FabSwingers.com forum: Is it rascist

By *urved Hunny OP Woman
over a year ago

Essex

I have always had a preference for sex with black men, I do not dislike any race, have friends of many colours and respect all people. I'm constantly sent rude messages accusing me of rascism which is like accusing gays of sexism lol, it doesn't bother me as such but I'm surprised my sexual preference is seen in this way

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

your preferences are your choice nothing to do with racism, its no different that saying only cut guts or uncut guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My motto is do as you please mindful of the rules mind as we all have an equal right to be here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My motto is do as you please mindful of the rules mind as we all have an equal right to be here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all have sexual preferences and this is yours. I'd find it a bit limiting myself but that's just me

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By *urved Hunny OP Woman
over a year ago

Essex

Thanks people, I was needing some reassurance seeing as I thought myself non racist

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By *urved Hunny OP Woman
over a year ago

Essex

"We all have sexual preferences and this is yours. I'd find it a bit limiting myself but that's just me

Haha I hear you, luckily I've learnt that this swingy world has room for all and everyone is someone's absolute cuppa tea lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We all have sexual preferences and this is yours. I'd find it a bit limiting myself but that's just me

Haha I hear you, luckily I've learnt that this swingy world has room for all and everyone is someone's absolute cuppa tea lol xx"
exactly I hate tea by the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People find it difficult to understand such preferences only when it cuts them out. I personally also have a preference for lighter skinned women which luckily isn't much of an issue given my complexion.

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By *oodyshere2011Man
over a year ago

Midlands

It’s not raciest at all, you have a certain preference and if that’s what you like good on you!!!

Just ignore and keep your head up xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends why you have a preference. If its because thats who you fancy then fair enough. If its because you feel a certain other race is inferior then thats racism.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can’t see the issue. You can be attracted to someone’s skin colour in the same way you can be to someone’s hair colour - or lack of it in my case

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the opposite to you OP,my preference is white men and I get accused of being racist.

Seems you can't win so just have fun and ignore the these kinds of people

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By *urved Hunny OP Woman
over a year ago

Essex

"It depends why you have a preference. If its because thats who you fancy then fair enough. If its because you feel a certain other race is inferior then thats racism.

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Ah yes interesting comment, I just love dark brown skin really.

I believe we're all equally important here on the planet,animals and humans, all a bit different, all special

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By *urved Hunny OP Woman
over a year ago

Essex

"I'm the opposite to you OP,my preference is white men and I get accused of being racist.

Seems you can't win so just have fun and ignore the these kinds of people

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lol yes, seems like it's basically bitching haha x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It depends why you have a preference. If its because thats who you fancy then fair enough. If its because you feel a certain other race is inferior then thats racism.

Ah yes interesting comment, I just love dark brown skin really.

I believe we're all equally important here on the planet,animals and humans, all a bit different, all special

To be honest, I think you can usually tell from a profile. You can tell someone who just has a preference (thats my thing sort of) or those who are racist (eewww no not xxxx ethnicity). Does that make sense?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not racist at all! My woman prefers black guys, and nothing to do with their appendage, she just loves the contrast of skin colour! As a hotwifer, I’m more than comfortable with her preference and it doesn’t affect our relationship what so ever! In fact it’s a gorgeous sight seeing her being pleasured by a black guy! You go girl

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By *urved Hunny OP Woman
over a year ago

Essex

"It depends why you have a preference. If its because thats who you fancy then fair enough. If its because you feel a certain other race is inferior then thats racism.

Ah yes interesting comment, I just love dark brown skin really.

I believe we're all equally important here on the planet,animals and humans, all a bit different, all special

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By *.LBCouple
over a year ago

South

My wife’s the same, only likes getting intimate with Black guys,

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East

It's a preference, nothing more, so don't worry.

We all have them.

Preferences do not exclude or demean others, merely that you are more attracted to people with characteristic X, Y or Z, than those without.

Properly expressed, it should not be misinterpreted.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

It's a preference. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the same I only like getting intimate with beautiful people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you discriminate against anybody because of their race?

If the answer is yes, then you're racist.

If the answer is no, then you're not racist.

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By *riefcase_WankerMan
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

It's not racist in the slightest, it's just a preference, like some people preferring blondes or brunettes.

I have to confess, it *is* something I find kinda weird, that people only find one thing or another attractive - to me a beautiful woman is a beautiful woman, whether she's blonde, brunette, big, little, tall, short, black, white or beige...but each to their own, it's not racist.

