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By * and B OP   Couple
over a year ago

Durham

We went to delete winks this morning as we just don't respond to them. Upon doing this we realised we had just been winked by a couple who's pictures we often fab. So, what did we do? Winked back (we've not done this in ages). The couple instantly friends request us. We message back saying we don't make friends unless we have chatted. A message comes back. That's fine, what are you to too.... Well what does that mean, so we ask. Not unreasonable we thought. Next thing we are blocked. Our point here is. Folk get upset when this happens to them but we find it brilliant when the idiots filter themselves out. Strengthens our feelings, don't respond to winks. We used to send a lovely message responding to winks with no reply or like we said blocked. Hail the idiots who are the best filters for us all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very, very rarely bother responding to Winks, find them to be used by lazy people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey its unfortunate really that the negative responses far outweigh the positive ones, they really spoil it for the good people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We went to delete winks this morning as we just don't respond to them. Upon doing this we realised we had just been winked by a couple who's pictures we often fab. So, what did we do? Winked back (we've not done this in ages). The couple instantly friends request us. We message back saying we don't make friends unless we have chatted. A message comes back. That's fine, what are you to too.... Well what does that mean, so we ask. Not unreasonable we thought. Next thing we are blocked. Our point here is. Folk get upset when this happens to them but we find it brilliant when the idiots filter themselves out. Strengthens our feelings, don't respond to winks. We used to send a lovely message responding to winks with no reply or like we said blocked. Hail the idiots who are the best filters for us all"

Yes a wink back should only suggest you are also interested not access to your friends only pics

That was more likely just an unlucky match.

If we get a returned wink we usually send a thank you message and see what happens next

But some people are too quick to friend request it’s a bit creepy imo

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By * and B OP   Couple
over a year ago

Durham


"Very, very rarely bother responding to Winks, find them to be used by lazy people"

That's what we think to. A nice message is far better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Err I'd say you messed that one up. I never respond to winks with winks. Just as I don't reply to a "hi how are you?" with a "hi how are you?" If I'm interested I'll always send a nice introductory message, perhaps even with a face pic if I'm feeling frisky and wild.

Best foot forward always. Who cares if they don't respond.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winks are good. On Fab, for me its the online equivalent of say .... entering a bar or restuarant or even a store, and smiling at a pretty girl or a good looking couple. If they respond, then chatting and getting to know each other. Ditto for winks. If the person you've winked likes receiving the wink, they'll wink back or send a message. Its easy to do, relaxed and a nice way of saying "I like your profile and I'm interested" and implicitly its a compliment to them. Go for it ..... wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winks are bull shit I never wink

Or add friends unless we have met no point and most couples wink

And you messaged back they go quiet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very, very rarely bother responding to Winks, find them to be used by lazy people

That's what we think to. A nice message is far better "

Yes it is better

In theory

I wink you

You wink back

I write a well thought out and specific introduction/thank you message

But as you say the majority mess it up but in all those messed up ones we get we have also found some gems

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very, very rarely bother responding to Winks, find them to be used by lazy people"

Oh are your winks lazy? That explains a lot. I often get winks from women who want to express interest but are a little shy and would rather I started the conversation. I find it quite sweet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We love winks! Just as mentioned above, it is a wee smile and a nod in the virtual world of Fab. That can be taken further by a reciprocated wee smile and nod which then leads on to a message. Nothing lazy about it at all! More an online social etiquette of showing a mutual interest. Nothing less. Nothing more. Just my opinion of course

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very, very rarely bother responding to Winks, find them to be used by lazy people

Oh are your winks lazy? That explains a lot. I often get winks from women who want to express interest but are a little shy and would rather I started the conversation. I find it quite sweet. "

Our opinion is that we feel winks are lazy, it’s our opinion and ours only. Other people are entitled to think differently. And why does it “explain a lot”?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We went to delete winks this morning as we just don't respond to them. Upon doing this we realised we had just been winked by a couple who's pictures we often fab. So, what did we do? Winked back (we've not done this in ages). The couple instantly friends request us. We message back saying we don't make friends unless we have chatted. A message comes back. That's fine, what are you to too.... Well what does that mean, so we ask. Not unreasonable we thought. Next thing we are blocked. Our point here is. Folk get upset when this happens to them but we find it brilliant when the idiots filter themselves out. Strengthens our feelings, don't respond to winks. We used to send a lovely message responding to winks with no reply or like we said blocked. Hail the idiots who are the best filters for us all"

