FabSwingers.com forum: Worst let down experiences

By *riendly and horny OP Man
over a year ago

Crewe

I drove to meet someone last night after exchanging messages. Got to the place and suddenly no replies to my messages. Hung around for an hour before finally admitting defeat and driving home with a bruised pride.

That was only 2 hours of my life wasted. I hear of people driving hours for meets. Some people must have had horrendous experiences!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's crap. Fortunately its not happened to me in 7 years although I don't meet that often. When I do its usually a quick coffee/social meet somewhere I'd be anyway like costa on my break.

If I do drive somewhere, its usually only locally.

I have no idea what drives people to do such shit things to others. I'm sure they wouldn't like it done to them.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Yip had the same done to me on pof. Twice. Different guys. Got all ready (all guys have to do is shower and shave) nice outfit on, etc. Drove to address, messaged to check it was correct address and then nothing. Fortunately I didn’t go to the door.

Hence why I now never meet without a social. I’d rather spend an hour over a coffee knowing someone is genuine than be made a fool of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens same happened me before to add insult to injury I got a puncture on my way home the other person continued to appear online looking for meetings some fukd up individuals on the circuit

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By *riendly and horny OP Man
over a year ago

Crewe

It didn't bother me that much. Tbh it's partly my fault. I should have chatted more to the couple beforehand to gauge how genuine they were. Socials first are definitely a good idea but not practical last minute

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By *onny1208Couple
over a year ago

Huddersfield

we've had loads of no shows even when you've spoke and they are local.

The site is full of key board warriors.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

"I drove to meet someone last night after exchanging messages"...

So, you didn't get a phone number?

Speak to them on the phone?

Facetime with them on skype?

Ask them to go on cam in a chatroom?

please tell me they were at least verified a few times?

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

"we've had loads of no shows even when you've spoke and they are local.

The site is full of people who have a poor record of getting stood up because they don't do the proper checks before committing #thinkingwiththewronghead.. "

FIFY

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By *riendly and horny OP Man
over a year ago

Crewe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I drove to meet someone last night after exchanging messages. Got to the place and suddenly no replies to my messages. Hung around for an hour before finally admitting defeat and driving home with a bruised pride.

That was only 2 hours of my life wasted. I hear of people driving hours for meets. Some people must have had horrendous experiences! "

Join the gang. Had a similar experience last night. She’s well verified. Was in a hotel. Asked for room number when I was 20 minutes away. Was told I’ll give you when you’re in reception. Got to reception, messaged and then she was offline for a whole hour. Only to resurface an hour later 15 miles further. I suspect it was her partner who was up to his shenanigans.

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By *riendly and horny OP Man
over a year ago

Crewe

That was only 2 hours of my life wasted. I hear of people driving hours for meets. Some people must have had horrendous experiences!

They're selfish feckers aren't they. A wall of shame needs to be started!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not good a social is always a good idea or confirm 2-3 hours before and if no response then don't waste your time. Drives me mad the fantasists on here love the chase and don't have the guts to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fortunately I've only been stood up on once in 5.5 years.

I've had a couple of really bad meets though. I really wish they hadn't turned up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fortunately I've only been stood up on once in 5.5 years.

I've had a couple of really bad meets though. I really wish they hadn't turned up."

Haha me too. Don't think we're alone in that either!!

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By *riendly and horny OP Man
over a year ago

Crewe

That's a good track record. From looking at your pics you'd have to be mad to stand you up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yip had the same done to me on pof. Twice. Different guys. Got all ready (all guys have to do is shower and shave) nice outfit on, etc. Drove to address, messaged to check it was correct address and then nothing. Fortunately I didn’t go to the door.

Hence why I now never meet without a social. I’d rather spend an hour over a coffee knowing someone is genuine than be made a fool of. "

I had arranged a meet when was here before as couple.

They didnt show and gave no reason. I went onto fab and they were online.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That was only 2 hours of my life wasted. I hear of people driving hours for meets. Some people must have had horrendous experiences! "
I went to Glasgow a few years back knew her for over two years was going to be staying at hers waited until 9pm then realised I needed to book a room she messaged me at 11.30pm didn’t apologise never heard from her again kinda sad really

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By *riendly and horny OP Man
over a year ago

Crewe

I went to Glasgow a few years back knew her for over two years was going to be staying at hers waited until 9pm then realised I needed to book a room she messaged me at 11.30pm didn’t apologise never heard from her again kinda sad really

Jesus that's a long way. Did you not have her address?

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By *ast_And_CuriousMan
over a year ago

Sevenoaks

Happened to me as well. And she had 7 verifications. Luckily the journey was only 10 minutes each way so not too put out, just irritating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I went to Glasgow a few years back knew her for over two years was going to be staying at hers waited until 9pm then realised I needed to book a room she messaged me at 11.30pm didn’t apologise never heard from her again kinda sad really

Jesus that's a long way. Did you not have her address?

