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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Something I’ve been meaning to ask, why do so many couples block single men from messaging. I’m aware that most do it so they can find their own single men but do others do it so the man can just enjoy another women and his wife? While others seem to enjoy the thought of a single man just using his wife for pleasure. No harm intended just curious to hear from a couples point of view

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Each couple is different. There isn't one answer. We like to meet single men because my partner likes to see me with other men (I strongly dislike the word used) and I actively enjoy the attention of two men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because most of the messages couples seem to get are from crude ones from single guys who haven't read the profile, or have and just ignored it. There's obviously some guys who just send a nice message but I imagine that couples who've blocked guys have had more experience with the former.

C

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every now and then we choose to receive messages from single men, only to have the stereotype reinforced. We do meet single men but only on personal recommendation from close friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they can

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Each couple is different. There isn't one answer. We like to meet single men because my partner likes to see me with other men (I strongly dislike the word used) and I actively enjoy the attention of two men."

Sorry no offence intended using the word used, as you say each is different, and it’s great your partner enjoys watching you with other men it does give single men abit of hope when it comes to exploring couples

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Because most of the messages couples seem to get are from crude ones from single guys who haven't read the profile, or have and just ignored it. There's obviously some guys who just send a nice message but I imagine that couples who've blocked guys have had more experience with the former.

C"

Any man messaging a couple I feel should speak with the same respect as they would to a non swinging couple you wouldn’t approach a couple in the street and tell mr what you would like to do to his mrs as I can imagine it wouldn’t end too well. I agree with you that not all men have that respect when speaking to a couple

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Because they can "

Yes true anyone can do as they please each to their own preferences

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

We don't block any group from contacting us but we do block individual profiles as we see fit depending on how they've messaged us or posted on the forums. In spite of what many people say about the amount of messages couples and single females get, it's not that hard to just ignore/delete messages that we haven't asked for from folks who aren't who we're looking for or who haven't read our profile.

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

On out couple profile,it's me that's not interested in meeting single men currently .

I like to see Jack with another woman ...so prefer couples

You can write that you are not looking for them,but most don't take notice ans still ask,so we block.

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By *ndecidedMan
over a year ago

London

Usually cos they get overwhelmed.

There's profiles I've come across where the girl/couple put that they've had 300 messages from guys.

And unfortunately there's some dickheads who can't take no for an answer and start harassing and getting nasty

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We don't block any group from contacting us but we do block individual profiles as we see fit depending on how they've messaged us or posted on the forums. In spite of what many people say about the amount of messages couples and single females get, it's not that hard to just ignore/delete messages that we haven't asked for from folks who aren't who we're looking for or who haven't read our profile."

Yeah that’s seems fair atleast you give people the chance, as a couple it must be flattering for Mr to know that many single guys find his Mrs very attractive (hope he is ok with me saying) however it’s the level in respect that a person takes when saying that to yourselves rather than a message saying something like let me fuck your wife which has no regard to the fact regardless of swinging your still a couple that care for eachother

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Usually cos they get overwhelmed.

There's profiles I've come across where the girl/couple put that they've had 300 messages from guys.

And unfortunately there's some dickheads who can't take no for an answer and start harassing and getting nasty"

Agreed then ruins chances for genuine people

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"On out couple profile,it's me that's not interested in meeting single men currently .

I like to see Jack with another woman ...so prefer couples

You can write that you are not looking for them,but most don't take notice ans still ask,so we block."

If it’s clealry stated and they haven’t read your profile then that’s fair enough that deserves a block as it just shows their intentions

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight


"Usually cos they get overwhelmed.

There's profiles I've come across where the girl/couple put that they've had 300 messages from guys.

And unfortunately there's some dickheads who can't take no for an answer and start harassing and getting nasty

Agreed then ruins chances for genuine people "

Actually it ruins their chances, others are judged on merit... With us anyway.

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

I'm not called LB because I win lots of raffles. Everyone has the same chance to make a good impression and respect and courtesy go both ways. We don't tar all single guys with the same brush, as the idiots only spoil it for themselves but we have become a tad more cynical over the years we've been here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP

Surely this all depends on what the couple are after?

If they’re after another couple then they’re entitled to block single guys

If they’re after a single woman again they’re entitled to

Or as you say they may just prefer searching for the single guy them selves

Slut & I have never blocked a single guy as that’s what we are interested in finding

Hopefully we won’t ever need to block anybody either ...

