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Are you an instigator?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

In meet situations, there is usually smalltalk before folks get into the swing of things..(see what I did there?)

So do you instigate?

Or wait for them to make their move?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we normally wait as we are a bit shy till our clothes come off

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By *toneblueMan
over a year ago

Southampton

I only instigate if I'm sure it will be welcome - and that can take quite a while with some, there can be a long period of chatting before I can tell one way or the other. If the signs are there, I will make a move, but I like to be certain. So smalltalk either continues until the signs are there or it just comes to an end. That's how it's been for me, if I can find a streamlined method all the better!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I suppose a fuck is out of the question?

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By *ouplefunukCouple
over a year ago

North Bristol

I've started instigating me!!! There have been occasions where we needed to be getting on with it and if I hadn't just thrown my clothes off, nothing would have happened

*Her*

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"In meet situations, there is usually smalltalk before folks get into the swing of things..(see what I did there?)

So do you instigate?

Or wait for them to make their move?

"

We will usually wait for the couple/single to make the first move.

But I (Mrs) have instigated on a couple of occasions at parties. But it took me almost the whole evening to pluck up the courage...lol

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

If its a 3some i tend to instigate as kev needs to know that am happy, couples we tend to wait for that group agreement,but if im horny i often just cut to the chase

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From the meets ive had i think its about even.

2nd meet said after sitting down on her bed 'I find it more comfortable relaxing with my trousers off' and just took them off.

To which i agreed and took mine off too. we were sat there fore about 5 minutes before any touching started, but i still think that means she instigated things lol

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By *toneblueMan
over a year ago

Southampton


"So I suppose a fuck is out of the question? "

Now stop beating about the bush 'rossa, what are you trying to say? Is that a sign?

;-)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So I suppose a fuck is out of the question?

Now stop beating about the bush 'rossa, what are you trying to say? Is that a sign?

;-)"

"No Entry" is a sign!

I think I may have to join the diplomatic service, my subtlety knows no bounds

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By *toneblueMan
over a year ago

Southampton


"So I suppose a fuck is out of the question?

Now stop beating about the bush 'rossa, what are you trying to say? Is that a sign?

;-)

"No Entry" is a sign!

I think I may have to join the diplomatic service, my subtlety knows no bounds "

So is "Welcome".

Also, "Tradesmen's Entrance"

Subtlety's overrated anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i normally wait until the other person brings it up

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple
over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine

our lass usually with ok then shall we have a shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kate normally starts it off. She'll usually leave the room, then come back in dressed or rather undressed for play. Then it just happens, lol

If they had to wait for me to make the first move, they'd wait all night

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

as i am shy i tend to wait for them to mae the move - i am no good at signals

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So I suppose a fuck is out of the question?

Now stop beating about the bush 'rossa, what are you trying to say? Is that a sign?

;-)

"No Entry" is a sign!

I think I may have to join the diplomatic service, my subtlety knows no bounds

So is "Welcome".

Also, "Tradesmen's Entrance"

Subtlety's overrated anyway."

Ahem, I refer you to my original question then!

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By *U1966Man
over a year ago

Devon

I wait till i am asked shy at heart

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By *ansue35Couple
over a year ago

yorkshire


"as i am shy i tend to wait for them to mae the move - i am no good at signals "

+1

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"as i am shy i tend to wait for them to mae the move - i am no good at signals "

Remind me not to get in a car when you are driving

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"as i am shy i tend to wait for them to mae the move - i am no good at signals

Remind me not to get in a car when you are driving"

whatever Lewis hamilton!!! remember the way you screeched into chams carpark??!?!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"as i am shy i tend to wait for them to mae the move - i am no good at signals

Remind me not to get in a car when you are driving

whatever Lewis hamilton!!! remember the way you screeched into chams carpark??!?!"

I was horny

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By *toneblueMan
over a year ago

Southampton


"So I suppose a fuck is out of the question?

Now stop beating about the bush 'rossa, what are you trying to say? Is that a sign?

;-)

"No Entry" is a sign!

I think I may have to join the diplomatic service, my subtlety knows no bounds

So is "Welcome".

Also, "Tradesmen's Entrance"

Subtlety's overrated anyway.

Ahem, I refer you to my original question then! "

You have to ask?! NOTHING is out of the question for you 'rossa X

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By *exytwo_xCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

Mrs. Sexytwo usually says; 'Just get on with it then'

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

I'm one of those totally useless people at picking up signals - I can happily chatting away to someone for ages and not realise that they're after playing until they make it obvious (as in 'so shall we go and play', or similar ) I never like to assume that they would, so I'm definitely not an instigator

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