FabSwingers.com forum: Please help, before we give up... Unicorns

By *reshcouple2000 OP Couple
over a year ago

Fleet

Please can someone tell us why we are not having any luck!? Half the time we don't even get a reply.. Trying to find a fem to join us but just not going anywhere.. We're attractive and outgoing, just new to the scene x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

go clubbing maybe

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

try a swingers club

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By *reshcouple2000 OP Couple
over a year ago

Fleet

We've been to one, absolutely loved it, but it still doesn't explain the lack of interaction on the site. Thanks though

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

"We've been to one, absolutely loved it, but it still doesn't explain the lack of interaction on the site. Thanks though "

I get that on here as well I would say try and be patient and they will come. I have found that a lot of people don't like interacting on here and are just picture collectors.

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By *rankie31Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

Be patient it will happen.

Also be ready for time wasters too. There are a few if them.on here.....

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

Ok for what it’s worth, my thought when I read your profile was it wouldn’t be as I’d be ticking a box to complete a fantasy list that the pair of you have. That’s just how it comes across

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The simple answer is nearly every couple on here are looking for the same thing so it follows that the single ladieson here are well in demand and can be very selective

Most of our ffm sessions have been in clubs to be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of single ladies actually avoid couples only seeking single ladies and prefer couples that meet couples, many feel you will just be looking to fulfil a fantasy of yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're the opposite as in the fem of the couple wants to play with a couple but try to find time when every one is free is a nightmare.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do exist.. but I have periods where guys are for me. Or single girls are for me. Or couples. Just keep trying x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because single fem unicorns are so hunted we are very few and far between! So extremely selective!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because single fem unicorns are so hunted we are very few and far between! So extremely selective!"

This

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By *ottie_84Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"We do exist.. but I have periods where guys are for me. Or single girls are for me. Or couples. Just keep trying x"

Same for me as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok for what it’s worth, my thought when I read your profile was it wouldn’t be as I’d be ticking a box to complete a fantasy list that the pair of you have. That’s just how it comes across"

I totally agree with you. OP your profile seems just based on what you want a bit like a check list. Maybe add a few more pics as well.

Clubs as others have suggested are a good place to be. You get to talk to different people and make better connections. As you have only been once in in the 7 months that you joined maybe you should make more of an effort to go to one again

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because single fem unicorns are so hunted we are very few and far between! So extremely selective!"

Plus to add..... my personal preference - I don’t particularly like introducing new couples to 3some play with a single fem. it’s a lot of work to monitor behaviours and constantly check to see how either party are taking it. Essentially for a first experience the couples can over pressurise themselves or what is a fantasy in their head turns to jealousy and isn’t what they wanted in practice.

I just don’t have time to school people through it all. Maybe that’s selfish. But ultimately - we are not a couples entertainment. And don’t need the drama if one party suddenly finds it’s not what they thought and gets openly jealous.

Communication is key, respect is paramount. As a single fem unicorn - I have an abundance of offers... I would select a more experience open couple to swinging over a new couple to a 3some. We can be highly selective as so In demand and hunted.

I would advise - go to a club, gain further experience and understand how it works better and then your approaches to unicorns are going to be far more suitable and likely to gain more responses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because most profiles read like the woman only wants to do it to please the man xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And here sits a unicorn with the opposite problem.. so clubs is where I'm off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to find a swinging website. This site used to be one but has become more like POF now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And here sits a unicorn with the opposite problem.. so clubs is where I'm off

Go to a club - you will love it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because single fem unicorns are so hunted we are very few and far between! So extremely selective!

This "

You should come out and party with me at a club! Your profile is great!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm struggling to see a problem in all honesty. Your profile text is very inviting. Perhaps a lack of public gallery pictures could be the issue?

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

"Because most profiles read like the woman only wants to do it to please the man xx"

See this is where I find it creepy .... a bit rose and fred west ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because most profiles read like the woman only wants to do it to please the man xx"

Yep, I don't want to do it if it's just a floor show for a guy.

Want to know there'll be involvement from all parties.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because most profiles read like the woman only wants to do it to please the man xx"

I find that too, with a lot of profiles. In the OP's case, i don't get that vibe at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And here sits a unicorn with the opposite problem.. so clubs is where I'm off

Go to a club - you will love it!

I've been to Chams.. surprised myself, turned into Sharon Watts.. a slutty actress

loved it there. I was with a bloke but only got the attention of single men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe upload some more pics

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By *adame1981Woman
over a year ago

Leicester

To be honest if I had a message from your profile it sounds like it's just the male

There's no public photos to peruse

I would just click delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be honest if I had a message from your profile it sounds like it's just the male

There's no public photos to peruse

I would just click delete"

I don't think OP is at all interested in any advice either way...... I smell a fake profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The new fad is flamingoes x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've been to one, absolutely loved it, but it still doesn't explain the lack of interaction on the site. Thanks though "
I am not looking to meet couples for 3 sums but I find most couples seem to be looking like a female is a toy to give them this fantasy.