To jump on the band wagon, unsolicited friends invites also get our goat!! If we added every person that asked we would have 1000’s of virtual friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We went to delete winks this morning as we just don't respond to them. Upon doing this we realised we had just been winked by a couple who's pictures we often fab. So, what did we do? Winked back (we've not done this in ages). The couple instantly friends request us. We message back saying we don't make friends unless we have chatted. A message comes back. That's fine, what are you to too.... Well what does that mean, so we ask. Not unreasonable we thought. Next thing we are blocked. Our point here is. Folk get upset when this happens to them but we find it brilliant when the idiots filter themselves out. Strengthens our feelings, don't respond to winks. We used to send a lovely message responding to winks with no reply or like we said blocked. Hail the idiots who are the best filters for us all

To jump on the band wagon, unsolicited friends invites also get our goat!! If we added every person that asked we would have 1000’s of virtual friends"

We use that as an instant block.

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By *antasticMrFucksMan
over a year ago

Taunton


"We went to delete winks this morning as we just don't respond to them. Upon doing this we realised we had just been winked by a couple who's pictures we often fab. So, what did we do? Winked back (we've not done this in ages). The couple instantly friends request us. We message back saying we don't make friends unless we have chatted. A message comes back. That's fine, what are you to too.... Well what does that mean, so we ask. Not unreasonable we thought. Next thing we are blocked. Our point here is. Folk get upset when this happens to them but we find it brilliant when the idiots filter themselves out. Strengthens our feelings, don't respond to winks. We used to send a lovely message responding to winks with no reply or like we said blocked. Hail the idiots who are the best filters for us all"

If I wink it's to show interest if they wink back I then send a message. From a single man's perspective you spend alot of time sending messages just to be ignored 9 times out of 10 and don't always have time to send messages (not lazy just not always on here for hours at a time) it's just a quick and easy way to show a slight interests xx

But that's just my point veiw might be completely off the mark with it though xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have text on our profile which wheedles out some of the idiots but we still get a few messages which quickly turn into ramblings and just weirdness.

We do use winks and if we get winked back we will message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've winked in the past, if I like a profile. I think I've winked about 4 people. It got us chatting though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We went to delete winks this morning as we just don't respond to them. Upon doing this we realised we had just been winked by a couple who's pictures we often fab. So, what did we do? Winked back (we've not done this in ages). The couple instantly friends request us. We message back saying we don't make friends unless we have chatted. A message comes back. That's fine, what are you to too.... Well what does that mean, so we ask. Not unreasonable we thought. Next thing we are blocked. Our point here is. Folk get upset when this happens to them but we find it brilliant when the idiots filter themselves out. Strengthens our feelings, don't respond to winks. We used to send a lovely message responding to winks with no reply or like we said blocked. Hail the idiots who are the best filters for us all

To jump on the band wagon, unsolicited friends invites also get our goat!! If we added every person that asked we would have 1000’s of virtual friends"

Hehe they are a pain, some people think that because we viewed their profile it’s enough to request hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We went to delete winks this morning as we just don't respond to them. Upon doing this we realised we had just been winked by a couple who's pictures we often fab. So, what did we do? Winked back (we've not done this in ages). The couple instantly friends request us. We message back saying we don't make friends unless we have chatted. A message comes back. That's fine, what are you to too.... Well what does that mean, so we ask. Not unreasonable we thought. Next thing we are blocked. Our point here is. Folk get upset when this happens to them but we find it brilliant when the idiots filter themselves out. Strengthens our feelings, don't respond to winks. We used to send a lovely message responding to winks with no reply or like we said blocked. Hail the idiots who are the best filters for us all

To jump on the band wagon, unsolicited friends invites also get our goat!! If we added every person that asked we would have 1000’s of virtual friends

Hehe they are a pain, some people think that because we viewed their profile it’s enough to request hahaha"
really

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By * and B OP   Couple
over a year ago

Durham


"Err I'd say you messed that one up. I never respond to winks with winks. Just as I don't reply to a "hi how are you?" with a "hi how are you?" If I'm interested I'll always send a nice introductory message, perhaps even with a face pic if I'm feeling frisky and wild.

