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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How do you feel when you receive a message from someone directed at just one of the couple? For example “ I want an older woman- would you consider me?” I wanna scream we are a couple.

Mrs mids.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you feel when you receive a message from someone directed at just one of the couple? For example “ I want an older woman- would you consider me?” I wanna scream we are a couple.

Mrs mids. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe that's what he wants tho

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe that's what he wants tho "

That’s fine, and I appreciate that we all have our kicks and quirks, but we clearly are a couple and I clearly don’t play alone. Our profile isn’t misleading in my opinion. We’re pretty open about our wants. Even a “good evening both” would soften the disregard a little xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But its only good manners to address both parties unless the profile specifically says otherwise. Of course I am making the assumption that the profile was actually read in the first place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't bother us, as long as they have made an effort with the message

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"But its only good manners to address both parties unless the profile specifically says otherwise. Of course I am making the assumption that the profile was actually read in the first place "

Well, I believe this may be the problem we have, assuming people bother to actually read. It’s sad really because the guy we met tonight took the time to converse with us both and acknowledged our profile as a bit of guidance on our kicks and quirks and we had an amazing evening. Just goes to show really. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But its only good manners to address both parties unless the profile specifically says otherwise. Of course I am making the assumption that the profile was actually read in the first place

Well, I believe this may be the problem we have, assuming people bother to actually read. It’s sad really because the guy we met tonight took the time to converse with us both and acknowledged our profile as a bit of guidance on our kicks and quirks and we had an amazing evening. Just goes to show really. X "

This is one of the reasons we generally only go to clubs etc. Real people talk and don't have to read lol x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"But its only good manners to address both parties unless the profile specifically says otherwise. Of course I am making the assumption that the profile was actually read in the first place

Well, I believe this may be the problem we have, assuming people bother to actually read. It’s sad really because the guy we met tonight took the time to converse with us both and acknowledged our profile as a bit of guidance on our kicks and quirks and we had an amazing evening. Just goes to show really. X

This is one of the reasons we generally only go to clubs etc. Real people talk and don't have to read lol x"

That’s a fair enough point. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But its only good manners to address both parties unless the profile specifically says otherwise. Of course I am making the assumption that the profile was actually read in the first place

Well, I believe this may be the problem we have, assuming people bother to actually read. It’s sad really because the guy we met tonight took the time to converse with us both and acknowledged our profile as a bit of guidance on our kicks and quirks and we had an amazing evening. Just goes to show really. X

This is one of the reasons we generally only go to clubs etc. Real people talk and don't have to read lol x

That’s a fair enough point. X "

We've meet loads of people through the club scene, many of which we wouldn't have looked at twice on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"But its only good manners to address both parties unless the profile specifically says otherwise. Of course I am making the assumption that the profile was actually read in the first place

Well, I believe this may be the problem we have, assuming people bother to actually read. It’s sad really because the guy we met tonight took the time to converse with us both and acknowledged our profile as a bit of guidance on our kicks and quirks and we had an amazing evening. Just goes to show really. X

This is one of the reasons we generally only go to clubs etc. Real people talk and don't have to read lol x

That’s a fair enough point. X

We've meet loads of people through the club scene, many of which we wouldn't have looked at twice on here. "

Oh ok that’s interesting to know. We are trying to get to a club. Work and childcare seem to hinder our outings though. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But its only good manners to address both parties unless the profile specifically says otherwise. Of course I am making the assumption that the profile was actually read in the first place

Well, I believe this may be the problem we have, assuming people bother to actually read. It’s sad really because the guy we met tonight took the time to converse with us both and acknowledged our profile as a bit of guidance on our kicks and quirks and we had an amazing evening. Just goes to show really. X

This is one of the reasons we generally only go to clubs etc. Real people talk and don't have to read lol x

That’s a fair enough point. X

We've meet loads of people through the club scene, many of which we wouldn't have looked at twice on here.

Oh ok that’s interesting to know. We are trying to get to a club. Work and childcare seem to hinder our outings though. X"

We know how that feels. But I promise you that getting away from the net and meeting real people is far better. Don't get me wrong the net has its part to play most people who go to clubs are on here so we just do it in reverse, meet first net second, well most of the time anyway lol. Hope you find a free night as you have loads of clubs near you x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"But its only good manners to address both parties unless the profile specifically says otherwise. Of course I am making the assumption that the profile was actually read in the first place

Well, I believe this may be the problem we have, assuming people bother to actually read. It’s sad really because the guy we met tonight took the time to converse with us both and acknowledged our profile as a bit of guidance on our kicks and quirks and we had an amazing evening. Just goes to show really. X

This is one of the reasons we generally only go to clubs etc. Real people talk and don't have to read lol x

That’s a fair enough point. X

We've meet loads of people through the club scene, many of which we wouldn't have looked at twice on here.

