FabSwingers.com forum: Really hard to get a meet?

By *iscreet_guy_4_st8_fun OP Man
over a year ago

Sutton Coldfield

Finding it really hard to find a meet!

I am in chat daily being polite to everyone. I message lots of couples and females that im interested in. But yet i dont get no reply! Dont know what im doing wrong!! lol. I would class myself as good looking! Im friendly I have pictures on my profile, never not turned up for anyone in the past!!

So, what am i doing wrong??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you say you message people your interested in, but do you make sure that your what they are looking for?

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

well a mobile number on a profile can look desperate to some, not all, just some.....

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"Finding it really hard to find a meet!

So, what am i doing wrong??

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attend a few socials?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to many single guys, not enough people looking for them

i get 50+ messages every day from guys looking to meet, i dont reply to all of them as i just cant be arsed going thro that many mail and replying to every single one, so i probably skip by loads of guys id like if i did read and reply to all my mail, but thats just how it goes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well a mobile number on a profile can look desperate to some, not all, just some....."

agree always think it asking for trouble

profile says you go Chams etc

just keep trying sure you'll suceed

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By *ercedes62Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

As another forum poster has stated i get a lot of mails in a day and i do try to reply to people that have sent a decent message.

The one-liners etc dont get a reply.

Go to the socials and get known - there is a Coventry one on-tour if you look in the organised meets for early Dec.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

its very generic.... what makes you stand out from any other person???

what says to people "wow, I have to get to know this person"....

yep.. and telephone numbers always looks like a really, really desperate move.... if fact I tend to put them on walls of certain bars I know... or in certain sections of time out.......

I know... i'm bad!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get alot of messages and got to sieve through.

if im no looking to meet i still get an average of 80+ and some messages just makes me press delete and not reply

the profile is the photos aren't that recent (we have had this conversation)

go to chams socials and have fun x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lose the mobile number, stay out of chat rooms for a while(the are a bit clickie) and be patient. Be realistic with your sights

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well a mobile number on a profile can look desperate to some, not all, just some....."

first thing i thought when i looked at profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lose the mobile number, stay out of chat rooms for a while(the are a bit clickie) and be patient. Be realistic with your sights"

BOLLOX

the general chat room is fine i have never seem it clicky there and im about in there heaps

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By *iscreet_guy_4_st8_fun OP Man
over a year ago

Sutton Coldfield

Mobile number gone... Thought i would put that so people knew i was genuine and could contact me straight away!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As already said the phone number sings to me 'would shag anything'.

You have a clear face pic so people can judge for themselves if you are good looking so why mention it as it makes you sound vain.

The sometimes can accommodate, alarm bells could be ringing is this when the gf isn't around.

Spell check your profile a lot of people on here judge highly on the spelling mistakes so its worth it just to eliminate that grip.

And as also previously stated get yerself to socials and join in forum threads but not post woe is me ones as their very common and put people off.

Have fun

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By *iscreet_guy_4_st8_fun OP Man
over a year ago

Sutton Coldfield

Will have a look at the socials... Will try attend some can be hard when you work full time running your own business... and trying to fit a little bit of fun in aswell...

Loving all the advise!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mobile number gone... Thought i would put that so people knew i was genuine and could contact me straight away!"

shit i didnt take it down LOL

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

profile looks good, i'm not too fussed about the whole number on profile thing, i dont swap numbers willy nilly so will never contact someone without chatting to them first.

nice couple of pics to x

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By *undaberg72Couple
over a year ago

brisbane

getupforit has hit the nail on the head

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"profile looks good, i'm not too fussed about the whole number on profile thing, i dont swap numbers willy nilly so will never contact someone without chatting to them first.

nice couple of pics to x"

i got ya number

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

The chances are you aren't worth helping.

Don't take that personally - I'm talking purely statistically.

You see the overwhelming majority of guys that come in here with posts like yours NEVER do anything about it - never update their profile, never change their pics, never post in the forums again, and in fact never change their behaviour in any way.

