FabSwingers.com forum: Time wasters and fake profiles

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi there friends, i have recently started to get frustrated with this site, mainly because of the number of time wasters and fake profiles on here, i.e men pretending to be female and couples, i have had the misspleasure of dealing with at least 6 of these jokers in the past week. I think there should be some sort of membership system in place say£20 for the year for members.

This would discourage the fake p

ies and stop time wasters, i believe that they shud put members who have been on over 4months and a few yrs on automatic free membership and any more newbies charge them £20 membership fee. This i feel is the only way that will get rid of the jokers and fake profiles on here.

Mikex

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

If we take an interest in someone / vice versa, we always request C2C verification first, this works for us sorting out the fakes.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

It won't make one iota of difference,its exactly the same on pay sites

Its one of the pitfalls of trying to meet people through the internet

You have to sift through lots of jokers,fakes and wannabes before you find the real thing,its worth it when you do though because they are out there

Maybe your vetting proceedure needs a bit of looking at to avoid it keep happening to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you get it on all the pay sites as said above and it doesn't seem to discourage them but there are plenty of lovely people on here and dont think they should be discouraged from joining a fabulous site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And you think 20 quid would rid us of time wasters ?

Don't be silly, we were on a site which charged twice that much and there were more time wasters and wannabes there than you could shake a stick at.

It goes with the territory I'm afraid and no amount of huffing and puffing will make a jot of difference.

I'd like to guess that this site has a similar percentage of so called 'time wasters' 'fakes' 'chancers', call them what you will, as any other site of it's type.

In fact we've had a much better success rate on this site in just over 12 months than we did in over 2 1/2 years on the other site - It was Local Swingers in case you were curious ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And you think 20 quid would rid us of time wasters ?

Don't be silly, we were on a site which charged twice that much and there were more time wasters and wannabes there than you could shake a stick at.

It goes with the territory I'm afraid and no amount of huffing and puffing will make a jot of difference.

I'd like to guess that this site has a similar percentage of so called 'time wasters' 'fakes' 'chancers', call them what you will, as any other site of it's type.

In fact we've had a much better success rate on this site in just over 12 months than we did in over 2 1/2 years on the other site - It was Local Swingers in case you were curious .."

Too right we actually met on that site - it was absolutetly full of merchant bankers and the rest were timewasters too lol - consider ourselves very lucky to be off it

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

You say you've dealt with 6 of these kokers in the last week? Maybe be a bit more selective about who you're talking to - thats a lot in a week.

For someone who's only been here for 4 months i'd say you've done better than most single guys...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i know about local swingers and i am on swing heaven which i dont like because it seems to be talk, i was foolish enough to pay£45 for membership 4weeks ago and wish i hadnt grr ,as im realitively new to this im learningx

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"i know about local swingers and i am on swing heaven which i dont like because it seems to be talk, i was foolish enough to pay£45 for membership 4weeks ago and wish i hadnt grr ,as im realitively new to this im learningx"

Have you started a thread on SH as well saying the same thing.......You have £45 worth of moan to get off ya chest,id make the most of it

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By *imfromGlasgowMan
over a year ago

er...guess

Nothing will rid this, or any site, of fakes and timewasters so there's no point in trying (or moaning about it for that matter).

To save your own time and frustration stick to members who've been verified by others by meeting in person AND photo verified via this site AND who are gold or silver site members.

It ain't foolproof by any means but it makes things a bit easier.

Good luck and nil desperandum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Local Swingers is nothing more than a cash cow these days, me and hubby left there a while ago now not so much because of the timewasters but because of certain people on there, because they are paying to be on a swingers site some of them seem to treat it as there own personal site so far up their own asses is almost anal ffs but as the revenue seems likes its starting to dry up in there some of the couples from there are starting to look elsewhere ie sites like this one who dont charge, ie here looking for the next notch on the bedpost and un-fortunately for me when that day comes i will be off to find pastures new perhaps go back to the days of chucking the keys in a glass bowl and hoping for the best

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By *ibertinesCouple
over a year ago

Cupar

For someone who's only been here for 4 months i'd say you've done better than most single guys..."

Bloody right - takes some guys months to get their first meat.

