FabSwingers.com forum: What triggers a blocking?

By *vy_Green OP Woman
over a year ago

Soham

Just seen the length of my block list and crikey...but I definitely use it as shorthand for 'this person was observed being a creep/pillock/nutter' (like whiny man-babies having tantrums about not getting meets, those who use 'sluts' or similar to refer to all women)...so what triggers your insta-ban?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Knobhead men in the forum and a bloke who said he was straight but had a detailed and explicit veri from a bi guy with a gloryhole

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just seen the length of my block list and crikey...but I definitely use it as shorthand for 'this person was observed being a creep/pillock/nutter' (like whiny man-babies having tantrums about not getting meets, those who use 'sluts' or similar to refer to all women)...so what triggers your insta-ban?"
only 3 on mine one was a woman replied with a nasty message, one I think hubby blocked me because I got on to well with his wife and the other not sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too many things to mention!

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London

Klingon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My most recent ones include:

Sending six messages in less than a day when I'm not interested.

Mistaking me for the mother of their child and threatening to stab me to death, saying they would gladly do thirty years for it

Racist messages. For the avoidance of doubt and getting into the "preference" discussion. I mean, messages where they contact me and type derogatory abuse, using racial slurs/terminology, etc.

Insulting me, after I politely reply to their message to decline.

Certain forum posts.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Derogatory comments about women in statuses or profile. Nasty and abusive messages back to me if I decline the charming offer of meet now or fancy a fuck x

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By *kin BohnerMan
over a year ago

derby

Several things, badly written profile, awful photos, posts in the forum that make me think I'd walk away if I met them in real life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It usually starts with me saying ‘Thank you for your valuable input’ on a thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agressive nob heads mostly

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

Profiles contain photos that we find vile, couples that bareback, obvioulsy not read ours as clearly not compatible, stroppy messages & now if random friend invites

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Sexism, racism, homophobia, transphobia. Abusive or persistent messages when I've not indicated interest. Repeatedly uploading photos (that show up in my news feed) that make me gag. Sometimes word of mouth from people I trust.

Other things too, but that's most of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rudeness, abuse, guys who can’t tske no for an answer or see I’ve deleted their messages which means I’m not interested.

Any messages that aren’t polite or start with something like “I’m gonna bend you over and fuck you bare then plant my seed inside you” had something very similar to that this morning. Straight block! Hahaha.

Also I block anyone who has lied about their age also, because in my opinion if someone can lie about something as small as age, they can lie about a lot of other things.

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By *vy_Green OP Woman
over a year ago

Soham

"Insulting me, after I politely reply to their message to decline."

Negging is just soooo nineties *eyeroll*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being unattractive is a big one I think.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Unsolicited friend requests always result in a block from me - I state this in my profile too. I only add people as friends if we have actually met (usually at clubs) or have been messaging for quite a while and intend to meet.

Crude messages sometimes end up in a block. Abusive and rude people are always blocked, as are those who send repeated messages and don't take no for an answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive actually blocked more than i thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Asking why we aren't interested.

Keep messaging after being told we're not interested.

Messed us about/wasted time/no shows.

Started stalking our profile/stalker messages after a meet.

Getting arsey.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine is a mix of people asking me if I'm into "taboo" and general, ad I can't think of any other way to describe them, idiots.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

"Too many things to mention! "

This lol

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By *omesticated_VixenWoman
over a year ago

sw London

"Asking why we aren't interested.

Keep messaging after being told we're not interested.

Messed us about/wasted time/no shows.

Started stalking our profile/stalker messages after a meet.

Getting arsey.

Same + unsolicited cock pics!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Time waster.

Flaky.

Pic collector.

Won't take no for an answer.

Abusive.

Statuses wanting to "unload" etc.

Photos I'm repulsed by.

Pics of big cocks.

Veris saying how huge their cock was etc.

People in my town.

People who message wanting to meet who live the other side of the country.

Drug references on profile.

Just people who I feel I wouldn't get on with in real life.

Forum posters who offend me.

I could go on. Lol.

My profile, I run it how I see fit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I clearly use my block list differently, ok there are a few idiots I did not like, there are a couple of people who I know and have blocked for privacy reasons.

