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By *emi2017 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Is there any polite way to let a guy know that you've changed your mind about having sex because you didn't realise he wasn't packing quite as much as he thought he was?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there any polite way to let a guy know that you've changed your mind about having sex because you didn't realise he wasn't packing quite as much as he thought he was? "

Be honest

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

How much less are we talking?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

You don't have to mention his size: there's no need to crush someone's confidence. Just say you've changed your mind about meeting again, and wish him happy fabbing.

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By *emi2017 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I mean in the moment though. I don't want to go through with it just because we are there but it's frustrating when everything's good until he takes his trousers off.. It's a bit obvious then when I'm suddenly not feeling it

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By *rinceCorwinMan
over a year ago

Manchester

If you needed a magnifying glass please be careful with it the sunshine. We don't want any accidental fires starting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just say your not keen on cocktail sausages

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"You don't have to mention his size: there's no need to crush someone's confidence. Just say you've changed your mind about meeting again, and wish him happy fabbing."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I mean in the moment though. I don't want to go through with it just because we are there but it's frustrating when everything's good until he takes his trousers off.. It's a bit obvious then when I'm suddenly not feeling it "

And this is exactly why every guy should send a cock pic in the first message

C

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By *iger.10Man
over a year ago

Llantrisant


"You don't have to mention his size: there's no need to crush someone's confidence. Just say you've changed your mind about meeting again, and wish him happy fabbing.

This "

Agree..Like telling a woman that her boobs weren't as big as you thought or not big enough

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"It's a bit obvious then when I'm suddenly not feeling it "

The mood or the willy?

That's where you whip your toys out to give a helping hand

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"I mean in the moment though. I don't want to go through with it just because we are there but it's frustrating when everything's good until he takes his trousers off.. It's a bit obvious then when I'm suddenly not feeling it "

Perhaps make it clear on your profile that 'size matters' in your case and be upfront about it in messages before you meet and get into an awkward situation.

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By *emi2017 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I would never be rude about the situation and its not like I would meet people without seeing pictures and talking quite a bit first but pictures can still be very deceiving and it's not like we get a trial run where its acceptable to see in person whats there and decide after without hurting someone's feelings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would you change your mind if you fancied him in every other way?

Imagine if a man took one look at your pussy and said he couldn't go through with fucking you after all. What would you like him to say?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe he will read this and not need the meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two words: sky remote

C

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there any polite way to let a guy know that you've changed your mind about having sex because you didn't realise he wasn't packing quite as much as he thought he was? "

Yeah, say listen pencil dick that thing isn’t going to touch the sides and frankly I haven’t the time or inclination to work with it, so you better find another lady cause this woman needs a whole lot more girth and length than you can offer.

Hope this helps X

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I would never be rude about the situation and its not like I would meet people without seeing pictures and talking quite a bit first but pictures can still be very deceiving and it's not like we get a trial run where its acceptable to see in person whats there and decide after without hurting someone's feelings. "

You ask for respect on your profile: treat others how you'd like to be treated.

You are a size queen yet state you don't want a BBC as you want a man to be more than a cock.

When you've decided what you want you may get it...Good luck!

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"You don't have to mention his size: there's no need to crush someone's confidence. Just say you've changed your mind about meeting again, and wish him happy fabbing.

This

Agree..Like telling a woman that her boobs weren't as big as you thought or not big enough "

Makes no difference to how a fanny feels though, and every difference if a woman likes a good stretching

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By *assparellasparkeldustCouple
over a year ago

BLACKPOOL

It's what you do with it it's not the size

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there any polite way to let a guy know that you've changed your mind about having sex because you didn't realise he wasn't packing quite as much as he thought he was? "

Try his fist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Heard many - took to locking it away to avoid the problem lol

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By *emi2017 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I swear people in the forum live to find something wrong with every post.

Any size is capable of pleasure, it doesn't make a difference in that respect. For me personally it's about aesthetic.

If a guy changes his mind about having sex with me because something wasn't the way he expected or wanted then I'd want him to say, just as much as I want the opportunity to say.

I don't think there's anything disrespectful about changing my mind about wanting to have sex?

I personally really get off on giving head so for me size comes into play in that respect and visually I don't find certain sizes a turn on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I swear people in the forum live to find something wrong with every post.

Any size is capable of pleasure, it doesn't make a difference in that respect. For me personally it's about aesthetic.

If a guy changes his mind about having sex with me because something wasn't the way he expected or wanted then I'd want him to say, just as much as I want the opportunity to say.

I don't think there's anything disrespectful about changing my mind about wanting to have sex?

I personally really get off on giving head so for me size comes into play in that respect and visually I don't find certain sizes a turn on.

"

So what would you want him to say if he changed his mind or something put him off?

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By *emi2017 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"

So what would you want him to say if he changed his mind or something put him off? "

I honestly don't know...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would never be rude about the situation and its not like I would meet people without seeing pictures and talking quite a bit first but pictures can still be very deceiving and it's not like we get a trial run where its acceptable to see in person whats there and decide after without hurting someone's feelings. "

And that's why if I'm not sure about the size from the pictures I bluntly ask what size he is.

Got caught out a couple of times like that when they were very small but went through with it not to knock their confidence. Just haven't met them again.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has he got a micro penis OP ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just get a picture in future. Personally, size doesn’t bother me. If I’m turned on, something’s entering my vagina

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just get a picture in future. Personally, size doesn’t bother me. If I’m turned on, something’s entering my vagina "

My kind of lady lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you’re being a bit shallow OP.

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By *SophiexCouple
over a year ago

Kilmarnock

surely the easy answer is just to say your starting to feel light headed and need to stop... take a break and then say you will have to stop altogether because your just feeling really poorly...

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By *emi2017 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"I think you’re being a bit shallow OP.

"

Entitled to your opinion but we all have things that we can't really control that turn us on/off. I won't apologise for mine.

I think everyone here is just taking extreme views where if its not ice then it must be fire and that's really not the case.

I'm just sick of men fulling believing they have a big dick when it's not even 4 inches. If it makes you happy and confident then that's great but it is a bit unfortunate when you say something is one way and really it's another.

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By *pice of life 79Man
over a year ago

lincoln, sleaford , grantham , nottingham


"Why would you change your mind if you fancied him in every other way?

Imagine if a man took one look at your pussy and said he couldn't go through with fucking you after all. What would you like him to say? "

Ha spot on he could of thought you were very loose how would you feel if he told you he couldn't see you again as you were not tight enough

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By *SophiexCouple
over a year ago

Kilmarnock


"I think you’re being a bit shallow OP.

"

Your on a swinging site, she can be as shallow as she wants as can anyone on here... we are not here for Mr or Mrs Right!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you’re being a bit shallow OP.