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

For someone who's only been here for 4 months i'd say you've done better than most single guys...

Bloody right - takes some guys months to get their first meat."

And by regarding them as "meat" many guys never get a "meet"!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It won't make one iota of difference,its exactly the same on pay sites

Its one of the pitfalls of trying to meet people through the internet

You have to sift through lots of jokers,fakes and wannabes before you find the real thing,its worth it when you do though because they are out there

Maybe your vetting proceedure needs a bit of looking at to avoid it keep happening to you

Totally agree it's up to you to find out what vetting process works for you - Timewasters don't always want to put the effort in before meeting..........

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By *isterPepperMan
over a year ago

Central Swindon

" i believe that they shud put members who have been on over 4months and a few yrs on automatic free membership and any more newbies charge them £20 membership fee. This i feel is the only way that will get rid of the jokers and fake profiles on here. Mikex"
Hmm, 4 months eh? I wonder where you got that rather specific timeframe from...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what happened to the old fashioned thing of chatting to ladies in a pub and going home for sex..

or is it...

some think .. join a swingers site, they all gagging for cock and I am gonna have a field day...

be back later..... gonna go round tesco and smile and say ' you want cock ' to every customer... be easier than this blooming site lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"what happened to the old fashioned thing of chatting to ladies in a pub and going home for sex..

or is it...

some think .. join a swingers site, they all gagging for cock and I am gonna have a field day...

be back later..... gonna go round tesco and smile and say ' you want cock ' to every customer... be easier than this blooming site lol

lol, i like that , yr forgiven for being a bb fan

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Hi there friends, i have recently started to get frustrated with this site, mainly because of the number of time wasters and fake profiles on here, i.e men pretending to be female and couples, i have had the misspleasure of dealing with at least 6 of these jokers in the past week. I think there should be some sort of membership system in place say£20 for the year for members.

This would discourage the fake p

Mikex"

okay.... this is going to sound really harsh...

When i read this type of thread I keep thinking "well how are they going about using the site?"....

if you have had 6 meets with regards to timewasters... and then been on SH, and had trouble with timewasters..... then what is the common denominater??

it could be you....

this and other sites do give you the tools to make it work for you however if you don't use them to your best advantage, with a bit of common sense added in, then the only person who is the blame is the one you stare at at the mirror...

we all have timewasters from time to time... it's a occupational hazard in what we do... but if you are having multiple incidences of this, then shouldn't something be going off in your head or something, or something saying "hang on, this is not right"....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"what happened to the old fashioned thing of chatting to ladies in a pub and going home for sex..

or is it...

some think .. join a swingers site, they all gagging for cock and I am gonna have a field day...

be back later..... gonna go round tesco and smile and say ' you want cock ' to every customer... be easier than this blooming site lol

lol, i like that , yr forgiven for being a bb fan

you sweet talker you xxxxx aye ok .. yu pulled me xxx

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By *_jkCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

We started our swing fun on local and had a great time there, however I doubt if weve even logged on in the last 4 months. The local side of it is non existent in Scotland, and to be honest have met more real couples on here.

Yep there are always going to be timewasters as there are a lot of people who have fantasies they have no intention of carrying out but are happy to lead others on to feed same fantasies.

We feel comfortable on here however and you just have to take the disapointments on the chin so to speak

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

This would discourage the fake p

Mikex"

Mike you daft fucker you can't afford it.lol

Just filter them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think what Fabio says is true but only to a point. I think alot of people on here and other sites are timewasters and there are alot of people who are not. However, i do think some people shift from being genuine to a timewaster to genuine to a timewaster making the whole who is a timewaster a grey issue.

For instance, i was recently contacted by two attractive women...one who lives in my own town and one from Gloucester who emailed me to say hello and that they wanted to chat and meet up. Both were new to fabswingers, they wanted to meet me and i wanted to meet them so i put lots of effort in; i sent emails, tried to arrange to chat on the phone or msn and tried to eventually arrange to meet and make good friends.

However, as usual on here single females are bombarded with emails and get lots of attention and because of this attention being given to these two women i may as well have been talking to the wall for all the interest they then showed me a few days later. I got the occasional one liner reply to any message i sent and had to eventually ask if they were still interested where one decided to then tell me she doesn't meet anyone from the same town (which is something she neglected to mention when she got in touch and said she wanted to meet) and the other one became a hit on the chatrooms and had a queue forming to meet her that her reply to me asking if she still wanted to meet was to block me without her even telling me she was no longer interested.