So at this point in time its a pretty safe bet that that is going to apply to you.

So before we go any further are you willing to demonstrate that your one of the exceptions and that you are worth helping?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The chances are you aren't worth helping.

Don't take that personally - I'm talking purely statistically.

So at this point in time its a pretty safe bet that that is going to apply to you.

So before we go any further are you willing to demonstrate that your one of the exceptions and that you are worth helping?"

In fairness to the OP i asked for a recent photo and he did and he went on cam so dont be down on him x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

your account is verified...so i am assuming u have had meets? And you have plenty of friends on your profile too....so am i missing something? (sorry...thick icon, but you are saying you cant get meets?)

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By *iscreet_guy_4_st8_fun OP Man
over a year ago

Sutton Coldfield

I have had meets!! the last one was about 12 months ago.. Just generally thought i maybe doing something wrong as when i 1st come on the site i was getting lots of interest and havent now for a long time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have had meets!! the last one was about 12 months ago.. Just generally thought i maybe doing something wrong as when i 1st come on the site i was getting lots of interest and havent now for a long time!

come bring me some double cream 12 eggs and milk and meet me

while i do this baking

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By *erkshireMan123Man
over a year ago

Devizes

come bring me some double cream 12 eggs and milk and meet me

while i do this baking

Looooove the cake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ah..understand now...well i have read your profile and its light hearted and not heavy...but could do with breaking up into paragraphs? Just to read better. I would probably suggest contacting people already on your friends list and see how you get on. Sorry not much help, just my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lose the mobile number, stay out of chat rooms for a while(the are a bit clickie) and be patient. Be realistic with your sights

BOLLOX

the general chat room is fine i have never seem it clicky there and im about in there heaps "

i get most of my meets via the chat rooms

i actually think they are the best way to meet people on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lose the mobile number, stay out of chat rooms for a while(the are a bit clickie) and be patient. Be realistic with your sights

BOLLOX

the general chat room is fine i have never seem it clicky there and im about in there heaps

i get most of my meets via the chat rooms

i actually think they are the best way to meet people on here "

i was saying bollox to the clickiness

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

see... we are now getting into the "change this, alter that" stage which I hate... because in effect the profile is not his anymore.... it was generic enough to begin with, it will get even more generic now...

op... do some reading.... and work out for yourself how you can sell yourself in your own words...

knowing there are loads of people after the same people here.. hand on heart would you answer your own profile...

if the answer is yes... leave it

if the answer is no.... change it

simple as that....

make people want to say "yes I have to get to know and meet this person!"

you need to do that... but you can only do that by yourself....

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

Spell check your profile a lot of people on here judge highly on the spelling mistakes so its worth it just to eliminate that grip."

Did you mean "gripe" ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Finding it really hard to find a meet!

So, what am i doing wrong??

You're doing it all wrong.

You don't have close up pictures of your cock and pubes, so no wonder woman won't meet you, they don't know you have a willy for god's sake man... or are you a man, I can't tell without the willy pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lose the mobile number, stay out of chat rooms for a while(the are a bit clickie) and be patient. Be realistic with your sights

BOLLOX

the general chat room is fine i have never seem it clicky there and im about in there heaps

i get most of my meets via the chat rooms

i actually think they are the best way to meet people on here

i was saying bollox to the clickiness "

i think people use the word cliquie far to freely

its human nature to talk to people you know first, be that on here or in real life, if you was at a club and you saw people you knew in a room full of strangers of course your going to go over and say hi to them first

but that does not make it cliquie

most people, and i know not all, will say hi to you in a chat room if you make the effort to talk

i try to talk to everyone but sometimes when you have 20 all talking to you at once it can be hard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just to add to that if you do go in chat go in a quiet room as when there are less in people tend to talk more rather than the full rooms that are full on cam wankers

not that i have anything against cam wankers but if your after chat they not the best rooms to go in, you cant expect a woman on cam with half the room talking to her to be able to hold a conversation with you

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

"see... we are now getting into the "change this, alter that" stage which I hate... because in effect the profile is not his anymore.... it was generic enough to begin with, it will get even more generic now...

op... do some reading.... and work out for yourself how you can sell yourself in your own words...

knowing there are loads of people after the same people here.. hand on heart would you answer your own profile...

if the answer is yes... leave it

if the answer is no.... change it

simple as that....

make people want to say "yes I have to get to know and meet this person!"

you need to do that... but you can only do that by yourself...."

