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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi Guys

I have this theory that the rise in Bi-sexuality that I have encountered on this and other sites is due to the lack of luck most of us have when trying to ensnare (oops) hook up with a member of the fairer sex.

Most of the guys who send me messages proclaim heterosexuality but still are looking for sexual contact?

I am of the opinion that this is due to the ridiculous levels of men against the few single ladies that use the site.

I think this must be considered a good thing for the broadening of horizons and increased tolerance of other peoples proclivities and behaviour..

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Nah....I’m bi. I’ve gone off the idea. I consider myself totally 100% straight A straight.

If I ever see a cock again I’m gonna say ‘yuk’ instead of ‘yum’.

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

Leeds

I’m straight and so is my dog

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I don't agree. I think it's a combination of homophobia towards bi guys (I know of guys who get knocked back by women or couples for being bi); plus a view that any hole is a goal (there's a lot of desperation around here). So people play the numbers, making themselves look more attractive to homophobes, while pestering guys on the sly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not any hole is a goal for me, I’m quite picky to be fair.

But I like cock too

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"I don't agree. I think it's a combination of homophobia towards bi guys (I know of guys who get knocked back by women or couples for being bi); plus a view that any hole is a goal (there's a lot of desperation around here). So people play the numbers, making themselves look more attractive to homophobes, while pestering guys on the sly. "

I've said it before, but I think you increase the odds in your favour if you are a bi single guy. It goes something like this. (figures plucked out of the air, but broadly accurate I think).

Single straight guys v couples looking for straight guys. 5 to 1

Single bi guys re couples looking for bi guys 2 to 1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s a load of nonsense if you ask me. So you’re saying if a straight man couldn’t get a shag from a woman then they’d just shag a man instead?

Wild horses couldn’t make me have any sexual contact with a man, regardless of how hard I found it to get a shag.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Being bi opens doors as well as closed some so for me it doesn’t make a lot of difference. I only want to meet people who like guys like me so those that don’t have minimal inpact on my enjoyment of the site.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"It’s not any hole is a goal for me, I’m quite picky to be fair.

But I like cock too "

Oh no, not all bi, bi-curious, or even Fab straight guys. But there's some who seem to be willing to shag pretty much anything just to get off, which might lead to ostensibly straight guys looking for men. I'm in no way saying bisexuality is desperation, that'd be vastly hypocritical of me.

Although the idea that sex is a necessity also troubles me. I had zero luck romantically or sexually for years, during which time I hadn't figured out how to masturbate. I was unhappy, sure, but it was still a luxury which others were unwilling to let me share. Not a necessity.

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By *ightboy69Man
over a year ago

Torquay

[Removed by poster at 16/07/18 13:46:28]

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By *ightboy69Man
over a year ago

Torquay


"Hi Guys

I have this theory that the rise in Bi-sexuality that I have encountered on this and other sites is due to the lack of luck most of us have when trying to ensnare (oops) hook up with a member of the fairer sex.

Most of the guys who send me messages proclaim heterosexuality but still are looking for sexual contact?

I am of the opinion that this is due to the ridiculous levels of men against the few single ladies that use the site.

I think this must be considered a good thing for the broadening of horizons and increased tolerance of other peoples proclivities and behaviour.."

This is complete nonsense, and I notice you list yourself as " straight " but you are looking to meet TV/TS if this is the case you are very confused and NOT straight . And yet another single man in denial of their sexuality

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By *oss and SuzieCouple
over a year ago

Porthmadog

We enjoy bisex for its own sake. Ross loves to be fucked by a nice guy from behind while fucking Suzie. Suzie loves the touch and feel of a woman. Neither of us feel bisex is second best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s Bollocks OP, if a straight man can’t get a woman, he’s going to wank over straight porn. Instead of sucking on a random cock. Hope this helps X

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By *ightboy69Man
over a year ago

Torquay


"We enjoy bisex for its own sake. Ross loves to be fucked by a nice guy from behind while fucking Suzie. Suzie loves the touch and feel of a woman. Neither of us feel bisex is second best."

Mmmmmmm love a bi fuck train

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By *ornylittlesubWoman
over a year ago

Grangemouth


"I don't agree. I think it's a combination of homophobia towards bi guys (I know of guys who get knocked back by women or couples for being bi); plus a view that any hole is a goal (there's a lot of desperation around here). So people play the numbers, making themselves look more attractive to homophobes, while pestering guys on the sly. "

Bi guys being knocked back by women or couples for being bi has nothing to do with homophobia(in most cases), its simply they just dont want to meet bi guys...its a choice thing.....and it's allowed.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

While there may be *some* men who have been tempted to try bi as a result of their membership of this site OP, I think it's somewhat insulting to suggest they have done so because they've had no joy with the ladies - and would also suggest that those that have tried it have done so because they are at least bi curious in the first place.

As for there being a "rise" in bisexuality as you put it - perhaps that's because sites like this enable those who are curious to be more open to trying it - I know this place has enabled me to embrace my bisexuality fully and completely and that's not through desperation or anything like that at all, purely and simply because the site has allowed me to talk to and meet likeminded people and discuss bisexuality openly and honestly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"While there may be *some* men who have been tempted to try bi as a result of their membership of this site OP, I think it's somewhat insulting to suggest they have done so because they've had no joy with the ladies - and would also suggest that those that have tried it have done so because they are at least bi curious in the first place.

As for there being a "rise" in bisexuality as you put it - perhaps that's because sites like this enable those who are curious to be more open to trying it - I know this place has enabled me to embrace my bisexuality fully and completely and that's not through desperation or anything like that at all, purely and simply because the site has allowed me to talk to and meet likeminded people and discuss bisexuality openly and honestly."

perfect answer x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nah....I’m bi. I’ve gone off the idea. I consider myself totally 100% straight A straight.

