FabSwingers.com forum: Is it true most people prefer meeting in club compare to site meet.

By *ieutenant OP Man
over a year ago

london

I most confess. I am one of them too lol. I prefer meeting new people in club.Too many baggage writing endless email trying to Imess others. In club you can judge someone physically.

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By *iveshowcoupleCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

Having been let down on many occasions by last minute cancellations and no shows we took the decision to only meet people in clubs from now on.

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By *urchoicenowCouple
over a year ago

Ashford

We do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer meeting in a club simply because if I get stood up, I can still go enjoy myself so not a wasted trip.

Hasn't happened yet thankfully

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By *oldilocksanddaddybearCouple
over a year ago

Wigan

We now only meet in clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it's not true as most have never been to a club.

Yes there are many that prefer club meets,but they couldn't possibly be in the majority

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

For us it's not just a preference. It is set in tablets of stone. We only meet in clubs or at organised parties.

We stopped doing private meets about 5 years ago and it has been much more enjoyable since.

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By *ohnkezCouple
over a year ago

shefiield

I prefer to meet in clubs so much easier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do both dependant on the situation were not really bothered which as long as the club is clean and engaging.

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

Both, private meets are nice

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

We prefer private meets but the hassle of arranging meets makes club meets easier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never done a club i will visitone for the first time on the 31st of this month

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By *ung_londonMan
over a year ago

Norfolk

Both have their advantages and disadvantages, I reckon. I like the friendliness and atmosphere of a club and those lucky encounters with people whose profile I might never have seen (and which can turn into later private meets). But there’s something special about getting together with someone whose interests and personality really click in a private meeting - although as everyone knows that can entail a certain amount of work to set up and the risk of occasional disappointments / disappearances and other annoyances! I always try and remind myself not to judge the great, straightforward and trustworthy people on here by the actions of the other kind. I’ve been lucky, maybe, that the positive experiences have well outnumbered the worse ones.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"I most confess. I am one of them too lol. I prefer meeting new people in club.Too many baggage writing endless email trying to Imess others. In club you can judge someone physically."

Clubs take much less planning, and we love going to new clubs.

Also if we plan a meet at a club and don't click, there will be other options.

And... nobody needs to sleep in the wet patch.

Cal

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By *indMasterUKMan
over a year ago

All over England

There are as many couples and single lady timewasters as single male timewasters, and for that reason I only go to clubs now!

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Just clubs for us too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not most no, maybe in forums a large percentage but the general site membership I'd say no, I wouldn't pick a club to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Private for me, I like the intimacy of it and there aren't any clubs around here really. The closest is Secrets which is only once a month and doesn't admit single males who are the ones I want to meet

. If we lived up country I may feel differently I suppose!

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By *ll 4 herCouple
over a year ago

Bury/Bolton

Our first meet has to be at a club or party, if we meet someone in that scenario and things go well we may arrange meets outside.

We've found when we try to arrange meets of here there's very little appeal or effort from those getting in touch.

Most of those who who we've had fun with we probably wouldn't have arranged a meet with off here, it's a tricky conundrum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With extremely busy vanilla lives clubs seem to be easier for us, we have people we speak to but due to our very limited spare time trying to match dates are a nightmare.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are happy to do both. Each have their own benefits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We never do socials or club meets, we do not have the time.. we would rather just set up a meet on any of the swinging site we are on and get on with it ..more exciting more spontaneous..

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By *ensualgent38Man
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

I’ve been to clubs out of curiosity and they were fun, but I prefer the privacy and intimacy of meeting in people’s homes or in a hotel.

I feel people are more relaxed and that we connect better.

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

As part of a couple,we prefer club meets .Too hard to gage attraction on here when there are generally no male pics on couples profiles .plus getting 4 way availibilty can be tough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer meeting in clubs.

Too many fake profiles, people using out of date photos, people not turning up... so much easier in clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't to go to clubs due to the high admission price that many clubs charge solo men & don't feel confident enough to go alone either.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

We do

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough

Yes. So much less bullshit involved. Sadly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find clubs intimidating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I most confess. I am one of them too lol. I prefer meeting new people in club.Too many baggage writing endless email trying to Imess others. In club you can judge someone physically."
that is total true but it can also be unfair way to judge people when they trying the site too for meets which only means it a waste of time have sites like this i think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We avoid clubs so only meet on here .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like clubs because its easier, and I can make as much noise as I want. I generally feel a bit safer meeting in a club if it's with a single male.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I only need by chance at clubs. As a single girl, they tick so many boxes for me. It's safer, I don't have to even be concerned about time wasters, or fakes.

