FabSwingers.com forum: Rude/Offensive Messages

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Excuse me while I let off a bit of steam...

I've just had a guy send a message asking if I like big cocks, I don't object to being asked the question but I do appreciate a hello, how are you,I'd introductory sort of chat before we get the that point. I deleted the message without answering, and received another one telling me to get myself tested...what the fuck!? Obviously, being a woman who enjoys sex with more that one man, must mean I'm a disease riddled slapper with no self-respect or concern for my own health. Why do some men feel the need to be so rude!? This isn't the first time a polite 'no thank you' or simple deletion of a message has prompted someone to send something offensive, it happens far too often. No wonder the genuine guys on here have such a hard time with idiots like that in the mix!

And for the record, I never have unprotected sex with anyone except my husband, and I get myself fully tested every 3 months regardless of whether we've met anyone in that time.

Thank you for listening/reading.

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s pathetic isn’t it.

I politely rejected a guy and wished him well only for him to call me a whore and that having 100+ pictures means I’ll only attract low lives and I’ll never be respected by a man because I’m on a “sex site”... the exact same sex site he is on, sending three messages to me stating how beautiful I am lol!

I find it so funny that they call you names after they’ve tried it on with you lol!

I probably expected to get a bit of rejection abuse from guys my own age but it’s actually the older men I find who do it, and then get patronising.

You can’t win really, you delete the message they abuse you, you politely reject you they abuse you. So now if I’m not interested I delete and block if they get nasty!

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Ignore and block. Obviously a big Knob if not a big cock lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think we should have a name and shame list on here because my block list is huge from stupid abusive guys. Maybe then the genuine ones stand a chance.

Name and shame list for both women and men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's frustrating. Idiots like that make it so much harder for normal, nice blokes. They have created a barrier that couples and women put up against single men. Too many on here think they are owed something. Rejection is a part of life, you cannot be attracted to everyone you meet, that's life. When both parties are attracted to each other its so much better. I wouldn't want to meet someone because they felt pressured. I'd want them to have the same anticipation as me. I apologise on his behalf, because he won't be big enough to. Too many keyboard warriors.

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By *nvercoupleCouple
over a year ago

Inverness

I read people complaining of this all the time but in the 10 years we have been on this site it has never happened to us. Just ignore it OP. They cant handle rejection.xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It does get a bit much sometimes, I try to be as polite as possible & 90% of the time I'll get a "thanks for the reply" message back.

It's the disrespectful messages that can get to me sometimes. The type of messages no-one would say to your face if they met you in person.

Yes I'm on here but it doesn't mean I don't have standards.

The messages can be hurtful sometimes but I find the block button a great antidote.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"I think we should have a name and shame list on here because my block list is huge from stupid abusive guys. Maybe then the genuine ones stand a chance.

Name and shame list for both women and men."

No way on God's earth to a name and shame list. Way too easy to be abused.

Block, delete, report. The end.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like a few others on here we just delete and block if we have no interest. We know what we want and if someone who messages doesn't meet our preferences it's not going to change so we have no need to communicate. It avoids any unnessecary awkwardness and rude replies.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

According to the forum it happens a lot. I received a few offensive messages from the same guy which I reported etc. He is no longer on here, I'm assuming he was dealt with by admin.

It's the best way, some of these guys could get narky with women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had one earlier i said no as it was a fake photo then got abuse as im a fat hippo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t get why they do it! Don’t get me wrong, if you see someone that takes your fancy and you send them a message and they delete it it’s a shame, but it’s their choice whether they want to chat to you or not!

I take a deleted message as a no and move on. We outnumber women by god knows how many so can’t expect answers from everyone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh god even if I send a polite not thanks it usually ends in “you’re a fat slag” or something along those lines haha

Report to admin not that they do anything about it x

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I replied politely with a no thankyou before and got told I should be happy that a young virile man took an interest in me because I'm getting on a bit now and too fat anyway! Erm.... ok x

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

My moto is its nice to be nice and if a lady says no she means no and I just say thanks and wish her the best. What's the point in saying rude stuff . That gets you nowhere .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"I replied politely with a no thankyou before and got told I should be happy that a young virile man took an interest in me because I'm getting on a bit now and too fat anyway! Erm.... ok x"

What a charmer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i never get any offensive messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just ignore the idiots .. no one likes rejection but hey ... we all have our "types"

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

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We can find it quite funny if nothing else.

At the end of the day, if they can't handle rejection, that's their problem not ours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I collect them like Pokemon cards

. Real good ones I cut and paste on my blog / twitter though

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