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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We seem to be finding it quite difficult getting a threesome sorted with another woman, what advice can anyone give to a couple who is relatively new to all this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The threesome isn’t for you to find someone to get what you both want. It’s about the other person as well. What’s in it for them? What do you expect from the threesome and what can they expect from you? An additional female should never feel like a notch, a tick of a list or a sex toy. It’s as much for them to be in control of as it is you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The threesome isn’t for you to find someone to get what you both want. It’s about the other person as well. What’s in it for them? What do you expect from the threesome and what can they expect from you? An additional female should never feel like a notch, a tick of a list or a sex toy. It’s as much for them to be in control of as it is you "
we would never treat it as a notch, we would definitely like to keep in touch with whoever would like to join us, we're very much for whatever another woman would like. Ot just seems so difficult to find one at times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi Op

It took us quite a while, but we have been fortunate enough to have met and build good rapport with two very nice single females over the last few months, We found the best approach was letting Mrs Easygoing and the female to message on here and privately, after a little while of messaging we arranged to meet them, very nice relaxed evenings with them both.

We let the ladies tell us when they were ready to meet us and went from there.

Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's quite difficult to meet people on here for all of us, and you're looking for the single woman

, like so many other couples seem to be. It's a case of numbers, ie the number of couples versus single women is high.

A single woman needs to be attracted to both the man and the woman in the couple. She needs to know that she isn't just going to be treated as a playtoy. She needs to know that the couple are secure with each other and don't have any jealousy issues etc. She needs to know that it's what the woman actually wants, and not just doing it to please her man, as this is extremely common on here.

These are just s few things to bear in mind.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's quite difficult to meet people on here for all of us, and you're looking for the single woman

, like so many other couples seem to be. It's a case of numbers, ie the number of couples versus single women is high.

A single woman needs to be attracted to both the man and the woman in the couple. She needs to know that she isn't just going to be treated as a playtoy. She needs to know that the couple are secure with each other and don't have any jealousy issues etc. She needs to know that it's what the woman actually wants, and not just doing it to please her man, as this is extremely common on here.

These are just s few things to bear in mind."
This is mostly for Abi to explore her Bi side, she's really been fantasising about other women and had spoken to me about how much she wanted to try, this really wasn't about her trying to please me but she very much wants me involved to which I'm not complaining lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's quite difficult to meet people on here for all of us, and you're looking for the single woman

, like so many other couples seem to be. It's a case of numbers, ie the number of couples versus single women is high.

A single woman needs to be attracted to both the man and the woman in the couple. She needs to know that she isn't just going to be treated as a playtoy. She needs to know that the couple are secure with each other and don't have any jealousy issues etc. She needs to know that it's what the woman actually wants, and not just doing it to please her man, as this is extremely common on here.

These are just s few things to bear in mind. This is mostly for Abi to explore her Bi side, she's really been fantasising about other women and had spoken to me about how much she wanted to try, this really wasn't about her trying to please me but she very much wants me involved to which I'm not complaining lol "

That's good to hear

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's quite difficult to meet people on here for all of us, and you're looking for the single woman

, like so many other couples seem to be. It's a case of numbers, ie the number of couples versus single women is high.

A single woman needs to be attracted to both the man and the woman in the couple. She needs to know that she isn't just going to be treated as a playtoy. She needs to know that the couple are secure with each other and don't have any jealousy issues etc. She needs to know that it's what the woman actually wants, and not just doing it to please her man, as this is extremely common on here.

These are just s few things to bear in mind. This is mostly for Abi to explore her Bi side, she's really been fantasising about other women and had spoken to me about how much she wanted to try, this really wasn't about her trying to please me but she very much wants me involved to which I'm not complaining lol

That's good to hear "

Yeah we really want to be able to make friends from this whole experience and depending on how it all goes we would like to be able to meet up for single meets and socials with women we've met, only if they want to of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi Op

It took us quite a while, but we have been fortunate enough to have met and build good rapport with two very nice single females over the last few months, We found the best approach was letting Mrs Easygoing and the female to message on here and privately, after a little while of messaging we arranged to meet them, very nice relaxed evenings with them both.

We let the ladies tell us when they were ready to meet us and went from there.

Xx"

Thanks thats some good advice I'll follow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey there. I recently put such a request on this forum and got a barrage of not hate but unfortunate responses:/ we too are looking for that special lady that may join us and be treated like a princess while treating my fiance like one too. We are looking not only for the lady to join us, but also for couples with bi fem. They may feel safer with a partner around, however rules must be established straight off so no confusion happens! We have written on our profile that i alone would be in contact with my girl and would expect this from any partner they brought. They are out there guys, just gotta be patient good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey there. I recently put such a request on this forum and got a barrage of not hate but unfortunate responses:/ we too are looking for that special lady that may join us and be treated like a princess while treating my fiance like one too. We are looking not only for the lady to join us, but also for couples with bi fem. They may feel safer with a partner around, however rules must be established straight off so no confusion happens! We have written on our profile that i alone would be in contact with my girl and would expect this from any partner they brought. They are out there guys, just gotta be patient good luck"

Ive just read that thread on your green arrow

Perhaps you just didnt get the reponses you were looking for?

