FabSwingers.com forum: Clubs as a single male

By *anderer2018 OP Man
over a year ago

Bangkok

This may have been already answered or be obvious to some people. I've never been to a club but whenever I do look at one it always seems to be really expensive as a single male.

I do understand why this is but my question is this. Do single males join up with single fems to avoid these costs and just pay the couples price?

Sorry if I haven't worded it very well!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i get loads and i mean loads of messages from guys asking me to go to clubs with them

I always say no tho because i want someone to meet me because they are interested in me on a personal level rather than a cheap entry ticket into a club

ive done it in the past where guys have asked me to go to club and buggered off and ignored me all night, one guy had arranged to meet a couple there and only wanted me to get him in, soon as we got changed he buggered off with the couple without even saying a word to me, which i thought was pig ignorant, so because of these experiences i no longer allow men to use me to gain club entry, now i arrange to meet them in there and if they wont then that just goes to show they arnt bothered about me so why go in with them?

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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago

near bury st edmunds

Well of course theres nothing to stop it happening, but i can't say i have seen it. I have seen FB's or join as a couple. But the problem with what you are suggesting is that they would have to go with the same single Fem every time they went, which would sort of make them a couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't think us singles should be worring about a little expense really. Makes us seem a bit cheap. Try to see the extra as a contribution to the cause. And if that bit of creeping doesn't get me a meet, what will.? Though it is my honest view.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im sorta split, i like to have my own choice of who i play with,how long i can stay.but its nice to be with a women for couple stuff...if they dont mind playing with singles m/f wise...i dont say fuckbud

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with naughtynymphos comments

I like to go as a single female on my own terms not to be used to get in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well as a couple we take now and again a single with us . But its one we know and have meet before as stay with us in hotel too x We make a weekend of it .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well of course theres nothing to stop it happening, but i can't say i have seen it. I have seen FB's or join as a couple. But the problem with what you are suggesting is that they would have to go with the same single Fem every time they went, which would sort of make them a couple."

not always, lots of clubs dont have couples membership f eesand are happy for you to take someone different every time

ive been to chams with loads of single guys in the past, never had to join as a couple and never had any problems taking someone else the next time

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By *likeVKblindsMan
over a year ago

Limehouse

I don't bother with clubs in London as there far to exerburant to go into. I honestly think there a rip off for single males, but in some reguards I understand a possible reason as to why it's so expensive. There are a lot more Single males in london then derby so to make sure only the best single males can get in (and to reduce the amount that can get in) they charge a lot. If that isn't the reason then in my opnion Clubs have no buisness charging so much. In derby entry to the attic for a single male was £20 that's why I was kinda shocked at reading £60 entrance fee's at some clubs; as far as I can tell, only 4 clubs are reasnably priced, sweet wednesdays, stunners, the little yellow house and one other I can't remmeber the name of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i get loads and i mean loads of messages from guys asking me to go to clubs with them

I always say no tho because i want someone to meet me because they are interested in me on a personal level rather than a cheap entry ticket into a club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless your going as the same two each time most seem to require a new couples account for each person so membership for each person you couple with.

seems simpler to have a single mail membership except for the fact that only gets you in on certain nights

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I'm happy to join as a couple as my local club doesn't charge for couples membership and seems to be fine with me doing it. However, I won't do it for any guy who asks. If I know the guy and think he'd enjoy a club then thats fine, whereas someone just messaging me cold will probably get a no reply.

I also don't mind if the guy wants to go off and play as thats exactly what I would want to do. However I expect the first shag!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't bother with clubs in London as there far to exerburant to go into. I honestly think there a rip off for single males, but in some reguards I understand a possible reason as to why it's so expensive. There are a lot more Single males in london then derby so to make sure only the best single males can get in "

the best single male?

i assum your measuring someones worth on how much money they have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" However I expect the first shag!

i think thats a reasonable request

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By *nowwhite14Man
over a year ago

northampton

Is it legal under the sexual discrimination act to charge someone more based on their gender? Personally I believe its about value for money, if I think its value for money then what others pay is relatively immaterial.

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

"Is it legal under the sexual discrimination act to charge someone more based on their gender? Personally I believe its about value for money, if I think its value for money then what others pay is relatively immaterial."

Uh-oh you've only gone and opened up a can of worms with that post!

