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By *iBexley OP   Couple
over a year ago

bexley

Hi,

We are new to the scene and just discovered Eurekas nearby and love it. However, we havent played there, just watched from the dance floor. We were wondering how it works, in terms of finding people to "play" with...do you just go up and ask them?! Do you start in a room and see who joins in?

Sorry if this is a really stupid question

K x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are in a group room.. and have people watching, a simple hand gesture or wink to join you should do it.. if playing in a lockable room, some light conversation, and an invite to join you would be about right...

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

Just ask politely, and don't take offence if the answer is "no'. Swinging is often about fulfilling fantasies, and if you don't fit their particular fantasy it isn't about you personally.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Personally we never just asked to join in to an existing play session (at least yet). Personally always started socialising first. To a certain extent its just the normal rules of attration. A lot of it is to do with feel for a situation in a club enviroment. As your chatting/flirting you just sort of feel it in the air. If you think a conversation is going well you could suggest taking the conversation to another room or start with suggesting a bit of foreplay with each other. It's a little less bull in China shop and you can see how the other people reciprocate (Or not as the case may be).

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

After chatting for a bit we say, "we're off to look for a room now, you're welcome to join us" then leave them to talk amongst themselves and decide if they'd like to come find which room we've found to play in.

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"After chatting for a bit we say, "we're off to look for a room now, you're welcome to join us" then leave them to talk amongst themselves and decide if they'd like to come find which room we've found to play in. "

This way works for us too xx

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By *eepgliderMan
over a year ago

Chacewater

Single guys will (should) do something like wave a hand towards the lady in a caressing motion, indicating they'd be amenable to contributing - and if you indicate "yes" with a nod of the head, they will get on with it.

So likewise if you'd like to join-in - indicate in some way a wish to participate, and see what they respond (usually people don't want to be encumbered by having to speak...)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had the same issues when we were at Eurekas during the day too scared to approach anyone but a few guys did ask so we let them join in for oral only but they seemed to enjoy it lol hopefully be brave enough to invite a couple next time

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Your wife starts by leaning forward to give you a blowjob. You make eye contact with the male of the couple you want to swap with, lift up your wife's skirt and say "that hole is spare if you want it"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For a couple it's easy. Just identify the people you like and "accidentally" set yourselves down besides them and start making out. If they don't like you they'll move away. If they stay start "accidentally" brushing up against them. Again, if they don't like you they'll move. If they start "accidentally" start infringing upon your space too throw the pretence of accidents out of the window and start making out with them.

Interacting with singles is different. I guess you've just got to be bold and ask. Singles on singles is different. It's just the same as making out anywhere... flirt and flirt until you get the green light to kiss

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales


"After chatting for a bit we say, "we're off to look for a room now, you're welcome to join us" then leave them to talk amongst themselves and decide if they'd like to come find which room we've found to play in. "

That's exactly how we do it

We've also started to invite people to join us mid-play. Or say hi to a couple who we're watching or are playing next to us. We do it really delicately so as not to push them away if they're not into it.

I think the key is to make it obvious that you like them but to leave an easy out for them to take if they don't want to.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

We were on a dungeon recently and as the scene developed, I simply nodded and pointed where.

Important you don’t break the moment

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