FabSwingers.com forum: Do you judge the way you look by how others look?

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Deleted it by mistake..

When someone messages you and you think they are really attractive it puts me off a little and makes me think ' Why would you want me'.

Or is it just me lol

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By *layfulfoxMan
over a year ago

nowhere

So by the same token then you think why would I want you to someone really tough looking???

What are we judging on, facial looks? Body aesthetics???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I think thats natural.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know why they want me. It's why they join here in the first place.

The ones who don't want a middle aged fat woman, who doesn't wear sexy lingerie or make much of an effort to look sexy, don't message me.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Naaaaa I chat to all people the same whether attracted or not and certainly don't feel inferior to anyone

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By *ana_nana_MATTMAN!Man
over a year ago

Haywood Village, Weston-super-Mare

"Deleted it by mistake..

When someone messages you and you think they are really attractive it puts me off a little and makes me think ' Why would you want me'.

Or is it just me lol"

Sounds like a self esteem issue.

I expect the people messaging you find you more attractive than you believe yourself to be.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

No. If they didnt like the look of me they wouldnt message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody has ever messaged me and said that on here before in fact nobody has ever messaged me first

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I'm slowly getting out of doing it.

There are times when I wonder if they're needing a trip to the opticians when they message.

One thing that I have noticed though, those that I think that about tend to have partners that have no clue they're on here.

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By *ob198XaMan
over a year ago

teleford

No one better looking than me ever messages me

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By *ob198XaMan
over a year ago

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Although I'm extremely self-deprecating I have learned to take it as a compliment when someone tells me they find me attractive and accept that even though I think they see something I don't that I'm not the one to judge in that instance.

If we then go on to chat some more and find a connection and chemistry any self-doubt goes completely out the window

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Deleted it by mistake..

When someone messages you and you think they are really attractive it puts me off a little and makes me think ' Why would you want me'.

Or is it just me lol"

Im exactly the same!

Think its a confidence issue.

I also worry attractive men might think i'm an easy ride (excuse the pun!) because im an older plus size woman!

I'm not by the way! Lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

If someone I find attractive messages us I think good.

I tend to have a L'Oréal state of mind I'm worth it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Deleted it by mistake..

When someone messages you and you think they are really attractive it puts me off a little and makes me think ' Why would you want me'.

Or is it just me lol

Im exactly the same!

Think its a confidence issue.

I also worry attractive men might think i'm an easy ride (excuse the pun!) because im an older plus size woman!

I'm not by the way! Lol"

Why worry about what other people might be thinking when you can't possibly know?

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