Best foot forward always. Who cares if they don't respond. "

You obviously didn't read the post. WE DON'T RESPOND TO WINKS, to which we explained why. You are right though we messed up by responding to wink. But all is good as they showed a lack of respect in their response and obviously didn't read our profile. Lucky escape we call it

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

Yeah I also hate the unsolicited friend requests. Instant delete. Just a chancer hoping to get a glimpse at extra pics.

Winks, I also feel are lazy, as lazy as “how are u?”. If someone wants to message, then message.

I don’t get this on people’s profiles where they say, if I wink at you it’s coz I’m interested. If you’re really, seriously interested then send a message.

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By *uckymooMan
over a year ago

Mid-Cheshire


"I've winked in the past, if I like a profile. I think I've winked about 4 people. It got us chatting though "

Exactly why they are there! Its little ice breaker!

Who wouldn’t make eye contact before chatting to a stranger in a bar?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love a wink, saw me safely through my adolescence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wink at profiles I like. If I get a wink back, I write a message thanking themfor the wink and take it from there. It can be a good way to break the ice.

If I get a wink first and it is from someone I’m interested I’ll message them thanking them for the wink and sometimes wink back as well.

Doesn’t always work out but as I’m rubbish at making first contact it’s a good method for me.

I think winks are a bit like marmite.

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By * and B OP   Couple
over a year ago

Durham


"I love a wink, saw me safely through my adolescence "

Winker

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By *atural-born-thrillerMan
over a year ago

oulton broad

A nice message is better than a wink I find .its not always successful though but he who dares x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The devil in me ,made me start to wink everyone who doesn't like winks in this thread then my winking eye got stuck and I can't wink anyone else

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By * and B OP   Couple
over a year ago

Durham


"The devil in me ,made me start to wink everyone who doesn't like winks in this thread then my winking eye got stuck and I can't wink anyone else "

Ha ha you might have winked us but we'd never know as we don't look, just delete every now and then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't see the problem with winks ,surely it's a way to let another profile know that you are interested...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The devil in me ,made me start to wink everyone who doesn't like winks in this thread then my winking eye got stuck and I can't wink anyone else

Ha ha you might have winked us but we'd never know as we don't look, just delete every now and then "

Of course I winked you, you were the OP to be honest I never look either until one of these threads come up, then it's always straight single men who are obviously acknowledging me as another straight male

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By * and B OP   Couple
over a year ago

Durham


"The devil in me ,made me start to wink everyone who doesn't like winks in this thread then my winking eye got stuck and I can't wink anyone else

Ha ha you might have winked us but we'd never know as we don't look, just delete every now and then

Of course I winked you, you were the OP to be honest I never look either until one of these threads come up, then it's always straight single men who are obviously acknowledging me as another straight male "

This is what I mean. Surely a nice message instead of a wink asking if you are straight like them would save all the confusion

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By *hynot5642Man
over a year ago

Southampton


"Winks are good. On Fab, for me its the online equivalent of say .... entering a bar or restuarant or even a store, and smiling at a pretty girl or a good looking couple. If they respond, then chatting and getting to know each other. Ditto for winks. If the person you've winked likes receiving the wink, they'll wink back or send a message. Its easy to do, relaxed and a nice way of saying "I like your profile and I'm interested" and implicitly its a compliment to them. Go for it ..... wink "

This is exactly as I see a wink. It is an indication that I am interested. If the other party is too they can respond by a message or wink back. And a convesation can start.

I would not condider a wink lazy. It seems pointless spending considerable time writing a message if the other party is not interested, ignors it or deletes it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Err I'd say you messed that one up. I never respond to winks with winks. Just as I don't reply to a "hi how are you?" with a "hi how are you?" If I'm interested I'll always send a nice introductory message, perhaps even with a face pic if I'm feeling frisky and wild.

Best foot forward always. Who cares if they don't respond.

You obviously didn't read the post. WE DON'T RESPOND TO WINKS, to which we explained why. You are right though we messed up by responding to wink. But all is good as they showed a lack of respect in their response and obviously didn't read our profile. Lucky escape we call it"

I was merely responding by saying I don't think you necessarily dodged a bullet. You got winked by someone who's pictures you often Fab and yet nothing you did in response to that was remotely attractive. Sure... they didn't exactly win a medal for the way they acted but this encounter sounds like a classic "when couples get it wrong" exchange.

I'd revert back to your prior way of dealing with winks, try to be more attractive and positive in the way you relate to people, and just get over the fact that many people won't reply to your messages and hold out for the ones that do. That's what I was trying to say.

