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How to let someone know you’re swingers without offending (if they turn out Vanilla)

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By *riendly_Mancs_Couple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Worksop (visiting)

Hi guys

Suggestions on how do you lot go about hinting (to another couple, single fem or single guy) that you are up for fun with them but don’t want to offend them if they are not into it.

Scenario...

Married couple Jack & Jill are on holiday. They get talking to Two really nice single guys. They get on that well that they swap mobile numbers so all 4 of them can split the cost of an airport transfer at the end of the holiday. Nothing sexual as yet. A couple of days later whilst playing together Jack tells Jill he’d love to invite the guy(s) to join them for fun. Jill agrees. So, how would you go about hinting?

Things to consider...

The guys are so nice it appears unlikely that they would make a move initially. At the end of the day they may not even be interested.

Jack & Jill don’t really want to hint by text just in case the guys are not interested.

Jack & Jill don’t want to suggest it for the reasons above.

Anklets etc are out of the question as they are on holiday.

They are already 1 week into a 2 week holiday so something needs to happen soon.

What would you do guys & girls?

Of course, this is just a hypothetical question

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

If it’s two men, just ask them to join you and your wife for sex. If they yes ten all good. If they say “fucking hell thats disgusting” just shrug it off and say “the wife was up for it but don’t fret cos we’re swingers and there’s loads of cock gagging for it”

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By *oresexMan
over a year ago

South West coast

You are on holiday, it's not like you really know them socially, or will ever see them again, don't over think it, the usual rules don't apply, just tell them what you would like to do with them and move on if they are not interested.

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By *lanPartridgeMan
over a year ago

nottingham

Wouldn't it be better to say you saw, say, The Louis Theroux programme about swinging the other day, or some other show, and jst have a light discussion? See how it went?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just ask them if they would like to go for a naked swim.

If they say yes... they are good to go.

If they say no , just blame it on the alcohol..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why not just come straight out with it and say what you mean?

If they say they are not into it just say ''no problem''. If they get offended at that then they are probably a bit TOO sensitive and easily offended.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they ask how long you've been together/married you said x amount of years but we have a very open relationship x

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By *riendly_Mancs_Couple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Worksop (visiting)

Great idea!!

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By *riendly_Mancs_Couple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Worksop (visiting)

This could work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just ask them.... not sure why people seem to have issues with honest communication. What is the worst that could happen, they say no and J&J have to pay the whole taxi transfer cost.

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By *riendly_Mancs_Couple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Worksop (visiting)

This could work.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Pretend to get a text when all sat together

Mr. ‘Whos that’?

Mrs. ‘Oh just from the swingers club telling us about the party next Saturday’.

Then ask if they ever go?!

If they look disgusted just move the conversation on and ask who’s round it is.

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By *riendly_Mancs_Couple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Worksop (visiting)

Oooo. Now these suggestions are getting better. This would be easy to ‘pull off’ we think. X

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By *riendly_Mancs_Couple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Worksop (visiting)

In fact... the guys live near a popular swingers club in North West so we could say the message was from that club. They may then admit to knowing the club.

Thank you. X

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

We have met swingers at UK naturist sites by saying "do you go to other clubs?" They can take this as naturist clubs and if they say "Happy Valley Naturist Club" then we reply "We go to Chameleons." That either gets the reply "Oh, so you're swingers, we are too!" or "Not heard of that" in which case we just say it's an indoor naturist club.

Agree, if you are on an overseas holiday just say "Do you swing?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Suppose we’re all of a similar mind so would appreciate a more direct question, but I get the possible sensitivity of asking...that said, some great suggestions above.

I don’t think you’ll go far wrong by just asking if they’d fancy going to your room for a ‘drink’, you’ll soon get a feel, no pun intended, about how comfortable they are soon enough...

Out of interest, did you notice them looking or checking yourselves out?

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham

You don't even need to say you are swingers. Just tell the guys you have a holiday fantasy in conversation and hope one year it will become reality. If they are interested you will soon know

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By *oresexMan
over a year ago

South West coast

Tell them your hubby has dared you to ask if they will go skinny dipping with you, and doesn't think you have the bottle to do it.

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