I mean, I guess with guys it could be argued there are *ahem* 'other factors' involved as to why black is such a popular choice...

Weirdly 'BCC' doesn't seem to be a thing?

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East

Do you discriminate against anybody because of their race?

If the answer is yes, then you're racist.

If the answer is no, then you're not racist."

I'm not aware the OP says she won't meet people of other races or ethnicities.

Does it make someone homophobic if they are not attracted to people of the same sex?

No, of course not.

All of us are drawn to different characteristics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My Mrs will not meet Asian or Black guys..It's just her preference ..simple has that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'v found few on here know the difference between choice and offense

Even fewer know definitionns of many emotive subjects such as racism, bigotry, femininism to mention just a few yet seem to shout loudly about them.

Never come across a larger collection of individuals who take more offence than here. Supposedly a more open minded group.... Bull!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only message people that state no blacks on their profiles....

I’m hoping I can be the ambassador to black cock....

You know once you go black you can never go back...

It’s like catching Herpes , the gift that keeps giving....

Btw Op you are not racist .... people tend to throw that word around when they get rejected...

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough

Here we go again, lol.

The most overused word in the English language, and misunderstood.

If you treat anybody differently because of the colour of their skin or race then your racist, simple.

If you choose your friends for the same reason then you're racist, simple again.

If you fancy or don't fancy somebody because of anything about their appearance, skin colour, hair, or race then that is just a preference.

However I think if you were to say that you would Never, have se. With a white, black, Asian or other racial stereotype whatever the circumstances then maybe you need to be more honest with yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your vagina isn't an equal opportunities employer therefore not everyone is entitled to have a go.

You shouldn't need to explain your choice to anyone and as someone said, the only people that bleat and moan about it are those who are excluded.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not racists it's a preference

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

"Your vagina isn't an equal opportunities employer therefore not everyone is entitled to have a go.

You shouldn't need to explain your choice to anyone and as someone said, the only people that bleat and moan about it are those who are excluded. "

This

Let the haters hate, block them and have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 11/07/18 18:22:46]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lady it’s your body. No one can tell you what to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only message people that state no blacks on their profiles....

I’m hoping I can be the ambassador to black cock....

You know once you go black you can never go back...

It’s like catching Herpes , the gift that keeps giving....

Btw Op you are not racist .... people tend to throw that word around when they get rejected..."

Not the best analogy to advertise yourself. But the thought was there.

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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago

Ramsgate

I’ve had good experiences with black guys - but black bi or bi curious are not easy to meet - you just have to be patient

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By *harisajidanWoman
over a year ago

london

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By *harisajidanWoman
over a year ago

london

I wonder if a lot of you know the difference between preference and prerequisite. Because seems to me when you say you ONLY like or will meet {insert group} that’s a prerequisite and not a preference.

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By *harisajidanWoman
over a year ago

london

"I only message people that state no blacks on their profiles....

I’m hoping I can be the ambassador to black cock....

You know once you go black you can never go back...

It’s like catching Herpes , the gift that keeps giving....

Btw Op you are not racist .... people tend to throw that word around when they get rejected...

Not the best analogy to advertise yourself. But the thought was there. "

Did someone legit just compare this to herpes??! Lord Jesus, help them.

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

"I have always had a preference for sex with black men, I do not dislike any race, have friends of many colours and respect all people. I'm constantly sent rude messages accusing me of rascism which is like accusing gays of sexism lol, it doesn't bother me as such but I'm surprised my sexual preference is seen in this way "
. First of all you are not racist you have a preference and everyone should respect your preference.Second so called adults sending you rude messages and accusing you of racism is disgusting and I am sorry to hear you have been subjected to this.Always remember you are bigger and better than these so called adults don’t let them ruin your enjoyment of the site.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

Some people may think you are racist. Do you honestly care?

I don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It depends why you have a preference. If its because thats who you fancy then fair enough. If its because you feel a certain other race is inferior then thats racism.

That's a really good way of explaining it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your vagina isn't an equal opportunities employer therefore not everyone is entitled to have a go.

You shouldn't need to explain your choice to anyone and as someone said, the only people that bleat and moan about it are those who are excluded. "

'have a go'

OP report abusive messages. Admin sorts them.