If you don't want to bother with winks that's your perogative. Heck if you want you can stop bothering with any mail in future either. It's no skin off my nose. I'm just giving you advice on what works for me. It's best to be super laid back about how people approach you. Even someone who starts off with a friends invite may end up being a fun new friend. Who cares if they contacted you the "wrong" way?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very, very rarely bother responding to Winks, find them to be used by lazy people"

Indeed how do you know they have winked in real life lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got to be honest why wink I mean I have even put statuses that blatantly say message if interested then get a wink ?? Makes me wonder sometimes surely just a polite "hi been looking at your profile and like what I see",message is good enough. you can then look at them and decide if you want to keep the messages going or politely decline.

Please add own punctuation.

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By *mm and HerCouple
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

Lol - I think this thread highlights many of our thoughts and confusions!

We don't mind a wink. Very, very occasionally we have ourselves. To each their own.

But if we not likely to see why they've winked us - like they're gym bunnies or 22 or 400 miles away - a message would clearly be better. This isn't being up ourselves, more, well, being down ourselves, if there is such a thing.

What confuses us is those people we wink back, who then look at our profile 6 or 7 times...but no message. Are they expecting us to reply? Are they having second thoughts? Or are they saying in the privacy of their bedroom..."well darling [clenched teeth], it wasn't me who winked them, it must have been you "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The devil in me ,made me start to wink everyone who doesn't like winks in this thread then my winking eye got stuck and I can't wink anyone else "

Wink wink... Nervous twitch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We went to delete winks this morning as we just don't respond to them. Upon doing this we realised we had just been winked by a couple who's pictures we often fab. So, what did we do? Winked back (we've not done this in ages). The couple instantly friends request us. We message back saying we don't make friends unless we have chatted. A message comes back. That's fine, what are you to too.... Well what does that mean, so we ask. Not unreasonable we thought. Next thing we are blocked. Our point here is. Folk get upset when this happens to them but we find it brilliant when the idiots filter themselves out. Strengthens our feelings, don't respond to winks. We used to send a lovely message responding to winks with no reply or like we said blocked. Hail the idiots who are the best filters for us all"

We are the same want to chat for a while first Too many "FriendsCollectors" around.

P.s, Can I send friends request lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What confuses us is those people we wink back, who then look at our profile 6 or 7 times...but no message. Are they expecting us to reply? Are they having second thoughts? Or are they saying in the privacy of their bedroom..."well darling [clenched teeth], it wasn't me who winked them, it must have been you ""

Again, Hmm and her, a wink back is cyclical. Send them a message and get a discussion going. It'll avoid all these situations in future... and if they don't reply or delete the message they're just twats you didn't want to meet anyway so move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A wink is just to let people know you have read there profile . Seen there pics and are interested . The wink gives them chance to do the same too your profile and pics . If they also like what they see then maybe a conversation will start

. In my opinion a wink is a polite way of saying " I'm interested without the pressure of having to read a message and then not reply or delete

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By *ystical_InkedBBWWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the Shire of Derby

I ignore the winks and don't delete them either so they can't send anymore lol

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By *unlovinCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

We very rarely respond to winks,they are just to easy to send .

We always read and reply to a message because someone has taken the time to write it,

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By * and B OP   Couple
over a year ago

Durham


"We went to delete winks this morning as we just don't respond to them. Upon doing this we realised we had just been winked by a couple who's pictures we often fab. So, what did we do? Winked back (we've not done this in ages). The couple instantly friends request us. We message back saying we don't make friends unless we have chatted. A message comes back. That's fine, what are you to too.... Well what does that mean, so we ask. Not unreasonable we thought. Next thing we are blocked. Our point here is. Folk get upset when this happens to them but we find it brilliant when the idiots filter themselves out. Strengthens our feelings, don't respond to winks. We used to send a lovely message responding to winks with no reply or like we said blocked. Hail the idiots who are the best filters for us all

We are the same want to chat for a while first Too many "FriendsCollectors" around.

P.s, Can I send friends request lol x"

Respect and humour will get you everywhere

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village


"Very, very rarely bother responding to Winks, find them to be used by lazy people"

This

I wish you could turn the function off tbh

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By *naquest321Man
over a year ago

Carlisle

I don’t normally wink as most don’t like it but I’d welcome a wink, as I thinks it’s a nice way of someone showing an interest and I would always respond with a message thanking them.

