FabSwingers.com forum: The difficulty in meeting soft swingers

By *rban-Nites OP Couple
over a year ago

LONDON (SE)

I never thought it would be so difficult to click with and meet soft swing couple's, or at least those who enjoyed the odd soft play session. Yes we all know how full sex is a whole other level but for those who do not or who are not ready for that, it's a long hard road lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have come across quite a few soft swap couples, but mainly when we were in full swap mode haha!

It's that scenario when you are looking for something specific you can never find it!

Maybe try a club xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never thought it would be so difficult to click with and meet soft swing couple's, or at least those who enjoyed the odd soft play session. Yes we all know how full sex is a whole other level but for those who do not or who are not ready for that, it's a long hard road lol.

Any chance of you popping over to our profile?

It's what we are after also xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a soft swap couple we know your pain .also we've found most soft couples have a bi female so it's even more difficult to find a straight soft swap couple .

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We find that people often don't twig that we're soft swap until we start talking about meeting.

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Yes this would appeal to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't worry, we're out there xxxx

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By *heothercouple1000Couple
over a year ago

Coventry

Us too!

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By *xford DuoCouple
over a year ago

oxford

Good post. Enjoyed your profile too

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By *rban-Nites OP Couple
over a year ago

LONDON (SE)

"Yes this would appeal to me

In what way, as in to play alone with a couple or as a 4some with your partner? X

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By *rban-Nites OP Couple
over a year ago

LONDON (SE)

"Good post. Enjoyed your profile too "

Enjoyed yours also!

T X

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By *rban-Nites OP Couple
over a year ago

LONDON (SE)

"We have come across quite a few soft swap couples, but mainly when we were in full swap mode haha!

It's that scenario when you are looking for something specific you can never find it!

Maybe try a club xx "

Yes that seems to be our everyday scenario lol

We are looking to try a club after our trip to Cornwall in a couple of weeks so maybe we'll click with someone then x T

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"Yes this would appeal to me

In what way, as in to play alone with a couple or as a 4some with your partner? X "

Either!! I dont have a parnter but maybe I could find a victim

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By *rban-Nites OP Couple
over a year ago

LONDON (SE)

All you lovely softies are miles from us lol... typical

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes this would appeal to me

In what way, as in to play alone with a couple or as a 4some with your partner? X

Either!! I dont have a parnter but maybe I could find a victim

If only you were closer. Couples mostly want other couples or single females for soft swing so a single guy interested in soft swing is very often viewed with suspicion or derision...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile looks fab. Shame you’re so far away for a casual meeting.

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By *inky kissersCouple
over a year ago

South East

We just go with the flow. Love soft swing as it's a lot of fun, essentially a long bout of foreplay with kissing, licking, nibbling and sucking.

What's not to love?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile looks fab. Shame you’re so far away for a casual meeting."

And that I think is the difficulty. Finding like-minded couples who meet your criteria and where there is four way chemistry. Hence, the club scenario seeming best even if that's not your thing!

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By *randMrsPCouple
over a year ago

Nr Salisbury

As you can see from our profile, this is out thing. I'd thoroughly recommend a trip to Eureka.

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By *randMrsPCouple
over a year ago

Nr Salisbury

*our!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah after one experience with a soft swing couple I got put off. To me a bj is just foreplay and even though it was better then no having it, I had to run off and find me something more. I like to think it's an all or nothing sort of thing

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"We have come across quite a few soft swap couples, but mainly when we were in full swap mode haha!

It's that scenario when you are looking for something specific you can never find it!

Maybe try a club xx

Yes that seems to be our everyday scenario lol

We are looking to try a club after our trip to Cornwall in a couple of weeks so maybe we'll click with someone then x T"

Enjoy Cornwall xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As you can see from our profile, this is out thing. I'd thoroughly recommend a trip to Eureka. "

I will be sure to look let you know if I am coming down that way sometime

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

We are out there and can often be found in clubs.

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By *inky kissersCouple
over a year ago

South East

The difficulty we seem to have is transforming from a chat on here to actually meeting, soft swing or otherwise.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"The difficulty we seem to have is transforming from a chat on here to actually meeting, soft swing or otherwise.

