FabSwingers.com forum: Hygiene

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How important is hygiene to you?

Let's just pretend you have a meet with someone from here. He have been chatting for ages and really clicked here and on cam. Ye met in a coffee shop with the intention of going somewhere more private afterwards. So the person shows up as planned. From afar you cant believe your luck. Even more handsome in person. Well dressed. With in ten minutes of having sat down it is apparent the person hadn't showered. What do you do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

‘Let’s have a shower together!’

Honestly, I have no idea as I’ve never been in that situation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make up an excuse and leave

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Flee. Things like make-up, cologne etc aren't going to bother me, but basic hygiene is, well, basic. (if I had an existing relationship with this person I might suggest a shower together might be fun, if it's an unusual lapse, but for a new person I don't have a base of good will to start with) To add insult to injury, I tend to put in greater effort on a first meet, and I'd feel bothered by meeting someone with my full face of make-up and meticulously shaved when they haven't even done something I consider semi-mandatory for taking the bins out.

It's not a deal breaker per se, but I do see things like "I know what soap is" on profiles here, and to be honest that puts me off too. I'm not sure why. It should go without saying?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If its just a social, just get to the end of it and then not make any plans to see them again.

If its a social with a view to play, then make my excuses and cut it short.

There's no excuse for poor personal hygiene.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This actually happened to me.

He arrived in filthy clothes, scuffy stubbled face and dirty unkempt hair. Despite his photo showing a clean well kept man.

Just to add I love beards but he was scruffy.

To matter more disgusting, he chose to eat a cake but kept spitting his crumbs at me! They kept landing on my dress and cleavage. I felt ill having to watch him mouth open slobbering whilst talking at the same time.

Never have I drank my latte as quickly as I did that day. I thanked him for turning up then left. Messaged later on he's not for me and wished him well.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This actually happened to me.

He arrived in filthy clothes, scuffy stubbled face and dirty unkempt hair. Despite his photo showing a clean well kept man.

Just to add I love beards but he was scruffy.

Never have I drank my latte as quickly as I did that day. I thanked him for turning up then left. Messaged later on he's not for me and wished him well. "

I'm not sure id have been able to finish my drink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This actually happened to me.

He arrived in filthy clothes, scuffy stubbled face and dirty unkempt hair. Despite his photo showing a clean well kept man.

Just to add I love beards but he was scruffy.

Never have I drank my latte as quickly as I did that day. I thanked him for turning up then left. Messaged later on he's not for me and wished him well.

I'm not sure id have been able to finish my drink

I'm too polite and being a single woman meeting alone, I thought it safer to not piss him off. However, yes I did actually want to leave soon as I saw him. I felt so uncomfortable. This is one reason why I insist on socials first.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"This actually happened to me.

He arrived in filthy clothes, scuffy stubbled face and dirty unkempt hair. Despite his photo showing a clean well kept man.

Just to add I love beards but he was scruffy.

Never have I drank my latte as quickly as I did that day. I thanked him for turning up then left. Messaged later on he's not for me and wished him well. "

That doesn't sound pleasant in the slightest.

Suppose in this heat people aren't going to be hugely fresh especially if you've travelled.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This actually happened to me.

He arrived in filthy clothes, scuffy stubbled face and dirty unkempt hair. Despite his photo showing a clean well kept man.

Just to add I love beards but he was scruffy.

Never have I drank my latte as quickly as I did that day. I thanked him for turning up then left. Messaged later on he's not for me and wished him well.

That doesn't sound pleasant in the slightest.

Suppose in this heat people aren't going to be hugely fresh especially if you've travelled."

He was local, so walked to Costa. As I always do when meeting, I travelled to him at my expense.

It wasn't a resent meet and as such was in the new year time so cold/mild weather.

He really had no excuses to look unwashed. Definitely no excuses to eat and speak at the same, resulting in spitting his food over me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How important is hygiene to you?

It’s every important but could your meet showered earlier in the day and with the heat got a bit sweaty ?

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"This actually happened to me.

He arrived in filthy clothes, scuffy stubbled face and dirty unkempt hair. Despite his photo showing a clean well kept man.

