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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Single ladies what are your thoughts

"Hubby knows I'm here" profiles.

Is this frowned upon within female circles.

Yes, we know some of us men will still sleep with cheating wives but just curious if it was looked upon the same?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I couldn't care less how people live their lives or choose how to run their relationships

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No I couldn't care less how people live their lives or choose how to run their relationships "

Same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There can be a lot of bitchiness between females on this site I've found

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I also don't care I'm just curious to see if the standard was the same.

Not sure how many women would play with Hubby if "Wife knows he's here"

Would be interested to see as a large majority of female and couple profile state they don't want married/attached men. Just curious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There can be a lot of bitchiness between females on this site I've found"

I've heard that too. I think it's down to jealousy as a result of insecurity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Single ladies what are your thoughts

"Hubby knows I'm here" profiles.

Is this frowned upon within female circles.

Yes, we know some of us men will still sleep with cheating wives but just curious if it was looked upon the same?"

If the husband knows she's on here she's not cheating.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Single ladies what are your thoughts

"Hubby knows I'm here" profiles.

Is this frowned upon within female circles.

Yes, we know some of us men will still sleep with cheating wives but just curious if it was looked upon the same?

If the husband knows she's on here she's not cheating. "

Just don't seem to see the same logic applied to the married men on here or the number of profile stating that they will not play with married men even if wife knows, even more so Hubby tends not to be believed and class as a lying cheat.

I'm obviously playing devils advocate but is there any truth in this???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Single ladies what are your thoughts

"Hubby knows I'm here" profiles.

Is this frowned upon within female circles.

Yes, we know some of us men will still sleep with cheating wives but just curious if it was looked upon the same?

If the husband knows she's on here she's not cheating.

I'm obviously playing devils advocate but is there any truth in this???"

Women seem less likely to meet a cheating husband because they think of his hurt wife. Men seem more likely to meet a cheating wife because they find it horny and naughty to fuck another man's wife.

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By *kbloke_11Man
over a year ago

Hockley

I love a cheating wife!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My husband knows I’m on here. Therefore I’m not a cheating wife. If people judge me for that, that’s their problem, not mine.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My husband knows I’m on here. Therefore I’m not a cheating wife. If people judge me for that, that’s their problem, not mine. "

Quite right. I always say that . If people have an issue with me or what I may or may not do... it is "their" issue and not mines.

Apart from the above agreement above. I think I was trying to say the scepticism from women, when the ring is on the other finger...

Also curious as to what single women thought of wife having permission to play away, as many seem to state they are "a one man woman"

Just curious as to all the dynamics that women can get away with and that men don't seem to have the luxury.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I also don't care I'm just curious to see if the standard was the same.

Not sure how many women would play with Hubby if "Wife knows he's here"

Would be interested to see as a large majority of female and couple profile state they don't want married/attached men. Just curious"

Someone’s marital status doesn’t bother me, how they conduct themselves does.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Single ladies what are your thoughts

"Hubby knows I'm here" profiles.

Is this frowned upon within female circles.

Yes, we know some of us men will still sleep with cheating wives but just curious if it was looked upon the same?

If the husband knows she's on here she's not cheating.

I'm obviously playing devils advocate but is there any truth in this???"

I’d say on here the same logic doesn’t apply probably because of the sheer ratio of men to women.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

My other half knows I'm here, it's stated on my profile. I've never been asked to prove it mind you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say the chances of their husbands/partners knowing and encouraging them to be on here are more legit, the Hotwife scenario is quite common, a lot of men are into this.

If a woman was on here and openly declared she was on here behind her partners back I would think she was scummy and I would think the same of a man doing it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ladies the is for your honesty...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd say the chances of their husbands/partners knowing and encouraging them to be on here are more legit, the Hotwife scenario is quite common, a lot of men are into this.

If a woman was on here and openly declared she was on here behind her partners back I would think she was scummy and I would think the same of a man doing it.

*scummy* steps forward and takes a bow...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd say the chances of their husbands/partners knowing and encouraging them to be on here are more legit, the Hotwife scenario is quite common, a lot of men are into this.

If a woman was on here and openly declared she was on here behind her partners back I would think she was scummy and I would think the same of a man doing it.

*scummy* steps forward and takes a bow..."

Ok, scummy thing to do I should have said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd say the chances of their husbands/partners knowing and encouraging them to be on here are more legit, the Hotwife scenario is quite common, a lot of men are into this.

