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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi there. do any of you women actually like larger guys. Its becomming so hard to find meets on here and kind of disheartening when getting no reply or just deleted straight away. So just thought id ask the question.

Ladies its over to you x

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

so you have a friends list full of ladies and couples and then you wonder if anyone likes larger blokes.... okay.... I thought that would have been question answered...

to answer your question....

yes, people do like some larger guys... I suppose i would be a case in point....

the site gives you the tools to make it work.... it is getting it to work for you that is the issue.... use some, use all, use none..... that is up to you....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes some do

some women (and some men) are just attracted to bigger fella's, but not as many as are attracted to athletic / average built blokes.

what you have to realise is that for many of the ladies on here, it is fantasy situation

unfortunately for us bigger lads we don't figure in many fantasies.

they have their hubbies or partners who maybe carry a few extra pounds and whilst they find them attractive, that attraction is based on years of love, familiarity and commonality.

like all men on here, we are faced with an uphill struggle to get females to notice us - to stand out from the pack as it were

that is no easy task when all we have to assist us is a series of 2D pictures and a few crafted words contained within our profile &/or the messages we send out.

we have to win people round with things other than our physique and what many would regard as good looks.

i would recommend that you stay positive and avoid the 'is it because i'm fat ?' routine as that automatically puts you in the defeated category.

people who are happy with how they look and are comfortable in their own skin, generally show a confidence that shines through and their positivity can be very infectious.

aside from sending messages, you may want to try the chat rooms, joining in the banter in the forums, attending some local social meets with swingers or even attending a local club close where people can see you in 3D.

i hope that helps you understand why you are getting fewer responses that you had hoped.

yes, some of the knock backs will be because ur a bigger lad, but some of them won't - so don't assume

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Fabio i appreciate your point in the respect of my friends list. I was kind of referring to my quest to gain new contacts, it just dosent seem to happen anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no probs with bigger guys xx

Its the person inside i go for as long as your clean, smell nice and can make me laugh your ok xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have no probs with bigger guys xx

Its the person inside i go for as long as your clean, smell nice and can make me laugh your ok xx

"

reet come on big lads, pack your overnight bags, we're on a coach trip to kingston

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being guilty of a middle aged spread these sites do give you the feeling that you should be handing out the oranges at half time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Person inside means more to me as the saying goes never judge a book by its cover

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP having just read a few of the forum posts you have initiated, I would also recommend you consider joining a WS fetish site.

Your liking for WS may attract some women on here, but I am guessing it will put far more off than it turns on.

Even if you don't expect any partner to be involved in WS whilst on a meet with you, the mere fact you have the interest will be enough to put some people off.

On a more specialist site however you may find that the members are more receptive to the ideas you have in mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Person inside means more to me as the saying goes never judge a book by its cover "

yeah but sometimes you look at an avatar and think fuck the book, gimme the cover

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I agree. off to kingston we go

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

i like a man with a bit of meat on him, more to bang it in with

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

i like a man with a bit of meat on him, more to bang it in with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind driving the coach to kingston!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Fabio i appreciate your point in the respect of my friends list. I was kind of referring to my quest to gain new contacts, it just dosent seem to happen anymore"

okay... 1 simple question to illustrate a point...

if i was a woman or a couple, from the profile, how would I/We know that I/We was the type of person he would be after....

the answer is "I/We wouldn't".... you don't mention them at all...

look... as i put down in another thread... this is what is comes down to...

op... do some reading.... and work out for yourself how you can sell yourself in your own words...

knowing there are loads of people after the same people here.. hand on heart would you answer your own profile...

if the answer is yes and you feel it puts across your best side... leave it

if the answer is no.... change it

simple as that....

make people want to say "yes I have to get to know and meet this person!"

you need to do that... but you can only do that by yourself....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Id gladly bang it into you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i like a man with a bit of meat on him, more to bang it in with "

phew I can breathe out now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of it is to do with confidence same as us larger ladies if you feel confident and sexy then go for it I enjoy the banter. But don't feel sorry for yourself that is not very attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am attracted to larger men and mat is one of them. However, its more of the face and eyes for me... as long as they have a gorgeous face and a twinkle im there! I must admit whilst i like larger guys, there is a limit and i dont think i would be physically attracted to someone who was very obese and found breathing difficult and movement difficult as a result of the weight.

Not to forget... being a larger lady i feel more confident that i wont squish mat

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By *arnaclebillMan
over a year ago

Robin Hood County


"so you have a friends list full of ladies and couples and then you wonder if anyone likes larger blokes.... okay.... I thought that would have been question answered...

to answer your question....

yes, people do like some larger guys... I suppose i would be a case in point....

the site gives you the tools to make it work.... it is getting it to work for you that is the issue.... use some, use all, use none..... that is up to you...."

Profile also states been on site for over a year yet he's new to this. Beats me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find larger guys much more attractive than slimmer ones!

I have always gone for bigger men - skinny guys or 'gym freaks' just don't do it for me at all.... it's all down to personal preference I suppose. It's the same with men, some prefer us bigger girlies whilst others would run a mile hehe.

Good luck and keep looking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i like all types i have no settype x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi there. do any of you women actually like larger guys. Its becomming so hard to find meets on here and kind of disheartening when getting no reply or just deleted straight away. So just thought id ask the question.

Ladies its over to you x"

can i be totally honest with you?

take curvy off your proile and change it to ample or large

its just one of them things i find very of putting

curvys just such a femanine figure, sorry but men shouldnt be curvy and i worry at what kind of guy looks at himself and thinks this is his body shape

ample or large just sounds so much more manly and attractive for a guy

and i know im not the only women who thinks this as i put up a thread about it a long time ago and you'd be suprised at how many women replied saying that found it a bit odd too that a guy would describe himself as curvy

but that aside, theres someone for everyone on here its probably more down to the fact your a single guy than your body shape that makes it hard for you x

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Hi there. do any of you women actually like larger guys. Its becomming so hard to find meets on here and kind of disheartening when getting no reply or just deleted straight away. So just thought id ask the question.

Ladies its over to you x"

I find some larger guys attractive same as I find some slimmer and medium build guys attractive.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well there we go then, new rewritten profile for your comments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Afraid from me its a no.. Same as many guys dont like larger ladies..

I like a guy that looks after himself.. even then I like a certain look..

I just am quite picky.. but always have been.. with only one or two minor slip ups.

Cali x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't wanna talk about it.

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