Bite the bullet and suggest a date

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By *inky kissersCouple
over a year ago

South East

"The difficulty we seem to have is transforming from a chat on here to actually meeting, soft swing or otherwise.

Bite the bullet and suggest a date

What are you up to tonight?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are soft only.

We mainly enjoy same room. Just watching others as they watch us

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By *n Search Of SunsetCouple
over a year ago

Search Of Sunset

Your profile looks fab. Shame you’re so far away for a casual meeting.

And that I think is the difficulty. Finding like-minded couples who meet your criteria and where there is four way chemistry. Hence, the club scenario seeming best even if that's not your thing!"

We have sort of given up on clubs as we look for this and hardly find it there too.

Arranged private parties are the better option..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single man who loves soft play it's a very difficult world but the rewards when they come are out of this world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree! Soft swap very hard to find on here...perhaps we need our own little group??

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By *inky kissersCouple
over a year ago

South East

"I agree! Soft swap very hard to find on here...perhaps we need our own little group??"

Sign us up

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By *osweet69Couple
over a year ago

portsmouth

There are quite a few of us about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would be open to the idea

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

In terms of couples play we're still finding are feet too.

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By *icvon 69Man
over a year ago

glossop

We'd join it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Alright Fab...you heard us. Sort it!

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By *ame-room-no-swapCouple
over a year ago

Taunton

Shame you're so far, but look us up if your down west country way

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

Any meets are difficult to sort so don’t worry to much. I would love to meet you for the same as your pictures are stunning but sadly being a single guy isn’t what you are looking for

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By *ame-room-no-swapCouple
over a year ago

Taunton

Any chance of you popping over to our profile?

It's what we are after also xxx"

Would love to but blocked lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You would be surprised how many are into soft swing and to us that can be more erotic then full sex. usually though folk are too far away or they do not want cuddly people but there are some out there and we have had some wonderful meets

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

Hello

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We just like to watch and be watched?? X

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By *im2203Couple
over a year ago

colchester

We are a soft swap couple always looking for socials and club meets . Would be very interested in a group for soft swingers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We just like to watch and be watched?? X"
we would be interested

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By *igJandTheBlondeCouple
over a year ago

Kings Hill

We’d be interested in soft swap, we’d just like to be in a room to watch and be watched xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a married guy looking for fun a soft swing would suit me very well. Anyone local?

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By *rban-Nites OP Couple
over a year ago

LONDON (SE)

Any chance of you popping over to our profile?

It's what we are after also xxx"

We would... but blocked lol, go figure?

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By *rban-Nites OP Couple
over a year ago

LONDON (SE)

"Yes this would appeal to me

In what way, as in to play alone with a couple or as a 4some with your partner? X

Either!! I dont have a parnter but maybe I could find a victim

If you wasn't so far we would loved to had had a meet with you.

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By *ame-room-no-swapCouple
over a year ago

Taunton

"We just like to watch and be watched?? X"

Too old for you, but this is our thing exactly

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By *inky kissersCouple
over a year ago

South East

Any chance of you popping over to our profile?

It's what we are after also xxx

We would... but blocked lol, go figure? "

Pretty sure that you are not blocked from our profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes not easy to find. we would love to meet a localish couple for soft swing fun, easy to find single men, but not couples

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By *inky kissersCouple
over a year ago

South East

Would also quite like to arrange a girls only group play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We just like to watch and be watched?? X

Too old for you, but this is our thing exactly

We would love to meet you guys.

Why is it all the people on here that share similar interests live miles away on the other side of the planet

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By *osweet69Couple
over a year ago

portsmouth

"We just like to watch and be watched?? X

Too old for you, but this is our thing exactly

We would love to meet you guys.

Why is it all the people on here that share similar interests live miles away on the other side of the planet "

They call that Sods Law.

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

We like soft swing if that’s what we agree on when meeting couples , can be just as much fun

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

We soft swung in clubs for a while before she was ready to go all the way with other men. We never found any shortage of soft-swing couples in these places.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At last someone nearby ,if you do get a group together I would love to join .