They have since met with alot of men and are genuine to a point, however to me they are also timewasters. Yeah, they have the right to change their mind but if so i do expect to be given some courtesy and told about it, especially when it was them who contacted me. I put time and effort trying to develop a friendship and arrange a meet with these women only to then be met with rudeness and ignorance when they become popular.

So the op has a right to be annoyed and state his mind as it's not just him having a good old whinge. Remember even the most genuine people can waste someone elses time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must become a detective because I can generally spot them a mile away on here now, and as someone else has said, I have also done well in the short time I have been on the site.

I think if you actually read profiles and try to understand what the person writing it is thinking, you can tell who is real and who is fake.

Just remember though, they aren't timewasters OR fakes, just because they don't happen to meet you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have paid memberships... On other sites (reminds us we must look and see if we have mail sometime lol)

Can say 100% for sure so far to date we have met the nisest most genuine people and had less problems on this site than anywhere else....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oppps Nicest lol... we can spell, mostly lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oppps Nicest lol... we can spell, mostly lol.

Oppps? Liquid Sunday Lunch perchance?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Indeed, this site was recommended to us a while ago and although we have had some success on some sites, this site is by far the best, we have met some lovely people on here, and there are a lot of genuine and real people, very friendly and helpful too.

We have met most people on here. Timewasters we have encountered from time to time ,but sod em there just being pathetic. I agree with most on here, its how you go about talking to people, what you say to them and what thier profile says and so on..we usually ask to speak on the phone sooner than later with whoever we are likely to meet.

good luck keep trying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think what Fabio says is true but only to a point. I think alot of people on here and other sites are timewasters and there are alot of people who are not. However, i do think some people shift from being genuine to a timewaster to genuine to a timewaster making the whole who is a timewaster a grey issue.

So the op has a right to be annoyed and state his mind as it's not just him having a good old whinge. Remember even the most genuine people can waste someone elses time! "

hey gothica, welcome back on the forums

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By *imncarolCouple
over a year ago

putney

we just had another fake couple tonight sunday 23

said on there way here then nothing never text or called and wouldnt answe there phone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are timewasters, fakes, wannabees and ignorant, bad mannered people on all sites whether you pay or not.

Over the years we have been on many sites, Swing2us, Dirty Davids, Melanies, Local Swingers, Swinging Heaven, SDC (swingers europe) and here, we've had success on all except Swinging Heaven. Swing2us and Local Swingers probably having been the best in thier time and this is the best at present. In our experience all sites get better and better until they reach the top of ther cycle and then fall off, our theory for this is, swingers being naturally friendly, all the genuine swingers recomend to their friends a site and success for all rises, but alas the not so benuine also here and they arrive, the site then hits its peek, goes over the top and goes downhill and the cycle repeats.

Just a Theory

K&T xx xx

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

K has got the 'interogation' process down to a fine are now 3 questions. If we don't get a reply we know the nail has been hit right on the head lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We just ask to speak to the fem... Seems simple enough so far.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We just ask to speak to the fem... Seems simple enough so far.

Rather sexist of you lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We just ask to speak to the fem... Seems simple enough so far.

Rather sexist of you lol xx

Blokes hog the phone... When the woman comes on and still wants to meet up.. we know they are daft enough lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Les does all the real talking lol im shy xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In Tesco watch out for the June, easy to spot she goes with MMFMM anklet on. Always comes home n claims shopping boring n nobody ever comes up n says 'hi fancy some cock '.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In Tesco watch out for the June, easy to spot she goes with MMFMM anklet on. Always comes home n claims shopping boring n nobody ever comes up n says 'hi fancy some cock '.

maybe pin it to the errrrrrrr Chest????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol an anklet on the chest

Got to admit that sounds like a broach

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was on LS and had a good time there, but eventually tailed off, was recommended this site by a friend and has been mainly good so far! Obviously different for me as a single female, but still get some time wasters!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"lol an anklet on the chest

