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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’ve been on here for several months now and still haven’t got a first fab , I don’t get why it’s so hard to meet on here

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

In general terms, there are many, many more men than women or couples, so it's hard for men to get a look in.

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By *dores blackmenWoman
over a year ago

incognito mode ;-)

Try a club or party, have a look at BMFC parties profile

Good place to meet new people,if not comfortable playing at a party,use it as a social to connect with the ladies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm having same problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve been on here for several months now and still haven’t got a first fab , I don’t get why it’s so hard to meet on here "
it may be your approach who knows, I find this an easy site to get meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are a couple looking for just one FB. That said, we are a bit fussy about who that is and therefore we would insist on one or meets in a public environment to see if we all get along.

When contact is established here on Fab, the person(s) often disappear off the Radar before a meet can be arranged. Afraid to say that most of the effort has to made by them.

That said, 90% of the men here are either married, want a shag and want it NOW, or are simply not fussy what they shag and willing to travel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are a couple looking for just one FB. That said, we are a bit fussy about who that is and therefore we would insist on one or meets in a public environment to see if we all get along.

When contact is established here on Fab, the person(s) often disappear off the Radar before a meet can be arranged. Afraid to say that most of the effort has to made by them.

That said, 90% of the men here are either married, want a shag and want it NOW, or are simply not fussy what they shag and willing to travel

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Hey if you're seriously into the life why spend so much time just meet for a social, youre not going to tell much about anybody from a text or a pic fussy or not

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I’ve been on here for several months now and still haven’t got a first fab , I don’t get why it’s so hard to meet on here it may be your approach who knows, I find this an easy site to get meets "
meets that dont verify you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve been on here for several months now and still haven’t got a first fab , I don’t get why it’s so hard to meet on here it may be your approach who knows, I find this an easy site to get meets meets that dont verify you "
I don't and won't publish verifications they mean nothing to me ha I appreciate some need them mind to keep a tally ha

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"I’ve been on here for several months now and still haven’t got a first fab , I don’t get why it’s so hard to meet on here it may be your approach who knows, I find this an easy site to get meets meets that dont verify you I don't and won't publish verifications they mean nothing to me ha I appreciate some need them mind to keep a tally ha"

Not so much to keep a tally but they are a good indicator of if someone is an arm chair swinger or if they actually meet. Especially if they have absolutely no veris. A well veried profile says alot about a person.

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"I’ve been on here for several months now and still haven’t got a first fab , I don’t get why it’s so hard to meet on here it may be your approach who knows, I find this an easy site to get meets meets that dont verify you I don't and won't publish verifications they mean nothing to me ha I appreciate some need them mind to keep a tally ha"

You can have a verification summary, not show the actual verifications. If someone has been on the site as long as you have and don't have any verifications, I'll assume that they are just a picture collector who won't actually meet me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not only single men who struggle on here over the last few months we have put posts up on meet today and been a waste of time . Would say maybe we are ugly but never had a problem playing in clubs even with much younger cpls

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve been on here for several months now and still haven’t got a first fab , I don’t get why it’s so hard to meet on here it may be your approach who knows, I find this an easy site to get meets meets that dont verify you I don't and won't publish verifications they mean nothing to me ha I appreciate some need them mind to keep a tally ha

Not so much to keep a tally but they are a good indicator of if someone is an arm chair swinger or if they actually meet. Especially if they have absolutely no veris. A well veried profile says alot about a person. "
yes it does I agree but as you well know two sides to every theory

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

To us, if there is a consistent theme running though the verifications it is a good indicator to the people they are.

My theory is, “if you want to meet people, put the effort in and go to where they are, don’t expect them to come running to you”.

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By *iverpool LoverMan
over a year ago

liverpool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP Did you take on board any of the advice you were given in the thread you started 5 days ago?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve been on here for several months now and still haven’t got a first fab , I don’t get why it’s so hard to meet on here "

Months? I have been here years, also on my male profile. I do get meets, but not many. I don't like the club scene as I am not a performing seal. I am also on other sites for my trans side. And I a on dating sites as a guy and get dates.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are a couple looking for just one FB. That said, we are a bit fussy about who that is and therefore we would insist on one or meets in a public environment to see if we all get along.