Your on a swinging site, she can be as shallow as she wants as can anyone on here... we are not here for Mr or Mrs Right!"

It was a joke. Shallow. Small cock, ah forget it !

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By *SophiexCouple
over a year ago

Kilmarnock


"...

It was a joke. Shallow. Small cock, ah forget it ! "

Badly delivered

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you’re being a bit shallow OP.

Entitled to your opinion but we all have things that we can't really control that turn us on/off. I won't apologise for mine.

I think everyone here is just taking extreme views where if its not ice then it must be fire and that's really not the case.

I'm just sick of men fulling believing they have a big dick when it's not even 4 inches. If it makes you happy and confident then that's great but it is a bit unfortunate when you say something is one way and really it's another. "

It was a joke. Shallow. Small cock. Ah, forget it !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you’re being a bit shallow OP.

Entitled to your opinion but we all have things that we can't really control that turn us on/off. I won't apologise for mine.

I think everyone here is just taking extreme views where if its not ice then it must be fire and that's really not the case.

I'm just sick of men fulling believing they have a big dick when it's not even 4 inches. If it makes you happy and confident then that's great but it is a bit unfortunate when you say something is one way and really it's another. "

I get you. It’s like a guy saying he doesn’t smoke when he does. That really pisses me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...

It was a joke. Shallow. Small cock, ah forget it !

Badly delivered "

I forgot to turn the mic on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why would you change your mind if you fancied him in every other way?

Imagine if a man took one look at your pussy and said he couldn't go through with fucking you after all. What would you like him to say?

Ha spot on he could of thought you were very loose how would you feel if he told you he couldn't see you again as you were not tight enough "

I wasn't trying to be cruel, I was just turning the question back round the other way. Same as the OP isn't trying to be cruel. She's asking the question because it bothered her and she didn't want to hurt the guy's feelings. Otherwise she would have just told him his cock was too small.

Sometimes it helps to see situations from another angle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I mean in the moment though. I don't want to go through with it just because we are there but it's frustrating when everything's good until he takes his trousers off.. It's a bit obvious then when I'm suddenly not feeling it "

You can cum, squirt, gush by other ways.... Get him to do that plus your toys...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"surely the easy answer is just to say your starting to feel light headed and need to stop... take a break and then say you will have to stop altogether because your just feeling really poorly... "

I like this idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you’re being a bit shallow OP.

Entitled to your opinion but we all have things that we can't really control that turn us on/off. I won't apologise for mine.

I think everyone here is just taking extreme views where if its not ice then it must be fire and that's really not the case.

I'm just sick of men fulling believing they have a big dick when it's not even 4 inches. If it makes you happy and confident then that's great but it is a bit unfortunate when you say something is one way and really it's another.

I get you. It’s like a guy saying he doesn’t smoke when he does. That really pisses me off. "

If he’s lied about te size of his cock, that’s a different matter, then tell him to fuck off and find a decent tape measure.

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By *SophiexCouple
over a year ago

Kilmarnock


"surely the easy answer is just to say your starting to feel light headed and need to stop... take a break and then say you will have to stop altogether because your just feeling really poorly...

I like this idea. "

never fails to work even with hubby when I need to lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there any polite way to let a guy know that you've changed your mind about having sex because you didn't realise he wasn't packing quite as much as he thought he was? "

Hahahahahha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it really make that much of a difference??

Surely a guy the knows what he’s doing with a smaller cock is better than a guy who doesn’t with a massive one??

Or maybe your pussy is too big for his penis??

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By *emi2017 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Is it really make that much of a difference??

Surely a guy the knows what he’s doing with a smaller cock is better than a guy who doesn’t with a massive one??

Or maybe your pussy is too big for his penis??"

People really don't read these days. I've already addressed this ridiculous comment

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By *electableDalliancesCouple
over a year ago

leeds

I have a theory .... these guys that fib, they know damn fine when it gets down to it one on one in a bedroom , the odds of him being refused due to tiny cockage are less than in an initial message.

How many women on this thread have said oh they just went ahead anyway as it's bloody awkward if not dangerous to call a guy out on his lying.

So if it works why wouldn't he do it, obviously morals and scruples are devoid anyway.

So in answer to the question , get on Kik and get a live wank vid before a meet. Sorted.

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

The socially acceptable thing to do is; point at it, laugh and say "That looks like a dick only smaller."

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By *SophiexCouple
over a year ago

Kilmarnock


"

...Or maybe your pussy is too big...

"

def a poorly worded response...

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

Equally, what do you do if you're a bloke or couple and your female meet gets undressed to reveal a growler you don't want to go anywhere near?

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales


"Is it really make that much of a difference??

Surely a guy the knows what he’s doing with a smaller cock is better than a guy who doesn’t with a massive one??

Or maybe your pussy is too big for his penis??"

And if the guy with the big dick is a sex god, while Mr Micro Dick doesn't have a clue?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP you are perfectly entitled to find the things that turn you on.

Maybe before the meet ask for a live picture against a tape measure? I have personally never measured myself so couldn't tell the size and being with Saz for 16 years I have never experienced that level of rejection. Go easy on them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank you so much ! I got it. I will now leave you alone op

Thanks for your

#honesty

Happy fabbing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it really make that much of a difference??

Surely a guy the knows what he’s doing with a smaller cock is better than a guy who doesn’t with a massive one??

Or maybe your pussy is too big for his penis??

People really don't read these days. I've already addressed this ridiculous comment "

Just read it now and what a rediculous reason. So if a person turns you on mentally and physically that al goes out the window if he has a “small penis”

I agree with TH don’t comment above that your shallow sorry.

Just my OP as it’s your choice either way

MR

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I mean in the moment though. I don't want to go through with it just because we are there but it's frustrating when everything's good until he takes his trousers off.. It's a bit obvious then when I'm suddenly not feeling it

And this is exactly why every guy should send a cock pic in the first message

C"

I actually like to see the cock beforehand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm reading this thinking if a guy posted I don't want to fuck you because your pussy is too big small wrong shape etc by now he would have been lynched....

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Is it really make that much of a difference??

Surely a guy the knows what he’s doing with a smaller cock is better than a guy who doesn’t with a massive one??

Or maybe your pussy is too big for his penis??"

She has answered this , she loves to suck a nice big cock , so the size of her pussy is not relevant is it ?

And there’s no evidence that a guy with a small cock is any better at knowing what he’s doing than a well hung guy .

And since we are all here to enjoy various preferences , hers being that of a good sized cock would make a difference wouldn’t it if he turns up with a sub 4 inch cock .