Just to add I love beards but he was scruffy.

Never have I drank my latte as quickly as I did that day. I thanked him for turning up then left. Messaged later on he's not for me and wished him well.

That doesn't sound pleasant in the slightest.

Suppose in this heat people aren't going to be hugely fresh especially if you've travelled.

He was local, so walked to Costa. As I always do when meeting, I travelled to him at my expense.

It wasn't a resent meet and as such was in the new year time so cold/mild weather.

He really had no excuses to look unwashed. Definitely no excuses to eat and speak at the same, resulting in spitting his food over me. "

No there was no excuse then,photo's unfortunetly don't tell the whole story to a person do they.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This actually happened to me.

He arrived in filthy clothes, scuffy stubbled face and dirty unkempt hair. Despite his photo showing a clean well kept man.

Just to add I love beards but he was scruffy.

Never have I drank my latte as quickly as I did that day. I thanked him for turning up then left. Messaged later on he's not for me and wished him well.

That doesn't sound pleasant in the slightest.

Suppose in this heat people aren't going to be hugely fresh especially if you've travelled.

He was local, so walked to Costa. As I always do when meeting, I travelled to him at my expense.

It wasn't a resent meet and as such was in the new year time so cold/mild weather.

He really had no excuses to look unwashed. Definitely no excuses to eat and speak at the same, resulting in spitting his food over me.

No there was no excuse then,photo's unfortunetly don't tell the whole story to a person do they. "

No unfortunately not

. Hopefully one day someone will invent scratch and sniff photos! Haha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d shower just before leaving...and moreso in this weather.

No excuses not to turn up being fresh...even a lunchtime social whilst at work, I’d take something so I could freshen up in the toilets.

Lack of hygiene means they haven’t made an effort...

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By *rive_me_crazyWoman
over a year ago

Calne

I had a meet with someone (not off this site) and his oral hygiene was somewhat lacking. Clearly hadn't flossed ever

Throughout the whole meal, just sat thinking "there's no way I could kiss him"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I had a meet with someone (not off this site) and his oral hygiene was somewhat lacking. Clearly hadn't flossed ever

Throughout the whole meal, just sat thinking "there's no way I could kiss him"

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

"I had a meet with someone (not off this site) and his oral hygiene was somewhat lacking. Clearly hadn't flossed ever

Throughout the whole meal, just sat thinking "there's no way I could kiss him"

That's why I'm always a bit wary of photos where the person smiles with their mouth closed. What are they hiding?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How important is hygiene to you?

personal hygiene is very important! it shows what kind of person he is. if he mentions he was in a hurry and didn't have time for one, then at least he sounds like he cares. but if they sit there and act like everything is ok, then that tells me showers are not a priority. that i am not a priority. i find an excuse and leave.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How important is hygiene to you?

So true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd make an excuse and leave!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd make an excuse and leave!"

Likewise

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"I had a meet with someone (not off this site) and his oral hygiene was somewhat lacking. Clearly hadn't flossed ever

Throughout the whole meal, just sat thinking "there's no way I could kiss him"

That's why I'm always a bit wary of photos where the person smiles with their mouth closed. What are they hiding? "

Yes me too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I had a meet with someone (not off this site) and his oral hygiene was somewhat lacking. Clearly hadn't flossed ever

Throughout the whole meal, just sat thinking "there's no way I could kiss him"

That's why I'm always a bit wary of photos where the person smiles with their mouth closed. What are they hiding?

Yes me too."

Now I'll be thinking that when looking at photos of people with their mouths closed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a meet with someone (not off this site) and his oral hygiene was somewhat lacking. Clearly hadn't flossed ever

Throughout the whole meal, just sat thinking "there's no way I could kiss him"

That's why I'm always a bit wary of photos where the person smiles with their mouth closed. What are they hiding?

Yes me too.

Now I'll be thinking that when looking at photos of people with their mouths closed

I hate smiling as have a bit of a gummy smile if I do it too much. Nothing to do with bath teeth.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I had a meet with someone (not off this site) and his oral hygiene was somewhat lacking. Clearly hadn't flossed ever

Throughout the whole meal, just sat thinking "there's no way I could kiss him"

That's why I'm always a bit wary of photos where the person smiles with their mouth closed. What are they hiding?