When contact is established here on Fab, the person(s) often disappear off the Radar before a meet can be arranged. Afraid to say that most of the effort has to made by them.

That said, 90% of the men here are either married, want a shag and want it NOW, or are simply not fussy what they shag and willing to travel

Hey if you're seriously into the life why spend so much time just meet for a social, youre not going to tell much about anybody from a text or a pic fussy or not "

Do not blame us!

We do meet for a socials, but generally the chap doesn't stay around long enough to exchange details.

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

Maybe because half of the people on here don't meet simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve been on here for several months now and still haven’t got a first fab , I don’t get why it’s so hard to meet on here "

I think for some people the thought of meeting up and talking about it is a turn on for them even though they don't plan on it. It's happened to me a couple of time. We arranged a date and time, I'll will text them on the day and will get no reply until a week later and they pretend we never agreed to meet, it can be annoying

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’ve been on here for several months now and still haven’t got a first fab , I don’t get why it’s so hard to meet on here

I think for some people the thought of meeting up and talking about it is a turn on for them even though they don't plan on it. It's happened to me a couple of time. We arranged a date and time, I'll will text them on the day and will get no reply until a week later and they pretend we never agreed to meet, it can be annoying "

I literally got that same sorta thing on Saturday-_-

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope it is hard when you do get a meet dude

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By *lice AgainTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

Been here a few years. This profile and a previous.

Had like... 3 meets.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I hope it is hard when you do get a meet dude "

Loool for sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you struggle to meet people outside of fab?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do you struggle to meet people outside of fab? "

Nahh, its calm to be honest , pretty easy

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I am always interested in people who start this threads.. Because I am a great believer in that you are the best person to sell you

I will say this in regards to the op

Went through the profile and if I was a couple or a single fem I would have no idea if I was what you were after

Reason being You don’t mention them at all... it’s all you

Sometimes you have to help yourself help yourself... assuming your potential audience are mind readers isn’t helping yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It isn't hard to meet at all

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By *ornymike_2017Man
over a year ago

Tranmere

Must admit I don’t get many meets off here. I meet mostly in clubs. I love the club scene especially the social side play is always a bonus. I always go with anticipation not expectation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve been on here for several months now and still haven’t got a first fab , I don’t get why it’s so hard to meet on here "

Because the guys outnumber the couples and single girls by 10 to 1

And with most couples having jobs / families - they only have limited time for meets.

We , for example can only meet every other weekend and mainly on a Friday and have meets planned way in advance x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve been on here for several months now and still haven’t got a first fab , I don’t get why it’s so hard to meet on here "

It is hard to generate any interest or meets on here. Not having any veri's can stand in your way but I found it quite amusing to find that some ladies that were communicating then fell away once the veris started to emerge. They didn't approve it seems Meeting nor travelling or accomodating is an issue for me but lets be honest most people both male and female don't want to travel miles and want or need extra things to sort, everyone wants that local fwb, but unfortunately most ladies are inundated and aren't really that bothered about any newbies especially us chaps unfortunately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve been on here for several months now and still haven’t got a first fab , I don’t get why it’s so hard to meet on here

Because the guys outnumber the couples and single girls by 10 to 1

And with most couples having jobs / families - they only have limited time for meets.

We , for example can only meet every other weekend and mainly on a Friday and have meets planned way in advance x"

spot on

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By *ooskiMan
over a year ago

south coast

Hey, if I can get meets.......then anyone can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try some better clearer pictures just saying

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Try some better clearer pictures just saying

Good luck"

Speak for yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try some better clearer pictures just saying

Good luck

Speak for yourself "

What a charming young man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try some better clearer pictures just saying

Good luck

Speak for yourself "

Asking for advice, then being rude..... showing your true colours here OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Coz your male,like all the other males,if you like cock,you'll get loads of meets ,but finding couples for a single male,you'd be better off looking for gold in your local pond lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Try some better clearer pictures just saying

Good luck

Speak for yourself

Asking for advice, then being rude..... showing your true colours here OP "

I’m just sayinnggg speaking about pictures ain’t being clear but isn’t clear on the other end ? Pretty rich tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Itn not hard its really really easy just depends what your looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try some better clearer pictures just saying

Good luck

Speak for yourself

Asking for advice, then being rude..... showing your true colours here OP

I’m just sayinnggg speaking about pictures ain’t being clear but isn’t clear on the other end ? Pretty rich tbh "

Yes, but she’s not asking for advice, unlike you OP.