If a woman was on here and openly declared she was on here behind her partners back I would think she was scummy and I would think the same of a man doing it.

This

We wouldn't meet a woman who's cheating on her partner and if she says he knows she's on here, I would expect he's on here as well or maybe they have couples profile too.

We both have been cheated on in a past and it bothers us when people do that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't play with attached or married men, because of their limitations.

I want regular & I want to be able to use oils, wear perfume, make up & meet for longer than 45mins because they're supposed to be at the gym.

If their wife knows they're on here, I'd be cool with that, even more so if she'd meet too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My view comes from a kind of bitter resentment. Like I'm single and would love to have a boyfriend/husband and I would treat him like a king, then you get women who have partners and then cheat on them anyway. It doesn't make sense to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My view comes from a kind of bitter resentment. Like I'm single and would love to have a boyfriend/husband and I would treat him like a king, then you get women who have partners and then cheat on them anyway. It doesn't make sense to me. "

I totally get if you’re single you want to find someone who is available, it may or may not lead to more but at least you’re both free to see.

The reality of an relationship can be a complex matter, it’s not quite as simple as treating someone like a king or a princess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There can be a lot of bitchiness between females on this site I've found"

There is but same can be said for men!

We only have a couples profile and no meets are organised until we’ve both read the messages and spoke to each other about it and if we’re both happy to sort a meet.

Another rule is we don’t play with a person/people unless we’re both happy

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

I’m not bothered and none of my business....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a womans hubby knows she's here it's not cheating.

I used to be very judgy and say I wouldn't meet people who were with someone but at some point I became less judgy and probably a bit selfish and decided that although I would prefer people to be single you don't always know the full story and as long as it doesn't affect me then what they do in their time away from seeing me isn't my problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try very hard not to judge people on their circumstances and their reasons for being here.

Unfortunately many will judge on here, regardless of the fact they don't know anything about a person or their lives. I find it useful though as a filter as I wouldn't ever want to meet anyone who is narrow minded and judgemental.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There can be a lot of bitchiness between females on this site I've found"

I wouldn't know as I don't get involved in those issues! I don't meet ladies and I don't care what another female does !

But I imagine have some men are as bad !

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

Same here!

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Jack obvs knows I'm here as he is too.

However when I was single,I had a man message me ,he said his wife knew etc.So i asked to speak to her (I'd never take anyone's word alone),had every excuse going and then he blocked me.

Don't think she knew...some men do have their wives blessing and would have no problem with her confirming this.

For me too many liars in here,male,female and couples to just take what they say as true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like everything in life fab is full of double standards and contridictions it's how you interpret them and act on the information and how comfortable you are with meeting people if you know there background,I've spoken to women on here who state on profile they're single and then you get talking to them and a partner comes out of the woodwork from nowhere but their profile states no attached/married men I hate cheats but it's ok for them to mislead people

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

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"I also don't care I'm just curious to see if the standard was the same.

Not sure how many women would play with Hubby if "Wife knows he's here"

Would be interested to see as a large majority of female and couple profile state they don't want married/attached men. Just curious"

Big difference between cheaters within a relationship and a relationship where the other half knows they are here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Big difference between cheaters within a relationship and a relationship where the other half knows they are here."

Massive difference. Totally different mind set

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Relationships can be bloody hard work, and each dynamic is different. I don’t judge anyone for being on here, especially not the women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't play with attached or married men, because of their limitations.

I want regular & I want to be able to use oils, wear perfume, make up & meet for longer than 45mins because they're supposed to be at the gym.

If their wife knows they're on here, I'd be cool with that, even more so if she'd meet too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't play with attached or married men, because of their limitations.

I want regular & I want to be able to use oils, wear perfume, make up & meet for longer than 45mins because they're supposed to be at the gym.

If their wife knows they're on here, I'd be cool with that, even more so if she'd meet too

Totally agree, been there done that, not much fun waiting around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I don't want to know everyone's circumstances all I want is them to be into me when together ,once we part who they go home to or chat to is their business not mine it's their life their guilt period

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Personally I don't want to know everyone's circumstances all I want is them to be into me when together ,once we part who they go home to or chat to is their business not mine it's their life their guilt period"

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Single ladies what are your thoughts

"Hubby knows I'm here" profiles.

Is this frowned upon within female circles.

Yes, we know some of us men will still sleep with cheating wives but just curious if it was looked upon the same?

