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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Got a slight problem, I started seeing a girl who is not in the scene, and was wondering if there was any advice on how to break it to her and maybe start doing it together?

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there

well u could try be honest but remember it may cause a big shock, my hubby was straight about it from we met, it was an other site but i found it interesting, others may not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

u shouldve had a word before you started seeing her

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ye thats what I was thinking, wouldnt want tit to backfire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just ask her first what she thinks about swinging .See how that go ..

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

Chat to her, find out her fantasies. Remember women are just as filthy as men,just conditioned against it.

Pity Erotica is finished,it could have been a fun date,perhaps there is something simular you could suggest going to ,see how she reacts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Got a slight problem, I started seeing a girl who is not in the scene, and was wondering if there was any advice on how to break it to her and maybe start doing it together?"

my advice as been in similar situation for what its worth. is to just tell her you have been using a sex site to meet women before you met her!! it will go one of 3 ways

1. you give up swinging whilst with her if shes not into it, thats if you care about her?

2. you swing together

3. you continue swinging and she knows but doesnt want to join you.

reckon one or two is most likley, there is always the risk she will dump you but you have to be honest with her and give her the choice at some stage to end it or stay with you, after all its just sex, and i assume shes had it before you with other guys, women or both if your lucky lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Got a slight problem, I started seeing a girl who is not in the scene, and was wondering if there was any advice on how to break it to her and maybe start doing it together?"

Maybe tell her how much you like her and want to be honest, when you first go out with someone it is not set in stone that anything serious will happen.

Bring it up when your both horny and see how she reacts, obviously if she is not up for it if you really like her then delete your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

depends what your after out of this relationship

remember telling her you do this may put her off you and break the relationship

but to be honest, and i dont mean this nasty, if your looking to swing as a couple with the women you settle down with maybe thats not a bad thing as you can then go onto finding someone who is into it

if however you really like her as a person and not just someone to swing with you may want to sit down and re think your life and decide whats more important her or swinging before you potentially spoil things between you

i always think this kind of thing should be told straight away as its less of a shock from someone new that someone you thought you knew 6 months down the line

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all the advice people, all taken into consideration. I'll bring it up and if she doesnt like the idea then I will stop as she does mean alot to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for all the advice people, all taken into consideration. I'll bring it up and if she doesnt like the idea then I will stop as she does mean alot to me."

Good luck xxx

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

tell her you are treating her to a spa day and take her to kestrels.

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By *ngie-babyWoman
over a year ago

huntingdonish


"Got a slight problem, I started seeing a girl who is not in the scene, and was wondering if there was any advice on how to break it to her and maybe start doing it together?

my advice as been in similar situation for what its worth. is to just tell her you have been using a sex site to meet women before you met her!! it will go one of 3 ways

1. you give up swinging whilst with her if shes not into it, thats if you care about her?

2. you swing together

3. you continue swinging and she knows but doesnt want to join you.

reckon one or two is most likley, there is always the risk she will dump you but you have to be honest with her and give her the choice at some stage to end it or stay with you, after all its just sex, and i assume shes had it before you with other guys, women or both if your lucky lol xx "

4 ... she dumps you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have similar issue, am getting back into dating scene after split, but do i be honest from start that i have a very naughty side ..

some men will love it, some not..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you've got a girlfriend why risk it, give this up for a bit.

Try bringing it up at a later date, if you still have the urge and gauge her reaction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"tell her you are treating her to a spa day and take her to kestrels. "

Lol even better tell her your takeing her clubbing and take her to ABFABS

Only jokeing xx

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

hehe i did avoid saying that !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i have similar issue, am getting back into dating scene after split, but do i be honest from start that i have a very naughty side ..

some men will love it, some not.."

Simple question for you, will you be happy with a guy who does not love your naughty side?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OK about you'll give it up for her,maybe you can, we don't know you, but really, suppressing you natural sexual instinct for the rest of your life....

good luck with that...

(just an opinion, not to be flamed for !!)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks, to be honest it wouldnt be surpressing it, as the sex we have is great, but there is that slight question in my head of, "oh a 3rd might be interesting"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell he you have booked a hotel for a romantic night and book a room at Chams- kill or cure!

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

Explain that before you t her you had what could be described as a colourful and varied sex life... see if she looks interested and wants to know the details or if she resembles a rabbit in the headlights at the thought of you shagging around.

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

That was supposed to say "before you met her"... stupid wireless keyboard playing up again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've met someone who means a lot to you yet you're still here meeting others. You're very young and I'm assuming your girlfriend is younger.

At that age you still have a romantic streak. I can only give you what my reaction would be: I'd dump you. It's one thing getting to know each other and "discovering" the lifestyle together, but living a double life already doesn't bode well.

Only you can decide what course of action to take, good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i have similar issue, am getting back into dating scene after split, but do i be honest from start that i have a very naughty side ..

some men will love it, some not..

Simple question for you, will you be happy with a guy who does not love your naughty side?"

to answer this am really not sure.. in an ideal world i would want to be happy and 100% myself with a lover

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