Oh ok that’s interesting to know. We are trying to get to a club. Work and childcare seem to hinder our outings though. X

We know how that feels. But I promise you that getting away from the net and meeting real people is far better. Don't get me wrong the net has its part to play most people who go to clubs are on here so we just do it in reverse, meet first net second, well most of the time anyway lol. Hope you find a free night as you have loads of clubs near you x"

Perhaps a social with you guys at a club would be a good way to ease us in? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But its only good manners to address both parties unless the profile specifically says otherwise. Of course I am making the assumption that the profile was actually read in the first place

Well, I believe this may be the problem we have, assuming people bother to actually read. It’s sad really because the guy we met tonight took the time to converse with us both and acknowledged our profile as a bit of guidance on our kicks and quirks and we had an amazing evening. Just goes to show really. X

This is one of the reasons we generally only go to clubs etc. Real people talk and don't have to read lol x

That’s a fair enough point. X

We've meet loads of people through the club scene, many of which we wouldn't have looked at twice on here.

Oh ok that’s interesting to know. We are trying to get to a club. Work and childcare seem to hinder our outings though. X

We know how that feels. But I promise you that getting away from the net and meeting real people is far better. Don't get me wrong the net has its part to play most people who go to clubs are on here so we just do it in reverse, meet first net second, well most of the time anyway lol. Hope you find a free night as you have loads of clubs near you x

Perhaps a social with you guys at a club would be a good way to ease us in? X "

Unfortunately we live a fair distance from you but you never know we do get to the midlands every now and then. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"But its only good manners to address both parties unless the profile specifically says otherwise. Of course I am making the assumption that the profile was actually read in the first place

Well, I believe this may be the problem we have, assuming people bother to actually read. It’s sad really because the guy we met tonight took the time to converse with us both and acknowledged our profile as a bit of guidance on our kicks and quirks and we had an amazing evening. Just goes to show really. X

This is one of the reasons we generally only go to clubs etc. Real people talk and don't have to read lol x

That’s a fair enough point. X

We've meet loads of people through the club scene, many of which we wouldn't have looked at twice on here.

Oh ok that’s interesting to know. We are trying to get to a club. Work and childcare seem to hinder our outings though. X

We know how that feels. But I promise you that getting away from the net and meeting real people is far better. Don't get me wrong the net has its part to play most people who go to clubs are on here so we just do it in reverse, meet first net second, well most of the time anyway lol. Hope you find a free night as you have loads of clubs near you x

Perhaps a social with you guys at a club would be a good way to ease us in? X

Unfortunately we live a fair distance from you but you never know we do get to the midlands every now and then. X"

I didn’t realise. So much for taking notice hey.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But its only good manners to address both parties unless the profile specifically says otherwise. Of course I am making the assumption that the profile was actually read in the first place

Well, I believe this may be the problem we have, assuming people bother to actually read. It’s sad really because the guy we met tonight took the time to converse with us both and acknowledged our profile as a bit of guidance on our kicks and quirks and we had an amazing evening. Just goes to show really. X

This is one of the reasons we generally only go to clubs etc. Real people talk and don't have to read lol x

That’s a fair enough point. X

We've meet loads of people through the club scene, many of which we wouldn't have looked at twice on here.

Oh ok that’s interesting to know. We are trying to get to a club. Work and childcare seem to hinder our outings though. X

We know how that feels. But I promise you that getting away from the net and meeting real people is far better. Don't get me wrong the net has its part to play most people who go to clubs are on here so we just do it in reverse, meet first net second, well most of the time anyway lol. Hope you find a free night as you have loads of clubs near you x

Perhaps a social with you guys at a club would be a good way to ease us in? X

Unfortunately we live a fair distance from you but you never know we do get to the midlands every now and then. X

I didn’t realise. So much for taking notice hey. "

Lol dont worry we are down the rabbit hole! Anyway my night shift has come to an end and im off to crawl into bed with my lovely lady.. Take care xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's no pics of me on our profile so it's understandable when messages are for Mrs only. I dont really chat to anyone anyway so I'm good with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We also have met some great people in clubs & then stayed in touch. It really is better meeting like that. We usually go to chams or va. I would defo reccomend you trying it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We find it quite rude and its usually a reason to block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's another useful filter, imagine how they would behave if you met them? A lot of people don't really get the swinging dynamic, messages like that just enables you to spot that early on...delete and move on, block them if you wish. It cuts them out of the equation early...