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By * and B OP   Couple
over a year ago

Durham


"Err I'd say you messed that one up. I never respond to winks with winks. Just as I don't reply to a "hi how are you?" with a "hi how are you?" If I'm interested I'll always send a nice introductory message, perhaps even with a face pic if I'm feeling frisky and wild.

Best foot forward always. Who cares if they don't respond.

You obviously didn't read the post. WE DON'T RESPOND TO WINKS, to which we explained why. You are right though we messed up by responding to wink. But all is good as they showed a lack of respect in their response and obviously didn't read our profile. Lucky escape we call it

I was merely responding by saying I don't think you necessarily dodged a bullet. You got winked by someone who's pictures you often Fab and yet nothing you did in response to that was remotely attractive. Sure... they didn't exactly win a medal for the way they acted but this encounter sounds like a classic "when couples get it wrong" exchange.

I'd revert back to your prior way of dealing with winks, try to be more attractive and positive in the way you relate to people, and just get over the fact that many people won't reply to your messages and hold out for the ones that do. That's what I was trying to say.

If you don't want to bother with winks that's your perogative. Heck if you want you can stop bothering with any mail in future either. It's no skin off my nose. I'm just giving you advice on what works for me. It's best to be super laid back about how people approach you. Even someone who starts off with a friends invite may end up being a fun new friend. Who cares if they contacted you the "wrong" way? "

We do more than ok in this lifestyle.

We treat people with respect. We are laid back and dont do drama. We will try our best to be more attractive and positive in the way we relate to people and see if we can be better people. Oh hang on, you will not find more positive people than us, sorry about the attractive bit though. We do scare a few off. We know not everyone is for everyone and it doesn't bother us if folk don't message back but that's not what this thread is about. Thank you for your advice, like my school report. We will try harder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Err I'd say you messed that one up. I never respond to winks with winks. Just as I don't reply to a "hi how are you?" with a "hi how are you?" If I'm interested I'll always send a nice introductory message, perhaps even with a face pic if I'm feeling frisky and wild.

Best foot forward always. Who cares if they don't respond.

You obviously didn't read the post. WE DON'T RESPOND TO WINKS, to which we explained why. You are right though we messed up by responding to wink. But all is good as they showed a lack of respect in their response and obviously didn't read our profile. Lucky escape we call it

I was merely responding by saying I don't think you necessarily dodged a bullet. You got winked by someone who's pictures you often Fab and yet nothing you did in response to that was remotely attractive. Sure... they didn't exactly win a medal for the way they acted but this encounter sounds like a classic "when couples get it wrong" exchange.

I'd revert back to your prior way of dealing with winks, try to be more attractive and positive in the way you relate to people, and just get over the fact that many people won't reply to your messages and hold out for the ones that do. That's what I was trying to say.

If you don't want to bother with winks that's your perogative. Heck if you want you can stop bothering with any mail in future either. It's no skin off my nose. I'm just giving you advice on what works for me. It's best to be super laid back about how people approach you. Even someone who starts off with a friends invite may end up being a fun new friend. Who cares if they contacted you the "wrong" way?

We do more than ok in this lifestyle.

We treat people with respect. We are laid back and dont do drama. We will try our best to be more attractive and positive in the way we relate to people and see if we can be better people. Oh hang on, you will not find more positive people than us, sorry about the attractive bit though. We do scare a few off. We know not everyone is for everyone and it doesn't bother us if folk don't message back but that's not what this thread is about. Thank you for your advice, like my school report. We will try harder "

Good reply guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We went to delete winks this morning as we just don't respond to them. Upon doing this we realised we had just been winked by a couple who's pictures we often fab. So, what did we do? Winked back (we've not done this in ages). The couple instantly friends request us. We message back saying we don't make friends unless we have chatted. A message comes back. That's fine, what are you to too.... Well what does that mean, so we ask. Not unreasonable we thought. Next thing we are blocked. Our point here is. Folk get upset when this happens to them but we find it brilliant when the idiots filter themselves out. Strengthens our feelings, don't respond to winks. We used to send a lovely message responding to winks with no reply or like we said blocked. Hail the idiots who are the best filters for us all"

That’s awful that it happened to you! I always wink if interested and always respond

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By * and B OP   Couple
over a year ago

