FabSwingers.com forum: Not if he/she/they are going to be there

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you avoid clubs or other events if particular people or groups are going to be there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope not at all we are grown ups and simply steer clear or ignore those we don’t wish to be round

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

Nope, I have been to socials where there have been people I didn’t like but I was there to meet and chat with people I did like, that outweighs the bad people, they are easy to avoid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I've avoided socials in the past when people who've given me abuse have been there. It's bad enough walking into a room full of people you don't know without having to deal with that kind of shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is one particular couple who we avoid at all costs. The woman is sneaky. I don't trust her...Mr. doesn't trust her and her husband really shouldn't trust her.

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

Yes I have previously been put off going to an event due to the guest list.

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By *_and_LCouple
over a year ago

Tamworth

No but there are a couple of people I’ll make an effort to avoid during an event.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, but I don’t play with men if they’ve played with certain women, and I’m sure that goes the same way with me, no big loss,

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

Yes I do, mainly because the scene is not for me.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

No I deliberately go to she if they have the balls to say it to my face rather than playing keyboard warriors.

So far no one's said a thing to me , Obe wouldn't even say hello at a social when I said hello to them.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"No I deliberately go to she if they have the balls to say it to my face rather than playing keyboard warriors.

So far no one's said a thing to me , Obe wouldn't even say hello at a social when I said hello to them. "

' one'

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

No. Its easy enough to be civil briefly then avoid the person or people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you avoid clubs or other events if particular people or groups are going to be there?"

Theres a few people we arent keen on that go to one of the clubs we go to. They create an unsavoury atmosphere so we avoid going when they are there. Its no big deal though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends as if a certain person happened to be there I would expect her to leave as it would be only right.

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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago

london stratford

"Do you avoid clubs or other events if particular people or groups are going to be there?"

I didn't used to but about a year ago, I went to a private party where a couple who I did not like went and the female of the couple kicked off and slapped my face due to being d*unk (and before you ask, No, I did not provoke her). since then, I know if she/they are going to a social or party where I am invited, its a no from me

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Depends as if a certain person happened to be there I would expect her to leave as it would be only right."

So if you went somewhere where someone was you'd expect them to leave?! Why should they if they were there first?

All this behaviour is one of the reasons I don't publish lists for my socials.

We're all grown ups

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Depends as if a certain person happened to be there I would expect her to leave as it would be only right."
pardon?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I used to have an arch enemy on the forums. Always hissing and bitching at each other. Went to a social and she was there she said hello. I said hello and boom we hit it of straight away and shes been one of my closest friends since and that was over 8 years ago

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

I have done as they go out of their way to be particularly unpleasant, and if I have to spend the evening struggling to keep my mouth shut then it isn't going to be a relaxing fun evening.

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

Socials - we'd still go.

Clubs - sometimes we'll avoid one of our local ones if a certain couple or single fem is there and we're already undecided. There's no single guys that haven't took the hint that we're not interested

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Depends as if a certain person happened to be there I would expect her to leave as it would be only right.pardon?

See above.."
why on earth would you expect them to leave?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends as if a certain person happened to be there I would expect her to leave as it would be only right.

So if you went somewhere where someone was you'd expect them to leave?! Why should they if they were there first?

All this behaviour is one of the reasons I don't publish lists for my socials.

We're all grown ups

She isn't allowed within 500 meters from me or I have to call the police... "

If she's there first, then it's only right for you to be the one that leaves.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Depends as if a certain person happened to be there I would expect her to leave as it would be only right.

So if you went somewhere where someone was you'd expect them to leave?! Why should they if they were there first?

All this behaviour is one of the reasons I don't publish lists for my socials.

We're all grown ups

She isn't allowed within 500 meters from me or I have to call the police... "
well if you know shes going to be there in advance or stay 500metres away from her.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Depends as if a certain person happened to be there I would expect her to leave as it would be only right.

So if you went somewhere where someone was you'd expect them to leave?! Why should they if they were there first?

All this behaviour is one of the reasons I don't publish lists for my socials.

