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Self-consciousness when it comes to swinging

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi,

I’m very very new to the world of swinging. I’ve engaged in threesomes and foursomes but always seem to be d*unk, spontaneous plays rather than planned. I want to start attending clubs and parties soon but I’m worried I’m going to feel suuuuuper self conscious. I don’t have an amazing body, intact I’m a big girl and some of the women on these sites are absolutely amazing. I don’t want to feel like the great big butternut squash in the room haha.

Does anybody have any tips or have experienced this themselves?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice tits on you

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By *rwhite30Man
over a year ago

deptford London


"Hi,

I’m very very new to the world of swinging. I’ve engaged in threesomes and foursomes but always seem to be d*unk, spontaneous plays rather than planned. I want to start attending clubs and parties soon but I’m worried I’m going to feel suuuuuper self conscious. I don’t have an amazing body, intact I’m a big girl and some of the women on these sites are absolutely amazing. I don’t want to feel like the great big butternut squash in the room haha.

Does anybody have any tips or have experienced this themselves? "

princess your body is amazing, trust me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks guys but I’m not looking for compliments. I’m genuinely looking for advice

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By *rwhite30Man
over a year ago

deptford London


"Thanks guys but I’m not looking for compliments. I’m genuinely looking for advice"

well then have 1 or 2 drinks, that will settle your nerves, then get involved x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi,

I’m very very new to the world of swinging. I’ve engaged in threesomes and foursomes but always seem to be d*unk, spontaneous plays rather than planned. I want to start attending clubs and parties soon but I’m worried I’m going to feel suuuuuper self conscious. I don’t have an amazing body, intact I’m a big girl and some of the women on these sites are absolutely amazing. I don’t want to feel like the great big butternut squash in the room haha.

Does anybody have any tips or have experienced this themselves? "

Are you attending with friends or going alone?

Nothing wrong with a few drinks to make you feel comfy, as most people do this.

If going alone most people will chat to you, as club wise, well the ones we go to, everyone has been super chatty and friendly.

All shapes and sizes attend , so don’t think you are going to places where supermodels attend!

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By *ottie_84Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I’m the same when it comes to clubs, that self confidence part of me goes from zero & builds up more once I’m there, I recently brought an outfit that makes my self confidence etc sky high!

Go with someone you know and trust and play with them and see where it leads too if it leads to more great if not you’ll still have someone to have fun with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi,

I’m very very new to the world of swinging. I’ve engaged in threesomes and foursomes but always seem to be d*unk, spontaneous plays rather than planned. I want to start attending clubs and parties soon but I’m worried I’m going to feel suuuuuper self conscious. I don’t have an amazing body, intact I’m a big girl and some of the women on these sites are absolutely amazing. I don’t want to feel like the great big butternut squash in the room haha.

Does anybody have any tips or have experienced this themselves? "

I'd suggest going to some sort of bbw event at a club. I recently went to one and it was liberating. All the guys love girls with killer curves, which you defo have.

If you feel nervous getting naked then there are things you can wear that partly cover you up, or something like a body stocking which makes you feel dressed but you're not, and would suit you I think. We're always self critical, I know from experience but people see you from a different angle than how you see yourself. You're gorgeous, own it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks good to me ellie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (A) struggle with my body image the way to help not let it stop you is to know you are healthy and if there is something you particularly don't like about your body do something about it your body isn't stuck in a certain way you can change it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi,

I’m very very new to the world of swinging. I’ve engaged in threesomes and foursomes but always seem to be d*unk, spontaneous plays rather than planned. I want to start attending clubs and parties soon but I’m worried I’m going to feel suuuuuper self conscious. I don’t have an amazing body, intact I’m a big girl and some of the women on these sites are absolutely amazing. I don’t want to feel like the great big butternut squash in the room haha.

Does anybody have any tips or have experienced this themselves? "

Hi I’m also a big girl I’ve a nice bum and lush tits but I’m really self conscious of my belly I haven’t attended parties I haven’t the nerve but attended clubs and the atmosphere is so relaxed and non pushy I’m actually quite happy to attend them alone the club I went to the women walk around in their kinkiest underwear there is all shapes and sizes true swingers appreciate the female firm however it’s packaged it’s only the one night stand johnnies that will upset the Apple cart

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham

We go to a few clubs. There's always a good mix of people age and size. Clubs are a great place to build confidence. They are not full of body perfect people. Clubs are inclusive for all. Try and you will be surprised how laid back and non judgemental people really are in clubs. Hope that's some constructive advice

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"Hi,

I’m very very new to the world of swinging. I’ve engaged in threesomes and foursomes but always seem to be d*unk, spontaneous plays rather than planned. I want to start attending clubs and parties soon but I’m worried I’m going to feel suuuuuper self conscious. I don’t have an amazing body, intact I’m a big girl and some of the women on these sites are absolutely amazing. I don’t want to feel like the great big butternut squash in the room haha.

Does anybody have any tips or have experienced this themselves? "

In clubs there are all shapes & sizes. Choose either a dress down like Chameleons or club type like Xtasia which has no dress down - in both instances wear what makes you feel attractive in. Clubs are awesome in my opinion as its not about being perfect. I don't go to compare myself to others at all, or be self conscious around younger or slimmer people. Hope you take the plunge & enjoy yourself - Fi xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The hardest thing to do is walking through the door. I struggled with it alot and was really nervous and self conscious. But when I actually took the step, people were really nice and friendly, easy to talk to.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"Thanks guys but I’m not looking for compliments. I’m genuinely looking for advice"

My best advice for you, would be to go to a club. Just go for a social night out, don't try to pull and allow yourself to just experience what the club environment is like.

You will soon realise that there are all sizes and shapes of people in clubs, and that the "perfect bodies" are not necessarily the people having the most fun.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi Ellie, I've just had a look at your photos. You're as far from being a butternut squash as you are from being on the moon. I've never been to a club and I'm sure I'd feel very self-conscious too if I were on my own.

You look beautiful and I would feel privileged taking you anywhere. Just keep telling yourself this.

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