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London


"But its only good manners to address both parties unless the profile specifically says otherwise. Of course I am making the assumption that the profile was actually read in the first place

Well, I believe this may be the problem we have, assuming people bother to actually read. It’s sad really because the guy we met tonight took the time to converse with us both and acknowledged our profile as a bit of guidance on our kicks and quirks and we had an amazing evening. Just goes to show really. X "
Thats what I love to see..and that's exactly how this site should work.

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By *urchoicenowCouple
over a year ago

Ashford

Yes it annoys. Then cue the sarcastic response which generally doesn't go down well.

We would echo the sentiment about clubs

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s the “Hello Sexy” type message that pisses us off. Results in an immediate block

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By *khot1Couple
over a year ago

somewhere over the rainbow

Its literally one of my pet hates and why I dont really have much time or patience for this site as 99% of our messages received are directed to me only (mrs). Our profile includes numerous pics of my husband and states we wont play alone.

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea


"How do you feel when you receive a message from someone directed at just one of the couple? For example “ I want an older woman- would you consider me?” I wanna scream we are a couple.

Mrs mids. "

That's why we blocked guys on our couples profile as most were rude couldn't string more than 2 lines together & directed everything at Kim.

I can understand there is a new breed of 'non' swinger who just want a fuck no strings etc & as this site is cheaper than a dating agency we should expect the fall out on here, saying this thankfully not all guys are like that but the dodgy ones make it bad for the genuine ones.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I think sometimes this happens when a couple profile is full of the lady only .It appeals to men rather than couples.

Maybe adding some more pics of Mr may help with it.

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"But its only good manners to address both parties unless the profile specifically says otherwise. Of course I am making the assumption that the profile was actually read in the first place

Well, I believe this may be the problem we have, assuming people bother to actually read. It’s sad really because the guy we met tonight took the time to converse with us both and acknowledged our profile as a bit of guidance on our kicks and quirks and we had an amazing evening. Just goes to show really. X

This is one of the reasons we generally only go to clubs etc. Real people talk and don't have to read lol x

That’s a fair enough point. X

We've meet loads of people through the club scene, many of which we wouldn't have looked at twice on here.

Oh ok that’s interesting to know. We are trying to get to a club. Work and childcare seem to hinder our outings though. X

We know how that feels. But I promise you that getting away from the net and meeting real people is far better. Don't get me wrong the net has its part to play most people who go to clubs are on here so we just do it in reverse, meet first net second, well most of the time anyway lol. Hope you find a free night as you have loads of clubs near you x"

We totally agree. This is pretty much us as well. Attic Derby is our favourite club and we are from Durham

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get this all the time..it's a case they see her pic and go straight in with a message.. clearly not read our profile as it states only the male will see and respond to any messages..

one today

Hi, you looking for some big cock x .

I just reply back ..Sorry fella I am straight and not into Men..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How do you feel when you receive a message from someone directed at just one of the couple? For example “ I want an older woman- would you consider me?” I wanna scream we are a couple.

Mrs mids.

That's why we blocked guys on our couples profile as most were rude couldn't string more than 2 lines together & directed everything at Kim.

I can understand there is a new breed of 'non' swinger who just want a fuck no strings etc & as this site is cheaper than a dating agency we should expect the fall out on here, saying this thankfully not all guys are like that but the dodgy ones make it bad for the genuine ones.

This hits the nail right on the head!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you feel when you receive a message from someone directed at just one of the couple? For example “ I want an older woman- would you consider me?” I wanna scream we are a couple.

Mrs mids. "

We say on our profile that Mrs does the chatting. Most address us both, some only Mrs. So we're ok with that. Some address Mr. That's clear indication to us they've not read the profile

Mrs

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By *eKoopleCouple
over a year ago

Germany / Manchester


"How do you feel when you receive a message from someone directed at just one of the couple? For example “ I want an older woman- would you consider me?” I wanna scream we are a couple.

Mrs mids. "

Block, Delete and keep smiling.

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By *ere2pleasureUMan
over a year ago

Kington

Once was on here as a couple and hated this approach.. Instant block.

As a single guy, I always address both in a couple, however most messages still get deleted.

Though I know most couples meet single guys in clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm always very aware when I message couples that I include both of them. I always want to make sure they both feel included.

I've had a couples profile too, so I suppose I know how it feels from both sides, so to speak.

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By *urchoicenowCouple
over a year ago

Ashford

It also amuses when you go to the profile and couples aren't mentioned at all. The profile is just looking for women.

Had one the other week like that and messaged saying sorry we are a couple and you are looking for ladies and apparently we were too pedantic

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It also amuses when you go to the profile and couples aren't mentioned at all. The profile is just looking for women.

Had one the other week like that and messaged saying sorry we are a couple and you are looking for ladies and apparently we were too pedantic "

We’ve done this a few times too. X

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