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By *anderer2018 OP Man
over a year ago

Bangkok

Pretty much split opinions pretty much what I thought I'd get!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty much split opinions pretty much what I thought I'd get! "

Its more about what you expect, what you are looking for and if your imagination proves you totally wrong about clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

LOL are you brave enough to stand up in court and state " this swingers club is sexist as its charging males more than females, good luck if you are lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

LOL are you brave enough to stand up in court and state " this swingers club is sexist as its charging males more than females, good luck if you are lol"

this could be interesting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think when it comes to clubs they don't want single guys but they want the money.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think when it comes to clubs they don't want single guys but they want the money."

its not single men with respect its the ones who spoil it dont understand the word No and they spoil it

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock

Yes its a bit of a rip off in my opinion. The fact that a single male has to pay over and above the admission rates for everyone else seems a bit sleazy to me. But they do it for their reasons and because they can.

If I go to a club it is with someone I have arranged it with beforehand and we go as a couple, play with whoever we like but usually starting with each other and leave as a couple. That way I am going with someone I know I like and get on with and don't have to pay over the odds.

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By *aughtydesiresCouple
over a year ago

North West

Well .. we can for sure say that everywhere in Europe it more expensive for single men as it is for couple or single women. EX: In Italy it is around 35-40 Euro for couples same amount for single fem and about 250 Euro for single men. Also in Austria, Germany or Holland it is more expensive for single men; There the prices are around 45 Euro for couple, 10 Euro for single women and 75 - 80 euro for single men (it is also true that, in Austria, Germany or Holland, in those money you have all inclusive: warm and cold food, drinks (wine, beer, brandy, coffee, soft drinks, water, etc.), sweet deserts and other snacks, condoms in every room, and of course access to all facilities. Same story regarding the prices in France, Spain or in clubs across the east European countries (Poland, Czech Republic, Slovakia, Hungary, Romania, Bulgaria etc). Of course are some clubs there more exclusive like fun4two in Holland, open only for couples and single women, or closed clubs open just for members with different rules.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"This may have been already answered or be obvious to some people. I've never been to a club but whenever I do look at one it always seems to be really expensive as a single male.

I do understand why this is but my question is this. Do single males join up with single fems to avoid these costs and just pay the couples price?

Sorry if I haven't worded it very well!"

It happens,but i would only do it with a mate,i can get into a club free or for a fiver,i'm not going to pay more so a stranger saves money.Plus if you dont know the guy,they might get possessive once you get inside.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The trouble with clubs charging single guys more is that there will always be a few (and at certain places a lot!)morons who the think they are automatically entitled to get a 'return on their investment'! Personally i've often taken girls i've met previously, not to avoid additional expense - but because i'd hoped they'd enjoy the experience and I could introduce them to friends! Plus there's still plenty of places that don't have the dreaded and 'required' annual membership fees - so why not try them, as if you go and don't enjoy the venue - you're not out of pocket!

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"I think when it comes to clubs they don't want single guys but they want the money.

its not single men with respect its the ones who spoil it dont understand the word No and they spoil it"

We personally like clubs with single guys - we've tried couples nights a few times and it's just not as much fun.

The price is a supply and demand thing, really. If I went as a single I wouldn't want to pay the same as a single guy (prepares to be shot down in flames at that statement...!

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I'd happily go with a single male to a club - but with no expectation of play between us (works both ways)

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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago

near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack!

not always, lots of clubs dont have couples membership f eesand are happy for you to take someone different every time

ive been to chams with loads of single guys in the past, never had to join as a couple and never had any problems taking someone else the next time"

I get the impression that with Chams, those that are well enough known to the management or staff are permitted to bring "guests" because they`re trusted to bring "good people" or at least ones who are going to behave themselves!

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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago

near bury st edmunds

"The trouble with clubs charging single guys more is that there will always be a few (and at certain places a lot!)morons who the think they are automatically entitled to get a 'return on their investment'! Personally i've often taken girls i've met previously, not to avoid additional expense - but because i'd hoped they'd enjoy the experience and I could introduce them to friends! Plus there's still plenty of places that don't have the dreaded and 'required' annual membership fees - so why not try them, as if you go and don't enjoy the venue - you're not out of pocket!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i will always take someone off my friends list if they wanted to come but it would be if no conncetion no play

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By *onnoisseur100Man
over a year ago

Woking-ish

"i get loads and i mean loads of messages from guys asking me to go to clubs with them

I always say no tho because i want someone to meet me because they are interested in me on a personal level rather than a cheap entry ticket into a club

Now I've heard it all, how could any guy not be interested in playing with you in a club? Are they mad?