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By *urved Hunny OP Woman
over a year ago

Essex

Thanks all, I do report every one and I hope fabs deals with them, it doesn't bother me too much, I'm more baffled by their need to do it, even if I didn't have a preference I would only have time for a very small number of playmates

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

We're only interested in meeting straight guys. Does that make us homophobic? No.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

your preferences are your choice nothing to do with racism, its no different that saying only cut guts or uncut guys

If there's a choice between guts and guys, I'll go for the latter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best thing to do is have sex with me and when someone accuses you of being racist, send them my way and ill tell them you hated every minute of it and cried all the way through it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My motto is do as you please mindful of the rules mind as we all have an equal right to be here

Just not an equal right between someone's legs

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By *urved Hunny OP Woman
over a year ago

Essex

"Best thing to do is have sex with me and when someone accuses you of being racist, send them my way and ill tell them you hated every minute of it and cried all the way through it."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not racist at all, completely support your preference

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

No one wants to be left out so you will get hate mails. Stating your preference helps bring like together.

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By *inkvaderMan
over a year ago

london/manchester/ringwood

No different than wanting someone curvy or someone else wanting athletic...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prejudice + Power = Racism

Racism is institutional which means that you have to have the means to negatively affect a paticular race, whether it's socially, economically, religiously etc.

Preferring something over another option is human nature, and notvsomething to feel bad or persecuted about.

I prefer women more than men but that doesn't make the sexist. Just means I prefer women... Don't let the bastards get you down!!! (Rhianna voice)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Right hang about... preference IS NOT racism. That’s the end of this thread. Racism is holding a negative opinion about an Ethnicity. If you held negative feelings of a group and made that public and/or portrayed animosity towards a different demographic then yes. But you are describing preference. That is different to any ’ism’ and is the same as me saying I want an A1 caucasian girl who is slim with enhanced boobs, an amazing arse and uncontrollable hair, from Yorkshire. I’m not any kind of ism but i know what I prefer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Black men drive me wild !!! Big shout out to all you gorgeous black beautiful men xxx

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By *uracell-DannyMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Would you be able to discrimate someone applying for a job on the grounds that the employer prefers applicants to be from a certain race or gender?

Just being a devil's advocate x

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By *uracell-DannyMan
over a year ago

Leicester

People are conditioned by their upbringing (neurotic parents lol, schooling) and environment. Not many people are to uncondition their programming and jettison their myopia...so they discriminate. I was not a drinker of wine when i was younger...but one has to educate one's pallet by trying something different and iut their comfort zone x

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By *lknhungMan
over a year ago

Luton

I think if you have a preference you would state it on our profile as it makes it easier for people to know if they should make a move or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would you be able to discrimate someone applying for a job on the grounds that the employer prefers applicants to be from a certain race or gender?

Just being a devil's advocate x"

That’s not being devil’s advocate really. It’s nothing like that. This is preference to attraction. The employment discrimination law is to ensure all people get a fair chance at applying for jobs based on skills rather than a y discriminatory factor. And we’re not exactly applying for jobs on here. Well most of us aren’t anyway

This is simply a question of why would you be classified as racist for preferring a certain type.... and the simple answer is no.

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By *uracell-DannyMan
over a year ago

Leicester

I was just using an analogy. Discrimination is discrimation...positive or not?

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By *uracell-DannyMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Everyone is welcome to have a preference. The world is big place. To dismiss an entire race ...because of their skin colour or appearance seems ignorant. Extrapolating everyone is the same from the (limited) encounters one may have had with them.

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By *dores blackmenWoman
over a year ago

incognito mode ;-)

"Everyone is welcome to have a preference. The world is big place. To dismiss an entire race ...because of their skin colour or appearance seems ignorant. Extrapolating everyone is the same from the (limited) encounters one may have had with them.

I do not think it is ignorant at all,I know the OP, I have spent time with her at various interracial parties over many years

We are not racist we just know exactly what we want in real life and in our swinging journey

There are thousands of men on here, we have narrowed our search down to what makes us happy,who we fancy,whose company we enjoy spending time with and what makes us tingle-some blackmen

People who feel they are excluded will be the only ones to complain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only like women. Does that make me sexist?!

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By *blacklondonmanMan
over a year ago

Golders Green, London

"Best thing to do is have sex with me and when someone accuses you of being racist, send them my way and ill tell them you hated every minute of it and cried all the way through it."