So if I was the op would mention that you have a size preference on your profile . If a guy turns u and he hasn’t read your profile regarding cock size , you would have every right to walk away . Never compromise on your preferences . It’s supposed to be fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He might be the best fuck you ever had, he may turn you on in ways never achieved before, let him give you anal then?

I'd say send him to me but prolly a bit too far!

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By *hoenixandflamesCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

Don’t be a bitch on the cock size front.

Just block and ghost.

Probably the most diplomatic thing to do.

Or, alternatively, go through with a meet and say “ahh that was fun, bye”. And ghost.

Imho.

Flames

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has he got a micro penis OP ?"

Fun size? Like a mars bar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"surely the easy answer is just to say your starting to feel light headed and need to stop... take a break and then say you will have to stop altogether because your just feeling really poorly...

I like this idea.

never fails to work even with hubby when I need to lol"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you’re being a bit shallow OP.

Entitled to your opinion but we all have things that we can't really control that turn us on/off. I won't apologise for mine.

I think everyone here is just taking extreme views where if its not ice then it must be fire and that's really not the case.

I'm just sick of men fulling believing they have a big dick when it's not even 4 inches. If it makes you happy and confident then that's great but it is a bit unfortunate when you say something is one way and really it's another. "

Men have unrealistic ideas of their size... It's the same for anglers... The tiddlers they catch are always huge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a theory .... these guys that fib, they know damn fine when it gets down to it one on one in a bedroom , the odds of him being refused due to tiny cockage are less than in an initial message.

How many women on this thread have said oh they just went ahead anyway as it's bloody awkward if not dangerous to call a guy out on his lying.

So if it works why wouldn't he do it, obviously morals and scruples are devoid anyway.

So in answer to the question , get on Kik and get a live wank vid before a meet. Sorted."

This

To be honest I'd be raging too as cock size IS important to me and I don't care who knows it

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why would you change your mind if you fancied him in every other way?

Imagine if a man took one look at your pussy and said he couldn't go through with fucking you after all. What would you like him to say?

Ha spot on he could of thought you were very loose how would you feel if he told you he couldn't see you again as you were not tight enough

I wasn't trying to be cruel, I was just turning the question back round the other way. Same as the OP isn't trying to be cruel. She's asking the question because it bothered her and she didn't want to hurt the guy's feelings. Otherwise she would have just told him his cock was too small.

Sometimes it helps to see situations from another angle. "

Or a pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont think I could say someones cock was too small to their face or even over a messsage. Use any other excuse I think for not carrying on. Then make sure any further meets were well vetted if thats important to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm reading this thinking if a guy posted I don't want to fuck you because your pussy is too big small wrong shape etc by now he would have been lynched....

"

OP isn’t saying that, from what I’ve read, he lied about the size.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a site to meet for sex so if you are not attracted to what he has to offer then it's fine to change your mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it really make that much of a difference??

Surely a guy the knows what he’s doing with a smaller cock is better than a guy who doesn’t with a massive one??

Or maybe your pussy is too big for his penis??

She has answered this , she loves to suck a nice big cock , so the size of her pussy is not relevant is it ?

And there’s no evidence that a guy with a small cock is any better at knowing what he’s doing than a well hung guy .

And since we are all here to enjoy various preferences , hers being that of a good sized cock would make a difference wouldn’t it if he turns up with a sub 4 inch cock .

So if I was the op would mention that you have a size preference on your profile . If a guy turns u and he hasn’t read your profile regarding cock size , you would have every right to walk away . Never compromise on your preferences . It’s supposed to be fun "

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"He might be the best fuck you ever had, he may turn you on in ways never achieved before, let him give you anal then?

I'd say send him to me but prolly a bit too far! "

I kind of know what you’re saying , but surely you can’t be suggesting she meets him and compromises ? Like a sympathy fuck ? She should have anal because he has a penis less than 4 inches ?

Seems a bit wrong to me to be honest .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it really make that much of a difference??

Surely a guy the knows what he’s doing with a smaller cock is better than a guy who doesn’t with a massive one??

Or maybe your pussy is too big for his penis??

People really don't read these days. I've already addressed this ridiculous comment

Just read it now and what a rediculous reason. So if a person turns you on mentally and physically that al goes out the window if he has a “small penis”

I agree with TH don’t comment above that your shallow sorry.

Just my OP as it’s your choice either way

MR"

No you cannot shorten opinion to OP. OP can mean opening post or original poster.

And so what if she's being shallow? Her choice as you state.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He might be the best fuck you ever had, he may turn you on in ways never achieved before, let him give you anal then?

I'd say send him to me but prolly a bit too far!

I kind of know what you’re saying , but surely you can’t be suggesting she meets him and compromises ? Like a sympathy fuck ? She should have anal because he has a penis less than 4 inches ?

Seems a bit wrong to me to be honest . "

Especially if she had a curry before

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP if you only have 4 inches but take a really long run up, is that okay ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don’t be a bitch on the cock size front.

Just block and ghost.

Probably the most diplomatic thing to do.

Or, alternatively, go through with a meet and say “ahh that was fun, bye”. And ghost.

Imho.

Flames "

Why can't she be a "bitch"? In fact she's not as she's asking for advice.

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By *egs11ABCWoman
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"I think you’re being a bit shallow OP.

Your on a swinging site, she can be as shallow as she wants as can anyone on here... we are not here for Mr or Mrs Right!

It was a joke. Shallow. Small cock, ah forget it ! "

I got it. Obv got the same warped sense of humour as u

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its a site to meet for sex so if you are not attracted to what he has to offer then it's fine to change your mind"

But with tact and leaving him his dignity. Id be mortified if someone (upon finding socks in my bra for cleavage creation) walked off in disgust

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm reading this thinking if a guy posted I don't want to fuck you because your pussy is too big small wrong shape etc by now he would have been lynched....

OP isn’t saying that, from what I’ve read, he lied about the size. "

Not how I read it. But then if the OP has specific criteria about cock size that's her choice and she has the right to exercise it.

However if a guy had posted something like I still think he would have been lynched for posting it. More so if the meet had been with someone on fab who might read the OP's comments on an open forum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm reading this thinking if a guy posted I don't want to fuck you because your pussy is too big small wrong shape etc by now he would have been lynched....

OP isn’t saying that, from what I’ve read, he lied about the size.

Not how I read it. But then if the OP has specific criteria about cock size that's her choice and she has the right to exercise it.

However if a guy had posted something like I still think he would have been lynched for posting it. More so if the meet had been with someone on fab who might read the OP's comments on an open forum."

If you read the full thread, it does say that he misled her about the size. Personally, I’d say the same if it was a man posting it too. Being dishonest on Fab is unfair, as is leading people on.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"You don't have to mention his size: there's no need to crush someone's confidence. Just say you've changed your mind about meeting again, and wish him happy fabbing."