Yes me too.

Now I'll be thinking that when looking at photos of people with their mouths closed

I hate smiling as have a bit of a gummy smile if I do it too much. Nothing to do with bath teeth. "

Well that's different

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"I had a meet with someone (not off this site) and his oral hygiene was somewhat lacking. Clearly hadn't flossed ever

Throughout the whole meal, just sat thinking "there's no way I could kiss him"

That's why I'm always a bit wary of photos where the person smiles with their mouth closed. What are they hiding?

Yes me too.

Now I'll be thinking that when looking at photos of people with their mouths closed

I hate smiling as have a bit of a gummy smile if I do it too much. Nothing to do with bath teeth. "

Bath teeth. Wish I used emojis.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a meet with someone (not off this site) and his oral hygiene was somewhat lacking. Clearly hadn't flossed ever

Throughout the whole meal, just sat thinking "there's no way I could kiss him"

That's why I'm always a bit wary of photos where the person smiles with their mouth closed. What are they hiding?

Yes me too.

Now I'll be thinking that when looking at photos of people with their mouths closed

I hate smiling as have a bit of a gummy smile if I do it too much. Nothing to do with bath teeth.

Bath teeth. Wish I used emojis."

Oops, bad teeth

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By *rank n BettyCouple
over a year ago

Not meeting

Run for the hills, even if its just a social you want to be making a good first impression

Frank

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How important is hygiene to you?

It's a no from me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they can’t be bothered to be clean and fresh then what else can’t they be bothered with? It would be a “no” from me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hygiene is important, shower before meeting and after playing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This actually happened to me.

He arrived in filthy clothes, scuffy stubbled face and dirty unkempt hair. Despite his photo showing a clean well kept man.

Just to add I love beards but he was scruffy.

Never have I drank my latte as quickly as I did that day. I thanked him for turning up then left. Messaged later on he's not for me and wished him well.

I'm not sure id have been able to finish my drink

I agree about it being safer not to piss them off. Put your phone on silent in your pocket or bag on your lap. Then act like it vibrated a message. Say "Oh no! Really sorry I have to go, there's an issue at work/ home/ the dog died."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Make up an excuse and leave"

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always shave and shower and manscape befor a date . I like a shower or bath to be part of the foreolay when possible . This way everyone is fresh and tasty and ready to have all their naughty bits licked and sucked .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This actually happened to me.

He arrived in filthy clothes, scuffy stubbled face and dirty unkempt hair. Despite his photo showing a clean well kept man.

Just to add I love beards but he was scruffy.

Never have I drank my latte as quickly as I did that day. I thanked him for turning up then left. Messaged later on he's not for me and wished him well.

I'm not sure id have been able to finish my drink

Good idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't be too keen to do anything but I would try to make up some excuse that doesn't hurt the person feelings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats what social are for.

But even then I had surprise.

I tend to make sure that they understand how seriously I take cleanliness before meeting for sex !

#youknowwhoyouare

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m always so paranoid about any smells that I’d shower before a meet and then freshen up just before doing anything.

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

I think OP you’ve answered your own question. Make your excuses and leave, handsome or not, hygiene has to be a big consideration.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

No excuses for body odour. I carry deodorant with me. Can easily nip in some where and apply some.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thats what social are for.

But even then I had surprise.

I tend to make sure that they understand how seriously I take cleanliness before meeting for sex !

#youknowwhoyouare "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This actually happened to me.

He arrived in filthy clothes, scuffy stubbled face and dirty unkempt hair. Despite his photo showing a clean well kept man.

Just to add I love beards but he was scruffy.

Never have I drank my latte as quickly as I did that day. I thanked him for turning up then left. Messaged later on he's not for me and wished him well. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This actually happened to me.

He arrived in filthy clothes, scuffy stubbled face and dirty unkempt hair. Despite his photo showing a clean well kept man.

Just to add I love beards but he was scruffy.

