FabSwingers.com forum: Civilised behaviour

By *uniperjuice OP Man
over a year ago

East Midlands

After a brief exchange she writes: "Nice photo but no attraction. Thanks anyway. xx"

I reply: "No problem. Hope you find what you're looking for. xx"

And she responds: "You too. xx"

I add a note to her profile to remind me not to bother her again in the future.

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That wasn't difficult. No-one is feeling rejected. Just a nice, civil, polite discussion.

I know some folk (many women) have far too many messages and can't respond to them all. No problem with that. But it's nice if we've started a conversation to finish it well.

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over a year ago

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"After a brief exchange she writes: "Nice photo but no attraction. Thanks anyway. xx"

I reply: "No problem. Hope you find what you're looking for. xx"

And she responds: "You too. xx"

I add a note to her profile to remind me not to bother her again in the future.

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That wasn't difficult. No-one is feeling rejected. Just a nice, civil, polite discussion.

I know some folk (many women) have far too many messages and can't respond to them all. No problem with that. But it's nice if we've started a conversation to finish it well. "

This has also happened to me (both ways) on a few occasions. People may not always have the time or consideration for this, but ideally, this is how matters should be handled between two mature adults.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After a brief exchange she writes: "Nice photo but no attraction. Thanks anyway. xx"

I reply: "No problem. Hope you find what you're looking for. xx"

And she responds: "You too. xx"

I add a note to her profile to remind me not to bother her again in the future.

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That wasn't difficult. No-one is feeling rejected. Just a nice, civil, polite discussion.

I know some folk (many women) have far too many messages and can't respond to them all. No problem with that. But it's nice if we've started a conversation to finish it well. "

I do this.

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By *ulfilthmentMan
over a year ago

Just around the corner

"I do this. "

Me too. Manners cost nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Awesome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always try and message everyone one back that has taken the time to message us, even if it is a sorry no thank you

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"After a brief exchange she writes: "Nice photo but no attraction. Thanks anyway. xx"

I reply: "No problem. Hope you find what you're looking for. xx"

And she responds: "You too. xx"

I add a note to her profile to remind me not to bother her again in the future.

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That wasn't difficult. No-one is feeling rejected. Just a nice, civil, polite discussion.

I know some folk (many women) have far too many messages and can't respond to them all. No problem with that. But it's nice if we've started a conversation to finish it well. "

I recently decided to adopt a similar way and reply to everyone , saying no thanks when there was no attraction . The first two asked why not , what was wrong with them . I just blocked them . The third said we had payed with plenty of people so why was he being singled out for rejection , so I blocked him too .

After a dozen or so more messages complaining about our selection process , I gave up and stopped replying to those who weren’t our type .

I also added the whole no pic no reply blurb .

For the life of me I can’t understand why anyone would prefer a chat with a stranger to be told they are not my type so they don’t want to meet after seeing a pic . We would far rather not be told and have the rejection assumed with no reply .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After a brief exchange she writes: "Nice photo but no attraction. Thanks anyway. xx"

I reply: "No problem. Hope you find what you're looking for. xx"

And she responds: "You too. xx"

I add a note to her profile to remind me not to bother her again in the future.

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That wasn't difficult. No-one is feeling rejected. Just a nice, civil, polite discussion.

I know some folk (many women) have far too many messages and can't respond to them all. No problem with that. But it's nice if we've started a conversation to finish it well. "

I feel that’s 2 messages too long. I don’t think there needs to be a mini conversation in the name of being civilised. Always our preference for people to, as we do, respect a polite rejection as the end of the conversation.

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By *uniperjuice OP Man
over a year ago

East Midlands

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If you hit on someone out of the blue then they don't own you a reply. But if you're having a discussion with someone and it progresses on to exploring whether there's a attraction, then it feels nicer if it can end on a positive note, wishing each other well. I suppose it depends on whether you're seeing people as instrumental to meet your goals, or as multi-dimensional people with feelings and hopes and circumstances and personalities who deserve to be treated with respect.

No-one "owes" someone a reply, but it's nice if a conversation has developed and is concluding for it to end courteously rather in a peremptory manner.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

What a bitch, send me her profile name so we can send her some hate mail from fake accounts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After a brief exchange she writes: "Nice photo but no attraction. Thanks anyway. xx"

I reply: "No problem. Hope you find what you're looking for. xx"

And she responds: "You too. xx"

I add a note to her profile to remind me not to bother her again in the future.

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That wasn't difficult. No-one is feeling rejected. Just a nice, civil, polite discussion.

I know some folk (many women) have far too many messages and can't respond to them all. No problem with that. But it's nice if we've started a conversation to finish it well. "

Because a lot of folk think they're pretty enough to be considered at least fuckable by a lot of people, and after 60 no responses, the one that says no thanks is just like, the worst rejection ever, their egos can't handle it, and they become whiny little bitches.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being civil, polite and courteous are the simplest things to do and yes I know this is a fun and sex site but manners cost nothing but are worth a fortune!

I know the reputation of single blokes is bad because of the damage some idiots do with the abuse they give out.

If you were in a bar or cafe you would not behave like that do why do it in here.

The best of luck to the sensible chaps here, I will continue to be polite and courteous x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being bi, I get a taste of what lasses get. When someone goes into an angry tirade after you say 'thanks but no thanks', it can really ruin your mood. In extreme cases, it's put me off the scene entirely for a bit. I've had more than one username on Fabguys over the years as a result.

Yeah, it's a minority, but if I get it enough to put me off replying (And lets be honest, even on fabguys I'm hardly making the top photos board) I can only imagine it'd be a daily occurrence for ladies, given the volume of messages they get.

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