We're all grown ups

She isn't allowed within 500 meters from me or I have to call the police... "

That still doesn't mean she is the one that has to leave if you turn up and she is already there.

Again..... Grown ups!

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"Depends as if a certain person happened to be there I would expect her to leave as it would be only right.pardon?

See above..why on earth would you expect them to leave?"

Seems like there’s a restraining order on them ?

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Hang on ladies , you’re ganging up on him without knowing the whole story

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends as if a certain person happened to be there I would expect her to leave as it would be only right.

So if you went somewhere where someone was you'd expect them to leave?! Why should they if they were there first?

All this behaviour is one of the reasons I don't publish lists for my socials.

We're all grown ups

She isn't allowed within 500 meters from me or I have to call the police...

That still doesn't mean she is the one that has to leave if you turn up and she is already there.

Again..... Grown ups! "

If there's a restraining order in place, which this sounds like, then yes it does. She has to leave, no questions asked, or she's commiting a crime.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Depends as if a certain person happened to be there I would expect her to leave as it would be only right.

So if you went somewhere where someone was you'd expect them to leave?! Why should they if they were there first?

All this behaviour is one of the reasons I don't publish lists for my socials.

We're all grown ups

She isn't allowed within 500 meters from me or I have to call the police...

That still doesn't mean she is the one that has to leave if you turn up and she is already there.

Again..... Grown ups!

If there's a restraining order in place, which this sounds like, then yes it does. She has to leave, no questions asked, or she's commiting a crime."
only if shes within 500mtrs of him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't think of a club or social venue where she wouldn't be. 500 metres is over a quarter of a mile.

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By *irky_coupleCouple
over a year ago

kirky

"Depends as if a certain person happened to be there I would expect her to leave as it would be only right.

So if you went somewhere where someone was you'd expect them to leave?! Why should they if they were there first?

All this behaviour is one of the reasons I don't publish lists for my socials.

We're all grown ups

She isn't allowed within 500 meters from me or I have to call the police...

That still doesn't mean she is the one that has to leave if you turn up and she is already there.

Again..... Grown ups!

If there's a restraining order in place, which this sounds like, then yes it does. She has to leave, no questions asked, or she's commiting a crime.only if shes within 500mtrs of him"
if it was a social then unless its a bloody big building then you'd be within 500m of her I'd think.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I can't think of a club or social venue where she wouldn't be. 500 metres is over a quarter of a mile."
but i dont understand why she should leave if shes there first. She hasnt purposely put herself in that position

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't think of a club or social venue where she wouldn't be. 500 metres is over a quarter of a mile.but i dont understand why she should leave if shes there first. She hasnt purposely put herself in that position"

Tough shit. Unless there's been a serious miscarriage of justice, she did something severe to get a restraining order issued against her. These are the consequences.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Tough shit. Unless there's been a serious miscarriage of justice, she did something severe to get a restraining order issued against her. These are the consequences."
well we dont know what she did and we dont even know if hes telling the truth. Just one side of the story.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rider, seeing as you know the situation and not allowed to be within 500 metres.... why pit yourself in a position knowing she would be there?

And if she was there first... it's YOU that should leave.

No matter what the story... you know about the exclusion zone and purposely put yourself in the situation where it would cause a scene... best way is for you to elsewhere.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"Do you avoid clubs or other events if particular people or groups are going to be there?"

Yes. Clubs where we've played with people, and they think we're a dead cert again. We're not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tough shit. Unless there's been a serious miscarriage of justice, she did something severe to get a restraining order issued against her. These are the consequences. well we dont know what she did and we dont even know if hes telling the truth. Just one side of the story. "

Hence my saying "If there's a restraining order in place". If there is, then her freedom of action is restrained and she has to leave. If not, then the whole issue is moot.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"Do you avoid clubs or other events if particular people or groups are going to be there?