Never have I drank my latte as quickly as I did that day. I thanked him for turning up then left. Messaged later on he's not for me and wished him well.

That doesn't sound pleasant in the slightest.

Suppose in this heat people aren't going to be hugely fresh especially if you've travelled.

He was local, so walked to Costa. As I always do when meeting, I travelled to him at my expense.

It wasn't a resent meet and as such was in the new year time so cold/mild weather.

He really had no excuses to look unwashed. Definitely no excuses to eat and speak at the same, resulting in spitting his food over me.

No there was no excuse then,photo's unfortunetly don't tell the whole story to a person do they.

No unfortunately not

. Hopefully one day someone will invent scratch and sniff photos! Haha."

Scratch n sniff...that's hilarious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, I would of persevered until the end of my coffee and then messsagrd him once I was home to say I wouldn't be meeting him again.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This actually happened to me.

He arrived in filthy clothes, scuffy stubbled face and dirty unkempt hair. Despite his photo showing a clean well kept man.

Just to add I love beards but he was scruffy.

Never have I drank my latte as quickly as I did that day. I thanked him for turning up then left. Messaged later on he's not for me and wished him well.

That doesn't sound pleasant in the slightest.

Suppose in this heat people aren't going to be hugely fresh especially if you've travelled.

He was local, so walked to Costa. As I always do when meeting, I travelled to him at my expense.

It wasn't a resent meet and as such was in the new year time so cold/mild weather.

He really had no excuses to look unwashed. Definitely no excuses to eat and speak at the same, resulting in spitting his food over me.

No there was no excuse then,photo's unfortunetly don't tell the whole story to a person do they.

No unfortunately not

. Hopefully one day someone will invent scratch and sniff photos! Haha.

Scratch n sniff...that's hilarious

They be worth millions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This actually happened to me.

He arrived in filthy clothes, scuffy stubbled face and dirty unkempt hair. Despite his photo showing a clean well kept man.

Just to add I love beards but he was scruffy.

Never have I drank my latte as quickly as I did that day. I thanked him for turning up then left. Messaged later on he's not for me and wished him well.

That doesn't sound pleasant in the slightest.

Suppose in this heat people aren't going to be hugely fresh especially if you've travelled.

He was local, so walked to Costa. As I always do when meeting, I travelled to him at my expense.

It wasn't a resent meet and as such was in the new year time so cold/mild weather.

He really had no excuses to look unwashed. Definitely no excuses to eat and speak at the same, resulting in spitting his food over me.

No there was no excuse then,photo's unfortunetly don't tell the whole story to a person do they.

No unfortunately not

. Hopefully one day someone will invent scratch and sniff photos! Haha.

Scratch n sniff...that's hilarious

They be worth millions

You need to approach Dragons Den, now dare you say the reasons why you're inventing it...well you see... I'm on an internet site meeting random people for horny gangbangs and orgies, we need to sniff them out first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personal hygiene is huge, it's definitely a deal breaker.

I would have to say something as it is disrespectful to show up not looking and smelling your best, even if it's just a social. My OCD would flare up and I'd have to leave

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By *illyjohnyCouple
over a year ago

brighton

"How important is hygiene to you?

tell them to shower or no play

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"I had a meet with someone (not off this site) and his oral hygiene was somewhat lacking. Clearly hadn't flossed ever

Throughout the whole meal, just sat thinking "there's no way I could kiss him"

Same happened to me years ago, we got on really well, had a great laugh but the plaque and state of his teeth were shocking.

I just couldn’t.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If its a smell of fresh sweat, and the weather is like its been the past few days, wouldnt mind. If its the smell of BO, then no. Cant do it. It makes me physically gag. Even worse if you can smell a full can of lynx on them, meaning they know they smell, and still didnt make an effort

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By *icplshropsCouple
over a year ago

Rock

"This actually happened to me.

He arrived in filthy clothes, scuffy stubbled face and dirty unkempt hair. Despite his photo showing a clean well kept man.

Just to add I love beards but he was scruffy.

Never have I drank my latte as quickly as I did that day. I thanked him for turning up then left. Messaged later on he's not for me and wished him well.

