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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hello all

Having been on fab a while I have met many lovely people. Quite often the subject of bi play comes up. Iam interested to find out what is the difference between bi curious to bisexual ?

I understand that everyone has different opinions but iam wondering where the line is between bi curious and bisexual.

Thanks

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

In my opinion, if it's right or wrong, bi curious is when you want to try, bi sexual is when you have tried it, liked it and want to do it again x

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By *ensualgent38Man
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh


"In my opinion, if it's right or wrong, bi curious is when you want to try, bi sexual is when you have tried it, liked it and want to do it again x"

That makes absolute sense but for me it’s a bit more complicated. I have enjoyed bi play (touching and oral) in threesomes and want to enjoy that more, but I would still say I am bi-curious rather than bi-sexual. Maybe also it’s because I would only ever want to enjoy sharing with another man where a lady is playing with us. I would never want 121 with a man alone and therefore don’t feel I am completely bisexual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In my opinion, if it's right or wrong, bi curious is when you want to try, bi sexual is when you have tried it, liked it and want to do it again x"

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"In my opinion, if it's right or wrong, bi curious is when you want to try, bi sexual is when you have tried it, liked it and want to do it again x"

In a nutshell this is how I'd see it - although would add the additional thing that bi-curious may mean you've tried it once but aren't totally sure so are waiting a while to ensure you want to go there again (and again!! ) before changing to bisexual.

I do think though that people have different individual views and there is of course a broad spectrum of activities that may come into play - for example it's often said a man is not "fully" bi until he's engaged in anal sex with another guy - which personally I'm not sure I buy into, but it's an example of some of the grey areas around the subject

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In my opinion, if it's right or wrong, bi curious is when you want to try, bi sexual is when you have tried it, liked it and want to do it again x

That makes absolute sense but for me it’s a bit more complicated. I have enjoyed bi play (touching and oral) in threesomes and want to enjoy that more, but I would still say I am bi-curious rather than bi-sexual. Maybe also it’s because I would only ever want to enjoy sharing with another man where a lady is playing with us. I would never want 121 with a man alone and therefore don’t feel I am completely bisexual."

I would never play 121 with a man, only ever as part of 3+ fun with Mrs MP. I'm down as bisexual as I'm far from curious.

I would prefer bi playful as a sexuality as that would be more accurate.

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By *ensualgent38Man
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh


"In my opinion, if it's right or wrong, bi curious is when you want to try, bi sexual is when you have tried it, liked it and want to do it again x

That makes absolute sense but for me it’s a bit more complicated. I have enjoyed bi play (touching and oral) in threesomes and want to enjoy that more, but I would still say I am bi-curious rather than bi-sexual. Maybe also it’s because I would only ever want to enjoy sharing with another man where a lady is playing with us. I would never want 121 with a man alone and therefore don’t feel I am completely bisexual.

I would never play 121 with a man, only ever as part of 3+ fun with Mrs MP. I'm down as bisexual as I'm far from curious.

I would prefer bi playful as a sexuality as that would be more accurate. "

I like bi curious or bi playful. It states a clear interest/enjoyment that can be discussed explored when you meet and play.

Establishing some boundaries but then going with the flow is damn good fun I find!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In my opinion, if it's right or wrong, bi curious is when you want to try, bi sexual is when you have tried it, liked it and want to do it again x"

Too many just make it complicated fir whatever reason. That then brings about more confusion which onlyakes it more complicated. Sometimes is an elenent of shame or denial but whichever it is many need to own it and become less confused.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In my opinion, if it's right or wrong, bi curious is when you want to try, bi sexual is when you have tried it, liked it and want to do it again x

In a nutshell this is how I'd see it - although would add the additional thing that bi-curious may mean you've tried it once but aren't totally sure so are waiting a while to ensure you want to go there again (and again!! ) before changing to bisexual.

I do think though that people have different individual views and there is of course a broad spectrum of activities that may come into play - for example it's often said a man is not "fully" bi until he's engaged in anal sex with another guy - which personally I'm not sure I buy into, but it's an example of some of the grey areas around the subject"

If you go off what you said about a guy not being fully bi until he's had anal sex with another guy, what's the difference between anal sex with a man and pegging with a woman, aside from the obvious one is a man, the other is a woman?

What difference does it make if you let a man have anal sex with you or a woman try pegging on you? They're basically the same thing.