Pretty much exactly what I was going to say - once the OP demonstrated a willingness to.take advice .........and that's usually the point when we never hear from them again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all go through purple patches, I haven't had a meet off here in about 3 or 4 months, I keep wondering if Im doing anything wrong, but Im not, I just have to stay patient. If you have met before, you obviously did something for someone, just keep at it.

It is a numbers game and the odds are against us. Someone at some point will see what they are missing with you and will have their world rocked when they meet u....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is nothing wrong with you OP, it is solely supply and demand. You can help yourself though. Socials and joining in on the forum are excellent ways of getting known. Already you have stated a reason why you can't go to socials - you're too busy. Whose putting the obstacles in the way, you or us?

You get out what you put in. If you want to just be one of a crowd, do that and hopefully you will have some meets. If you want more, then get up and be proactive.

I don't like advice given for profiles because if I meet a guy I want his profile to reflect him, not half the bloody forum.

Stick to what your preferences are - if you don't accommodate fine, you are not obliged to have any stranger in your house. That is not the reason you are not getting meets. To the person who suggested you change that, if he accommodates will you meet him this weekend? No, oh what a surprise. Don't do what others want you to do, do what YOU want to do.

And if people give advice always remember you are not obliged to go with it, the way you portray yourself is entirely up to you. Take your time to think about your unique selling point, your best points, what you offer and reflect that in your profile - if you want to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its just a case of hit and miss on this site and others like it for the single guy same as dogging if your in the right place at the right time you might just get lucky and when you do show respect for boundaries and give pleasure as well as receiving and hopefully you,ll get asked back for more simples

the biggest set back for single blokes is the arse holes that have stormed in there before us messed folk about and left them wary of another encounter with the single bloke or all to often when dogging and finally a couple do pull up almost every bloke on the carpark swarms em cock in hand and frightens the life outta them lol fun over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Finding it really hard to find a meet!

Love this hahahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I adopt quite a philosophical attitude about meeting people. I always prefer quality to quantity and the few meets I have had on here have been well worth it. I don't trawl the forums and chat rooms trying to get as many prospects as I can I simply bide my time. To be honest if you have the right approach to life your swinging opportunities can come from all manner of places. In fact I have probably had more swinging adventures via well known social network sites over the years including club visits, party invites and sexy couples. Always remember that everyone has their own preferences and if we respect that and try to understand that we will all be a lot better for it. It always helps when you are going for what you want that you make sure it is what the other party wants too

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

On the contrary my friend - the hordes of dickheads make it even easier for a gentleman of quality to stand out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the contrary my friend - the hordes of dickheads make it even easier for a gentleman of quality to stand out"

Naked men with raging hard on's asking to shag anything that moves dosen't quite conjure up the image of gentleman of quality, lol

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

Naked men with raging hard on's asking to shag anything that moves dosen't quite conjure up the image of gentleman of quality, lol

I really should make that pic private .......... or stop kidding myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Naked men with raging hard on's asking to shag anything that moves dosen't quite conjure up the image of gentleman of quality, lol

I really should make that pic private .......... or stop kidding myself

ha, nah, please continue you gentleman of quality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

op... do some reading.... and work out for yourself how you can sell yourself in your own words...

knowing there are loads of people after the same people here.. hand on heart would you answer your own profile...

if the answer is yes... leave it

if the answer is no.... change it

simple as that....

make people want to say "yes I have to get to know and meet this person!"

you need to do that... but you can only do that by yourself...."