If the husband knows she's on here she's not cheating. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No I couldn't care less how people live their lives or choose how to run their relationships "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I also don't care I'm just curious to see if the standard was the same.

Not sure how many women would play with Hubby if "Wife knows he's here"

Would be interested to see as a large majority of female and couple profile state they don't want married/attached men. Just curious"

A large majority? Didn’t realise it was possible to just select all single fem and couples profiles over the entire duration of the sites existence to be able to do an analysis that would lead you to that conclusion. Nice work though OP if you’ve managed it!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" A large majority? Didn’t realise it was possible to just select all single fem and couples profiles over the entire duration of the sites existence to be able to do an analysis that would lead you to that conclusion. Nice work though OP if you’ve managed it!"

Don't think it is possible either, which is why didn't state a larger majority of the whole site, over its whole existence... that would be silly now, wouldn't it???

I could of meant large majority of North West or large majority of searches in a 20 mile radius??? I left it open to interpretation...

Logically my analysis concludes, it must just be the large majoriy of profiles I've actually searched through. Cent speak the the fem and couple I haven't seen, that would be silly now, wouldn't it

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

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"Single ladies what are your thoughts

"Hubby knows I'm here" profiles.

Is this frowned upon within female circles.

Yes, we know some of us men will still sleep with cheating wives but just curious if it was looked upon the same?"

Are you talking about cheating women, or women who arn't cheating, which is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't think it is possible either, which is why didn't state a larger majority of the whole site, over its whole existence... that would be silly now, wouldn't it???

I could of meant large majority of North West or large majority of searches in a 20 mile radius??? I left it open to interpretation...

Logically my analysis concludes, it must just be the large majoriy of profiles I've actually searched through. Cent speak the the fem and couple I haven't seen, that would be silly now, wouldn't it

Tell you what’s silly OP, you quoting large majority and then re-defining it as a larger majority

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Single ladies what are your thoughts

"Hubby knows I'm here" profiles.

Is this frowned upon within female circles.

Yes, we know some of us men will still sleep with cheating wives but just curious if it was looked upon the same?

Are you talking about cheating women, or women who arn't cheating, which is it?"

Apologies if I wasn't clear. Guess it was my clever way of asking women if they believe the women that say this like they believe the Hubby that says the equivalent???

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Tell you what’s silly OP, you quoting large majority and then re-defining it as a larger majority

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sinfony why did you block me... Lol.

I wanted to ask you a question, but I guess my witty response to your unfunny sarcastic joke has done enough for you to block me.

Was it all worth trying to be funny, then blocking me... Where's the banter in that.

Please unblock me... or better still just stay outta the kitchen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sinfony why did you block me... Lol.

I wanted to ask you a question, but I guess my witty response to your unfunny sarcastic joke has done enough for you to block me.

Was it all worth trying to be funny, then blocking me... Where's the banter in that.

Please unblock me... or better still just stay outta the kitchen

Hmm. Wasn’t intended to be either funny or sarcastic, merely making reference to your remarks that have no meaning whatsoever when it comes to making sound statements that have to be based on sound statistical evidence. As for blocking you, our choice, no justification required from us whatsoever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Single ladies what are your thoughts

"Hubby knows I'm here" profiles.

Is this frowned upon within female circles.

Yes, we know some of us men will still sleep with cheating wives but just curious if it was looked upon the same?

Are you talking about cheating women, or women who arn't cheating, which is it?

Apologies if I wasn't clear. Guess it was my clever way of asking women if they believe the women that say this like they believe the Hubby that says the equivalent???"

Nope, I wouldn’t believe it unless I had proof.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Single ladies what are your thoughts

"Hubby knows I'm here" profiles.

Is this frowned upon within female circles.

Yes, we know some of us men will still sleep with cheating wives but just curious if it was looked upon the same?

Are you talking about cheating women, or women who arn't cheating, which is it?

Apologies if I wasn't clear. Guess it was my clever way of asking women if they believe the women that say this like they believe the Hubby that says the equivalent???

Nope, I wouldn’t believe it unless I had proof. "

How would you get proof?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Consent is everything and if that's how people want to live their lives that's up to them so. I wouldn't want to get involved though, so would avoid married and attached men where I could.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Consent is everything and if that's how people want to live their lives that's up to them so. I wouldn't want to get involved though, so would avoid married and attached men where I could."

I would do the same with men and women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Single ladies what are your thoughts

"Hubby knows I'm here" profiles.

