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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Any reason why Asian men rarely get the attention? Not just my experience but other Asian men experienced cold response too... honest views please ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldnt say its just asian men i think on here men have a tough time standing out and as well as meeting the preferences of those who see them. There will be some who generally are not attracted to certain races, accents, attributes so i woud not take it personally. After all im sure you have your own preferences. Sarah x

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By *erkshireMan123Man
over a year ago

Devizes

iagree. although Ive never had a none white person, but do fancy trying it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

for me i am not attracted to the general look of asian men.... just not my thing....

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its a question of preference, we prefer white and caucasians and we mentioned that in our profile..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its really hard i might have to wait forever at this rate.

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon


"Its really hard i might have to wait forever at this rate. "

What's really hard...?!?

Oh, you mean getting meets? Sorry... thought you meant... er, never mind.

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By *abe1200Couple
over a year ago

belfast

The distance....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not normally my thing but that guy off emmerdale would so have my full attention - is his character called nikhil or summat like that ?

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By *on101bristolMan
over a year ago

Bristol

As a single asian man that's been on fab for a while, I couldn't be happier.I've been lucky enough to meet ladies and couples and tbh I have a meet most weeks.

My advice would be the same to any single guy and thats be patient, be honest, don't let anyone down if you do get a meet and above all else remember it's about MUTUAL fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a single asian man that's been on fab for a while, I couldn't be happier.I've been lucky enough to meet ladies and couples and tbh I have a meet most weeks.

My advice would be the same to any single guy and thats be patient, be honest, don't let anyone down if you do get a meet and above all else remember it's about MUTUAL fun. "

Lucky you.

It's about preference. Just move on. Some people don't deal with others for a number of reasons. I don't dwell on it personally and I suggest you do the same. Have fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She did fancy meeting an asian guy but never happened

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any reason why Asian men rarely get the attention? Not just my experience but other Asian men experienced cold response too... honest views please .."

i wont meet asian men simply because i met one years ago and had such a bad experience with him, his attitude, the way he spoke to me, the things he said and everything, it just put me off meeting any other asian men

you may think thats wrong but its my body and my choice and if i dont want to meet anymore because of that bad experience i have the rights to do so

saying that it depends on what part od asian, i have met a couple of east/south east asian men and they have been good meets, its more indian, pakistan men i avoid, i have nothing against anyone or i wouldnt have met the guy i did, its just a case of once bitten twice shy to me and theres enough guys on here to not have to meet ones im weary about

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By *obblybitsCouple
over a year ago

huddersfield

just because we don't feel sexually attracted to asian men. in the clubs we have been to there was a number of asian men following couples around the place room to room.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have met a few asian blokes and whilst i do find some asian guys attractive, i tend not to have many meets with them because we generally don't meet eye to eye sexually.

in my experience, asian guys that like a bit of MM fun are sexually restrained in that they aren't happy to kiss and it's all about you doing things to them without any chance of reciprocation.

the exception to that is they generally want to fuck (and do the fucking). that isn't on my sexual agenda with randoms, but i've had a couple push it despite being told up front i wasn't up for that.

so whilst i wouldn't totally rule meets out with asian guys, i am more selective and thorough with the pre meet conversation that i would be with an english guy.

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By *ever been kissedMan
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

all said & done, It's every persons right to choose who to see & who not too. although there are misconceptions about asian men in general, for a site like this a strong personality is needed. Might seem unfair but them there's the rules.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fancy a few Asian men. But after bad éxprierences I won't play with them but never say never! X

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I like meeting all men, but they have to want to meet me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm always surprised why some people feel the need to question the preferences of others when it excludes them!

We will NEVER appeal to everyone, so why focus on people not interested in you? I don't get it!

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By *aveandkate35Couple
over a year ago

telford


"I'm always surprised why some people feel the need to question the preferences of others when it excludes them!

We will NEVER appeal to everyone, so why focus on people not interested in you? I don't get it! "

+1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Certain smell maybe "

some do, but most don't so to a degree it's a stereotype

having said that, i do know people who would give that as a reason for not hooking up with an asian guy which smacks of ignorance to a point.

by the same token, i've also heard that stereotype levelled at black guys too but i've yet to meet a black guy that smelled of anything but scent or cocoa butter (both of which i love)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can only speak as a man who has had an asian girlfriend and mixed with her family and friends.