I know not all but the term unicorn is off putting to many.

When on as a couple. All our successful meets with a lady came from clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have the same problem, give it time and im sure someone will definately give you the night you desire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile doesn’t say what you can offer...just sounds like it’s going to be for your benefit, like she’ll be your plaything.

Only two pics...

Profile written by Mr...maybe someone’s wondering how involved Mrs is....would be better to make your profile sound like both of you have had an input. Maybe describing each other...

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By *irky_coupleCouple
over a year ago

kirky

We've been on nearly 18 months and never even had a sniff of a Mff. Doesn't bother us and if it happens it happens but solely aiming for it won't help. Plenty other wonders on here if you ask us.

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By *reshcouple2000 OP Couple
over a year ago

Fleet

Wow thank you all so much for your input! We'll take it all on board and make a few adjustments.. And by the way we are most definitely not a fake profile! Yes Mr does most of the work on here but Mrs is the driving force behind it all! We've a free Saturday this coming weekend and thinking of trying Eurekas, anyone been? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow thank you all so much for your input! We'll take it all on board and make a few adjustments.. And by the way we are most definitely not a fake profile! Yes Mr does most of the work on here but Mrs is the driving force behind it all! We've a free Saturday this coming weekend and thinking of trying Eurekas, anyone been? X"

Eurekas is pretty cool actually. Perhaps have a look around at who is going beforehand?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Please can someone tell us why we are not having any luck!? Half the time we don't even get a reply.. Trying to find a fem to join us but just not going anywhere.. We're attractive and outgoing, just new to the scene x"
it is since the beginning of time the most difficult meet to organise but my suggestion is this, if your lady the short red head with the pert breasts is so keen to meet and have sexual relations with another woman then it should be her that attempts to find the woman required and having made contact a phone call to establish their are two women involved otherwise as probably many have said go to a club and have publicly acclaimed sex at a very reasonable cost depending obviously where your nearest club is

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By *reshcouple2000 OP Couple
over a year ago

Fleet

That's a great point, thanks bud

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By *reshcouple2000 OP Couple
over a year ago

Fleet

Thanks James, er, I reckon post sex d*unk forum post...

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By *reshcouple2000 OP Couple
over a year ago

Fleet

thanks, will do

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By *reshcouple2000 OP Couple
over a year ago

Fleet

Fucked that up.. Hopefully you can work out what was for who

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because single fem unicorns are so hunted we are very few and far between! So extremely selective!"

That's why your called unicorns

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to say that I have similar opinion to some of the posters above. I have found couples on here to be a really hard work, so now I decided that I'd only like to meet couples in clubs, where I can see and interact with both of them. I'm hoping to be able to go to a bi night soon, where, hopefully, I will make some contacts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because single fem unicorns are so hunted we are very few and far between! So extremely selective!

That's why your called unicorns

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they're a myth

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Because single fem unicorns are so hunted we are very few and far between! So extremely selective!

I would advise - go to a club, gain further experience and understand how it works better and then your approaches to unicorns are going to be far more suitable and likely to gain more responses. "

This

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Maybe it is the fact you are both smokers puts off women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am npt being funny but I prefer to play with stale couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find your update patronising. So a single female has to prove she's worthy before you decide to grace her with a face pic so she can see who she's talking to.

Get over yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't read all of the posts in this so I apologise in advance if I am repeating anything.

As a single female, I would be put off because it is your first time having a meet like this. I would feel that I would not be able to relax in a meet because I would be worrying about how you are both feeling when we are playing. I am very aware that expectation and reality can sometimes be very different. For example, it may turn out that you actually feel upset or jealous rather than horny and sexy.

I would also add some more photos to the profile of both the male and female half. As single females, we literally get hundreds of messages a day so we can be very selective. It may seem rude but I don't always have the time to strike up a conversation which every person that messages me to see if I find them attractive. It is much quicker for me to look at the profile and see from there. The more pictures you have, the more I can see you.

You may find it easier to meet with a couple first as well. I don't like meeting with couples who don't meet other couples. The reason for this is because I worry that I am just going to be putting on a show for the man and I get really annoyed by this as I am on here for more than entertainment of couples.

Meeting in clubs is another thing that you may want to try. It is easier to meet couples in a club and play that way too. A lot of people in clubs are on here so you could ask them to verify you too which would make you more appealing to single fems as you would seem more genuine.

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By *reshcouple2000 OP Couple
over a year ago

Fleet

"I haven't read all of the posts in this so I apologise in advance if I am repeating anything.

