FabSwingers.com forum: The afermath

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just wondering if anyone elses partner had a terrible case of jealousy after their first experience.

Does it get better or does that mean you should just knock it on the head and work on the relationship?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Obviously that was meant to be aftermath...

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By *orders-cplCouple
over a year ago

middx cpl

you have to be sound before going in to this it wont fix a broken relationship but it will make a good one even stronger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wasn't no jealousy here at all.

"For us", if there was and jealousy then we would stop as we wouldn't want to put any kind of strain on our relationship/marriage.

Tony

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife has never got jealous....but then again she doesn't know lol.

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

We are fortunate enough that we were able to talk through everything before we started playing and if either of us wasn't sure about anything we put a boundry there.

Over time those boundries have gradually been coming down.

We think the key to be able to enjoy the scene is communication, communication and a bit more communication.

Who was jealous over what exactly? If it was the whole scenario then we don't see how you guys can make it work but if it was one thing then maybe if you are both comfortable you can change it for next time.

We have found it vital that both partners and totally open at all times. All you can really do is tlak it through.

Our most important rules for ourselves.

1. The rules are sacred never ever break them as when you do you are breaking your partners trust and your done after that.

2. Never move a boundry whilst on a meet. If you feel you want to move it talk about it afterwards and disscuss it for the next time you may meet.

Above all you can only do what you are BOTH comfortable with if either partner isn't in the end it will effect your relationship hugely.

Good luck. If you can't get over the jealousy then work on putting it down to experience and moving on past it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering if anyone elses partner had a terrible case of jealousy after their first experience.

Does it get better or does that mean you should just knock it on the head and work on the relationship?

i think you need to be totally honest and upfront about this

and if hes jealous after a meet, is this for you both?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hand goes up

For me there was, the green eyed monster did come out .....

I had been playing as a single lady for a few years before i met my hubby and enjoyed to the full.

The very 1st time we played it happend but it was me that was jealous not him.... after the party we sat down and talked it through. We have been playing for a good few years now and the more we see each other playing and enjoying it the more its a turn on for each of us.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well thats promising! I think that for him seeing other men with me was hard the first time.

I think that perhaps we took it too fast...

The initial idea was to find a single female to join us (we all know how hard they are to find) so decided that we'd full swap.

I think that there should have been more discussion around this than the decision on the night.

Apart from that the relationship is very strong and he hasnt suggested that it's a no again forever, I just think that maybe we need to go slower than a 6some for our first play!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As others have said,,just take a step back and talk it through and decide if its really for you both...

good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe introduce yourselves slowly to it.

start with just same room watching others while you play together, or be a soft swing couple for a while until totally at ease with it (tbf, i dont see any difference between being soft and full as you still get a fuck at the end of the night, its just with a cock/pussy you love who is attached to it, rather than a random one)

then take it as far as you are both comfortable with.

and above all, enjoy it.

once you arent enjoying it, its not worth doing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never played as a couple but surely if your an "average" man and see your partner experiencing some well hung guy or she just responds to someone in a much more passionate way than she does with you would be difficult at first,if not always. Or does this say more about my insecurites,maybe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have never played as a couple but surely if your an "average" man and see your partner experiencing some well hung guy or she just responds to someone in a much more passionate way than she does with you would be difficult at first,if not always. Or does this say more about my insecurites,maybe.

One of my kinks is watching Shaz playing with a guy thats better hung than me.

For me the fun is watching Shaz enjoying herself, not thinking if I could do a better job or not

Tony

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everyone I'm sure we'll be fine. Slowly slowly catchy monkey xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My wife has never got jealous....but then again she doesn't know lol."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well thats promising! I think that for him seeing other men with me was hard the first time.

I think that perhaps we took it too fast...

The initial idea was to find a single female to join us (we all know how hard they are to find) so decided that we'd full swap.

I think that there should have been more discussion around this than the decision on the night.

Apart from that the relationship is very strong and he hasnt suggested that it's a no again forever, I just think that maybe we need to go slower than a 6some for our first play!"

I think this post says a lot more than your original one!

With my ex, we'd planned, we'd talked and discussed boundaries. And then we got d*unk and had a 4sum with 2 vanilla friends (not a couple), the aftermath was not initially pretty but we discussed it, learnt a hell of a lot and never had any problems again.

I think if you were planning on a single fem and then had a 6sum it's natural that one or both of you may be feeling put out. But this post shows that you can probably already see what you have done wrong. Just learn from it and put it down to experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I say "what you've done wrong" - I mean as a couple not you individually. Apportioning blame is pointless.