He is looking for meet not to be arty and individual. Neither of which will get him a meet. The girls have given good advice so stop trying to put him off taking it.

Bang tidy you do what feels right but take advice as it will help. You have to watch out for guys who see you as competition and try and steer you in the wrong direction.

Good pictures, positive profile, dont kiss arse and maker your profile picture less yellow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't speak for others but for me personally it's all about the instant attraction to a creative and imaginative profile that also has face pics, so many are just plain boring!

In 10 years of swinging I (female half of a couple)have only ever contacted four single guys, all of them have the most amusing, amazing eye catching profiles. Having met all but one of them I can honestly say some guys just rock.

xxx

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

He is looking for meet not to be arty and individual. Neither of which will get him a meet. The girls have given good advice so stop trying to put him off taking it.

it doesn't have to be "arty and indiviual" but what it does have to do is catch someone attention enough to make them want to know more.....

so if he turns his profile in what everyone else does.... how does that help him??? how does he then stand out???

That is the point.... and that is why i Stand by what i said... sell ya bloody self!!! give people a reason to say "yes i have to meet this person!!!"

or did you forget all that in the process of attacking me and moaning...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

moaning and negativity will stay in my head and i wont meet people if i have saw these typs of things in the forums

the op is a genuine nice guy when i have saw him on cam we just havent met x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

op... do some reading.... and work out for yourself how you can sell yourself in your own words...

knowing there are loads of people after the same people here.. hand on heart would you answer your own profile...

if the answer is yes... leave it

if the answer is no.... change it

simple as that....

make people want to say "yes I have to get to know and meet this person!"

you need to do that... but you can only do that by yourself....

He is looking for meet not to be arty and individual. Neither of which will get him a meet. The girls have given good advice so stop trying to put him off taking it.

Bang tidy you do what feels right but take advice as it will help. You have to watch out for guys who see you as competition and try and steer you in the wrong direction.

Good pictures, positive profile, dont kiss arse and maker your profile picture less yellow

I don't agree with this at all. How can it possibly be a good idea to stand in a horde rather than shining out to catch someones attention. I'd argue about the imaginative. I'd say imagination is a great asset in relation to sex.

I would rather have a unique selling point, something that separates me from the norm, something that will stick in someones memory and make them just want to meet me than aspire to be just like the 10654 single guys on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

op... do some reading.... and work out for yourself how you can sell yourself in your own words...

knowing there are loads of people after the same people here.. hand on heart would you answer your own profile...

if the answer is yes... leave it

if the answer is no.... change it

simple as that....

make people want to say "yes I have to get to know and meet this person!"

you need to do that... but you can only do that by yourself....

He is looking for meet not to be arty and individual. Neither of which will get him a meet. The girls have given good advice so stop trying to put him off taking it.

Bang tidy you do what feels right but take advice as it will help. You have to watch out for guys who see you as competition and try and steer you in the wrong direction.

Good pictures, positive profile, dont kiss arse and maker your profile picture less yellow

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

thank you..... maybe "arky" should listen to some of his own advice and listen to what the ladies are saying.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont know that thats right _abio..... Id like to think I have a unique profile, I certainly come at things from a different angle than most, I dont send one liners, have face and body pics etc and yet am not getting any meets at the moment..... Bad luck or bad judgements?

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Your profile is ok but is like lots of others. There is nothing that grabs my attention and want to know more.

I tend to like profiles that make me laugh and that show some personality.

But what attracts one person, won't another.

Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well before I hid my single profile, as long as the guy messaging attached a pic and code word from the profile I would always reply to messages, even if it was a thanks but no thanks.

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By *iscreet_guy_4_st8_fun OP Man
over a year ago

Sutton Coldfield

Thanks all for the information.. Taken it all in and working with it.. Thanks.. fingers crossed i will get meets soon..

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