But, it is mainly those who I have messaged with and either party have decided not to take things forward, or those who I have looked at who don’t float my boat, who I have blocked.

Just keeps it more tidy when searching

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who I've messaged and have said no politely, saves me forgetting they have and messaging in future. Which is a sensible use.

People who reply to nice well written messages with "U got pix"

People with "jog on" anywhere in their profiles unless they are amazingly hot otherwise

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By *abrielle247Couple (FF)
over a year ago

PDI Gran Canaria

Pretty much sums it up.

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By *woofuslondonCouple
over a year ago

london

Well it seems if you read a message but dont have time to reply straight away, people seem to have blocked you, when you go to reply! Oh well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just 2 one from a guy Mr went to school with and one from a guy who wasn't all there x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A finger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Repeat messaging, being rude etc

Or my favourite, is when we politely say "you're not what we are looking for" and they ask "What are you looking for then"

Why can't they just take it on the chin and move on..

Adam.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Something I said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People all operate on their own logic. There's a local couple who had me on their friends list a week ago. I just found out they blocked me. We haven't had contact in the interim, so I can't have offended them. No idea what caused it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Repeat messaging, being rude etc

Or my favourite, is when we politely say "you're not what we are looking for" and they ask "What are you looking for then"

Why can't they just take it on the chin and move on..

Adam."

“What are you looking for” I hate that one!

No doubt if you reply they will attempt to mould themselves into exactly what you’re looking for... LOL!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Has anyone noticed that single females get the most abuse on here? As a single and formerly part of a couple I found that my single female account had far worse than the couples. Often the same guys or couples would be arseholes on my singles but nice on my couples because there was another guy there. Just says it all about men and couples on here really.

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Guys who keep sending me messages as fast as I delete them. Just give it up...it wasn’t a mistake. And if it was, I’ll undelete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guys who keep sending me messages as fast as I delete them. Just give it up...it wasn’t a mistake. And if it was, I’ll undelete. "
you havnt got time let's face it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has anyone noticed that single females get the most abuse on here? As a single and formerly part of a couple I found that my single female account had far worse than the couples. Often the same guys or couples would be arseholes on my singles but nice on my couples because there was another guy there. Just says it all about men and couples on here really. "

I’ve not been anything other than a single female so I don’t know whether we get more abuse or less than others however we do get a fair amount! Some guys seem to think because we are on a sex site it’s fair game for all.

Yet if someone they’re not interested in messages them, they’d have no issue deleting the message or replying no thanks... but we get berated for doing it to them!

Those double standards!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I've not seen a man's or a couple's profile, but my last event I got my single male host to field initial messages. I was surprised by how annoyed he got at messages that barely hit my rude radar anymore (not that I would have replied favourably to them, but more, it's not worth noting on the scale of rude, demanding, entitled, abusive or disgusting). I also otherwise get the impression that (some) people don't realise the amount or the intensity of the garbage/ abuse we have to sift through.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being a continuous and unrelenting obnoxious arse in nearly every thread your involved in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

messages i send that get deleted without reply i block these people. messages i send that get read but don't reply within a couple of days i block these people. people who continue to message me when iv said no thanks i block these people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So far I've blocked people who keep messaging when I haven't replied, a few who have used vulgar or derogatory language and one guy who I know and don't want him to know I'm on here.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

Someone who sends me with a one line message.

Someone who has references to drugs on their page.

That sort of thing.

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By *exyspecs and supermanCouple
over a year ago

A house, a very big house in the country

Quite simply Arseholes

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

What triggers an instra ban is:-

Less than average people who think it’s ok to send abusive messages to me.

People (usually friends) who say summat derogative and take umbridge being questioned over it.

Idiots in general.

Forumites who are not nice to me on a thread when I’m contributing to the thread.

People who expect me to just drop my nickers for them.

People who question me why I’m not meeting.

People with hideous profile pics.

I could go on....

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Loads of things like:

Guys who clearly aren't my type not getting my polite decline and still persistently messaging.

Guys who use threatening language towards me.

Local guys who upload rank looking cock pics.

Guys who say stuff like 'we're all the same height lying down' when they have questioned my preferences.