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By *irtySekretsCouple
over a year ago

Filthy Desires Upon Trent


"Try some better clearer pictures just saying

Good luck

Speak for yourself "

No need for that. The lady was giving advice.

And no wonder you’re not getting any meets.

That attitude would certainly put us off

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By *weberMan
over a year ago

Near Alvechurch


"I’ve been on here for several months now and still haven’t got a first fab , I don’t get why it’s so hard to meet on here it may be your approach who knows, I find this an easy site to get meets "

Says the man with no verifications

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’ve been on here for several months now and still haven’t got a first fab , I don’t get why it’s so hard to meet on here it may be your approach who knows, I find this an easy site to get meets

Says the man with no verifications "

How am I Gunna get verified if I’ve not met anyone on fab to verify me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to a club or a social if it’s that important to you to get a veri OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve been on here for several months now and still haven’t got a first fab , I don’t get why it’s so hard to meet on here it may be your approach who knows, I find this an easy site to get meets

Says the man with no verifications

How am I Gunna get verified if I’ve not met anyone on fab to verify me "

Dunno

But I doubt this thread has done you any favours

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By *irtySekretsCouple
over a year ago

Filthy Desires Upon Trent


"I’ve been on here for several months now and still haven’t got a first fab , I don’t get why it’s so hard to meet on here it may be your approach who knows, I find this an easy site to get meets

Says the man with no verifications

How am I Gunna get verified if I’ve not met anyone on fab to verify me "

Try getting on Cam. You may get lucky. But remain respectful.

Too many entitled Single guys spoil it for the REAL Swingers on this Site

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’ve been on here for several months now and still haven’t got a first fab , I don’t get why it’s so hard to meet on here it may be your approach who knows, I find this an easy site to get meets

Says the man with no verifications

How am I Gunna get verified if I’ve not met anyone on fab to verify me

Alright

Try getting on Cam. You may get lucky. But remain respectful.

Too many entitled Single guys spoil it for the REAL Swingers on this Site"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’ve been on here for several months now and still haven’t got a first fab , I don’t get why it’s so hard to meet on here it may be your approach who knows, I find this an easy site to get meets

Says the man with no verifications

How am I Gunna get verified if I’ve not met anyone on fab to verify me

Alright

Alright

Try getting on Cam. You may get lucky. But remain respectful.

Too many entitled Single guys spoil it for the REAL Swingers on this Site"

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Some are more in demand than others, due to attraction, volume of people in their area, effort invested, smart use of their effort and tools including profile optimization.

Others don't assume that swinging is all about it website. A sexually open and successful user could also visit clubs with their partners, increasing their social and swinging circle etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think we make it harder for ourselves than it actually is.

Couples are hard because it requires us both to be attracted.

And if we're honest most couples are carried by the female (No exception here )

Singles males never seem to have the full package. E.g great body etc but shit personality.

Single ladies.. Don't exist

Adam

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think we make it harder for ourselves than it actually is.

Couples are hard because it requires us both to be attracted.

And if we're honest most couples are carried by the female (No exception here )

Singles males never seem to have the full package. E.g great body etc but shit personality.

Single ladies.. Don't exist

Adam "

Are you saying I have a shit body or shit personality

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Think we make it harder for ourselves than it actually is.

Couples are hard because it requires us both to be attracted.

And if we're honest most couples are carried by the female (No exception here )

Singles males never seem to have the full package. E.g great body etc but shit personality.

Single ladies.. Don't exist

Adam "

Bollocks on a few counts there Adam!