That doesn't sound pleasant in the slightest.

Suppose in this heat people aren't going to be hugely fresh especially if you've travelled.

He was local, so walked to Costa. As I always do when meeting, I travelled to him at my expense.

It wasn't a resent meet and as such was in the new year time so cold/mild weather.

He really had no excuses to look unwashed. Definitely no excuses to eat and speak at the same, resulting in spitting his food over me.

No there was no excuse then,photo's unfortunetly don't tell the whole story to a person do they.

No unfortunately not

. Hopefully one day someone will invent scratch and sniff photos! Haha.

Scratch n sniff...that's hilarious

Reminds me of this scratch and sniff t-shirts for children back in the 70s.

OP: that’s the benefit of socials!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This actually happened to me.

He arrived in filthy clothes, scuffy stubbled face and dirty unkempt hair. Despite his photo showing a clean well kept man.

Just to add I love beards but he was scruffy.

Never have I drank my latte as quickly as I did that day. I thanked him for turning up then left. Messaged later on he's not for me and wished him well.

That doesn't sound pleasant in the slightest.

Suppose in this heat people aren't going to be hugely fresh especially if you've travelled.

He was local, so walked to Costa. As I always do when meeting, I travelled to him at my expense.

It wasn't a resent meet and as such was in the new year time so cold/mild weather.

He really had no excuses to look unwashed. Definitely no excuses to eat and speak at the same, resulting in spitting his food over me.

No there was no excuse then,photo's unfortunetly don't tell the whole story to a person do they.

No unfortunately not

. Hopefully one day someone will invent scratch and sniff photos! Haha.

Scratch n sniff...that's hilarious

Reminds me of this scratch and sniff t-shirts for children back in the 70s.

OP: that’s the benefit of socials!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read through this thread and was not expecting someone to say hygiene wasn’t important to them....

I should change my name to Nostradamus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess I have been lucky as all my meets have been good but a shower together to start gets us in the mood soaping down a lady as I kiss her ...go on then lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be gone you filthy wretch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How important is hygiene to you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone looks scruffy how do you know that they are actually dirty? I am never clean shaven as I keep a small beard or at very least some stubble, my hair is messed up just out of bed look and my dress sense is casual / smart casual, I shower every day and brush my teeth twice or sometimes three times a day but people would still look at me and say im a scruff?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I read through this thread and was not expecting someone to say hygiene wasn’t important to them....

I should change my name to Nostradamus "

What that is crazy! They could be the smartest,sexiest,handsome and have a gsoh but if they stink and can tell they’ve not showered or at least had a wash they can keep away from me! I wouldn’t show up for a meet without get cleaned up so I’d expect the other party to do the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a meet with someone (not off this site) and his oral hygiene was somewhat lacking. Clearly hadn't flossed ever

Throughout the whole meal, just sat thinking "there's no way I could kiss him"

Same happened to me years ago, we got on really well, had a great laugh but the plaque and state of his teeth were shocking.

I just couldn’t."

I can’t believe the amount of people who seemingly don’t floss or even brush their teeth!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd ask if he had come straight from work or if there was a deodorant shortage in his village.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone looks scruffy how do you know that they are actually dirty? I am never clean shaven as I keep a small beard or at very least some stubble, my hair is messed up just out of bed look and my dress sense is casual / smart casual, I shower every day and brush my teeth twice or sometimes three times a day but people would still look at me and say im a scruff?"

Their skin has a not washed look about it and they smell bad.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Different definition of scruffy. Almost anyone can tell the difference between styled like that (which is a good look usually) and unkempt/ unwashed. And not just because of the smell. Clean people smell like toiletries or toothpaste/ mouthwash usually. Maybe a very small amount of musk on top permitted in this sort of weather. Dirty people... don't, including if they spray stuff over the top to try to cover it up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

His that dirty, he uses his unwashed knob as a air freshener

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By *lumbballsMan
over a year ago

helston

Ex gf I used to sniff her thongs in front of her to wind up her about it,until the day after work she took thong off and I realised she had a shit and work and hadn't wiped properly! They were dropped immediately but not before telling her the importance and wiping her bum properly,

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over a year ago

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"This actually happened to me.