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

It is more likely that the single lady will find you - after all you both have to be what she is looking for in terms of both looks and what you are offering. Be patient, and in the meantime try a club.

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By *otswapsCouple
over a year ago

Medway


"We seem to be finding it quite difficult getting a threesome sorted with another woman, what advice can anyone give to a couple who is relatively new to all this."

We have also been looking but almost giving up. Seems most people meet single ladies at clubs but we can only rarely go.

Good luck

X

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"We seem to be finding it quite difficult getting a threesome sorted with another woman, what advice can anyone give to a couple who is relatively new to all this."

Don’t try too hard .

Sounds odd , but it’s the truth . The harder you try , the harder it will seem to be . Never appear desperate either . Remember , it’s about you two equally as much as the woman you introduce to your world .

It’s bullshit to listen to all the single bi females going on about what’s in it for them etc... and the usual crap about how they aren’t performing seals , and how they don’t want to play with a woman just for the male to watch . If they start asking you to jump through hoops to get a meet with them tell them to do one . Seriously guys , it’s about you and your relationship above anything else . There are plenty of single bi females that happily meet couples in clubs , and if you stick a tempting status and meet request up you’ll be surprised how many are willing to meet on equal terms .

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the risk of becoming part of your memoirs, i think maybe your right!

but we did get a few possibles from it. So i think it is just patience. The lady being searched for generaly knows what shes looking for and desires in meeting with a couple. Dont be discouraged guys

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Having a female friendly profile would be a start and saying what's in it for her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We seem to be finding it quite difficult getting a threesome sorted with another woman, what advice can anyone give to a couple who is relatively new to all this.

Don’t try too hard .

Sounds odd , but it’s the truth . The harder you try , the harder it will seem to be . Never appear desperate either . Remember , it’s about you two equally as much as the woman you introduce to your world .

It’s bullshit to listen to all the single bi females going on about what’s in it for them etc... and the usual crap about how they aren’t performing seals , and how they don’t want to play with a woman just for the male to watch . If they start asking you to jump through hoops to get a meet with them tell them to do one . Seriously guys , it’s about you and your relationship above anything else . There are plenty of single bi females that happily meet couples in clubs , and if you stick a tempting status and meet request up you’ll be surprised how many are willing to meet on equal terms .

Good luck "

That there is the best advice you'll get on this, very wise words

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We seem to be finding it quite difficult getting a threesome sorted with another woman, what advice can anyone give to a couple who is relatively new to all this.

Don’t try too hard .

Sounds odd , but it’s the truth . The harder you try , the harder it will seem to be . Never appear desperate either . Remember , it’s about you two equally as much as the woman you introduce to your world .

It’s bullshit to listen to all the single bi females going on about what’s in it for them etc... and the usual crap about how they aren’t performing seals , and how they don’t want to play with a woman just for the male to watch . If they start asking you to jump through hoops to get a meet with them tell them to do one . Seriously guys , it’s about you and your relationship above anything else . There are plenty of single bi females that happily meet couples in clubs , and if you stick a tempting status and meet request up you’ll be surprised how many are willing to meet on equal terms .

Good luck

That there is the best advice you'll get on this, very wise words "

We would happily second that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Awesome thank you everyone. The advice is all great, we're both still really looking forward to having one and havent been discouraged. It's good to know that fab has a really good user Base that is keen to give support and advice to its other members

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough

Clubs, not hard to find a single woman who loves that too and so much easier than on fabs.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Clubs, not hard to find a single woman who loves that too and so much easier than on fabs. "

Great Idea, we'll have to look to see if we can find any clubs near us

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough


"Clubs, not hard to find a single woman who loves that too and so much easier than on fabs.

Great Idea, we'll have to look to see if we can find any clubs near us"

Good luck, but you shouldn't need it Chams is probably best in my experience.

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy

I'd love an ffm one day....

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

It does take a while and a lot of hard work my first threesome was in a club all I did was talked to the couple and watched the female partner be a mistress to a T girl and asked her if she has fun from there that when my first threesome happened. Also if I was up where you are I would gladly help out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would love this Also

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Clubs, not hard to find a single woman who loves that too and so much easier than on fabs.

Great Idea, we'll have to look to see if we can find any clubs near us

Good luck, but you shouldn't need it Chams is probably best in my experience. "

Thank you we would like to check out a club sometime so we'll definitely check out chams, whereabouts is it lol

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim


"Would love this Also "

Well maybe I can help out when I’m back in Bolton in September.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have a good profile and nice pics OP. You've also only been on here 4 weeks! Relax! As a fussy female I can honestly say I find you both quite attractive

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You have a good profile and nice pics OP. You've also only been on here 4 weeks! Relax! As a fussy female I can honestly say I find you both quite attractive

Mrs x"

(Although maybe you could lose the cock pic with the kid's toy in the background...)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You have a good profile and nice pics OP. You've also only been on here 4 weeks! Relax! As a fussy female I can honestly say I find you both quite attractive

Mrs x"

Thank you that means alot, Love your pics too btw

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You have a good profile and nice pics OP. You've also only been on here 4 weeks! Relax! As a fussy female I can honestly say I find you both quite attractive

Mrs x

(Although maybe you could lose the cock pic with the kid's toy in the background...)"

Haha good call

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