This. You don’t have to be entirely honest - there are ways of achieving your aim without upsetting the guy more than is necessary.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"It's a bit obvious then when I'm suddenly not feeling it

The mood or the willy?

"

Spat my drink out

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"I think you’re being a bit shallow OP.

Entitled to your opinion but we all have things that we can't really control that turn us on/off. I won't apologise for mine.

I think everyone here is just taking extreme views where if its not ice then it must be fire and that's really not the case.

I'm just sick of men fulling believing they have a big dick when it's not even 4 inches. If it makes you happy and confident then that's great but it is a bit unfortunate when you say something is one way and really it's another. "

Depends where you measure from. Mines 20 inches if i start the tape at my bum hole. Anyway, this is what women deserve for complaining about dick pictures on profiles.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

Reading the thread it seems to be in a past tense ..so What did you say op.? Did .It cause offence ?

I appreciate your op was to try and find a way to say thanks but no thanks in a polite way.. however the way some folk have responded( about an unknown guys unknown size , youve not said , only you were disappointed the guy might have been above average for all those folk know)is pathetic,

It's often said if you've nothing nice to say say nothing ...remember don't theow stones if you live in a glasshouse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is why for us cock pictures are vital.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there any polite way to let a guy know that you've changed your mind about having sex because you didn't realise he wasn't packing quite as much as he thought he was? "

To turn it round how would you like a guy to tell you he's changed his mind after seeing you undress? This might give you an idea ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say make it a different reason than his cock. I did mention on another post i have a friend who is on tinder and she has to see what the mans dick looks like before investing time in getting to know him.

What ever you tell him don't mention its because of the size as its something he has no control over and some men can't take

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is why for us cock pictures are vital."

For the people who take the time to know me. They get to see how I measure up against a lotion bottle

Its all about investment a little to gain a lot and having a veri describing your cock as beautiful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there any polite way to let a guy know that you've changed your mind about having sex because you didn't realise he wasn't packing quite as much as he thought he was? "
The fact is most guy boost about there cock size on here by adding a an 1 or more than there real size but in the end guys with small always get made fun of or knock back in life if every man was the same size then sex would be boring to be honest.

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By *atindollTV/TS
over a year ago

edinburgh

I tend to just say something has come up and I'm very sorry I can't meet just now...then delete any messages as unread...i HAVE been honest and it never goes down well so ...best to just build a thick skin and do as I've suggested or block...i always feel a bit of a shit but if it's going to be like throwing a sausage up the street there's no point is there?.

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By *emi2017 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Reading the thread it seems to be in a past tense ..so What did you say op.? Did .It cause offence ?

I appreciate your op was to try and find a way to say thanks but no thanks in a polite way.. however the way some folk have responded( about an unknown guys unknown size , youve not said , only you were disappointed the guy might have been above average for all those folk know)is pathetic,

It's often said if you've nothing nice to say say nothing ...remember don't theow stones if you live in a glasshouse.

"

I agree. I've barely said anything on the situation.

The situation has happened quite a few times where I've felt misled and it's been different on how I've handled. Some men have been easier to say no to and other I just kept quite because I felt more threatened by what they would do.

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim


"Is there any polite way to let a guy know that you've changed your mind about having sex because you didn't realise he wasn't packing quite as much as he thought he was?

Yeah, say listen pencil dick that thing isn’t going to touch the sides and frankly I haven’t the time or inclination to work with it, so you better find another lady cause this woman needs a whole lot more girth and length than you can offer.

Hope this helps X"

Maybe a bit of respect and humility

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Two words: sky remote

C"

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By *emi2017 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I'd like to reiterate that I have no problem having sex with any size, the size doesn't change the amount of pleasure I get as it's really all in the skill. The size for me is when I'm giving head, a bigger size excites me visually.

My question was for when I literally see him naked the first time, everything's been good till then, seen pics, discussed likes and dislikes including size. Some guys just just believe that whatever they are working with is huge. If you still go along with it after being misled just to make him happy, I don't think we owe that to meets from fab personally. I love sex but I'm careful with who I have sex with and just how many people so this reaction isn't something that I feel is best suited to me as advised by some people.

The same question can be asked about any gender or any reason.

What do you say if you change your mind about having sex after clothes have come off but no action has taken place yet?

Perhaps I should have worded it like that, then people might have not been so defensive and rude but I didn't and didn't know if the specifics would have made a difference. All the people asking if it was the other way round doesn't help because I don't know what I'd want them to say, just to be polite, which is why I asked as people on here typically have had a lot more sexual experience than I have as I am quite young.

I hope that clears everything up?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...

It was a joke. Shallow. Small cock, ah forget it !

Badly delivered "

Its the fab mafia let's hope the poor guy does not see her post.

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim


"I'd like to reiterate that I have no problem having sex with any size, the size doesn't change the amount of pleasure I get as it's really all in the skill. The size for me is when I'm giving head, a bigger size excites me visually.

My question was for when I literally see him naked the first time, everything's been good till then, seen pics, discussed likes and dislikes including size. Some guys just just believe that whatever they are working with is huge. If you still go along with it after being misled just to make him happy, I don't think we owe that to meets from fab personally. I love sex but I'm careful with who I have sex with and just how many people so this reaction isn't something that I feel is best suited to me as advised by some people.

The same question can be asked about any gender or any reason.

What do you say if you change your mind about having sex after clothes have come off but no action has taken place yet?

Perhaps I should have worded it like that, then people might have not been so defensive and rude but I didn't and didn't know if the specifics would have made a difference. All the people asking if it was the other way round doesn't help because I don't know what I'd want them to say, just to be polite, which is why I asked as people on here typically have had a lot more sexual experience than I have as I am quite young.

I hope that clears everything up? "

I would just say that I’m not feeling up to it or be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there any polite way to let a guy know that you've changed your mind about having sex because you didn't realise he wasn't packing quite as much as he thought he was? The fact is most guy boost about there cock size on here by adding a an 1 or more than there real size but in the end guys with small always get made fun of or knock back in life if every man was the same size then sex would be boring to be honest. "

I under play mine when messaging back an forth visual expression during a meet are priceless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd like to reiterate that I have no problem having sex with any size, the size doesn't change the amount of pleasure I get as it's really all in the skill. The size for me is when I'm giving head, a bigger size excites me visually.

My question was for when I literally see him naked the first time, everything's been good till then, seen pics, discussed likes and dislikes including size. Some guys just just believe that whatever they are working with is huge. If you still go along with it after being misled just to make him happy, I don't think we owe that to meets from fab personally. I love sex but I'm careful with who I have sex with and just how many people so this reaction isn't something that I feel is best suited to me as advised by some people.