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By *all Dark and Handsome 75Man
over a year ago

Exeter

I like to get naked with other men, play with and suck their cocks, and have anal sex; and I've done plenty of it. However! As I am solely attracted to women (ie I would never see a man in the street and be sexually attracted to him, or want to have a relationship with him), I don't even consider myself bisexual... I'm sure many people will disagree with this, but I've thought it through long and hard and I'm comfortable with just liking some cock here and there! Call me weird, it's ok..

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"In my opinion, if it's right or wrong, bi curious is when you want to try, bi sexual is when you have tried it, liked it and want to do it again x

In a nutshell this is how I'd see it - although would add the additional thing that bi-curious may mean you've tried it once but aren't totally sure so are waiting a while to ensure you want to go there again (and again!! ) before changing to bisexual.

I do think though that people have different individual views and there is of course a broad spectrum of activities that may come into play - for example it's often said a man is not "fully" bi until he's engaged in anal sex with another guy - which personally I'm not sure I buy into, but it's an example of some of the grey areas around the subject

If you go off what you said about a guy not being fully bi until he's had anal sex with another guy, what's the difference between anal sex with a man and pegging with a woman, aside from the obvious one is a man, the other is a woman?

What difference does it make if you let a man have anal sex with you or a woman try pegging on you? They're basically the same thing. "

One would make you bi the other wouldn't is the simple answer - you could use a similar analogy about oral being the same thing regardless of who was doing it.

And having experienced both they're actually quite different anyway.

Like I said I don't personally buy into the "fully" bi thing either apart from possibly as a descriptive term of my boundaries in that respect

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks guys for all your answers. It's great to get everyone's opinion on it.

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By *empting TravelsMan
over a year ago

London

I regard myself as bi-curious or hetexible. Not so much because I focus on oral pleasure but mainly because I don't have any romantic yearnings for guys. I have no doubt that its only a matter of time before I fuck a guy and to most that would probably be seen as fully bi, which by the way doesn't bother me.

However from my perspective, until I find myself having crush on another man, I'm bi-curious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello all

Having been on fab a while I have met many lovely people. Quite often the subject of bi play comes up. Iam interested to find out what is the difference between bi curious to bisexual ?

I understand that everyone has different opinions but iam wondering where the line is between bi curious and bisexual.

Thanks

"
curious suggests they haven't done it yet but don't believe that little rous if they have straight on their profile most likely they are bi

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By *xhib12Man
over a year ago

Blyth

I have bi curious on my profile. So far only ever played orally and always thought I wouldn't consider myself fully bi until I had engaged in full anal sex, although not sure if that will ever happen.

Like others have said I don't find myself physically attracted to other males, it's purely a sexual thing for me.

Not a lover of labels anyway, why do we feel the need to pigeonhole everyone?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"I have bi curious on my profile. So far only ever played orally and always thought I wouldn't consider myself fully bi until I had engaged in full anal sex, although not sure if that will ever happen.

Like others have said I don't find myself physically attracted to other males, it's purely a sexual thing for me.

Not a lover of labels anyway, why do we feel the need to pigeonhole everyone?"

I agree that in day to day terms labels are superfluous, but for the purposes of Fab they're useful in a couple of ways - firstly and most obviously as they allow us to seek others of a like mind and similar interests, secondly and this is key for me as I'm open to the idea of meeting guys one on one, it allows me to filter out those that are hiding their sexuality as I tend to think that if someone is lying about that what else are they lying about.

As others have said I don't "fancy" guys in the same way as I do women but there still has to be an attraction there, albeit on a different level.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve tried it twice (only oral) and I’m pretty sure it could happen again at some point. Really needs to involve a couple for me. I don’t see myself having 1-2-1 with males but then 12 months ago I wouldn’t have imagined any interaction with a male. I still regard myself as curious but if it happens again ( or becomes regular) then maybe I would have to change that.

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By *itguy21066Man
over a year ago

leicester

I (male Half ) class myself on here as bisexual, I have met quite a few guys in the past before meeting T in 1 on 1 situations for a quick wank / oral meet, I love to see a fit guy with a smooth chest and smooth cock, but I have say I just don’t fancy guys! So sexually bi only I reckon!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like to get naked with other men, play with and suck their cocks, and have anal sex; and I've done plenty of it. However! As I am solely attracted to women (ie I would never see a man in the street and be sexually attracted to him, or want to have a relationship with him), I don't even consider myself bisexual... I'm sure many people will disagree with this, but I've thought it through long and hard and I'm comfortable with just liking some cock here and there! Call me weird, it's ok.. "

I totally get it, not wierd at all! I would classify myself as situationaly Bi. Never looked at a guy and thought wow he's hot or cute, wouldn't meet guys one on one, the thought of dating or kissing a guy repulses me..... yet in a 3sum. If happily wank, suck a nice cock or fuck a guy, even clean up his cock and creampie.....

