobody seems to be interested in an average guy"

Your profile is below average and your cock pic awful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'feel free to ask will add more later'

I can assure you that no one is going to ask you anything. If you can't be bothered to write a half arsed profile, then why would people waste their time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been on for a while but nobody seems to be interested in an average guy

Your profile is below average and your cock pic awful. "

...... but apart from that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cock pic is poor. At least try and make it look like it could please a vagina. Profile text is nondescript, and your face pics.. Why are you pulling a face and trying to give yourself an extra 2 chins?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I can't help the way I look

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By *ugs and JunkCouple
over a year ago

Bellshill

You need to expand your profile it’s too sparse.

The pics of your cock are not flattering with your pants round your ankles and a messy floor. Also unkempt pubes are a turn off for most people.

Practice taking selfies if you’re going to have face pics on display. The poses you are pulling are not flattering.

Lastly this is a personal opinion, we wouldn’t meet you based on your verification from a glory hole situation. It might put others off to

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Copied from a post by MrsTrells:

MRS TRELLIS’S TEN TOP TIPS FOR FAB SUCCESS FOR MEN:

Ok - here goes – ten steps to success! There are so many men on Fab that you need to be better than about 80% of them. Do ALL of these steps over six months and you’ll be doing well.

1. Verification - Get verified and display those veris. Cam verified is a start before you’ve met anyone. This will make you seem more trust-worthy and will mean your profile is visible to people who have blocked unverified men. Women are constantly managing the risk of meeting internet strangers so veris help us to assess whether you’re likely to be safe or not.

2. Pictures – it’s NOT about being gym fit. Lots of men are not gym fit but have lovely pics. Black and white and arty. Avoid cock pics. A smiling face pic is great if you’re able to be that open.

3. Forum - a bit of a presence in the forum will put your profile “out there” (be only ever positive, chatty, literate and kind). But forum women (the really pretty ones who post a lot) get MASSIVE amounts of mail so don’t be disheartened if they aren’t interested. Lots of other women read the forum without posting. Never EVER moan or be critical. You search for a person’s posts using this link (replacing my username with theirs and using underscores for spaces): https://m.fabswingers.com/forum-poster/mrstrellis

4. Your profile –

a. You need a detailed but not too long profile.

b. Start with something unpushy. “Fancy a cuppa? Pull up a chair!” “Fancy seeing you here!”

c. Spelling and grammar really, really matter (apostrophes in the right places, discreet/discrete, their/there/they’re, you’re/your have different meanings so pick the one you mean.

d. Have something to hang a conversation on. “My favourite place in the world is x” or “I love Game of Thrones and Countdown”. “If I could be anyone it would be Kermit the Frog”. Anything.

e. Weave a fantasy: “I like hard, passionate sex, pulling at each other’s clothes and kissing to the floor. Sex that leaves us both panting, with a wild look in our eyes” or “I love sensual touching, stroking and massage. I love to see goose pimples appear as my fingers flow over you”. They’re really different in tone but it helps the reader understand you.

5. Get out there – go to Fab socials and to clubs. Be chatty, smiley and don’t cling to anyone. Make yourself go six times before you give up. Always smiling, always chatty. Make contacts, get more veris.

6. When you’re messaging –

a. for couples, talk to both in every message.

b. for women, never mention sex before she does. If she mentions sex or meeting then changes the subject, wait until she brings it up again.

c. aim to be a friend. That’s the tone. Sprinkle lightly with flirting.

d. keep messages short and chatty. End on a question every time.

e. consider a gimmick to allow regular contact. One guy brings me “tea” each morning. It’s means we chat every day.

f. don’t pull women up on being slow to respond or for disappearing. It can be a full time job to deal with messages so some get a bit “direct” or overwhelmed. If she’s talking to you at all, she probably likes you, so don’t mess it up by getting grumpy with her.

7. Understand how the “updates” tab works

a. you’re in the local updates for your area. If you travel somewhere else, change your postcode in the “my details” tab on your profile. Then you’ll appear in that area.

b. use your status update every day. Something chatty, funny, always positive. Never ever “why don’t women reply”. The reason for doing it is that it puts you onto people’s local updates, and, if relevant, onto their friend updates and hotlist updates too. “I’m going to the ice cream van. Who fancies a 99?” or whatever.

c. Don’t be afraid to put up a meet if you have your place to yourself. List the meet and mention it in your status. “Free for coffee and cake and a chinwag tomorrow”.

8. Learn from guys who are doing well. Consider “hotlisting” some successful men to watch how they manage their profiles. It’ll drop them into your “updates” section so you can see what they’re doing. Hotlisting is private so they won’t know they’re hotlisted but you’ll see how they do status updates and things.

9. Some people are nuts. Prepare yourself for the odd one to turn bunny-boiler on you. It’s usually rooted in vulnerability but played out as aggression or passive aggression. Try to respond with kindness but don’t let anyone take the piss. Kindly distance yourself.

10. Final bits:

a. “Cannot accommodate” suggests you’re married and playing away without permission. Explain why you can’t accommodate if it’s a different reason.

b. Narrow the age range you’re looking for if you haven’t already: 18-99 is too broad.

c. In your profile title, don’t have anything crude or grumpy. “Happy, chatty, smiley, funny cheeky chappy”. Or something. Nothing about sex.

Good luck."

This is brilliant!

If only any guy ever actually took it onboard!

Having said that - a lot of women could do to take some of these pointers on board too!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What needs to be expanded?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What needs to be expanded?"

Some would say your cock reading up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't help the way I look "
that's true but on the getting taken seriously front start a political thread and come up with good convincing arguments why ukip should win....... You will have credibility instantly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't help the way I look "

You can. You have a haircut now and again don't you? You shave don't you? You wash don't you, and brush your teeth? These things make you look nicer.. So don't say you can't help the way you look because that's just nonsense and an excuse to be lazy. Try a more flattering pose or get someone else to take photos of you instead of taking selfies. A thick thatch of pubes isn't desirable to most either.. Trim them at least.

Your photos look like they were taken by a potato.

You're competing with thousands of other guys on here.. Have a look at others profiles that have verifications and see how they look on their pics.. Clean, smart, clear photos, tidy surroundings etc.. Without sounding overly harsh, your profile as it stands wouldn't make the top 99% yet alone the top 10.

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