The same question can be asked about any gender or any reason.

What do you say if you change your mind about having sex after clothes have come off but no action has taken place yet?

Perhaps I should have worded it like that, then people might have not been so defensive and rude but I didn't and didn't know if the specifics would have made a difference. All the people asking if it was the other way round doesn't help because I don't know what I'd want them to say, just to be polite, which is why I asked as people on here typically have had a lot more sexual experience than I have as I am quite young.

I hope that clears everything up? "

This happens to everyone when meeting online.... pictures can be deceptive....

So I would just go through with it and never contact them again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I mean in the moment though. I don't want to go through with it just because we are there but it's frustrating when everything's good until he takes his trousers off.. It's a bit obvious then when I'm suddenly not feeling it

You can cum, squirt, gush by other ways.... Get him to do that plus your toys... "

Why would she have to? She doesn't want things to go any further with him, for whatever reason...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would be easier just stating what size you want on your profile.

Not everyone lies about their size. I know i wouldnt whats the point when your just going to dissapoint in the flesh. I see alot of profiles asking or 7+ 8+ 9+ or bigger. Just means i dont message them

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By *iger.10Man
over a year ago

Llantrisant


"You don't have to mention his size: there's no need to crush someone's confidence. Just say you've changed your mind about meeting again, and wish him happy fabbing.

This

Agree..Like telling a woman that her boobs weren't as big as you thought or not big enough

Makes no difference to how a fanny feels though, and every difference if a woman likes a good stretching"

But the visual and feel of bigger titsmight make a difference on how hard my cock gets so no difference as sex us equally mental as physical.

My point really is that she's likely to feel like shit if I was as brutal as that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Umm actually it doesn't make her shallow anymore than people having a preference for blondes or brinettes or redheads. If she has a minimum size with regards to willys then guys should respect and adhere to it. If a guy says he has a certain size willy then turns up to a meet and it's not that size then as a consumer you have a right not to accept it.

Twice I've had guys be smaller than they claim, when I had my minimum penis size requirements on my profile, when conversing I'd ask for pictures and ask the size. These two particular men sent pictures where you couldn't see the bell or they were holding the base so the size couldn't be gauged accurately. I remember specifically saying to them I can't tell the size from that picture, exactly how big is it. Both guys answered saying I've never had complaints which is the universal answer for guys on the smaller size.

First guy gorgeous, stunning, got down to being naked and I said this isn't 7 inches is it, I can't do this, offered him a tea instead and he left. Second guy, double lied a second he also had 5'10 on his profile but when stool next to 5'2 and a quarter me he was barely taller than me, penis was around 5 hard and a small circumference, just said I can't do this, he ended up leaving the hotel that he had paid for and I had to call in a past fuck to come over as I'd gotten myself prepared for sex.

If you claim anything before meeting, that you have certain size boobs, that you'll do a certain act, if you provide pictures that aren't up to date or anything that isn't your true self then the person you're meeting has every right to not take things further when you meet.

Op isn't shallow at all, she just has a preference, like I used to.

I don't now though guys, well I've dropped the minimum to 6" with decent girth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there any polite way to let a guy know that you've changed your mind about having sex because you didn't realise he wasn't packing quite as much as he thought he was? "

I met a man off another site who i believed was bigger than he turned out to be.. he sent pics too (turned out later they were c&p) however, he spared me having to say anything to him as just as we were about to get naked, he jumped off the bed saying it was all a lie and legged it down the stairs and out of the house

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im surprised it got as far as a meet without you knowing what was what.

I think nowadays if you really need something physically, and were very particular about it, theres that many photo and video apps to confirm everything there should be no need for getting caught out with a catfish situation however big or small (pardon the pun)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely if the guy has lied and misrepresented himself then there is no need to be polite. If anybody is owed an apology it should be the lady whose hopes were falsely excited.

I recall not so long ago being told, in no uncertain terms, that I have a duty to be one hundred percent honest on my profile.Doesn't that hold true for everyone?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I think you’re being a bit shallow OP.

Entitled to your opinion but we all have things that we can't really control that turn us on/off. I won't apologise for mine.

I think everyone here is just taking extreme views where if its not ice then it must be fire and that's really not the case.

I'm just sick of men fulling believing they have a big dick when it's not even 4 inches. If it makes you happy and confident then that's great but it is a bit unfortunate when you say something is one way and really it's another.

I get you. It’s like a guy saying he doesn’t smoke when he does. That really pisses me off.

If he’s lied about te size of his cock, that’s a different matter, then tell him to fuck off and find a decent tape measure. "

I have stopped a meet in midflight and done this because I was so furious at the blatant deception.

It matters to me, so I check first and all is well unless they try to deceive me, then I have no sympathy.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Is there any polite way to let a guy know that you've changed your mind about having sex because you didn't realise he wasn't packing quite as much as he thought he was? The fact is most guy boost about there cock size on here by adding a an 1 or more than there real size but in the end guys with small always get made fun of or knock back in life if every man was the same size then sex would be boring to be honest.

I under play mine when messaging back an forth visual expression during a meet are priceless "

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"Its a site to meet for sex so if you are not attracted to what he has to offer then it's fine to change your mind

But with tact and leaving him his dignity. Id be mortified if someone (upon finding socks in my bra for cleavage creation) walked off in disgust "

Socks are fine, it’s the wellies stuffed down there that I had a problem with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Umm actually it doesn't make her shallow anymore than people having a preference for blondes or brinettes or redheads. If she has a minimum size with regards to willys then guys should respect and adhere to it. If a guy says he has a certain size willy then turns up to a meet and it's not that size then as a consumer you have a right not to accept it.

Twice I've had guys be smaller than they claim, when I had my minimum penis size requirements on my profile, when conversing I'd ask for pictures and ask the size. These two particular men sent pictures where you couldn't see the bell or they were holding the base so the size couldn't be gauged accurately. I remember specifically saying to them I can't tell the size from that picture, exactly how big is it. Both guys answered saying I've never had complaints which is the universal answer for guys on the smaller size.

First guy gorgeous, stunning, got down to being naked and I said this isn't 7 inches is it, I can't do this, offered him a tea instead and he left. Second guy, double lied a second he also had 5'10 on his profile but when stool next to 5'2 and a quarter me he was barely taller than me, penis was around 5 hard and a small circumference, just said I can't do this, he ended up leaving the hotel that he had paid for and I had to call in a past fuck to come over as I'd gotten myself prepared for sex.

If you claim anything before meeting, that you have certain size boobs, that you'll do a certain act, if you provide pictures that aren't up to date or anything that isn't your true self then the person you're meeting has every right to not take things further when you meet.