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hi, thank you for taking the time to give us some great advice, I'm blown away! We'll definitely be making some changes to our profile, and possibly our whole approach.. And by the way if you're ever down our way we'd love to get some tips in person x nothing better than hot and confident xx

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By *reshcouple2000 OP Couple
over a year ago

Fleet

"I find your update patronising. So a single female has to prove she's worthy before you decide to grace her with a face pic so she can see who she's talking to.

Get over yourself.

If you want to get a single bi fem then drop the status that makes it sound like she's going to have to to bend over backwards to impress you first. They don't need to. They have their pick of fab, so why would they waste time on a couple whos status makes them sound like divas. "
sorry if it comes across that way. That's not what was intended and if you knew us you would know it. We're new to this and that's why we asked for advice. Was there any need for such an aggressive tone?

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By *uicylucy76Woman
over a year ago

thornton cleveleys

I think your profile looks fine and inviting so don’t give up. I personally would rather meet a girl one on one rather than a couple purely because it’s less daunting but that’s just me. Good luck x

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By *reshcouple2000 OP Couple
over a year ago

Fleet

"I think your profile looks fine and inviting so don’t give up. I personally would rather meet a girl one on one rather than a couple purely because it’s less daunting but that’s just me. Good luck x"
thank you, not giving up yet x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find your update patronising. So a single female has to prove she's worthy before you decide to grace her with a face pic so she can see who she's talking to.

Get over yourself.

If you want to get a single bi fem then drop the status that makes it sound like she's going to have to to bend over backwards to impress you first. They don't need to. They have their pick of fab, so why would they waste time on a couple whos status makes them sound like divas. sorry if it comes across that way. That's not what was intended and if you knew us you would know it. We're new to this and that's why we asked for advice. Was there any need for such an aggressive tone? "

I think the issue here, is that the women reading the status, don't in fact know you. Bi Single Women are the most coveted group on this site. No woman is going to jump through hoops to meet one couple, when they have so much choice at their fingertips. The fact of saying "if they are worthy" is going to make most potential female interest, look elsewhere. It comes across as arrogant. If you want to meet a bi fem, you need to understand that you need to lure them, not have them lure you. They have no need to do that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was going to say I like your profile and I would be interested if you were closer, but then I read your status update.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am npt being funny but I prefer to play with stale couple. "

Stale as in mouldy?

Or just a bit yeasty?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

TBH we’ve never put much effort into coveting single bi females we’ve just reiterated to any single female that play with us is about equal way dynamics, we are not here to put them on a pedestal or at the other end treat them like our play thing, this has worked for us and we’ve some lovely, sensible and know the score single ladies who we meet and consider friends, those aggressively chasing single females will find most are unsuitable and don’t know the score and have frankly got used to people begging, compromising and getting used to being chased, these ladies are generally hard work even just to communicate on here with

Swinging is supposed to be fun and for us is about equal way dynamics whoever’s playing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've been to one, absolutely loved it, but it still doesn't explain the lack of interaction on the site. Thanks though "

Best to be patient

Also your pics don't really do your profile justice

We like to see who we are talking too.

The fact that you are only looking for ladies will narrow it down as more guys on here than ever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There will be a lot of banging your head against the wall with this one. From our experience few women who have ticked the bi box are genuine, they have never met a couple or are likely to do so. There are a few here but it is hard work finding a genuine bi female.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

Ignore what people say about single ladies being rare, or never meeting etc.

There are loads out there, and they are as keen to meet as anyone else is.

However, being much sought after, they can pick and choose who they play with.

We are pretty average, but have no problem meeting and playing with so called unicorns.

However, we have never played with a " single bi female ", but we have played with loads of friends who also happened to be female, single, and bi.

Get out and attend socials, go to clubs and parties, and make friends...don't hunt "unicorns", just be genuine and friendly and you will soon find ladies approaching you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi, to give you some honest feedback I think the text of your profile is very good. Well written and you come across as sexy but sane and sound like you are considerate of your guest's satisfaction. Personally I would not be tempted to contact you based on your photos. They do not show full body and one each doesn't give me Mei he to go on. I would advise a few more of each if you, including some where you are dressed and out and about (blocking faces if needed). This just gives a potential threesome guest more information as to whether you're their cup of tea. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"TBH we’ve never put much effort into coveting single bi females we’ve just reiterated to any single female that play with us is about equal way dynamics, we are not here to put them on a pedestal or at the other end treat them like our play thing, this has worked for us and we’ve some lovely, sensible and know the score single ladies who we meet and consider friends, those aggressively chasing single females will find most are unsuitable and don’t know the score and have frankly got used to people begging, compromising and getting used to being chased, these ladies are generally hard work even just to communicate on here with

Swinging is supposed to be fun and for us is about equal way dynamics whoever’s playing"

^^^^^This

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