He arrived in filthy clothes, scuffy stubbled face and dirty unkempt hair. Despite his photo showing a clean well kept man.

Just to add I love beards but he was scruffy.

Never have I drank my latte as quickly as I did that day. I thanked him for turning up then left. Messaged later on he's not for me and wished him well.

That doesn't sound pleasant in the slightest.

Suppose in this heat people aren't going to be hugely fresh especially if you've travelled.

He was local, so walked to Costa. As I always do when meeting, I travelled to him at my expense.

It wasn't a resent meet and as such was in the new year time so cold/mild weather.

He really had no excuses to look unwashed. Definitely no excuses to eat and speak at the same, resulting in spitting his food over me.

No there was no excuse then,photo's unfortunetly don't tell the whole story to a person do they.

No unfortunately not

. Hopefully one day someone will invent scratch and sniff photos! Haha.

Scratch n sniff...that's hilarious

Reminds me of this scratch and sniff t-shirts for children back in the 70s.

OP: that’s the benefit of socials!

Oh I remember those. My t-shirt had a strawberry on it. Not sure I’d want boy bits on there

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over a year ago

"Ex gf I used to sniff her thongs in front of her to wind up her about it,until the day after work she took thong off and I realised she had a shit and work and hadn't wiped properly! They were dropped immediately but not before telling her the importance and wiping her bum properly,"

Nearly threw up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A little off subject but i carnt help but look past the mess of some others houses in photos etc i find that rather ofputting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Beautiful ladies on here, just common sense and respect to come washed and clean to a meet.

Why would you not show that respect to the person you are meeting.

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over a year ago

I have to say that how someone smells plays a big part in my reaction to them. Hygiene is, as so many here have rightly said, just basic. And not that difficult

Phil

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over a year ago

It’s just disgusting and no need for it really- just makes you wonder what they’re like in their everyday life! Unless I’m cleaning up I get changed if I end up wearing my coffee or get anything down my clothes and wouldn’t go out in scruffs or dirty clothes

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over a year ago

I wash my self at least 3 times a year and never leave my underwear on for more then a month so I'm good

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over a year ago

"I wash my self at least 3 times a year and never leave my underwear on for more then a month so I'm good"

Bet you turn your underwear inside out as well so You can wear them twice as long

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

"If they can’t be bothered to be clean and fresh then what else can’t they be bothered with? It would be a “no” from me."

This. I don't expect formal wear or a ball gown but zero excuse for being manky.

And big no to bad teeth too. Met a few folks for a social I've had to turn down due to grotty nashers

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"I wash my self at least 3 times a year and never leave my underwear on for more then a month so I'm good

Bet you turn your underwear inside out as well so You can wear them twice as long

How did u know

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over a year ago

"I wash my self at least 3 times a year and never leave my underwear on for more then a month so I'm good

Bet you turn your underwear inside out as well so You can wear them twice as long

How did u know"

I guessed

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"I wash my self at least 3 times a year and never leave my underwear on for more then a month so I'm good

Bet you turn your underwear inside out as well so You can wear them twice as long

How did u know

Cool but I do sometimes wash my undwer instead of putting a dirty pair back o

I guessed

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"I wash my self at least 3 times a year and never leave my underwear on for more then a month so I'm good

Bet you turn your underwear inside out as well so You can wear them twice as long

How did u know

Cool but I do sometimes wash my undwer instead of putting a dirty pair back o

Amazing I’m impressed

I guessed

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over a year ago

I have to say, it's just not acceptable and even less so as it is the first impression the person you're meeting has of you.

I have to say it is all down to a lack of awareness and if someone isn't aware, can you be bothered to educate them?

I'm relieved to hear that you thought of your safety first and foremost so left without reason so as not to provoke a situation.

Not standing in judgement but more of an assessment - if someone isn't willing to put the effort in, chances are the sex will be lacking in effort also. Not that it would get to that...

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over a year ago

In this lifestyle good hygiene is essential, we always shower or bath before sex and our lovers do as well.

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