If I ever see a cock again I’m gonna say ‘yuk’ instead of ‘yum’. "

Does that mean we’re finished.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is fab straight like prison straight?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Nah....I’m bi. I’ve gone off the idea. I consider myself totally 100% straight A straight.

If I ever see a cock again I’m gonna say ‘yuk’ instead of ‘yum’.

Does that mean we’re finished. "

We never started!

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By *hloe sussexTV/TS
over a year ago

Larne

Guys just need to be more honest

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By *azmar62Couple
over a year ago

Hinckley

In our experience, straight guys use a bi approach to get at ladies in bi couples, but they’re soon legging it down the road with a dust cloud following them when I get hold of em, happened more than once?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im bisexual because im atteacted to men as well as women

However, my theory on "bi-curiosity" is that hedonism is on the rise. Having sex just for the pleasure is what people are seeking

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By *illy_the_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

hoorn, Netherlands

It's pretty offensive to imply that people are bisexual just because they can't get a vagina rather than because, you know, they were born that way....

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By *etLikeMan
over a year ago

most fundamental aspects

I had (past tense) always identified as being straight. I can walk down the street and my eyes are on women not the men. I would watch a charismatic front man at a rock concert and find him sexy, yet not want to have sex with him. The same as straight women can compliment each other’s appearance or outfit and not mean they want to have sex with them.

At house parties and clubs, I would see men playing with men. I was not turned on by it; neither was I repulsed. A group I used to play with had bi guys who propositioned me but I politely said “thanks but no” I was given the term “bi friendly” meaning that I was unphased by being the only cock in the room but did not seek to play with or be played with by the guys.

I’m attracted to femininity, so TVs/TS began to come onto my radar. By contrast, I find very butch women unattractive. So I was in a quandary over if given a straight (no pun intended) choice between say a trans woman or a trans man, I would go for the trans woman, even if she still had male genitalia.

Attitude is incredibly important too. I get quite a lot of men messaging me on here. Some are saying “darkroom , nobody needs to know” well I know and while I’m not repulsed by the idea of a man sucking me, the way in which it’s done or offered does.

For me, it needs to be a certain type of situation. If a female partner tells me she wants to see me play with a man, then I’m more excited about doing it because she likes it. I would hopefully also enjoy the experience and the level of attention I get. With a couple, I’ve always felt like they both need to be attractive even though I was only playing with her. This is even more important now that I’m open to playing with the guy as well. However, I could find him attractive, yet still not want to play with him. That’s not me freaking out at the thought of playing with a man. It’s exactly the same as a woman deciding that the woman of a couple is nice, is sexy but for her, not now thanks. So for me, it’s all situational dependant. To that end, my new self title is “Recreationally Bi”.

It was always flattering to be chatted up in gay bars even though I said no thanks. By contrast, the messages on here are usually crass, sleazy and smat of desperation.

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By *erts_darlings1Couple
over a year ago

watford


"While there may be *some* men who have been tempted to try bi as a result of their membership of this site OP, I think it's somewhat insulting to suggest they have done so because they've had no joy with the ladies - and would also suggest that those that have tried it have done so because they are at least bi curious in the first place.

As for there being a "rise" in bisexuality as you put it - perhaps that's because sites like this enable those who are curious to be more open to trying it - I know this place has enabled me to embrace my bisexuality fully and completely and that's not through desperation or anything like that at all, purely and simply because the site has allowed me to talk to and meet likeminded people and discuss bisexuality openly and honestly."

Well said,

I have known I was bi since a young age, my first sexual fantasies involved males and I have in the past had relationships with other men. It has only been in the last 10 years though that I have felt comfortable in being openly bi. As the prejudices carry on fading away, more people may be comfortable to openly admit they are bi. I am not one of those who say the guy's who say they are straight and then want to meet other guy's or TV's should be honest, we think there maybe many reasons why they don't declare being either bi or bi curious, prejudice from friends. partners or they could have been brought up in a culture that is totally against anything but a male/female relationship. Not for us to judge.

We suspect, more people on Fabs declare there sexuality accurately compared with the population as a whole.

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By *etLikeMan
over a year ago

most fundamental aspects

There was more I wanted to add but it was already a super long post.

Now that human kind (and culture) has got beyond the stage of sex only being about procreation, then it gives a lot more freedom to explore all the possibilities available. Consenting, healthy and doing no harm.

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By *itsAndTaffCouple
over a year ago

Grays, Essex

I disagree I just think many of us especially using sites like FAB enjoy sex & are open to trying new things & overtime boundaries get pushed s little further

We go into every meet with an open mind, if something feels right we will try it

I also think we are in an age now where people are more open with their sexuality whereas in the past guys may have hidden their bi side

MrsH

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By * New YorkieMan
over a year ago

Leeds


"I disagree I just think many of us especially using sites like FAB enjoy sex & are open to trying new things & overtime boundaries get pushed s little further

We go into every meet with an open mind, if something feels right we will try it

I also think we are in an age now where people are more open with their sexuality whereas in the past guys may have hidden their bi side

MrsH

"

Now I agree with this. In my 10 years swinging. Started out straight as an arrow only to be tempted to try bi oral fun with a female helping me. I now enjoy just the oral side of the bi lifestyle. I am finding there are a lot of men that or curious to try but the stigmatization stops them from trying. I still love women 100% but if a bi couple catches my eye I would jump at them. Tbh I wish I started orally I fun earlier.

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