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Too many-not enough single guys. What’s your just right Goldilocks ratio?

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By *empting Travels OP   Man
over a year ago

London

I’m hosting my first full scale party at a swinging venue on Saturday August 25th. One thing that’s been on my mind is getting a balance of people that suits the average swinger (if there is such a thing).

My girlfriend and me enjoy couples only parties but there is always the danger of too high a proportion of couples sticking to themselves because they are too shy to make the first move etc.

On the flip side, when we’ve been to parties that welcome single guys and a lot of single guys turn up…..well lets just say the atmosphere can sometimes be far from sexy.

To ensure there’s a good balance between couples, single ladies, single guys and TVs I have been releasing tickets in controlled phases. I’ve gone for this….

For every 10 bi or cuckold couple attending no more than 3-5 single male tickets will be made available.

For every 3-5 bi black males attending a ticket will be made available for one TV or sissy.

With single ladies as long as they do not out number single males and TVs, there are no restrictions.

I’m curious, what would your perfect Goldilocks ratios be?

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By *reokinkMan
over a year ago

London

Hmmmmmm let me think......

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

That doesn't sound enough to be honest. If you invited 10 guys to every couple there's still a chance that all 10 of those guys could be pushy twats. Or probably be more interested in chasing the single women. To be fair if we went to your party and there was a good selection of single women, id probably not bother with the cuck/bi theme and try and trap off with the single women.

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By *strokeC100Couple
over a year ago

chester

I think the truth is that different ratios have all worked well for us, but in different ways. But probably our ideal would be three bulls to each pair of cuckold couples. That should provide enough suitable activity - assuming the bulls are genuine!

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"I think the truth is that different ratios have all worked well for us, but in different ways. But probably our ideal would be three bulls to each pair of cuckold couples. That should provide enough suitable activity - assuming the bulls are genuine! "

Im never comfortable calling any man a bull until he's proved himself. Until then he's just a stunt cock. Hopefully with a good personality.

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By *empting Travels OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"That doesn't sound enough to be honest. If you invited 10 guys to every couple there's still a chance that all 10 of those guys could be pushy twats. Or probably be more interested in chasing the single women. To be fair if we went to your party and there was a good selection of single women, id probably not bother with the cuck/bi theme and try and trap off with the single women. "

lol 10 black guys per couple??? That's basically a gangbang. Very much a fantasy for a lot of people but that's not the vibe I am going for and that's for several reasons. The thinking behind the ratios I'm going for is to create a balance to ensure that

a) There are not so many guys that the women feel overwhelmed b) There's not so few women that the guys feel tempted to be overly pushy. That would always be the danger if you had ten guys per couple. That is unless they were already known to each other and worked as a team.

If there was a theoretical number of 5 couples, 5 single ladies and 5 guys. That's 10 men and 10 women.

Or if there was a theoretical number of 8 couples, 2 single ladies and 5 guys. That's 13 men and 7 women. I don't think either would leave anyone feeling short changed. More importantly I think these ratios give everyone a chance to get a fair opportunity to network with like minded people which is quite important to me. Although even my strict vetting of guests can't guarantee that no "pushy twats" slip through the net there are no second chances for future events. Fingers crossed that's enough incentive for all guests to be universally respectful of each other.

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By *strokeC100Couple
over a year ago

chester

Are you not though assuming the contribution of the cuckold and the bull as equivalent? Which so far as networking is concerned is fine, but wouldn’t I think work as well when it comes to the main purpose of the event. I would have thought that there would need to be at least as many bulls as women, married or single, with the cuckolds as additional.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"That doesn't sound enough to be honest. If you invited 10 guys to every couple there's still a chance that all 10 of those guys could be pushy twats. Or probably be more interested in chasing the single women. To be fair if we went to your party and there was a good selection of single women, id probably not bother with the cuck/bi theme and try and trap off with the single women.

lol 10 black guys per couple??? That's basically a gangbang. Very much a fantasy for a lot of people but that's not the vibe I am going for and that's for several reasons. The thinking behind the ratios I'm going for is to create a balance to ensure that

a) There are not so many guys that the women feel overwhelmed b) There's not so few women that the guys feel tempted to be overly pushy. That would always be the danger if you had ten guys per couple. That is unless they were already known to each other and worked as a team.

If there was a theoretical number of 5 couples, 5 single ladies and 5 guys. That's 10 men and 10 women.

Or if there was a theoretical number of 8 couples, 2 single ladies and 5 guys. That's 13 men and 7 women. I don't think either would leave anyone feeling short changed. More importantly I think these ratios give everyone a chance to get a fair opportunity to network with like minded people which is quite important to me. Although even my strict vetting of guests can't guarantee that no "pushy twats" slip through the net there are no second chances for future events. Fingers crossed that's enough incentive for all guests to be universally respectful of each other.

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Yeah as i tried to say, even if there was 10 guys per couple like there is at bmfc etc, there's still no guarantee that ANY of those guys would get to play. If you have low numbers it'll take the women about 30 seconds to work out if they're going to play with any of those guys or not. If you invite 5 guys you might find 2 are in demand and 3 are left on the shelf.

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By *empting Travels OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"That doesn't sound enough to be honest. If you invited 10 guys to every couple there's still a chance that all 10 of those guys could be pushy twats. Or probably be more interested in chasing the single women. To be fair if we went to your party and there was a good selection of single women, id probably not bother with the cuck/bi theme and try and trap off with the single women.

lol 10 black guys per couple??? That's basically a gangbang. Very much a fantasy for a lot of people but that's not the vibe I am going for and that's for several reasons. The thinking behind the ratios I'm going for is to create a balance to ensure that

a) There are not so many guys that the women feel overwhelmed b) There's not so few women that the guys feel tempted to be overly pushy. That would always be the danger if you had ten guys per couple. That is unless they were already known to each other and worked as a team.

If there was a theoretical number of 5 couples, 5 single ladies and 5 guys. That's 10 men and 10 women.

Or if there was a theoretical number of 8 couples, 2 single ladies and 5 guys. That's 13 men and 7 women. I don't think either would leave anyone feeling short changed. More importantly I think these ratios give everyone a chance to get a fair opportunity to network with like minded people which is quite important to me. Although even my strict vetting of guests can't guarantee that no "pushy twats" slip through the net there are no second chances for future events. Fingers crossed that's enough incentive for all guests to be universally respectful of each other.

Yeah as i tried to say, even if there was 10 guys per couple like there is at bmfc etc, there's still no guarantee that ANY of those guys would get to play. If you have low numbers it'll take the women about 30 seconds to work out if they're going to play with any of those guys or not. If you invite 5 guys you might find 2 are in demand and 3 are left on the shelf. "

Ahh yes, I suppose every ratio has its pros and cons. Not just in terms of sexual chemistry but sexual goals too. Its difficult to predict how many people with turn up at any event on any given night. You're can sometimes end up with too few guys per couple as well as too many.

Fingers crossed my fixed ratios experiment works

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