Op isn't shallow at all, she just has a preference, like I used to.

I don't now though guys, well I've dropped the minimum to 6" with decent girth. "

Question is how do you measure? Bone pressed? Which is the measure used in studies where the ruler is pressed into any fat pad to get the full length (as the fat can be compressed during sex making it usable) or the visual length.

What is a decent girth?

Eveyone has a right to preferences bit need to be precise if your going from visual lenth and the person your meeting is using bone pressed length then they could be dissapointment. And decent girth is open to personal oppionikn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Umm actually it doesn't make her shallow anymore than people having a preference for blondes or brinettes or redheads. If she has a minimum size with regards to willys then guys should respect and adhere to it. If a guy says he has a certain size willy then turns up to a meet and it's not that size then as a consumer you have a right not to accept it.

Twice I've had guys be smaller than they claim, when I had my minimum penis size requirements on my profile, when conversing I'd ask for pictures and ask the size. These two particular men sent pictures where you couldn't see the bell or they were holding the base so the size couldn't be gauged accurately. I remember specifically saying to them I can't tell the size from that picture, exactly how big is it. Both guys answered saying I've never had complaints which is the universal answer for guys on the smaller size.

First guy gorgeous, stunning, got down to being naked and I said this isn't 7 inches is it, I can't do this, offered him a tea instead and he left. Second guy, double lied a second he also had 5'10 on his profile but when stool next to 5'2 and a quarter me he was barely taller than me, penis was around 5 hard and a small circumference, just said I can't do this, he ended up leaving the hotel that he had paid for and I had to call in a past fuck to come over as I'd gotten myself prepared for sex.

If you claim anything before meeting, that you have certain size boobs, that you'll do a certain act, if you provide pictures that aren't up to date or anything that isn't your true self then the person you're meeting has every right to not take things further when you meet.

Op isn't shallow at all, she just has a preference, like I used to.

I don't now though guys, well I've dropped the minimum to 6" with decent girth. "

I love this girl

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there any polite way to let a guy know that you've changed your mind about having sex because you didn't realise he wasn't packing quite as much as he thought he was? The fact is most guy boost about there cock size on here by adding a an 1 or more than there real size but in the end guys with small always get made fun of or knock back in life if every man was the same size then sex would be boring to be honest.

I under play mine when messaging back an forth visual expression during a meet are priceless "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would look at it like this and say "Where's the rest of it?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there any polite way to let a guy know that you've changed your mind about having sex because you didn't realise he wasn't packing quite as much as he thought he was?

I met a man off another site who i believed was bigger than he turned out to be.. he sent pics too (turned out later they were c&p) however, he spared me having to say anything to him as just as we were about to get naked, he jumped off the bed saying it was all a lie and legged it down the stairs and out of the house "

Class haha

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By *rwhite30Man
over a year ago

deptford London

what do you ladies class as a small cock these days, forget averages etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well tbh if I was attracted to the guy I was meeting it wouldn't bother me at all what size his nob was ,there again it isn't all about size for me

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By *rwhite30Man
over a year ago

deptford London


"well tbh if I was attracted to the guy I was meeting it wouldn't bother me at all what size his nob was ,there again it isn't all about size for me"

good im glad you think that x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well honestly why would anyone be bothered about size?,you meet so surely you liked the look of each other x

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By *rwhite30Man
over a year ago

deptford London


"well honestly why would anyone be bothered about size?,you meet so surely you liked the look of each other x"

will you marry me?

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"well honestly why would anyone be bothered about size?,you meet so surely you liked the look of each other x"

Because they have a preference!

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By *rwhite30Man
over a year ago

deptford London


"well honestly why would anyone be bothered about size?,you meet so surely you liked the look of each other x

Because they have a preference!"

and been lied to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well honestly why would anyone be bothered about size?,you meet so surely you liked the look of each other x

will you marry me?"

ask me again on ten years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well honestly why would anyone be bothered about size?,you meet so surely you liked the look of each other x

Because they have a preference!"

if that's the case then they should state that on there profile

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By *rwhite30Man
over a year ago

deptford London


"well honestly why would anyone be bothered about size?,you meet so surely you liked the look of each other x

will you marry me?

ask me again on ten years "

2 years, then i meet your profile age range

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

5 inches or less is small x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well honestly why would anyone be bothered about size?,you meet so surely you liked the look of each other x

will you marry me?

ask me again on ten years

2 years, then i meet your profile age range "

okay 2 years

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By *rwhite30Man
over a year ago

deptford London


"5 inches or less is small x"

and you wouldnt want that size?X

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By *rwhite30Man
over a year ago

deptford London


"well honestly why would anyone be bothered about size?,you meet so surely you liked the look of each other x

will you marry me?

ask me again on ten years

2 years, then i meet your profile age range

okay 2 years "

actually 1 year 6 monthsx

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"well honestly why would anyone be bothered about size?,you meet so surely you liked the look of each other x

Because they have a preference!

if that's the case then they should state that on there profile"

Men would not take any notice, they would hope once meeting the woman would go through with it, many women would too

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By *rwhite30Man
over a year ago

deptford London

true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he's blatantly lied to you about his size, then to me it's a deception. I would have no problem calling someone out, if they were lying. If it's just happened that you are not happy with his size, then perhaps a little sugar sprinkled on top, is needed, as you don't want to make him feel bad about his size. If you have a minimum size that you like, i would suggest popping that on your profile. So that some know not to message you, if they don't fit the 'size' requirements.

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By *rwhite30Man
over a year ago

deptford London


"If he's blatantly lied to you about his size, then to me it's a deception. I would have no problem calling someone out, if they were lying. If it's just happened that you are not happy with his size, then perhaps a little sugar sprinkled on top, is needed, as you don't want to make him feel bad about his size. If you have a minimum size that you like, i would suggest popping that on your profile. So that some know not to message you, if they don't fit the 'size' requirements."

if some one lies to you you can call them out big time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why are people so bothered about the size issue? The reason is actually irrelevant. Everyone is entitled to change their mind at any point. She shouldn't have to fuck him if she doesn't want to.

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By *rwhite30Man
over a year ago

deptford London


"Why are people so bothered about the size issue? The reason is actually irrelevant. Everyone is entitled to change their mind at any point. She shouldn't have to fuck him if she doesn't want to."

i think its more the being lied to bit

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By *r. Pepper...Man
over a year ago

liverpool

Maybe your Fanny's just too big

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By *rwhite30Man
over a year ago

deptford London


"Maybe your Fanny's just too big "

hahahahaaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well honestly why would anyone be bothered about size?,you meet so surely you liked the look of each other x"

It has been well and truly explained!