Got to admit that sounds like a broach

All I was suggesting is it may get noticed more... I'm not a jeweller lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All i was stating was the purpose of an anklet

Not a jeweller either just enjoy a flirt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All i was stating was the purpose of an anklet

Not a jeweller either just enjoy a flirt

Well... sorry to have broached the subject then pmsl...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"what happened to the old fashioned thing of chatting to ladies in a pub and going home for sex..

or is it...

some think .. join a swingers site, they all gagging for cock and I am gonna have a field day...

be back later..... gonna go round tesco and smile and say ' you want cock ' to every customer... be easier than this blooming site lol

I waited in tesco all day....and nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have been lucky and met some lovely people on here, but i wouldnt knock local swingers either as we have had lots of nice meets from that site as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"what happened to the old fashioned thing of chatting to ladies in a pub and going home for sex..

or is it...

some think .. join a swingers site, they all gagging for cock and I am gonna have a field day...

be back later..... gonna go round tesco and smile and say ' you want cock ' to every customer... be easier than this blooming site lol

I waited in tesco all day....and nothing

I don't go up the same aisle twice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"what happened to the old fashioned thing of chatting to ladies in a pub and going home for sex..

or is it...

some think .. join a swingers site, they all gagging for cock and I am gonna have a field day...

be back later..... gonna go round tesco and smile and say ' you want cock ' to every customer... be easier than this blooming site lol

I waited in tesco all day....and nothing

I don't go up the same aisle twice

PMSL!!!!! and there was me looking out for ur mince

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"what happened to the old fashioned thing of chatting to ladies in a pub and going home for sex..

or is it...

some think .. join a swingers site, they all gagging for cock and I am gonna have a field day...

be back later..... gonna go round tesco and smile and say ' you want cock ' to every customer... be easier than this blooming site lol

I waited in tesco all day....and nothing

I don't go up the same aisle twice

PMSL!!!!! and there was me looking out for ur mince

Stu it's not mince... it's a prime fillit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"what happened to the old fashioned thing of chatting to ladies in a pub and going home for sex..

or is it...

some think .. join a swingers site, they all gagging for cock and I am gonna have a field day...

be back later..... gonna go round tesco and smile and say ' you want cock ' to every customer... be easier than this blooming site lol

I waited in tesco all day....and nothing

I don't go up the same aisle twice

PMSL!!!!! and there was me looking out for ur mince

Stu it's not mince... it's a prime fillit

You aint seen him walking round tesco

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"what happened to the old fashioned thing of chatting to ladies in a pub and going home for sex..

or is it...

some think .. join a swingers site, they all gagging for cock and I am gonna have a field day...

be back later..... gonna go round tesco and smile and say ' you want cock ' to every customer... be easier than this blooming site lol

I waited in tesco all day....and nothing

I don't go up the same aisle twice

PMSL!!!!! and there was me looking out for ur mince

Stu it's not mince... it's a prime fillit

You aint seen him walking round tesco

I seen him fillit though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"what happened to the old fashioned thing of chatting to ladies in a pub and going home for sex..

or is it...

some think .. join a swingers site, they all gagging for cock and I am gonna have a field day...

be back later..... gonna go round tesco and smile and say ' you want cock ' to every customer... be easier than this blooming site lol

I waited in tesco all day....and nothing

I don't go up the same aisle twice

PMSL!!!!! and there was me looking out for ur mince

Stu it's not mince... it's a prime fillit

You aint seen him walking round tesco

I seen him fillit though

lol...u too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"what happened to the old fashioned thing of chatting to ladies in a pub and going home for sex..

or is it...

some think .. join a swingers site, they all gagging for cock and I am gonna have a field day...

be back later..... gonna go round tesco and smile and say ' you want cock ' to every customer... be easier than this blooming site lol

I waited in tesco all day....and nothing

I don't go up the same aisle twice

PMSL!!!!! and there was me looking out for ur mince

Stu it's not mince... it's a prime fillit

You aint seen him walking round tesco

I seen him fillit though

lol...u too

me and my fillet gets around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fillet here

I fillet there

I fillet everywhere ......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I fillet here

I fillet there

I fillet everywhere ...... "

Stone me....it's the scarlet pimp fillet

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