Most of the males I met seemed to think of their women as goods, whom were only there for their pleasure and service.

Nearly all the ladies I met were happy, friendly always ready to please, and really fussed round their men.

Consequently this male attitude towards the girls has certainly put me off mixing my partner with Asian men, (in a sex oriented way).

The way I would wish to treat a lady seems totally at odds with those attitudes which I observed!

Please bear in mind though that this is just an opinion formed over the few short weeks I was seeing this girl, I may well be mistaken and apologise if I am.

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By *onnoisseur100Man
over a year ago

Woking-ish


"I'm always surprised why some people feel the need to question the preferences of others when it excludes them!

We will NEVER appeal to everyone, so why focus on people not interested in you? I don't get it!

+1"

NO NO NO, you will meet me, weather you like it or not!

Lol,

That's going to work isn't it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ax the gentle GiantMan
over a year ago

birmingham

be yourslef and be proud of who you are i am asian and very proud of who i am this site is all about having fun there and numerous people on here who will meet you and have fun with you and as previously stated in numerous threads that men generaly have it hard on here anyway so using your origin as a reason for lack of meetings is in my opinion a very narrow minded way of looking at things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont care if you are black pink blue or green if i find you attractive GAME ON

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i dont care if you are black pink blue or green if i find you attractive GAME ON "

isnt that berty bassett?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i dont care if you are black pink blue or green if i find you attractive GAME ON

isnt that berty bassett?"

my hero :_ x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot is said on forums about confident men being sexy.

To some extent that may be true. However, many Asian men that we've come into contact with - predominantly Pakistani - exude what can only be described as an unfounded "superiority complex".

So whether the physical attraction is there or not, that attitude is anything but sexy!

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot is said on forums about confident men being sexy.

To some extent that may be true. However, many Asian men that we've come into contact with - predominantly Pakistani - exude what can only be described as an unfounded "superiority complex".

So whether the physical attraction is there or not, that attitude is anything but sexy!

XXXX"

i 100% agree with this

without going into detail as i do not wish to offend anyone, a lot of asian guys i have met are damn right arrogant

Physically i have met some really nice looking asian guys but their attitude just puts me off

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By *ever been kissedMan
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

to an extent i have to agree with the above posts.(krazy talk when i am asian myself). There is an arrogance about some pakistani lads which i don't like (in society, i mean). But can i ask the guys u saw, were they of a certain age? but i guess u can say that about a lot of guys in general. saying that, recent events in the past year about gangs of pakistani lads in the news doesn't do the rest of us any favours...& only aids the caution most people see in asian men in particular.

(have i just opened a can of worms )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think when i personally getting messages telling me they are asain or black etc, i think thanks for the information but i can read a profile and see photos

before i respond to messages 99.9% i look at the profile to see if there is anything there to make me respond or anything that could put me off.

if i message people i never say im a white female

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"I'm always surprised why some people feel the need to question the preferences of others when it excludes them!

We will NEVER appeal to everyone, so why focus on people not interested in you? I don't get it! "

+1

i tend to go for bigger men,and i dont mean cocksize So a typically slim Asian male isnt going to catch my eye,however if the spark is there,its irrelevant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own..

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By *abe1200Couple
over a year ago

belfast


"Each to their own.."

Wot do u mean by saying this?????

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By *ever been kissedMan
over a year ago

Middlesbrough


"I think when i personally getting messages telling me they are asain or black etc, i think thanks for the information but i can read a profile and see photos

before i respond to messages 99.9% i look at the profile to see if there is anything there to make me respond or anything that could put me off.

if i message people i never say im a white female"

& that's how it should be. we are too quick to label people in society today. it is an adult site where a mutual attraction is needed for anything to happen (be it physical or mental). Nobody owes anybody nothing.

yet i see some guys won't or fail to see that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Each to their own..

Wot do u mean by saying this????? "

Just that everyone has preferences and that i'm not everyones cup of tea..thats all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like meeting all men, but they have to want to meet me. "

Id be suprised if any one didnt want to meet you......

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I like meeting all men, but they have to want to meet me.

Id be suprised if any one didnt want to meet you......"

There are plenty.

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By *ax the gentle GiantMan
over a year ago

birmingham


"A lot is said on forums about confident men being sexy.

To some extent that may be true. However, many Asian men that we've come into contact with - predominantly Pakistani - exude what can only be described as an unfounded "superiority complex".