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By *rwhite30Man
over a year ago

deptford London


"well honestly why would anyone be bothered about size?,you meet so surely you liked the look of each other x

It has been well and truly explained!"

correct, no one likes a lier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If he's blatantly lied to you about his size, then to me it's a deception. I would have no problem calling someone out, if they were lying. If it's just happened that you are not happy with his size, then perhaps a little sugar sprinkled on top, is needed, as you don't want to make him feel bad about his size. If you have a minimum size that you like, i would suggest popping that on your profile. So that some know not to message you, if they don't fit the 'size' requirements."

But some guys perception of their own size is an over-estimation.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I would look at it like this and say "Where's the rest of it?""

Haha that's about what I said to the man from Romford who'd been bragging to me for months....

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By *rwhite30Man
over a year ago

deptford London


"I would look at it like this and say "Where's the rest of it?"

Haha that's about what I said to the man from Romford who'd been bragging to me for months...."

he bragged saying he was really big?x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If he's blatantly lied to you about his size, then to me it's a deception. I would have no problem calling someone out, if they were lying. If it's just happened that you are not happy with his size, then perhaps a little sugar sprinkled on top, is needed, as you don't want to make him feel bad about his size. If you have a minimum size that you like, i would suggest popping that on your profile. So that some know not to message you, if they don't fit the 'size' requirements.

But some guys perception of their own size is an over-estimation."

That's where a picture would come in handy for the OP..... So she can do a image reverse search on tineye

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I would look at it like this and say "Where's the rest of it?"

Haha that's about what I said to the man from Romford who'd been bragging to me for months....

he bragged saying he was really big?x"

Yup, and over a long period of time chatting I had seen endless photos of said perfect cock lol! There was nothing wrong with it all, it was very attractive and a perfectly acceptable size - but it was NOT what he had been bragging all those months, and it really hacked me off so much that he lied I could not go on.

He was very apologetic but I had steam coming out of my ears by then lol! Eeejit!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope the poor guy has it coming for not having sky

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By *rwhite30Man
over a year ago

deptford London


"I would look at it like this and say "Where's the rest of it?"

Haha that's about what I said to the man from Romford who'd been bragging to me for months....

he bragged saying he was really big?x

Yup, and over a long period of time chatting I had seen endless photos of said perfect cock lol! There was nothing wrong with it all, it was very attractive and a perfectly acceptable size - but it was NOT what he had been bragging all those months, and it really hacked me off so much that he lied I could not go on.

He was very apologetic but I had steam coming out of my ears by then lol! Eeejit! "

never lie to a lady, simple as that

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By *ndecidedMan
over a year ago

London

Sit on his face and check his tongue game. If lacklustre, you can always say you forgot your grandmas birthday and rush off

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By *rwhite30Man
over a year ago

deptford London


"Sit on his face and check his tongue game. If lacklustre, you can always say you forgot your grandmas birthday and rush off"

very true

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"I would never be rude about the situation and its not like I would meet people without seeing pictures and talking quite a bit first but pictures can still be very deceiving and it's not like we get a trial run where its acceptable to see in person whats there and decide after without hurting someone's feelings.

You ask for respect on your profile: treat others how you'd like to be treated.

You are a size queen yet state you don't want a BBC as you want a man to be more than a cock.

When you've decided what you want you may get it...Good luck!"

Conundrum........

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By *rwhite30Man
over a year ago

deptford London

i had a lady say oh i thought youd be bigger but carried on

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By *alking HeadMan
over a year ago

Bolton

Did the OP see the guy with an erection, or flaccid as he dropped his trousers? He could have been an impressive grower rather than a shower.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there any polite way to let a guy know that you've changed your mind about having sex because you didn't realise he wasn't packing quite as much as he thought he was? "
omg sex is about personality not size surely

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By *strokeC100Couple
over a year ago

chester

Well as a smallish cocked guy, I’m always aware that I might disappoint. So my view is that it’s best for both parties not to let this happen at the key moment, as it were. That’s surely my responsibility, and I have a lot of sympathy with the lady posting.

Meeting someone for sex isn’t the same as romancing a potential life partner: neither person is looking for love but for a brief sexual adventure- and each is entitled to look for what that adventure might involve. As with almost every discussion about how to make meets enjoyable, the answer is the same- communicate!

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By *rwhite30Man
over a year ago

deptford London

if a guy has lied saying he is big and then isnt then the lady can change her mind and not feel any guilt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe your Fanny's just too big "

If it makes you feel better saying that

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By *rwhite30Man
over a year ago

deptford London


"Maybe your Fanny's just too big

If it makes you feel better saying that "

i bet its just right x

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By *r. Pepper...Man
over a year ago

liverpool


"Maybe your Fanny's just too big

If it makes you feel better saying that "

Someone's had a humour bypass

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"Maybe your Fanny's just too big "

Misogyny alive and well

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"Maybe your Fanny's just too big

If it makes you feel better saying that

Someone's had a humour bypass "

Do some anatomy lessons

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By *r. Pepper...Man
over a year ago

liverpool

Double standards alive and well

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"You don't have to mention his size: there's no need to crush someone's confidence. Just say you've changed your mind about meeting again, and wish him happy fabbing."

this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well as a smallish cocked guy, I’m always aware that I might disappoint. So my view is that it’s best for both parties not to let this happen at the key moment, as it were. That’s surely my responsibility, and I have a lot of sympathy with the lady posting.

Meeting someone for sex isn’t the same as romancing a potential life partner: neither person is looking for love but for a brief sexual adventure- and each is entitled to look for what that adventure might involve. As with almost every discussion about how to make meets enjoyable, the answer is the same- communicate!"

Im more its not just the cock that can satisfy

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"Well as a smallish cocked guy, I’m always aware that I might disappoint. So my view is that it’s best for both parties not to let this happen at the key moment, as it were. That’s surely my responsibility, and I have a lot of sympathy with the lady posting.

Meeting someone for sex isn’t the same as romancing a potential life partner: neither person is looking for love but for a brief sexual adventure- and each is entitled to look for what that adventure might involve. As with almost every discussion about how to make meets enjoyable, the answer is the same- communicate!

Im more its not just the cock that can satisfy "

Women are not all the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well as a smallish cocked guy, I’m always aware that I might disappoint. So my view is that it’s best for both parties not to let this happen at the key moment, as it were. That’s surely my responsibility, and I have a lot of sympathy with the lady posting.

Meeting someone for sex isn’t the same as romancing a potential life partner: neither person is looking for love but for a brief sexual adventure- and each is entitled to look for what that adventure might involve. As with almost every discussion about how to make meets enjoyable, the answer is the same- communicate!