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By *eKoopleCouple
over a year ago

Germany / Manchester

We still soft play as we’ve no rush to full swap even though we’re open to this. In our experience, private parties seem to be better for soft play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like soft swing, in the right circumstances it's more of a turn on then sex!

Mrs x

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

We love soft swing too. But as Miss is straight we find this difficult to find as well.

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By *elaxedcplCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

We're also a soft swing couple, could someone arrange to shrink the UK so all you sexy people are closed?

We've found most fun in clubs and naturist resorts, there are some lovely people out there that make soft swing such a sexy experience and lasting memory.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of interested people but all seem miles away from each other ,so frustrating!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We only soft play with women at the moment

But the thought of soft play with a couple keeps popping up, I think we are waiting until we find that ‘click’ with the right people

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By *uriousMe2018Couple
over a year ago

Aldershot

We are the same. Just girl on girl play and same room fun for us at the moment but soft play is a possibility with the right couple

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By *uriousMe2018Couple
over a year ago

Aldershot

I certainly wouldnt mind playing with Dragon Fire lol

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By *eKoopleCouple
over a year ago

Germany / Manchester

I guess it’s difficult to organise a SP group meet with so many people being spread across the country.

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By *eerobCouple
over a year ago

solihull

We are always looking for watching and being watched couples

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By *uriousMe2018Couple
over a year ago

Aldershot

Beautiful pics! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some nice couples on here

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

Look in forum, type soft swing there is a group going - meet up for play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We started soft swing only and now do both soft and full swop, both are very exciting when you find the right people. We still have lots of friends who only soft swing and we really enjoy spending sexy time with them, just have to respect there boundaries

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My GF and I are discussing joining as a couple, probably as soft swing only, certainly to begin with. My question is, I’ve seen plenty of couples that have soft swing as an interest alongside full swap, would that be as far as it goes, or would there be a desire to take it further?

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

"My GF and I are discussing joining as a couple, probably as soft swing only, certainly to begin with. My question is, I’ve seen plenty of couples that have soft swing as an interest alongside full swap, would that be as far as it goes, or would there be a desire to take it further?"

Good question, there should be Full Swap option on Interests so those that do both make it obvious. Confusing when soft swing say safe sex option with soft swing - does that mean condoms/dams for oral or just condoms on toys? Have to be a big condom for some of them wands

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We love soft swing as much as full swap. For us its more about who we meet rather than what we get up to.

If arranged a soft swing meet we wouldn't push the other cple to go further, if they wanted to then they would have to tell us. Xx

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By *inky kissersCouple
over a year ago

South East

Just wondered if any of you lucky enough to be close by have been in touch? Has it become a matchmaking thread?

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By *randnew23sumsCouple
over a year ago

Lancashire

We would never full swap on a first meet. Would only be soft swing at most .

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By *osweet69Couple
over a year ago

portsmouth

"Just wondered if any of you lucky enough to be close by have been in touch? Has it become a matchmaking thread?

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Not for us

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By *inky kissersCouple
over a year ago

South East

"Just wondered if any of you lucky enough to be close by have been in touch? Has it become a matchmaking thread?

Not for us

Portsmouth is not too far from us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are there any cpls in kent who like soft

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We started soft swing only and now do both soft and full swop, both are very exciting when you find the right people. We still have lots of friends who only soft swing and we really enjoy spending sexy time with them, just have to respect there boundaries

Same here...

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By *elaxedcplCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Just wondered if any of you lucky enough to be close by have been in touch? Has it become a matchmaking thread?

Isn't that supposed to be the point of this site?

Anyhoo, to continue the flirtatious manner of this thread, we're off to Cap D'Agde at the end of August

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

Maybe one of the clubs could do a soft swing night.

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By *_Yeah19Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln

maybe profiles don’t make the ins and outs of what people do and don’t want totally clear?

We don’t want to write a list of everything we do or don’t do as it’s very fluid depending on the couple and the meet/scenario, but are open to all sorts of options.