So whether the physical attraction is there or not, that attitude is anything but sexy!

XXXX

i 100% agree with this

without going into detail as i do not wish to offend anyone, a lot of asian guys i have met are damn right arrogant

Physically i have met some really nice looking asian guys but their attitude just puts me off "

Its a shame that some of the asian guys that you have meet have made a lot of people on here form the opinion that they are arrogant and have an attitude. I belive that there is good and bad amongst every community sometimes all it takes is give them a chance and decide if they are for you a blanket ban on meets could mean that there are some very plesant experiences that are being missed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any reason why Asian men rarely get the attention? Not just my experience but other Asian men experienced cold response too... honest views please .."

Well it could be the small penis thing or the fact i haven't found one who wants to play who i have found attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a group scenario, they have been fine and behaved as per the group - in one on one scenarios they have been arrogant and dismissive of me as a woman, to the point that I have stopped playing and left the room (and I usually NEVER walk away from a hard willy!!)

Luckily these days I dont do one on ones anymore so I dont have to make a choice!

xx

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By *iJane4funCouple
over a year ago

South, Wales

We love playing with Indian couples who look good - it just rocks our boat.

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By *r OreoMan
over a year ago

Croydon

Ive been here a while... and ive been lucky to make some really good friends on here who see me for 'me' .. ie an annoying git who they enjoy the company of - both socially or otherwise.

Agree... i seen some asian guys in chat who appear like utter cocks - though to be honest - colour doesnt seem to be a barrier there - regardless of colour some guys will be a cock - no amount of makeup could disguise it!

Recently i have met someone through fab who had on her profile that she didnt meet asian or black guys .... but we chatted, got to know each other over a few weeks... and now are a couple.

Only reason she had that on her profile was she had never met someone she clicked with ... but she decided to meet me before she had ever seen me - goes to show its all about the person and not their skin colour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think when i personally getting messages telling me they are asain or black etc, i think thanks for the information but i can read a profile and see photos

before i respond to messages 99.9% i look at the profile to see if there is anything there to make me respond or anything that could put me off.

if i message people i never say im a white female

& that's how it should be. we are too quick to label people in society today. it is an adult site where a mutual attraction is needed for anything to happen (be it physical or mental). Nobody owes anybody nothing.

yet i see some guys won't or fail to see that."

lots dont see it that way they Feel that they had to put in the message that they are black or asian personally i dont care what and who you are, if an attraction is there Game on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly a few have ruined it for the masses, but being arrogant or aggressive towards ladies who won't meet Asians is pointless.

Accept it, and move on guys. I have been lucky enough to meet some really cool ladies on fab, and also been chatting to a couple of ladies who I will never meet because their preference is non Asian, but I enjoy the banter, and sometimes knowing that you will not meet the lady you're chatting to, increases the conversation as you're not on a hidden agenda nor always alluding to meeting.

Just have a laugh, enjoy your time on here. People are entitled to have a preference, its free will. Ps I'm Indian and I prefer green people, but until I find a gamma radiation affected 'hulk' like lady, I'm happy with the sexy ladies on here. Xxx. My two pence worth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any reason why Asian men rarely get the attention? Not just my experience but other Asian men experienced cold response too... honest views please .."

i can only speak for myself i have no idea why other people dont give asian men attention

tho i pretty sure some do

i saw a profile once that stated they only met asian guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its like saying all black men have 9 inch cocks.. but i can accept its all about ones preference...so like black, some like white....so you will be better off to find that "someone"..who likes asian

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe cuz u arent a very attractive asian guy.

hang in there something will come along

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have just been reading the comments on this post and find it quite interesting.

I am a mixed race gentlemen of some asian decent. I have only been here a week and to be honest everyone has been friendly and i've chatting to some really really nice people.

I am one of the most pickiest people you would meet but it's like most of you have said..it's all about each to there own!

Oh and yes you are right that with the cultural taboos that are assosicated with Indian/Pakistani men this is seen as a very risky thing and thus the attitude come into play!

It is about sorting out the gems from the crap!

****Breates*****

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

like all guys some come over well and some dont.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ah cum on. its about preference. no one likes apushy guy watever colour.manners and politeness, good humour too. my hubbt is asian and the only bad experience i got was my first asian in a club. he was very pushy. my hulk hubby quickly put him right. but there are good asian guys out there like harry.

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