Is this frowned upon within female circles.

Yes, we know some of us men will still sleep with cheating wives but just curious if it was looked upon the same?

Are you talking about cheating women, or women who arn't cheating, which is it?

Apologies if I wasn't clear. Guess it was my clever way of asking women if they believe the women that say this like they believe the Hubby that says the equivalent???

Nope, I wouldn’t believe it unless I had proof.

How would you get proof? "

Would want to speak to their partner first. I went for a drink with a guy last year who was in an open relationship and were swingers. I felt uncomfortable and asked him to message his wife for me to clarify. I’ve met them both since but was unsure without the wife speaking to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Single ladies what are your thoughts

"Hubby knows I'm here" profiles.

Is this frowned upon within female circles.

Yes, we know some of us men will still sleep with cheating wives but just curious if it was looked upon the same?

Are you talking about cheating women, or women who arn't cheating, which is it?

Apologies if I wasn't clear. Guess it was my clever way of asking women if they believe the women that say this like they believe the Hubby that says the equivalent???

Nope, I wouldn’t believe it unless I had proof.

How would you get proof?

How do you know you would be speaking to his wife though? It could just be a fellow female swinger covering for him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Single ladies what are your thoughts

"Hubby knows I'm here" profiles.

Is this frowned upon within female circles.

Yes, we know some of us men will still sleep with cheating wives but just curious if it was looked upon the same?

Are you talking about cheating women, or women who arn't cheating, which is it?

Apologies if I wasn't clear. Guess it was my clever way of asking women if they believe the women that say this like they believe the Hubby that says the equivalent???

Nope, I wouldn’t believe it unless I had proof.

How would you get proof?

How do you know you would be speaking to his wife though? It could just be a fellow female swinger covering for him. "

I was friends with him on Instagram and both of them on killing kittens. I knew what she looked like. We ended up FaceTiming. I wouldn’t play with anyone like that unless I had met the other partner. I only went for a drink and was suspicious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Single ladies what are your thoughts

"Hubby knows I'm here" profiles.

Is this frowned upon within female circles.

Yes, we know some of us men will still sleep with cheating wives but just curious if it was looked upon the same?

Are you talking about cheating women, or women who arn't cheating, which is it?

Apologies if I wasn't clear. Guess it was my clever way of asking women if they believe the women that say this like they believe the Hubby that says the equivalent???

Nope, I wouldn’t believe it unless I had proof.

How would you get proof?

How do you know you would be speaking to his wife though? It could just be a fellow female swinger covering for him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There can be a lot of bitchiness between females on this site I've found"

I’ve only been here 3 weeks and have experienced it.

I’ve had two messages from two different women one saying I look like a slag being on here and that nobody will want to marry me.

The other one was “not another delusional little girl who thinks the world revolves around them”

Both out of the blue & both from women much older than me and whose profile I didn’t even view. Not sure what their reasoning was for their messages but I could only assume bitterness or jealousy that I’m open minded?

Kind of made me laugh to be honest!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There can be a lot of bitchiness between females on this site I've found

I’ve only been here 3 weeks and have experienced it.

I’ve had two messages from two different women one saying I look like a slag being on here and that nobody will want to marry me.

The other one was “not another delusional little girl who thinks the world revolves around them”

Kind of made me laugh to be honest! "

Blimey, that’s just ridiculous!

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I don’t concern myself with what others do and their personal lives are none of my concern actually. I keep my sticky beak out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There can be a lot of bitchiness between females on this site I've found"

Some women just can't help themselves ... Some on here have been so nasty to me for no reason

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I've had the same on numerous occasions. Only a couple of single women the rest have been bitter female halves of couples who chose to ignore my profile then wonder why I wouldn't meet them lol. I then get accused of being a timewaster!! If only people bothered to read a couple of lines of text...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Then there's those who u give a compliment that can't take one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t see any need in bitchiness between women or men matter of fact - if you don’t like someone either ignore them or block them!

I tend to take a step back if someone is bitching at me - I’m ignoring them and not give them a response as the way I see it is they’ve then won as they’ve got your attention and got a reaction, which is what they want!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There can be a lot of bitchiness between females on this site I've found

I’ve only been here 3 weeks and have experienced it.

I’ve had two messages from two different women one saying I look like a slag being on here and that nobody will want to marry me.

The other one was “not another delusional little girl who thinks the world revolves around them”

Kind of made me laugh to be honest! "
and now your unlos what a shame

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