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nope we got on so well never even thought about it at the time, I do now of course

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By *riendly and horny OP Man
over a year ago

Crewe

Jesus that's a long way. Did you not have her address?

nope we got on so well never even thought about it at the time, I do now of course

Let's hope Karma prevails!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a guy 2 years ago, after his status said he'd travelled miles to be stood up. We chatted and met. Just last night after chatting we arranged to meet. Last conversation was 'I'm jumping in the shower' only for him to dissappear. My first thought was 'ohh dear what if he's fell in the shower?'...quickly followed with he better fecking had off

Who knows what his reason/excuse will be, either way it was a mystery and very ironic haha

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

We’ve finally figured it out , after seven years of swinging , it’s finally dawned on us that the swinging scene is as shallow and meaningless as life can get . And yes , we are as guilty as anyone else of this vacuous void that fills the swinging lifestyle , because we see it as simply nsa sex , nothing more and nothing less .

So there are loads more out there who see it in the same way , and they let others down without a care as it’s only sex . Soulless , meaningless and not something to get all het up over I guess .

In the seven years we have been swinging I have to say that we have never let anyone down though . Not once , as despite the fact that it’s only sex , people deserve more respect than they are given by the low life that arrange meets and don’t even have the decency to cancel , or let the poor people who travel and look forward to the meet know that they aren’t going to show up .

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By *riendly and horny OP Man
over a year ago

Crewe

Hehe that's a very devious calculating idea. Post a status update about being let down to try and win the sympathy vote.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I seriously couldn't do that to someone, whether I knew them well or were a complete stranger. I've had to cancel a couple of meets last minute for genuine reasons and the people concerned were fine with it and we rearranged. I've also got a bad feeling last minute about a couple of guys so cancelled. They got really nasty so my gut instinct was correct.

I'm not sure if they actually get a twisted kick out of doing it or genuinely think the other person will get shitty if they change their mind? Everyone has the right to cancel, no one is owed anything on here and I'd much rather just say that than go quiet and ignore people. Its just plain nasty.

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By *riendly and horny OP Man
over a year ago

Crewe

Gloswingers - exactly that, well said

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By *riendly and horny OP Man
over a year ago

Crewe

"I seriously couldn't do that to someone, whether I knew them well or were a complete stranger. I've had to cancel a couple of meets last minute for genuine reasons and the people concerned were fine with it and we rearranged. I've also got a bad feeling last minute about a couple of guys so cancelled. They got really nasty so my gut instinct was correct.

Everyone has got the right to cancel and I don't begrudge that. There aren't many valid reasons for not letting you know though and simply going missing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has got the right to cancel and I don't begrudge that. There aren't many valid reasons for not letting you know though and simply going missing "

There is NEVER a valid reason to do that to someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has got the right to cancel and I don't begrudge that. There aren't many valid reasons for not letting you know though and simply going missing

There is NEVER a valid reason to do that to someone."

Unless you're dead, that's pretty valid!

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By *drianukMan
over a year ago

Spain, Lancs

I once turned up at a house for a meet - and the lady who answered the door knew nothing about our 'meet'.

It must have been a set up..

Good job her hub was out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I once turned up at a house for a meet - and the lady who answered the door knew nothing about our 'meet'.

It must have been a set up..

Good job her hub was out"

Why, did you fuck here??

I've heard this happen a lot on here. Its really a lowlife thing to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I once turned up at a house for a meet - and the lady who answered the door knew nothing about our 'meet'.

It must have been a set up..

Good job her hub was out

Why, did you fuck here??

I've heard this happen a lot on here. Its really a lowlife thing to do."

*her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It didn't bother me that much. Tbh it's partly my fault. I should have chatted more to the couple beforehand to gauge how genuine they were. Socials first are definitely a good idea but not practical last minute"

Exactly this. Some meets are a bigger gamble than others, only invest the time and money that you are willing to lose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Worst let down for me wasn’t on here it was on pof.

Drove to Bromley which is an hour for me but I’m willing to travel for the right girl.

It was a dinner date and both agreed to meet at 7 o’clock outside the shopping centre where Wagamama is.

7 came and gone. By 7:30 I thought I’m obviously having dinner by myself.

After two days had gone past she told me “oh sorry I forgot” even though she had confirmed our meeting just before I left home.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

Swinging for - 10 years.

Number of times stood up / let down - 0.

(Hunts for the "smug face" smilie.. isn't one, this will have to do)

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By *ooskiMan
over a year ago

south coast

Phew counting my chickens as all good so far......, I wouldn't dream of not turning up if meet arranged

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fortunately I've only been stood up on once in 5.5 years.

I've had a couple of really bad meets though. I really wish they hadn't turned up."

Yeah me too, had a few decent ones and a couple of horrible ones

Like you say wish they hadn’t bothered coming ????

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By *ornylittlesubWoman
over a year ago

Grangemouth

Have only been stood up once, but did ruin the whole evening....Had a couple of not so great meets too.....But also had a couple of fekin amazing ones.

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