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By *isobedient-Bi-BoudoirCouple
over a year ago

Central london

Couples all have there own intentions

For us we would block single men when

1. single men who ask to meet me direct. Or message me as a single, we have a couples profile.

2nd we won’t meet any one that can’t hold a conversation with us.

If we can’t have a proper conversation . No way where jumping in bed together.

for us there has to be a connection, attractions,

One word one line messages ar of putting

Some people don’t read your profile so we don’t have any thing written at the moment

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

We’re not actively looking for single males but we still get messages from them as our filters are off to enable us to converse privately with some forum members if needs be. We still get the occasional message from a single male even though we wouldn’t show up on their search list. We normally respond however the three today probably aren’t worth conversing with. One liners like great tits, wud luv to fuk u, and would love to cum in you while hubby watches simply don’t do anything for us as an introduction! We then get the polite ones who we have replied thanking them for compliments, reiterating that we’re not looking for single males and then wishing them well. Some accept that and move on however some respond with vitriol, what are you doing on here if you’re not going to open your legs and some will irritatingly message every few days with hi how are you doing today or how’s your day been. The block button becomes a very useful tool for the vitriolic and the irritating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single men can and do message us. Individual messages are dealt with on case by case basis. Fortunately we didn't have to block many individuals yet as we found most of them being polite and respectful.

Mrs

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By *urchoicenowCouple
over a year ago

Ashford

Our filters are off but we are not actively seeking singles at all. We use the block button for people that don't read our profile, usually after a sarcastic response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Something I’ve been meaning to ask, why do so many couples block single men from messaging. I’m aware that most do it so they can find their own single men but do others do it so the man can just enjoy another women and his wife? While others seem to enjoy the thought of a single man just using his wife for pleasure. No harm intended just curious to hear from a couples point of view "
most aren't interested in single guys unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have blocked historically, although we don’t now. It was basically to cut down on the admin of feeling obliged to reply to messages.

Mrs

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By *urse123Couple
over a year ago

cardiff

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By *urse123Couple
over a year ago

cardiff


"Each couple is different. There isn't one answer. We like to meet single men because my partner likes to see me with other men (I strongly dislike the word used) and I actively enjoy the attention of two men."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a fair question.

Simple answer - we're not looking for single men.

We would apply far more filters if there was facility to do so. Sometimes people get the hump and say its discriminatory - and the truth? It is discriminatory.

The whole process is one of discrimination - age ranges, genders, sexualities, locations, distance, interests - and relationship status.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Something I’ve been meaning to ask, why do so many couples block single men from messaging."

Just a rough guess,but,maybe they just don't want messaged by single men.

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By *kyblue1878Couple
over a year ago

Southport

We have and do play with one or two trusted single guys but this is strictly a one off to spoil Mrs Skyblue every now and again. We joined a swingers site and go on swinging holidays and visit clubs to meet couples because basically that is what we prefer and is essentially what the essence of swinging is all about. We are on another site and have to say the messages are mainly from couples but we find on here it is full of single guys. Out of every 100 people to view our profile it is approximately 80% single guys, which is quite off putting when our profile says we are not on Fabs to meet single guys.

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough


"Something I’ve been meaning to ask, why do so many couples block single men from messaging. I’m aware that most do it so they can find their own single men but do others do it so the man can just enjoy another women and his wife? While others seem to enjoy the thought of a single man just using his wife for pleasure. No harm intended just curious to hear from a couples point of view "

So we don't get 100 messages a day saying "hi how are you" which is a, shame as we've met some great, single guys. Just not from here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is what we do ‘ an not interested in single men at the minute we are happy with the set up we have go , I always found its the single guys that msg and freak me out the most ‘ like what would you really do with my socks after watching my husband fuck me :/ its freaky !!

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough


"Something I’ve been meaning to ask, why do so many couples block single men from messaging. I’m aware that most do it so they can find their own single men but do others do it so the man can just enjoy another women and his wife? While others seem to enjoy the thought of a single man just using his wife for pleasure. No harm intended just curious to hear from a couples point of view most aren't interested in single guys unfortunately "

I don't think there is any truth to that at all.

They, we, just aren't interested in inane zero effort crude messages.

We have played with far more single guys than any other type, in the region of 10:1 at a rough guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because most of the messages couples seem to get are from crude ones from single guys who haven't read the profile, or have and just ignored it. There's obviously some guys who just send a nice message but I imagine that couples who've blocked guys have had more experience with the former.

C"

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