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By *inky kissersCouple
over a year ago

South East

"maybe profiles don’t make the ins and outs of what people do and don’t want totally clear?

We don’t want to write a list of everything we do or don’t do as it’s very fluid depending on the couple and the meet/scenario, but are open to all sorts of options.

TB"

That's where the chat and the build up help give you a better idea.

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

We're soft only and we've found that meeting people in clubs is easier than online. Typically we'll just start playing together in an open room and we might attract the attention of others.

Then it's a quick 'we don't full swap but would you fancy doing xyz? ' More often than not they're up for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We're soft only and we've found that meeting people in clubs is easier than online. Typically we'll just start playing together in an open room and we might attract the attention of others.

Then it's a quick 'we don't full swap but would you fancy doing xyz? ' More often than not they're up for it

XYZ !!!!

Gotta luuuuurve some XYZ. Much better than that overrated ABC nonsense

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

XYZ !!!!

Gotta luuuuurve some XYZ. Much better than that overrated ABC nonsense

Tell me about it! We used to be more into LMNOP but we moved on to RST after a bit of Q jumping

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By *achelnMarkCouple
over a year ago

Mid Wiltshire

You think its tough finding soft-swap?

We both like bi play, so finding a soft(ish) bi couples is difficult lol as I guess most bi couples are after more.

We don't rule out full, but its not a target.

We tend to find soft play is just longer fun rather fun, sort of more exploring rather than people getting to the end point then escaping!

Had a few single F meet us with just soft play which is really chilled and rather nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

XYZ !!!!

Gotta luuuuurve some XYZ. Much better than that overrated ABC nonsense

Tell me about it! We used to be more into LMNOP but we moved on to RST after a bit of Q jumping

Heheheh.

Alpha-bet you did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we would find soft fun incredibly erotic, slow and teasing, while leaving a little bit for ourselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Theres definitely more genuine soft swinging couples than genuine full swap couples

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By *eKoopleCouple
over a year ago

Germany / Manchester

"Theres definitely more genuine soft swinging couples than genuine full swap couples"

Very true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Theres definitely more genuine soft swinging couples than genuine full swap couples

Very true."

A statement not based on fact

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Theres definitely more genuine soft swinging couples than genuine full swap couples"

How do you know?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cannot do it. I enjoy the act of sex to much and I would feel like something was missing after meeting a softswap couple.

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By *ootballFlowerCouple
over a year ago

Ollerton

Hey all we are a soft swap couple - we have had most of our luck meeting people at Chams. We have had some incredible group fun in the hot tub, couples room or a private room.

G does at with the ladies but really doesn’t have to and we are both happy to keep it straight.

Any of you softy couples fancy joining us please drop us a message.

G&Dxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Theres definitely more genuine soft swinging couples than genuine full swap couples

How do you know?"

A man pretending to be a couple wouldnt advertise soft swap would he...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Theres definitely more genuine soft swinging couples than genuine full swap couples

How do you know?

A man pretending to be a couple wouldnt advertise soft swap would he..."

Very good point!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Theres definitely more genuine soft swinging couples than genuine full swap couples

How do you know?

A man pretending to be a couple wouldnt advertise soft swap would he...

Very good point!

but if its a fake, the more interests liked the more chance of getting someone to chat to them

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By *urveLurverMan
over a year ago

Skyview

"Would also quite like to arrange a girls only group play"
If you do not mind, I will run this past my partner and she will contact you via our couple profile or her single woman profile.

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By *inky kissersCouple
over a year ago

South East

"Would also quite like to arrange a girls only group playIf you do not mind, I will run this past my partner and she will contact you via our couple profile or her single woman profile. "

Please do

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By *ossy67Man
over a year ago

HOLYWELL

Can I just ask what does soft swing involve or is it different for each individual xx

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Can I just ask what does soft swing involve or is it different for each individual xx"

Different for everyone but usually means own partner penetration only.

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By *elaxedcplCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Can I just ask what does soft swing involve or is it different for each individual xx"

For us, pretty much anything goes other than penetration. Kissing, touching licking, sucking but not penetrative sex other than with our own partners.

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