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By *blacklondonmanMan
over a year ago

Golders Green, London

"Black men drive me wild !!! Big shout out to all you gorgeous black beautiful men xxx"

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

I do not think it is ignorant at all,I know the OP, I have spent time with her at various interracial parties over many years

We are not racist we just know exactly what we want in real life and in our swinging journey

There are thousands of men on here, we have narrowed our search down to what makes us happy,who we fancy,whose company we enjoy spending time with and what makes us tingle-some blackmen

People who feel they are excluded will be the only ones to complain

To put it briefly, we work on averages but choose the best ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was asked if I slept with black guys by a white guy.

When I enquired why he would asked such a question, he informed me he didn’t want to sleep with women who that had been with black guys. Whites should stick to whites

That’s racist in my book

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By *G CoupleCouple
over a year ago

kent

OP report abusive messages. Admin sorts them. "

Really? We have reported some seriously bad rascist messages and nothing has been done. The members are still on here to abuse others to their hearts delight.

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By *J StathamMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I wish that there was a search function for me to look for local ladies that preferred black guys as it would save both me and them some time.

I put together a nice message to get a reply saying thank you but I'm not in to black guys, which is fine but should I have known that before hand then I wouldn't have sent a message in the first place

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

"I wish that there was a search function for me to look for local ladies that preferred black guys as it would save both me and them some time.

Why not go to one of the parties advertised on here?

Also threads like this one may be useful.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

"I was asked if I slept with black guys by a white guy.

When I enquired why he would asked such a question, he informed me he didn’t want to sleep with women who that had been with black guys. Whites should stick to whites

That’s racist in my book"

Or (rather, and) a massive insecurity. Good luck to him - I hope he does not live in London or another big city as he will run out of women pretty quickly. Not only the ones he won't meet but also the ones who won't meet him.

To sum it up, people are free to think whatever they like and to meet whoever they like. Why should it bother anyone?

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By *J StathamMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I have been and do go to Black events once every now and again but it would be nice to have an additional search option.

(Hope to see some of you lovely ladies at some of them :D )

Either way its definitely NOT racist for a person to prefer black or white.

Xxx

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

"I have been and do go to Black events once every now and again but it would be nice to have an additional search option.

(Hope to see some of you lovely ladies at some of them :D )

Either way its definitely NOT racist for a person to prefer black or white.

Xxx"

If you ever get to London...

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By *hloe sussexTV/TS
over a year ago

Larne

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By *empting TravelsMan
over a year ago

London

"It depends why you have a preference. If its because thats who you fancy then fair enough. If its because you feel a certain other race is inferior then thats racism.

That's a really good way of explaining it.

I like this response too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My preference is to meet black men for sex on this site,I have never received any negative comments either way

The only negative comments that I regularly get are from couples when I have to tell them I am not attracted to the Male

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

Accusing you of racism is a power-play.

They are expecting you to enter a dialogue, so you can defend your choices.

But you don't have to.

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By *aralewisCouple
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

Your not racist just your choice

I see msg all time white guys only or only Bbc etc

If someone skin colour or looks or shade of skin don’t do anything for you why play with them if turned off..

Shallow people will say things but I would tell them even if I did like white guys I’d be last on my list

Ignore them coz your not going change who you want meet or play with due to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Right hang about... preference IS NOT racism. That’s the end of this thread. Racism is holding a negative opinion about an Ethnicity. If you held negative feelings of a group and made that public and/or portrayed animosity towards a different demographic then yes. But you are describing preference. That is different to any ’ism’ and is the same as me saying I want an A1 caucasian girl who is slim with enhanced boobs, an amazing arse and uncontrollable hair, from Yorkshire. I’m not any kind of ism but i know what I prefer. "

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By *halMan
over a year ago

North West

"Here we go again, lol.

The most overused word in the English language, and misunderstood.

If you treat anybody differently because of the colour of their skin or race then your racist, simple.

If you choose your friends for the same reason then you're racist, simple again.

If you fancy or don't fancy somebody because of anything about their appearance, skin colour, hair, or race then that is just a preference.

However I think if you were to say that you would Never, have se. With a white, black, Asian or other racial stereotype whatever the circumstances then maybe you need to be more honest with yourself.

Could not have put it better my self....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What of it was put the opposite way round, would that make a difference?

"I won't meet black people, as my preference"

Does that put a different conotation on it or is that still okay?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've seen profiles that say no black men or Asain men.

Funnily enough on a couple of occasions I've been winked at or messaged by couples who have no black men on their profile which makes me curious as to why they don't want black men but want to fuck a black woman, if their issue is they find black bodies unattractive. Not that I bother asking.. it's their preference afterall.

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