But outside of bi 3sums I don't consider myself to be bisexual at all....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In my opinion, if it's right or wrong, bi curious is when you want to try, bi sexual is when you have tried it, liked it and want to do it again x"
unless it's in your username then it's I've been bi for years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello all

Having been on fab a while I have met many lovely people. Quite often the subject of bi play comes up. Iam interested to find out what is the difference between bi curious to bisexual ?

I understand that everyone has different opinions but iam wondering where the line is between bi curious and bisexual.

Thanks

I think it's a spectrum and there is no line, we will change and move dependant on the situation the people and our heightened sexuality at the time.

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By *hy52Man
over a year ago

Kinross

I play with two guys , one i consider bisexual , loads of wanking ,sucking bodily contact no kissing just two guys wanting to cum , the other guy describes himself as bisexual but he wants a load of kissing hugging etc especially after cumming

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By *inkyChrissy99TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol


"I play with two guys , one i consider bisexual , loads of wanking ,sucking bodily contact no kissing just two guys wanting to cum , the other guy describes himself as bisexual but he wants a load of kissing hugging etc especially after cumming "

Thats just what two guys prefer though isn't it? Both are just as bisexual imo.

I get a mix of bisexual, and straight guys.

Straight guys are a lot more awkard after they cum.... Specially if they have been playing with my extra female bits lol

I would say you have to be at least bi curious to go with a girl like me so i guess even those aren't straight straight... Just straight lol

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By *arnsley guy100Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

I had a guy pestering g me for a blow Job meet.. Told him wasn't gayest so wasn't intrested

He was stating in his reply he wasn't gayest either but bisexual

Eh eh eh????

I'm not as bright as some other people but I get if a man's got a man's cocktail in his mouth and loving it.. That means he, s a puffta right?

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By *inkyfun2013Couple
over a year ago

lewisham

Having tick boxes like this reinforces the tendency to see "straight or bi" as a binary choice. That tendency arises in the first place from the perceived stigma of being (a bit) gay, which is still very strong in some quarters. In reality men like to do different things with other men, ranging from nothing through MMF, DP, DVP, touching cock, mutual wanking, oral, anal, fisting... And each of us could be in a different place on that spectrum on different days or with different men. So don't get too hung up on the tick boxes - they are just a first clue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Labels, Labels, but yes a ‘problem area’.

Like the bi playful idea.

But then there are degrees as discussed. Fully bi: Orally and anally bi in all areas.

Orally bi: gives and receives oral

Orally passive: receives oral only

Orally active: gives oral only

Fully Anally bi: gives and takes anal

Anally passive: receives anal only

Anally active: gives Amal only

Anally retentive: gets hung up on all the labels and agonises so much over them that the enjoyment of sex goes out of the window.

Just be precise open and honest in communication.

One thing I can guarantee guys is that if you put bi or bi curious on your profile you will be inundated with messages from guys wanting meetings despite being clear that you are only interested in bi activity with couples, that’s just the way it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well for me I've been bi curious for ever...finally had a little dabble a couple of months ago as part of a foursome but was so nervous. I thought after this I would know i could drop the "curious" bit but I definitely think I need more experience to truly decide x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As others have said, I’m happy to play fully with another Guy where a Lady is involved, but not 1 on 1, tried that, not for me. I’m also attracted, sexually, to TV/TS, which is slightly confusing, but there we are.

Also, pegging, IMO, is not a sign of being Gay or Bi. Both of these sexual states are defined by having sexual relationships with someone of the same gender, Therefore it cannot be.

Maybe, just for the sake of clarity, the Fab Gods should create a few more ‘categories’ adding, say, Bi playful for one, make a definition and then this topic would not be so confusing. It would create more ‘labels’ which is not great, but would also allow a better understanding of someone’s limits/boundaries.

It also strikes me while typing that we don’t see many threads concerning Bi Ladies and this sort of confusion. My GF says she is curious about sex with other Girls, but only orally, and not for eg, with a strap on. I expect that this is because the Girls are not so hung up as us Guys, but welcome thoughts on this.

K

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