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By *arnayguyMan
over a year ago

Durham Tees

"Thanks everyone I'm sure we'll be fine. Slowly slowly catchy monkey xx"

.....I'm off to the fancy dress shop for that chimp outfit!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

have seen some crazy levels of jealousy, Ive never been the type...I nevr minded my partners getting bigger cocks than mine etc etc lol...people with jealousy issues can really turn parts of a party/getogether sour.

my advice...stay at home ,watch porn and argue fight on ur own lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think the issue was we decided too soon to change our boundaries and this resulted ina mis behaving cock. He felt cuckolded which was never the intention. So maybe back to the drawing book and bring the fun aspect in again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talk and talk some more.....

Swinging isn`t for everyone...in fact very few of us really....its sounds fun to alot of people, however fer some, it can raise issues...

It seems you`ve identified what you think contributed to the rise of negative emotions....you will be in a better position than me to evaluate the cause, talking it thru honestly will pinpoint it...

Mabye take a slower path...plan yer meet with fun in mind, boundaries set, so you are both comfy....this isn`t a race to a gang bang...

In fact it can be anything YOU want it to be ...

For me....its the reclaim that is the bigger buzz..you prolly heard about it ?

Hope it works out fer you....remember that this is supposed to enhance a relationship...built on equality....you both need to be perfectly happy and in full agreement....or the danger is it can wreck a good relationship...

Best of ..x

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By *evonfuncoupleCouple
over a year ago

Yelverton

Sadly this is the reason why we had to stop, compounded by the fact that the other half had finished before hand and then became a spectator.

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there

seein other woman with my hubby was hard, but he choose to have fun with me at meets then we moved to just me havin sex he watches and films still i would get a little jealous of woman comin on to him but its part of the game xx

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By *h_errotic_onesCouple
over a year ago

Bournemouth, Pokesdown

When we had our first meet it was an mmf with a very experienced male who did take the lead. I (Stuart) was nervous and didn't get as involved as I should have done and felt a bit jealous, but still incredible horny.

I was a little disheartened by the experience, but more disappointed in myself. We were still very friendly with the guy and I did discuss it with him and my wife. The next time was a much more enjoyable experience and since then everythings been fine.

We also started off with only my wife having sex with others and that worked fine as I'm sure she would get jealous, but one day she said it would be fine fro me to take it further. I was of course happy with this, but had to find the right couple. When we did it was very strange having my wife stop on watch me, almost putting me off at one stage lol, but she said it was getting her very turned on.

Since then we have never looked back....

H&S

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

"Thanks everyone I'm sure we'll be fine. Slowly slowly catchy monkey xx"

Maybe just add one rather than swap. Then its something you do together.

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By *illyrocCouple
over a year ago

north west

We find that a lot of men talk there partners in to going to clubs for a ffm and a lot of the time it back fires for the man as we find that the females get all the attention and then the jealousy kicks in .

Just last week in club a couple came in wanting a ffm but found it wasnt that easy but the female wanted her partner to go with us as a couple but he said he couldnt see his wife being with another man ,then they started to bicker but selfishness springs to mind on this occasion .

We have never been jealous for us we like to think we will find great sex as thats what its all about the time i dont like seeing my partner enjoy herself will be the day we stop

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

sometimes it's easy to mistake other emotions and feelings for jealousy.

I couple I used to know on the scene were absolutely fine when it came to private meets but hit difficulties when they went o their first party. "She" got a little carried away and began fooling around with all-comers, ahd "he" felt marginalised and sidelined as a result as he felt he had not control or say over what happened.

It sounds to me like this might be a possibility for you guys too.

So as well as talking things through perhaps you just need to find your level.

Tell you what, out of the goodness of my heart, I'll pop over saturday for a private MFM and we'll see how you get on with that .... I know - you don't have to thank me - I'm a bloody saint

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"Just wondering if anyone elses partner had a terrible case of jealousy after their first experience.

Does it get better or does that mean you should just knock it on the head and work on the relationship?

Work on the relationship,talk,talk and talk some more.

Swinging and jealousy do not mix,you probably are not ready to move from fantasy yet,this is not a problem!

Remember the majority of couples with happy fulfilling sex lives do not and will never swing.

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By *obblybitsCouple
over a year ago

huddersfield

We thought about it a lot in the first few years of marriage dh dosnt have many sexual things before we met so I think he was a tiny bit bitter about my experiences. We had been through a rocky Pacheco and started really talking and listening to each other and wam I new what to do. I was shocked how un jealous I was in fact I was so turned on seeing him with another women. I feel guilty though in clubs because as a women I have many people who are up for having fun but at one time martyn was just left and I hated it so that's one thing we talked of and we will try to just meet couples.

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

whats a Pacheco?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"whats a Pacheco?"

Young Spanish forward that plays for a team in red .

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