Durham


"We went to delete winks this morning as we just don't respond to them. Upon doing this we realised we had just been winked by a couple who's pictures we often fab. So, what did we do? Winked back (we've not done this in ages). The couple instantly friends request us. We message back saying we don't make friends unless we have chatted. A message comes back. That's fine, what are you to too.... Well what does that mean, so we ask. Not unreasonable we thought. Next thing we are blocked. Our point here is. Folk get upset when this happens to them but we find it brilliant when the idiots filter themselves out. Strengthens our feelings, don't respond to winks. We used to send a lovely message responding to winks with no reply or like we said blocked. Hail the idiots who are the best filters for us all

That’s awful that it happened to you! I always wink if interested and always respond "

We used to respond but as time went by it seemed more and more who just wink seem to be time wasters, picture collectors or folk who just not up for a meet. We use to type out a lovely message of introduction and more times than enough the response was just a friend request. We gave up, put it on our profile as well. If folk wink they obviously haven't read through our profile. Would we wink someone who says we don't respond to winks or send a message. A message it would be. The only fool was us for responding after we stated we don't.

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By *woyoungbunsCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

We use the wink quite a bit. There's lots of profiles on here with people who look good, but their profile doesn't really give much info as to what they're about.

Now, chances are they're not into the same stuff as us, which is fine. We're not about to message every single one to find out "no, this person only wants older guys, no this person only wants vanilla, whatever."

So instead, we put all our info (and then some) on our profile, and send out a wink. They can look over our profile. If it's not for them, nobody's wasted their time. If something catches their eye too, we can start talking.

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By * and B OP   Couple
over a year ago

Durham


"We use the wink quite a bit. There's lots of profiles on here with people who look good, but their profile doesn't really give much info as to what they're about.

Now, chances are they're not into the same stuff as us, which is fine. We're not about to message every single one to find out "no, this person only wants older guys, no this person only wants vanilla, whatever."

So instead, we put all our info (and then some) on our profile, and send out a wink. They can look over our profile. If it's not for them, nobody's wasted their time. If something catches their eye too, we can start talking. "

To be honest if someone cant make the effort to put any info on their profile we wouldn't want to message, not that we would message everyone who's picture looked great, we wouldn't have time to go to work. A little effort goes a long way. As you said all the info people need to know is on your profile, you make the effort and reap the reward

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough

To show interest, then see if anything develops. Often does, sometimes doesn't.

Works well for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winks aren’t used or received very well to be fair.

If I wink it’s usually to show interest on a profile that doesn’t explicitly ask single guys to contact them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hate that.. we wink to show an interest. If we then receive a friend request, I'll delete it.

We just accept that is their level of effort. There for, sexual effort must be lesser

Adam.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The devil in me ,made me start to wink everyone who doesn't like winks in this thread then my winking eye got stuck and I can't wink anyone else

Ha ha you might have winked us but we'd never know as we don't look, just delete every now and then "

If you delete mind, it means they can wink you again. Same with friend requests

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to use winks as a conversation starter. A non comital way for the other people to know im interested. If they check my profile i send a message.

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By * and B OP   Couple
over a year ago

Durham


"The devil in me ,made me start to wink everyone who doesn't like winks in this thread then my winking eye got stuck and I can't wink anyone else

Ha ha you might have winked us but we'd never know as we don't look, just delete every now and then

If you delete mind, it means they can wink you again. Same with friend requests "

Yea we know but we don't open the winks anyway so wouldn't see them. Its not a great problem. We do get friend requests from same people at times once we have deleted all the unsolicited friend requests. We don't tend to block people at all either. Suppose we are just to laid back. Nothing is a bother really. Only started this thread to stir peoples thoughts really.

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By *hebagsCouple
over a year ago

worcestershire

We use winks...Especialy if we have missed a nice couple that have looked at our profile,or vicaverca..and have same interests..then usally the messages go from there,and usally end up in a meet or becoming good friends !!!

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

We like winks, both in cyberspace and clubs.

Something rather cheek and cheesy about a wink.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

We like winks and have got some great meets from either sending a wink to start with or responding to a wink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is annoying that there isn't an option to opt out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winks are good - if used appropriately. Actually I prefer a wink to a poor one line message

Just a chill easy going way to say I like your profile. I don’t feel the obligation to respond if I don’t want to.

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By *uckmefackwardsMan
over a year ago

Swindon

Winks are fucking useless - end of !

I don't understand them. I used to get winked at regularly by a couple so I started winking back. Messaged them and they block me - go figure ?

Get a few gay men wink at me too - why ?

