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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've always had a longing to find a woman to play with long term to develop a dom/sub relationship with. I don't think I could dish out pain on any harsh level, I'm more looking into forced orgasms and things like that. Does anyone have any experience of this please as I'd love to learn more about this kind of lifestyle. Thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi I have had dom/sub relationship in the past its not all.about painful harsh punishments different doms need different things and so do subs it's meeting the right one more about the mind the body then follows

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By *witch4Fun24Couple
over a year ago

Leicester

Not all subs are masochists and that is absolutely fine :D there are plenty other connotations in the letters BDSM to explore :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are this, I do spank her but not to the point of drawing blood etc, it’s more hair pulling and name calling, along with setting her tasks, but pain isn’t involved

D/S is what fits for yourself

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By *andemanMan
over a year ago

bedforshire

Surrender and service obediance and submission. These are done by choice and free will. That to me is fucking sexy! Some naughty play and light disapline is just one set of the pleasures available in this.

Force and abuse leaves you feeling unwanted.

Power is in delivering pleasure not pain.

When people confuse the pantimime of the scene with reality things get dangerious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us it's 50/50 physical and head stuff.

I know what she needs and wants and what she hates (but secretly wants) and the mental tennis is a lot of fun.

There doesn't have to be blood on the walls for the endorphins to flow.

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By *ornylittlesubWoman
over a year ago

Grangemouth

In any good dom/sub relationship the ultimate control is with the sub....although that sounds a contradiction, if the dom doesn't "get" that then it can be dangerous. But if you find the right person it is lots of fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In any good dom/sub relationship the ultimate control is with the sub....although that sounds a contradiction, if the dom doesn't "get" that then it can be dangerous. But if you find the right person it is lots of fun. "

This is the truth

In addition, D/s is individual and can include or exclude all kinds of play. Make it your own, this makes it natural which is how it should be.

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By *rongstantineWoman
over a year ago

hull

A D/s dynamic doesn't automatically involve pain and degradation. Definitely time to get some research done and find what appeals to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've always had a longing to find a woman to play with long term to develop a dom/sub relationship with. I don't think I could dish out pain on any harsh level, I'm more looking into forced orgasms and things like that. Does anyone have any experience of this please as I'd love to learn more about this kind of lifestyle. Thanks. "

No can be sensual not just about pain

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks everyone, I feel very much like I'm "in training" at the moment and above all I respect people. I know that dishing out pain and degradation doesn't mean you're disrespectful too. I also understand that the power ultimately lies with the sub and I like that, the thought of someone handing their control to me is incredible! Thanks again and research has started!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks everyone, I feel very much like I'm "in training" at the moment and above all I respect people. I know that dishing out pain and degradation doesn't mean you're disrespectful too. I also understand that the power ultimately lies with the sub and I like that, the thought of someone handing their control to me is incredible! Thanks again and research has started! "

We are all always learning and that's just how it should be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In any good dom/sub relationship the ultimate control is with the sub....although that sounds a contradiction, if the dom doesn't "get" that then it can be dangerous. But if you find the right person it is lots of fun. "

Very true. I am currently seeking such a person. Dynamics are set by both as are limits and safe practice. Then a mutual acceptane is formed and both tecieve and give accordingly

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By *andemanMan
over a year ago

bedforshire

Oh one more thing.

Sex is play, adult play, so dont forget to laugh the harder the better.

Oh tickle play just remembered there you go all good things in a nutshell.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh one more thing.

Sex is play, adult play, so dont forget to laugh the harder the better.

Oh tickle play just remembered there you go all good things in a nutshell."

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