Firstly - I’ve met quite a lot of single males who are/have the full package!

Secondly - you’re both hot - neither of you carries the other!

Thirdly - I’m definitely single and last time I looked I was definitely a female - though a somewhat ancient one!

Peachy xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think we make it harder for ourselves than it actually is.

Couples are hard because it requires us both to be attracted.

And if we're honest most couples are carried by the female (No exception here )

Singles males never seem to have the full package. E.g great body etc but shit personality.

Single ladies.. Don't exist

Adam "
they do but they avoid pushy couples where the account is controlled by the guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Omg how many times does this need to be spelled out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think we make it harder for ourselves than it actually is.

Couples are hard because it requires us both to be attracted.

And if we're honest most couples are carried by the female (No exception here )

Singles males never seem to have the full package. E.g great body etc but shit personality.

Single ladies.. Don't exist

Adam

Are you saying I have a shit body or shit personality "

Neither.. I've told you before, your penis is just far too big.

Adam.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think we make it harder for ourselves than it actually is.

Couples are hard because it requires us both to be attracted.

And if we're honest most couples are carried by the female (No exception here )

Singles males never seem to have the full package. E.g great body etc but shit personality.

Single ladies.. Don't exist

Adam

Bollocks on a few counts there Adam!

Firstly - I’ve met quite a lot of single males who are/have the full package!

Secondly - you’re both hot - neither of you carries the other!

Thirdly - I’m definitely single and last time I looked I was definitely a female - though a somewhat ancient one!

Peachy xx"

Hey peachy.. not gunna lie kinda like a telling off

On a serious note, I'm picky when it comes to guys. Eve is my world only the worthy can touch.

And you know I'll get my hands on you one day

Adam.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think we make it harder for ourselves than it actually is.

Couples are hard because it requires us both to be attracted.

And if we're honest most couples are carried by the female (No exception here )

Singles males never seem to have the full package. E.g great body etc but shit personality.

Single ladies.. Don't exist

Adam

Are you saying I have a shit body or shit personality

Neither.. I've told you before, your penis is just far too big.

Adam. "

Don't worry Adam, Eve can hold your hand, you can take it big boy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think we make it harder for ourselves than it actually is.

Couples are hard because it requires us both to be attracted.

And if we're honest most couples are carried by the female (No exception here )

Singles males never seem to have the full package. E.g great body etc but shit personality.

Single ladies.. Don't exist

Adam they do but they avoid pushy couples where the account is controlled by the guy "

Yeah.. I bet them kind of couples are a nightmare

Adam

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think we make it harder for ourselves than it actually is.

Couples are hard because it requires us both to be attracted.

And if we're honest most couples are carried by the female (No exception here )

Singles males never seem to have the full package. E.g great body etc but shit personality.

Single ladies.. Don't exist

Adam

Are you saying I have a shit body or shit personality

Neither.. I've told you before, your penis is just far too big.

Adam.

Don't worry Adam, Eve can hold your hand, you can take it big boy "

Wouldn't even touch the sides.

It's your superior thighs that scare me

Adam.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think we make it harder for ourselves than it actually is.

Couples are hard because it requires us both to be attracted.

And if we're honest most couples are carried by the female (No exception here )

Singles males never seem to have the full package. E.g great body etc but shit personality.

Single ladies.. Don't exist

Adam

Are you saying I have a shit body or shit personality

Neither.. I've told you before, your penis is just far too big.

Adam.

Don't worry Adam, Eve can hold your hand, you can take it big boy

Wouldn't even touch the sides.

It's your superior thighs that scare me

Adam. "

Oh don't be like that I'll be gentle...at first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once you have a verification things will improve for you. Ask someone for a quick hello nothing else. My circumstances make it difficult but some prefer me discretion is guaranteed. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think we make it harder for ourselves than it actually is.

Couples are hard because it requires us both to be attracted.

And if we're honest most couples are carried by the female (No exception here )

Singles males never seem to have the full package. E.g great body etc but shit personality.

Single ladies.. Don't exist

Adam "

I’m definitely single and I exist.

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