I would think that you might not expect to be the sole person of interest, but it is just plain bad manners to dump you once inside.

Personally I'd be trying very hard to put a big smile on your face, while accepting the help of others in this very enjoyable task.

I guess there can be very few gentlemen left in this world. No wonder we single guys have such a bad reputation.

So to whoever this guy was, I have two reasons to question his intelligence. First he must be mad to pass you over and second he has made it harder for the normal guys on here to get anywhere.

I apologise on behalf of my sex for his behaviour.

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By *ldestswingerintownMan
over a year ago

Lancaster

Responding as a single bloke. I love swingers' club - I love the atmosphere and the excitiement - but I hate going by myself becasue I feel like Norman-no-Mates - one of the sad bunch hanging around looking for things to happen.

So I look for single ladies who say on their profiles that they're interested in going to a club. I then message them saying that if they don't want to go by themselves I'd gladly escort them - show them how it works, protect them if need be, etc.

This seems to "work" - I've met a number of companions to go with and I've had some really good times, and a number of the ladies I've taken for their first-ever visit have gone on to become club regulars - one even met a man at Cupids who is now her husband!

So - it's not done out of meanness but out of a desire to share with ladies who are curious the things that might excite them.

And I would never, ever abandon a lady (even though I've been abandoned on one occasion) - and I always agree with them that if they want to leave I'l take them home straight away.

And oif anyone's looking for a partner to Cupids next weekend - let me know!

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By *lubPartyPeepsCouple
over a year ago

London

The best clubs will ensure they keep the ratio right for mixed nights.

Nothing worse turning up to a club with 50 guys there if your the only couple, tends not to be good for the couple or for the guys.

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By *anderer2018 OP Man
over a year ago

Bangkok

"Responding as a single bloke. I love swingers' club - I love the atmosphere and the excitiement - but I hate going by myself becasue I feel like Norman-no-Mates - one of the sad bunch hanging around looking for things to happen.

So - it's not done out of meanness but out of a desire to share with ladies who are curious the things that might excite them.

And I would never, ever abandon a lady (even though I've been abandoned on one occasion) - and I always agree with them that if they want to leave I'l take them home straight away.

And oif anyone's looking for a partner to Cupids next weekend - let me know!"

Now this makes perfect sense! Everyone's a winner!

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

For some people, (various reasons) single guys as well, clubs provide a safe, friendly, clean, purpose built facility that allows them to indulge ,, yes most charge the annual membership fee and a door charge for a single guy as well when you visit, only you can decide whether you feel this is money you are willing to pay, I've been as a couple ( we had met before) not for the reduced fees simply we went in as a couple for that evening,

bit of a glib statement here, as ladies get in for free generally, if you really want to save your hard earned, you're not thinking of a sex change...??

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

So - it's not done out of meanness but out of a desire to share with ladies who are curious the things that might excite them.

And I would never, ever abandon a lady (even though I've been abandoned on one occasion) - and I always agree with them that if they want to leave I'l take them home straight away.

And oif anyone's looking for a partner to Cupids next weekend - let me know!"

okay... where to start..... I am not sure so bear with me...

I know i am going to sound really harsh

the whole answer in itself sounds good, it sounds really good, but just doesn't quite sit right with me. I do have issues with some of it... well... actually a lot if it I am going to be brutally honest....

that first paragraph... "but I hate going by myself becasue I feel like Norman-no-Mates - one of the sad bunch hanging around looking for things to happen."... well as a single guy who DOES go to clubs on my own.. there is a simple solution to this... Talk to people!!!! I know, its radical!

the way I see it... if you are Adult enough to go to a club, the surely you should be Adult enough to be able to engage in some sort of conversation.... same as you would at a social... say hello... light hearted chit chat....

then going on from that... the rest seems as if you prey on single women, but hey you'll gladly escort then as it also gets you in cheaper.... its a win win!!!!

people who know me know I love the atmosphere at clubs, the feeling that you can relax without having to hide things, I have had a blast a clubs where i have just sat on the sofa and chatted to people all night....

If i know ladies who are going for the first time, I meet them in there... that way they don't feel the obligation to stay if someone takes there fancy. I let them discover without having to overshadow and without any pressure

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By *ldestswingerintownMan
over a year ago

Lancaster

Not much to say about the above, except I REALLY, REALLY object to your use of the word "prey"

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