Im more its not just the cock that can satisfy

Women are not all the same "

No like men arent x

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By *r. Pepper...Man
over a year ago

liverpool


"Well as a smallish cocked guy, I’m always aware that I might disappoint. So my view is that it’s best for both parties not to let this happen at the key moment, as it were. That’s surely my responsibility, and I have a lot of sympathy with the lady posting.

Meeting someone for sex isn’t the same as romancing a potential life partner: neither person is looking for love but for a brief sexual adventure- and each is entitled to look for what that adventure might involve. As with almost every discussion about how to make meets enjoyable, the answer is the same- communicate!

Im more its not just the cock that can satisfy

Women are not all the same

No like men arent x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe he can fist you if he's got small hands.

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By *strokeC100Couple
over a year ago

chester


"Well as a smallish cocked guy, I’m always aware that I might disappoint. So my view is that it’s best for both parties not to let this happen at the key moment, as it were. That’s surely my responsibility, and I have a lot of sympathy with the lady posting.

Meeting someone for sex isn’t the same as romancing a potential life partner: neither person is looking for love but for a brief sexual adventure- and each is entitled to look for what that adventure might involve. As with almost every discussion about how to make meets enjoyable, the answer is the same- communicate!

Im more its not just the cock that can satisfy

Women are not all the same

No like men arent x "

And thank goodness for that! And that’s just what I meant really. We’re not all the same, and we’re not all looking for the same things. So it’s not sensible, in my opinion, to risk embarrassment and disappointment by not being open before meeting.

I think it’s perfectly reasonable for a woman who wants to meet well endowed men to say so. It’s best if she says so clearly so that smaller guys know they are not what she’s looking for. There are plenty of women for whom that isn’t the critical factor.

Equally I think it’s sensible if you are not very well endowed, to make sure the lady knows this before you get to the point of taking your pants off! You don’t need to make a great fuss of it- but just make sure there is no misunderstanding. That’s the worst outcome for both. I can’t think of any more certain guarantee of instant detumescence than seeing a look of disappointment in a woman’s eyes! But, as others have said, for loads of women it’s not an issue- just make sure you use what you have - tongue and fingers, as well as cock- to make her happy!

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Is there any polite way to let a guy know that you've changed your mind about having sex because you didn't realise he wasn't packing quite as much as he thought he was? omg sex is about personality not size surely "

No doubt for some it is .

But if people have a preference , whether that be any preference like size of the body , colour of the skin , age , etc..... they are perfectly entitled to stick to these preferences .

Let’s say you prefer an athletic to average body type , and a potential playmate sends you pics showing her as athletic . You meet her , and she’s clearly twice the size of the pics you have seen .

What do you do ? You’re not turned on at all by her body , but she has a great personality . You may be able to bypass her size , close your eyes and do the job , but why should you ? She has deceived you , just as guys have done with the op .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe he can fist you if he's got small hands."

Imagine the misfortune of large hands and small cock. Your not coming near me with that...or that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well as a smallish cocked guy, I’m always aware that I might disappoint. So my view is that it’s best for both parties not to let this happen at the key moment, as it were. That’s surely my responsibility, and I have a lot of sympathy with the lady posting.

Meeting someone for sex isn’t the same as romancing a potential life partner: neither person is looking for love but for a brief sexual adventure- and each is entitled to look for what that adventure might involve. As with almost every discussion about how to make meets enjoyable, the answer is the same- communicate!

Im more its not just the cock that can satisfy

Women are not all the same

No like men arent x

And thank goodness for that! And that’s just what I meant really. We’re not all the same, and we’re not all looking for the same things. So it’s not sensible, in my opinion, to risk embarrassment and disappointment by not being open before meeting.

I think it’s perfectly reasonable for a woman who wants to meet well endowed men to say so. It’s best if she says so clearly so that smaller guys know they are not what she’s looking for. There are plenty of women for whom that isn’t the critical factor.

Equally I think it’s sensible if you are not very well endowed, to make sure the lady knows this before you get to the point of taking your pants off! You don’t need to make a great fuss of it- but just make sure there is no misunderstanding. That’s the worst outcome for both. I can’t think of any more certain guarantee of instant detumescence than seeing a look of disappointment in a woman’s eyes! But, as others have said, for loads of women it’s not an issue- just make sure you use what you have - tongue and fingers, as well as cock- to make her happy!"

Woohoo I've learned a new word from Fab

Detumescence - process of subsiding from a state of tension, swelling, or (especially) sexual arousal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe he can fist you if he's got small hands."

Seriously?...

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By *strokeC100Couple
over a year ago

chester

Having looked at your profile, I somehow doubt if this is something you are likely to encounter often!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there any polite way to let a guy know that you've changed your mind about having sex because you didn't realise he wasn't packing quite as much as he thought he was? The fact is most guy boost about there cock size on here by adding a an 1 or more than there real size but in the end guys with small always get made fun of or knock back in life if every man was the same size then sex would be boring to be honest. "

Yet again your post is irrelevant to the op's question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there any polite way to let a guy know that you've changed your mind about having sex because you didn't realise he wasn't packing quite as much as he thought he was? omg sex is about personality not size surely

No doubt for some it is .

But if people have a preference , whether that be any preference like size of the body , colour of the skin , age , etc..... they are perfectly entitled to stick to these preferences .

Let’s say you prefer an athletic to average body type , and a potential playmate sends you pics showing her as athletic . You meet her , and she’s clearly twice the size of the pics you have seen .

What do you do ? You’re not turned on at all by her body , but she has a great personality . You may be able to bypass her size , close your eyes and do the job , but why should you ? She has deceived you , just as guys have done with the op . "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No there is no way of doing it politely..... so the choice you have is 1. to be honest, in as gentle a manner as possible... the problem is you not him etc....

2. Just be blunt and point out to him that he misled you be it intentional or not.... or 3. Lie and make an excuse....

The choice would depend on the circumstances and the history of your relationship with him..

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would look at it like this and say "Where's the rest of it?""

You can't surely

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Maybe he can fist you if he's got small hands.

Seriously?... "

I know it beggars belief .

Sometimes I just wonder what goes on in people’s heads on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if a guy has lied saying he is big and then isnt then the lady can change her mind and not feel any guilt"
balderdash

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there any polite way to let a guy know that you've changed your mind about having sex because you didn't realise he wasn't packing quite as much as he thought he was? "

I had this recently and in fairness she just said she didn't want another meet and that she did me a favour by saying that. She was right as she was larger than I had imagined (We are discussing how size affects a meet) and I've also had several amazing meets since which I wouldn't have had as she wanted more than nsa (despite her having several on the go so I'm not sure how that works). Good luck to her anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be honest

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