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By *emel9 OP   Man
over a year ago

West Midlands

I'm not one for posting ranting messages in forums as I think the site should be fun.

However, I've been a member here, in one profile or another, since almost the start of the site, and so feel I have a lot of experience on here.

When did the the type of user start joining that asks people to bring money, booze or "other items" to meets?

I don't think this is what swinging is about, and certainly not so in your face in the status or profile.

Do the genuine swingers think this is just a thing to be ignored or does it have the potential to damage the site?

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By *rinceCorwinMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I agree with you OP seeing this trend more and more. Personally I don't worry about it because there are still thousands of genuine swingers using the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m generally a relaxed guy but it annoys me too.

One couple messaged me out of the blue last week “come to ours now *inserted address*, bring c0c4ine and a bottle of vodka. Otherwise we will turn you away”

Now I’m not a prude in the slightest (though I don’t do drugs myself). But the combination of being a beg, and also being arrogant enough to assume they can command me to do anything really irritated me. They were average looking as fuck too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m generally a relaxed guy but it annoys me too.

One couple messaged me out of the blue last week “come to ours now *inserted address*, bring c0c4ine and a bottle of vodka. Otherwise we will turn you away”

Now I’m not a prude in the slightest (though I don’t do drugs myself). But the combination of being a beg, and also being arrogant enough to assume they can command me to do anything really irritated me. They were average looking as fuck too."

So such behaviour is acceptable in the beautiful?

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By *emel9 OP   Man
over a year ago

West Midlands

Let's not lose the thread. I think the key bit is it''s begging and borrowing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's completely tacky and more than a bit pathetic. But not much to be done about it except block them as you find them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's good to know upfront if people are knob heads or not...

Nothing worse than making the effort to meet someone and then you find out!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must live a quiet life on here I've never experienced people asking this

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"I must live a quiet life on here I've never experienced people asking this "

Same here , and we’ve been on here for over seven years .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I must live a quiet life on here I've never experienced people asking this "

Me either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of people local to me generally put a status up to that effect asking for one thing or another.

It’s off putting and exceptionally tacky.

Just get a bloody job people and buy your own shit!!!!

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By *itvclaireTV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham

Just ignor these members. Had one recently. Guy wanted to watch me with his wife. But I had to bring a lid of supplies. All were legal, but that’s not what his site is about IMO.

XX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's good to know upfront if people are knob heads or not...

Nothing worse than making the effort to meet someone and then you find out!

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

Yup agree. Hardly worth busting a blood vessel over. Helpful filter I would say

V x

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By *irtySekretsCouple
over a year ago

Filthy Desires Upon Trent

Swingers have changed in the 10 years since we were last involved in the

“Hobby” Xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One couple ask for a bottle of the fuzzy stuff and they don't mean lemonade.

It's a fucking cheek and not allowed on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not one for posting ranting messages in forums as I think the site should be fun.

However, I've been a member here, in one profile or another, since almost the start of the site, and so feel I have a lot of experience on here.

When did the the type of user start joining that asks people to bring money, booze or "other items" to meets?

I don't think this is what swinging is about, and certainly not so in your face in the status or profile.

Do the genuine swingers think this is just a thing to be ignored or does it have the potential to damage the site?"
I was asked one time to book the hotel, so I chose a hotel I could afford and he turned his nose up at it, he wanted something in the £150 a night area, she was ok with my selection

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Report profiles that ask for expenses, it's against site rules.

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By *ORDERMANMan
over a year ago

wrexham

When invited for first time I will arrive with a bottle.. Its rude not to..

Never asked for.. But first time in some ones house.. Its rude not to..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with you OP the site has been damaged from its origins to now. I’m a veteran on/off for 10 years and this is the worst I’ve seen it with the asking (begging even) for money, drugs or alcohol in return for ????

We will not change or restrict the users coming and going on here so we just have to put on our big people pants and get on with satisfying our own agenda and avoiding the scammers, the desperately and the beggars

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By *aughtycouple1008Couple
over a year ago

west london


"I agree with you OP the site has been damaged from its origins to now. I’m a veteran on/off for 10 years and this is the worst I’ve seen it with the asking (begging even) for money, drugs or alcohol in return for ????

We will not change or restrict the users coming and going on here so we just have to put on our big people pants and get on with satisfying our own agenda and avoiding the scammers, the desperately and the beggars "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get equally annoyed when I’m offered a gift or money to meet up.

There are other sites specifically for that!

I always report x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get equally annoyed when I’m offered a gift or money to meet up.

There are other sites specifically for that!

I always report x "
Can I offer you a box

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By *emel9 OP   Man
over a year ago

West Midlands


"I agree with you OP the site has been damaged from its origins to now. I’m a veteran on/off for 10 years and this is the worst I’ve seen it with the asking (begging even) for money, drugs or alcohol in return for ????

We will not change or restrict the users coming and going on here so we just have to put on our big people pants and get on with satisfying our own agenda and avoiding the scammers, the desperately and the beggars "

agree it's sad..it was always such an honest site..I just think maybe more admin checks...they check photos after all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree with you OP the site has been damaged from its origins to now. I’m a veteran on/off for 10 years and this is the worst I’ve seen it with the asking (begging even) for money, drugs or alcohol in return for ????

We will not change or restrict the users coming and going on here so we just have to put on our big people pants and get on with satisfying our own agenda and avoiding the scammers, the desperately and the beggars

agree it's sad..it was always such an honest site..I just think maybe more admin checks...they check photos after all."

In the seven plus years I've been around I've noticed a massive difference in the attitude and expectations... But not enough for it to annoy me... I just use it as a filter.

I'm not sure what further admin checks you think would make a difference though.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"I must live a quiet life on here I've never experienced people asking this "

unless its the part of country we live in cos we havent either!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even more now Craigslist as virtually gone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get equally annoyed when I’m offered a gift or money to meet up.

There are other sites specifically for that!

I always report x "

Aww now I never get offered anything - note to self - must try harder

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