I just go down there and have a great night talking, dancing, and socialising and if I connect with someone intimately, it's just a bonus added on a great night out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We prefer club/party meets as when they no show at least it’s not a wasted night as still get a night out

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By *estofbothCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

We don’t like the clubs near to us, but are happy to attend private parties and certain clubs we like, but as they're so far away (current favourite being in Paris) it’s a bit awkward to co-ordinate that unless it’s people we’ve met there before.

From here we like a social meet and and then play meets, it’s more personal we find and we can get to know somebody a lot better which helps with the chemistry for us.

Haven’t had a no show yet luckily, but we’re happy enough just the two of us if we ended up in a bar alone it wouldn’t be the end of the world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Much prefer club meets. It's much easier to decide if you want to take things further when you see someone in person.

Also, I like the ease of availability of different types of play in a club.

Jem x

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

I much prefer arranging private meets through Fab, getting to know someone a bit before arranging any kind of meet, and find it much easier than visiting a club as a single guy

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By *eKoopleCouple
over a year ago

Germany / Manchester

We prefer private meets, however, with the history of no shows from this site, when we do go out, we treat it as a night for ourselves. If our date shows then it’s a bonus.

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By *vesham cplCouple
over a year ago

Evesham

We prefer private meets as it is more intimate, clubs are good but can be poorly attended and if you have to travel a long way to get to them that can also lead to disappointment. The only club we go to is Libs on the love to party events which we know will have a good crowd.

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By *empting TravelsMan
over a year ago

London

I love private meets but my girlfriend is not a fan. That's one of the reasons why I decided to host our own bisexual interracial party later this month.

My hope is that it will lead to my girlfriend feeling comfortable enough to meet some of the guests privately at a future date.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never been to a club and don’t intend going.

I prefer to be in control of who is near me when I’m nekkid

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

"We prefer club/party meets as when they no show at least it’s not a wasted night as still get a night out "

That is one of our main reasons as well.

In the past we had many evenings when we spent time getting ready (sometimes even cancelled other plans) only to turn up and sit there for an hour waiting for a no show, or when they/he turned up they were unrecognisable from their pics.

Funny thing is that we have played with lots of couples/guys in clubs who if they had sent us a pic for a private meet we would have declined.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went to a swinging club a few weeks ago. There was no temptation to play. Clubs are no longer for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I went to a swinging club a few weeks ago. There was no temptation to play. Clubs are no longer for me

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why

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall

Due to not being able to host at home, we have never had a private meet, apart from a few socials. We've done all of our playing at clubs so far.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Clubs every time, no pressure to play if you’re not turned on.

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By *ightLeeCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

We prefer clubs because it's a neutral ground and yes there are too many no shows.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have never been to a club and don’t intend going.

I prefer to be in control of who is near me when I’m nekkid"

You can always play in a private room to maintain that control and privacy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I went to a swinging club a few weeks ago. There was no temptation to play. Clubs are no longer for me

why"

It made me realise I'm more invested on a one two one, with a specific person. It was a bit of a light bulb moment for me, so I'm still glad I went

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By *ightLeeCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Funny thing is that we have played with lots of couples/guys in clubs who if they had sent us a pic for a private meet we would have declined.

This, we have a limit for age on here but we've met plenty of people at clubs who would have got blocked automatically

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By *oman wantedCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire/Liverpool/Manchester

Prefer accommodating at home x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I went to a swinging club a few weeks ago. There was no temptation to play. Clubs are no longer for me

why

It made me realise I'm more invested on a one two one, with a specific person. It was a bit of a light bulb moment for me, so I'm still glad I went

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ahhhh I get yer drift

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By *0tt0nSu3Woman
over a year ago

London

"I only need by chance at clubs. As a single girl, they tick so many boxes for me. It's safer, I don't have to even be concerned about time wasters, or fakes.

I just go down there and have a great night talking, dancing, and socialising and if I connect with someone intimately, it's just a bonus added on a great night out."

Yup clubs for me too.

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By *offee with MilkCouple
over a year ago

Over the roundabout and then turn right.

We only meet new people at a club. Outside the club it would be people we already know.