Yes. Clubs where we've played with people, and they think we're a dead cert again. We're not. "

One of the reasons we no longer go to clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes we do because one couple are very vindictive indeed. Just because we didn't go to a party they had. They only wanted us to go so could give there friend a lift. We already had plans made months ahead for a concert which was over £100 each for a ticket

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No but there are a couple of people I’ll make an effort to avoid during an event. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you avoid clubs or other events if particular people or groups are going to be there?"

No chance, just laugh at them then blank them all night

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Don't avoid club's but do avoid people who have veri's from folk that we wouldn't go anywhere near.

Thanks....but no thanks.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Do you avoid clubs or other events if particular people or groups are going to be there?

No chance, just laugh at them then blank them all night"

Creating a great atmosphere. Well done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most definitely, as much as I can rise above (pardon the pun) I don’t know if others can, and I wouldn’t chance an atmosphere ruining it for me and possibly others around.there are enough clubs and events to chose another

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes ! As soon as I see my name on a list I don't go !

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

"Yes ! As soon as I see my name on a list I don't go ! "

Wise, very wise

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

It wouldn’t stop us, but there again how would we know if someone disliked us? We would like to think that we don’t upset anyone on the forums, we try to share our cake with most people and very rarely post negative comments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never not go to socials or.clubs because of people I don't like. A lot of comments so far seem to indicate there is a lot of bad feeling and bitching with folk on fab. We have never once fallen out with anyone on here - wouldn't waste energies on crap like that. However many of comments in the forums say a lot about the personalities of the folk posting

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough

Not avoid the club but avoid the person more likely, like the awful thing that was at Chams Friday.

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By *an_WoodMan
over a year ago

Stafford

Honestly not meet anyone in the swinging world who has pissed me off that badly. Of course I'm not everyone cup of tea but being civil when making small talk isn't rocket science.

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

"Not avoid the club but avoid the person more likely, like the awful thing that was at Chams Friday."

I’m intrigued, we’ve only been there once and it was a quiet night.

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough

"Not avoid the club but avoid the person more likely, like the awful thing that was at Chams Friday.

I’m intrigued, we’ve only been there once and it was a quiet night. "

Can't really say much as its against forum rules, Fridays aren't quiet, they are fabulous

but a single guy behaving like this person would have been barred and thrown out on the spot.

Takes a lot to make me feel uncomfortable, in fact only happened twice in 10 years.

So I would avoid them like the plague, a few other couples we just don't get on with, but that's just normal life, just keep out of each others ways. Considering the size of the scene the number of completely incompatible people is incredibly small.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't avoid the club, but wouldn't go out of my way to engage with the person in question once there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No I deliberately go to she if they have the balls to say it to my face rather than playing keyboard warriors.

So far no one's said a thing to me , Obe wouldn't even say hello at a social when I said hello to them. "

The right way to do it!

Troublesome ones rarely say jack-shit!

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I sometimes think the reason for guest list being published is not to see who’s going and who you want to meet but who’s going and you don’t want to meet.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

We went to a recent organised social and couldn’t believe it when we heard from a friend that a couple were badmouthing us . My wife approached the woman half who had been saying the stuff ( all untrue ) , and put her right . The armosphere was decidedly cold afterwards and we decided to leave .

Certainly won’t be going again as we do this for fun , and certainly not for shit like that !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wouldn't put me off going somewhere because a certain someone is going to be there. I don't have any grievances with anyone on here though, but I know a few have them with me, but I see that as their issue, not mine.

I would like to think they would be grown up enough not to make a scene, and either just say an odd word to be polite or completely ignore me. I'm easy going and certainly wouldn't cause a scene even if they tried to. I would simply walk away from them and talk to someone else.

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By *electableDalliancesCouple
over a year ago

leeds

All this kind of puts me off venturing into a club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Naaa clubs are ace and mostly welcoming just a very few who are stupid just like the world outside

just go I do and off too a party after a festival on Saturday night happy days...

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

"All this kind of puts me off venturing into a club

The club's are great.

Like vanilla life, you can't choose who will be in there and sure there are folk in your normal life that you don't get along with too.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Theres a girl on here that was SUPER rude to me in a club. I’d rather just ignore her. She isn’t spoiling my night for anyone.

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