Guys who refuse to send a face pic but still expect me to meet them.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Graphic 1st messages

Asking to meet that day /fast

Not taking no for an answer

Being an arse in forums

If I know them in real life .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if they do not like the look of a person is one of them which to me means judging without knowing them

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By *harliebluestockingsCouple
over a year ago

london

One line messages that are clearly just men sending msgs without my effort.

Hi like your pics

Hi do you meet ( errrr that’s the idea )

And especially those that say hi and send a cock pic unsolicited.

Saves both parties wasting time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't blocked anyone but I've been block after showing them a face pic

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Lord knows , chat away merrily offering asked for advice next thing I know I’m accused of getting him a ban ,as if I haven’t got enough to do on holiday ! Odd thing is he is still posting WEIRD !

By the time I landed on a 1 1/2 hour flight I’m blocked . Lordy some nutters on here .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clearly not reading our profile, being a dick, local but not attracted to. There's a range of reasons, not all of them personal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My block list made up of women who are not meeting, just chatting. Women who are not meeting single men. Women who are meeting gym fit or very specific me ( of which I am not one) but also women who have only been verfied by a specific type of man.

Putting them on the block list saves me having to skip past them on the search results.

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By *istalloverCouple
over a year ago

Pays de la Loire -Normandie -Brittany borderFrance

mainly end up blocking people who didn't read our profile ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab single

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport

I suspect just being a single bi male is fairly effective with a lot of people.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

People who utter the words ‘timewasters and dreamers’ like they are the king of the swingers.

Bblloocckkkkk

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

One persistent messenger when told that we weren’t interested.

One who blocked us after standing us up?

One chatted with us for 3 weeks then when arranging a meet decided to block us instead?

One couple who put an arranged meet up but didn’t even have the decency to reply to us when we messaged them to say we could meet them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being unattractive is a big one I think."

I must be unattractive lol

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By *abrielle247Couple (FF)
over a year ago

PDI Gran Canaria

People who get on my tits, persistent stupid messages and those that don't read my profile and ask silly questions.

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By *aenMan
over a year ago

Here and There

A change in wind direction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What triggers an instra ban is:-

Less than average people who think it’s ok to send abusive messages to me.

People (usually friends) who say summat derogative and take umbridge being questioned over it.

Idiots in general.

Forumites who are not nice to me on a thread when I’m contributing to the thread.

People who expect me to just drop my nickers for them.

People who question me why I’m not meeting.

People with hideous profile pics.

I could go on....

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knickers

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By *ubicon MangoMan
over a year ago

willenhall

Rude, aggresive, horrible nasty abusive and time wasters/pic collectors/fake profile!

Piss off!

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By *V-AliceTV/TS
over a year ago

Ayr

Plenty of things. Men who think my profile preferences don't apply to them is still #1 though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Rude, aggresive, horrible nasty abusive and time wasters/pic collectors/fake profile!

Piss off!"
calm...... Breathe.......exhale......

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"My most recent ones include:

Sending six messages in less than a day when I'm not interested.

Mistaking me for the mother of their child and threatening to stab me to death, saying they would gladly do thirty years for it

Racist messages. For the avoidance of doubt and getting into the "preference" discussion. I mean, messages where they contact me and type derogatory abuse, using racial slurs/terminology, etc.

Insulting me, after I politely reply to their message to decline.

Certain forum posts.

Omg that you're still here after having to put up with that.

Respect to you and hope that you meet the best guy ever off fab to make up for it.

Just out of interest please tell me the racist and the death threat people profiles aren't still on here ?

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"My block list made up of women who are not meeting, just chatting. Women who are not meeting single men. Women who are meeting gym fit or very specific me ( of which I am not one) but also women who have only been verfied by a specific type of man.

Putting them on the block list saves me having to skip past them on the search results."

Best block me then as I’m not meeting anyone from Fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My most recent ones include:

Sending six messages in less than a day when I'm not interested.

Mistaking me for the mother of their child and threatening to stab me to death, saying they would gladly do thirty years for it

Racist messages. For the avoidance of doubt and getting into the "preference" discussion. I mean, messages where they contact me and type derogatory abuse, using racial slurs/terminology, etc.

Insulting me, after I politely reply to their message to decline.

Certain forum posts.

Did you report those stabbing threats?

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