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

Club meets here too! Most of our chats on here seem to fizzle out but we've managed to arrange a few socials for coffee. If we're going to play then we'll either arrange to meet people at a club or we'll just go to one and see who we bump into

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By *RnMrsFreakCouple
over a year ago

Hull,England

"I most confess. I am one of them too lol. I prefer meeting new people in club.Too many baggage writing endless email trying to Imess others. In club you can judge someone physically."
We prefer to meet in a club, but if we were to play we'd rather do it in a home setting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Club meet all day long.

More relaxed.

More social.

Puts both your minds at ease.

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

Clubs all the way for is, it's social escapism, go with the flow xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go to clubs occasionally, when I can find someone to go with, but most of my meets are from here. Both have pros and cons!

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"I never done a club i will visitone for the first time on the 31st of this month

Where u off

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By *hor ThumbMan
over a year ago

bristol

We much prefere it, we sometimes arrange to meet in a club from a site.

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By *eKoopleCouple
over a year ago

Germany / Manchester

"We prefer private meets as it is more intimate, clubs are good but can be poorly attended and if you have to travel a long way to get to them that can also lead to disappointment. The only club we go to is Libs on the love to party events which we know will have a good crowd. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why are site like this set up if no one willing to meet via them?

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By *offee with MilkCouple
over a year ago

Over the roundabout and then turn right.

"Why are site like this set up if no one willing to meet via them?"

We ARE willing to meet people from here. We just prefer to meet them at a club.

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By *edonistic CPLCouple
over a year ago

Love

We always arrange to meet at clubs for the first time, it’s so much easier and if it doesn’t work out for whatever reason we can still enjoy our night without it being wasted.

Once we have got to know them properly then we have no problem meeting privately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prefer private meets arranged quickly and without fuss on here, club meets nah, too many d*unks, socialites, non swingers, nonkissers etc at clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like the idea of clubs, too random. I'm a one on one kind of guy. maybe two if you have a cute girlfriend...

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By *earded GentlemanMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

Much prefare club meets, at least that way if you don't click in person or they don't turn up your already at the club and can just mingle and enjoy yaself

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By *inotGringoMan
over a year ago

Lancashire

Clubs remove the pressure of playing. As many do feel as though they are entitled to sex if someone has agreed to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never go to a club. I like to meet one-to-one, for a social first if appropriate. I never feel obliged to play and have had some lovely experiences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs are an anomaly. If I was heading out on the off chance of playing without an arranged meet or as couple/FB situation then yes I agree. They offer safety for blind meets for all parties and for ladies and couples it’s always easier to find another playmate or two where as as a swingle bloke, an organised solo meet - the ‘if you don’t hit it off, there’s others to play with’ doesn’t really work....

there’s the awkward moment that your both then in the club and kinda errr off you toddle, you’re not for me. Looking round to see you’re now in the 23:1 ratio men to others and traumatised in the corner with you’re bottle of prosecco you bought on the off chance it was a hit... That said, i’ve just agreed to one

fingers crossed haha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We prefer club meets as been so disappointed with private meets. It takes away the pressure if their not your type and we can still all have a good time. On saying that we do make an exception for the right person but they have to accommodate or arrange hotel room. So much hassle in the past.

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

No, I prefer private meets. Always have a social first to test the waters for us both then a meet meet if we both like each other. Much prefer that to meeting in a club surrounded by other people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No pressure, obligation or expectation in clubs. If you like the look of someone, great. If you click socially, even better. If not, there’s no awkwardness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meet by offering a service and pleasure through massage. John

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I most confess. I am one of them too lol. I prefer meeting new people in club.Too many baggage writing endless email trying to Imess others. In club you can judge someone physically."

Im starting to prefer it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I most confess. I am one of them too lol. I prefer meeting new people in club.Too many baggage writing endless email trying to Imess others. In club you can judge someone physically.

Im starting to prefer it"

Clubs are good for socials too, then private meets after. I just say I’m going to be there and if they turned up it was a bonus. I’ve met some lovely people this way; they are reliable too. Win-win

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

"I most confess. I am one of them too lol. I prefer meeting new people in club.Too many baggage writing endless email trying to Imess others. In club you can judge someone physically.

Im starting to prefer it

Yes us too xx

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By *dores blackmenWoman
over a year ago

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"I most confess. I am one of them too lol. I prefer meeting new people in club.Too many baggage writing endless email trying to Imess others. In club you can judge someone physically.

Im starting to prefer it

Yes us too xx"

And me

All my private meets/further meets at clubs have all come from originally meeting at clubs and parties

I never meet private through messaging first on fab

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