A nice polite thanks but no thanks button should replace the wanky winks !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A large majority of my meets started with a wink and all have been repeated meets so all for 'em

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By *irky_coupleCouple
over a year ago

kirky

We wink to express an interest. If we get one back we will usually follow with a message. Still a bit nervous on here and feel a wink is more subtle rather that blasting in with a message to start.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

[Removed by poster at 08/08/18 22:32:50]

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"Winks are fucking useless - end of !

I don't understand them. I used to get winked at regularly by a couple so I started winking back. Messaged them and they block me - go figure ?

Get a few gay men wink at me too - why ?

A nice polite thanks but no thanks button should replace the wanky winks !"

Now or a gosh button

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By *att71Man
over a year ago

Bristol

winks for me are an easy ice breaker for me.....save cold calling so to speak with a message.....if i get one back..i sweatt then and build up the hi...tanks or the wink message.....

If i get winked first.....then I have no idea what to do.....wink back and see hat happens normally....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the people on this thread who reply to winks with winks?!? It's like frigging groundhog day. They've expressed an interest. If you're interested write them a mail. Don't just express an interest back. Jeez! I'm beginning to think I should be a frigging dating coach or something

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By * and B OP   Couple
over a year ago

Durham


"All the people on this thread who reply to winks with winks?!? It's like frigging groundhog day. They've expressed an interest. If you're interested write them a mail. Don't just express an interest back. Jeez! I'm beginning to think I should be a frigging dating coach or something "

Go for it coach

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi brother from another mother

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate winks because do not work it a waste of time due to responding to a few with out luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Winks are fucking useless - end of !

I don't understand them. I used to get winked at regularly by a couple so I started winking back. Messaged them and they block me - go figure ?

Get a few gay men wink at me too - why ?

A nice polite thanks but no thanks button should replace the wanky winks !"

Wink power games...

I wink back if I’m unsure whether they are really interested, or committed enough to meets to actually put a message together..

Otherwise I steam in with a message..

Frequently doesn’t get very far..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My first contact is not always a wink, but if there is no or little in a persons profile then a wink is really just "hello I am here are you interested in chatting more" without saying so and hoping the other person reciprocates - that being so we can then exchange messages

I know its been said 100's of times, but nothing more frustrating than sending nice messages, but being ignored or worse just deleted without replay - Yes I know that par for the course - but still frustrating -

J

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a cheeky wink, always look at them and if I'm interested I'll wink back. It's the equivalent of catching the eye of someone on another out for me

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By *riefcase_WankerMan
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

I wonder if - in much the same way as guys don't understand how frustrating it is for girls and couples to devote the energy to replying or even reading all the messages they get, girls and couples don't understand how frustrating it is for guys and couples to devote the energy to writing out a thoughtful message only for it to go unread or binned off?

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By *riefcase_WankerMan
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

That's not a stance by the way, just a casual musing

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By *aughterMan
over a year ago

skelmersdale

I often send winks if the profile is clever or witty, or the photos are very good, even if I know the people are not for me. just a way of complimenting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been called a winker a few times at work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Winks are good. On Fab, for me its the online equivalent of say .... entering a bar or restuarant or even a store, and smiling at a pretty girl or a good looking couple. If they respond, then chatting and getting to know each other. Ditto for winks. If the person you've winked likes receiving the wink, they'll wink back or send a message. Its easy to do, relaxed and a nice way of saying "I like your profile and I'm interested" and implicitly its a compliment to them. Go for it ..... wink "

I totally agree with this, maybe the wink choice should be replaced with 'smile'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like a cheeky wink, always look at them and if I'm interested I'll wink back. It's the equivalent of catching the eye of someone on another out for me "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We like winks and have got some great meets from either sending a wink to start with or responding to a wink."

x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you wink someone and they wink back . Its that standoff when you both expect the other one to message

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By *portyndNaughtyMan
over a year ago

Nearby Hinckley


"I like a cheeky wink, always look at them and if I'm interested I'll wink back. It's the equivalent of catching the eye of someone on another out for me "

Just sent you a wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We like winks and have got some great meets from either sending a wink to start with or responding to a wink.

x"

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By * and B OP   Couple
over a year ago

Durham


"Hi brother from another mother "

Ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loving the good ladies tattoos OP.

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By *illing to please46Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

I tend to wink if I’m interested in them

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By * and B OP   Couple
over a year ago

Durham


"Loving the good ladies tattoos OP. "

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